not to be problematic but i literally do not give a shit about age gaps when dating vampires. they thirst for your blood. "but it's predatory!!!!" yeah. it is. "they're preying on you!!!" they're vampires. they do that. "it's a power imbalance!!!!!!" what part of vampires are you not getting
i am a firm supporter of changing your name to whatever you want regardless of your gender. if a woman wants to go by matt then matt she shall be. godspeed
being androgynous is easy as hell and everyone can do it. Theres more to androgyny than being a skinny white howls-moving-castle ass femme. Grow a beard and some D cups. Shave your head, gain 60 lbs of muscle and voice train to sound like fluttershy. Cis people really wont know what fucking gender you are then