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America scares me. Yikes.

so my husband is a civilian defense engineer for a branch of the military, and sometimes he travels for that job like, 2 to 3 times a year maybe for a weekend at a time, no problem

but lately he's been going more and more frequently and for longer amounts of time, like 4 days at a time twice a month, so either he's found a new gf right outside of a military base in Florida (which let's be honest he's too awkward, the man does math for a living) or uhhhhhh our military is gearing up to do something. and usually he tells me what's going on but this time he isn't i think because he knows it'll freak me out which freaks me out more but anyway

and idk if y'all (Americans) have seen the news lately but it's not encouraging on that front at all so anyway. I get to be home alone until Wednesday hyperfixating on nuclear war hahagaaaha how's y'alls weekend going

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Oh man. My heart broke for her. I’ve been there. My first was a 6w loss and my second was a 13w loss followed by a d&c.

Jessa is pregnant. Baby Seewald 5 is on the way, due summer 2023

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I do this and I don’t have a bajillion followers. My kids faces are only shown on our personal and private accounts. Any public groups or anything outside the people we have on our carefully curated socials are either no pics or backs of heads.

Am I the only one who just realised the last time Jill posted a picture of one of her children’s faces it was in December 2021?!

Like everything has been of the back of their head?!

Like don’t get me wrong I’m all for that but I didn’t even notice

I have a vague memory of someone bringing that up a while ago, and the consensus was that the Dillards were doing the same thing as Jinger and Jeremy.

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The Duggars did heart necklaces for a while, but who knows if they are still doing it.

So did Tim buy the promise ring for Heidi? It means he is going to court her? Then promises to marry her? Not American. Have any other fundies done this?

I was just talking about this with @filthyfundie lol, Tim getting Heidi a promise ring is actually so unnecessary given their chosen system of 'dating'.

So the concept of a promise ring outside of fundie land is that it's a symbol of commitment before you decide to get engaged. Like a little more serious than just dating, but not officially fiancés yet. And the only time that's made sense to me is when a couple wants to show commitment but can't get engaged yet for whatever reason, like sometimes long-distance couples will do it if they want to wait and get engaged in person and can't do that for a while, but they still want a symbol of commitment. Or really young couples who feel like it's not the right time to get engaged will get them until they feel stable enough to plan a wedding.

But for a fundamentalist like Timothy who practices courting it makes zero sense........for people who practice it, courting 'officially' is essentially the same thing as being engaged, it's why they have such short 'official' engagements. It's just explicitly understood that courting someone means you intend to marry them, so a promise ring feels super redundant. Especially since she'll probably be getting a real engagement ring in like, 6 months max anyway?

And like the assumption with promise rings in the secular world is that you don't have to make a commitment like that to your dating partner until you're engaged, but you love them so much you're doing it anyway. Whereas with fundies like the Rods, that idea isn't even entertained in the first place? All romantic relationships are just assumed to end up in marriage. Anyway that's probably just me thinking more about the promise ring than even Tim did.

Also I'm not sure if other fundies have done 'promise' rings, but I know a few did 'purity' rings, which are more about staying 'pure' til you're married and are generally given by parents. I'm pretty sure the Bates family did this with most of their girls, I know Carlin and Katie at least had one.

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Well, sad to say that she is stuck with him for life.

I am glad to see that they at least got their own table and were able to have some semi private conversation without Jill RIGHT THERE!

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Karissa is finally in labour. I pray that baby makes it here okay, because with every passing day I have gotten more anxious that one or both of them will die. (Posted Feb 11/23 at 8pm EST. Post was ‘3 hours ago’ according to IG)

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Hey Karissa,

Can we apply the same logic to 99% of what you spew out? Sure can!

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This is a fundie crossover that I was not prepared for.

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Just kidding. She posted 28 stories in the past 12 minutes.

Karissa hasn’t posted any stories today, and her last reel was 8h ago. Baby time?

(Posted at 6:45 EST on Feb 4)

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I think it is cute and right on trend with Alyssa’s other names.

Breaking News: Baby boy Webster's name

And there it is. Rhett Alan Webster for Alyssa and John

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I just showed this to my husband and asked how they are related.

Husband: Siblings?

Me: nope.

Husband: Married? That’s gross.

Thank you!

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Karissa hasn’t posted any stories today, and her last reel was 8h ago. Baby time?

(Posted at 6:45 EST on Feb 4)

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Wow. He looks like Edward, Duke of Wessex here.

The Prince and Princess of Wales are attending a pre-campaign launch event, hosted by The Royal Foundation Centre for Early Childhood, at BAFTA | January 30 2023

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It has been a while since Josie has demonstrated her lack of understanding of carseat safety. FF seats need shoulder straps at or above the shoulders. These are clearly below. And there is severe overlap between the seats. Don’t get me started on the lap infants/the fact they checked their carseats.

I know they are cute, but safety trumps cute. Every. Forking. Time.

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As someone who lives in a cold weather climate, this hairstyle prevents your hair from getting matted when wearing winter clothes. It also allows you to wear a helmet while skiing. Definitely function over fashion.

Hair twinning already?

Josie Balka IG Stories

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I think those names will always be more or less the same - my kids have our middles passed on, and I hope they will pass it to their kids. My daughter and I are the fifth and fourth generations, respectively, to have our middle name (which is on the list above, and surprised me).

In the UK the popular middle names for girls are Rose, Mae (spelt like this) and maybe Grace. When I was a child it was Louise, Jane and maybe Marie. What do u think are the popular American middle names. Would u say Lynn? I was thinking leigh but ive seen that used as part of the first name more. For boys in the UK it would have to be James. That has been the most common middle name for years!

this is the most recent list I could find for American girl middle names (2022 from a People.com article):

And this is the most recent list I could find for the UK (dailymail.co.uk 2020):

So it actually looks like as far as overall naming trends it's extremely similar. For boys I'm assuming it's also pretty similar, traditional names like James, Micheal, David, George etc are very very common for middle names

The only one things surprising to me on these is 1. "Maree" on the UK list because I don't think I've ever encountered that spelling before and 2. Mae not being on the US list bc I thought that was more common. But that could just be a regional thing here.

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I actually like their presence on social media. Not enough that we know literally everything they do, but enough that we don’t have to guess how much children they have.

Jeremiah Duggar's Instagram: January 27, 2023