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Cis people think trans people have this:

Deadname

Chosen name

But honestly we really have:

Name

Other name

Deadname

Business name

Old nickname only some people have rights to use

Online name

Extra special secret name you don’t get to know, unless… ;)

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I realized a couple days ago that I can try new foods again, in a way I've hardly been able to in my adult life. I started cooking! Poorly made food actually is harder to eat!

I've reached the point where thinking about what I used to eat for a meal gives me the same 'oh no' that others used to say when I told them what I was running on

I have made so much progress!

okay not to get all sappy and shit but i love when i get to watch people recover from an ED, including myself.

cause tonight i was like “man i’m craving ___” so i went and got it, then felt happy instead of guilty. but three years ago i would’ve ridiculed myself for even getting a craving.

anyways this is your sign that even though the recovery journey may look long, daunting, or even impossible: it’s always worth it in the end.

i hope to god this ends up on the right side of tumblr.

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thank god im aromantic. i think everyone should get more aromantic

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what are you wearing rn and is it representative of your style

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Hi, I'm feeling weird and bad about the concept of grief.

My grandma passed. I was at her funeral last week. It was the only time I cried, despite being in her house and going through her things. I don't feel like I shut anything down or locked it away, it's just not there.

I've been distraught over losing childhood pets, and know i will be when the time comes for the cats I have now, but the last three we lost? Nothing. I cherished them. I loved them sososo much and lived with them for, without exaggeration, decades. But for some reason, I just shrug and say "that's sad" in a way that I didn't do when I was still living with them.

I cry when I get the news and if there is any sort of....funeral service? Aside from those two times, it almost never happens. Occasionally a piece of media will hit Just Right, but its rare

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My method was to spend years off and on asking people to describe what a crush was and saying "but I'd do that for several of my friends, except kissing sounds gross". I didn't want to be aro because of amatnormativity, so I kept not looking at it.

Eventually, I decided that if no one could describe romance to me in a way that made sense, I probably didn't feel it, so "aro" is far easier a thing to explain than those two paragraphs

hey gamers how does one like. figure out if theyre aromantic or not. like what if im just vibing. aromantics how did you figure it out… need some help

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Thinking about how I was talking to my (cishet) brother about corporate pride. He was saying it was a cash grab and always had been.

I agreed, but felt it was nice to be seen as a group with cash to grab. I never thought their support would extend any further than what they could sell us, but it was still nice to go places and see that we were a profitable group to market to. We were worth pandering to.

Obviously, that's gone now, but I could not get him to understand why I was even remotely grateful for corporate pride events. idk, it's just nice to pretend that we're normal sometimes

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if you actually believe transmascs are protected by transphobes somehow it means you've fallen for their propaganda

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I had to make these memes featuring the Ace King himself. Congrats to everyone on the aromantic and/or asexual spectrums for dodging the nuclear warhead that is modern dating.

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Just a reminder that 11 million people protested today across the US. You are not alone in your anger, sadness and anxiety and each protest is getting bigger and bigger. We will get through this no matter what and we will do it ourselves.

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comparisons between race and gender are always going to ultimately fail because theres a crucial difference between them, and that is that people can transition to be a different gender, but people cannot transition to be a different race

"men are like the white people of gender and women are like the black people of gender" will never be a valid comparison because the existence of transgender people complicates this analog to such a degree that the phrase becomes completely meaningless

and this analogy also completely disregards the existence of other races outside of black and white that it becomes a very shallow understanding of both sexism and racism as well, and how sexism and racism intersect

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firm believe that not everything happens for a reason, sometimes things are just cruel. and they shouldn’t have happened and it’s not supposed to be a lesson because we never deserved such thing.

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Aromantics shouldn't have to beg for representation from our own community.

Aromanticism is not just an extension of asexuality. We are our own identity and deserve to be treated as our own identity. Just because you include aces, does not mean you've included aros. Not every aromantic is also asexual, there are plenty of us that aren't, so when you make us an extension of asexuality, you're actually excluding a vast amount of aros. Let us see all of us.

Include the aromantic flag. The amount of times I've seen posts that just completely omit the aro flag, or include the ally flag before the aro flag is too many. Let us see ourselves.

Say aromantic. Say aro. Say arospec. Let us hear ourselves.

Include aromantics. Listen to us. Let us have space in our own community.

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Happy pride, everyone! I made a joke about my embroidery and now I've made it reality.

Want to use this as an icon? Consider tossing me, an unemployed trans person, a kofi donation! I'm still looking for a job and in the meantime any support at all really helps me to keep stitching projects.

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Perisex people, set a reminder to look back at the post in one week. Reblog for reach please.

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