My favourite part of the Cass Report is where she goes: “Florence Ashley and others have shown that gatekeeping doesn’t work and should be abandoned. We disagree, not based on any evidence but because it’s incompatible with the way we’ve already decided we wanted to do things.”
Every time someone talks about how it's our "purpose" or how we're "meant to" to reproduce, I want to tear my reproductive organs out and slam them down on the table.
I’ve heard “you remind me of my ex” more than a couple times. Good. But I’m going to show you that I’m nothing like them. Let’s watch that tv show together that you used to love before what they did. Let me take you out to that restaurant you haven’t ever been back to. Put on that album that they hated so much. Tell me everything about your special interest and I’ll actually listen with happy interest. I’ll give you all the affirmations you’ve been looking for. They didn’t appreciate you, but I will. We’ll help you replace all those bad memories with new ones. We can do it together.