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HEART SO FULL (x)

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Min Yoongi, aka Suga, aka AgustD, aka Yunki, aka Yoongi Marry Me, on D-Day, The Finale

(he's so proud of himself of a successful months of teasing coming to an end with that tattoo)

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idk what to do with all the energy yoongi gave me so I think I'm going to try learning the lyrics to all of D-Day so I can appreciate them fully and mouth along more clearly when I listen to it

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music healed him. so he is using it to heal others as well.

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I've already written a lot about it in my journal so I don't think I'll be exhaustive here, but I wanted to say something about it more publicly too.

I'm autistic myself and there are a few things I really like about him doing this.

First, he's not just donating money and being a face for a program someone else designed the way many other celebrities (at least in my country) do, sometimes more out of pity than actual interest and goodwill.

Second, he's doing it for the children and adolescents themselves. So much of the attention and resources are geared towards parents, siblings, other family and carers, and it seems that a lot of people don't even think autistic people could have an opinion about their own situation or could benefit from help themselves. We're very often portrayed as the burden that our parents have to carry (that, or as geniuses with savant syndrom...). It's dehumanizing (not sure that's the word I wanted to use but it'll do for now) and also implies that our parents deserve praise because they're doing a good job or trying their bost. I'll let you know autistic people can have abusive parents too, parents that refuse to accomodate their children's needs and we don't have to be grateful that they didn't kill us and did the bare minimum to keep children alive. Or did stuff that was meant to appease others, to look normal and acceptable to the rest of society, but was useless or harmful to their children.

On the same note, he's helping them develop useful skills to express themselves. Not teaching them how to behave in public like zoo monkeys that have to entertain "normal people", but skills they'll benefit from regardless of the people they're surrounded with. I think that could have been very useful for me and I'm still figuring stuff out in this domain. I'm even surprised I managed to write something this coherent and clear, at first I was 'I love this but I couldn't explain why' and that's how I feel about a lot of other stuff.

The only downsides I could find are that the center will have ABA and I haven't gone through it, but I know a lot of autistic people (not their families!) aren't fans and were traumatized by it, so I hope they're either doing something that they call ABA but is different from what thesen people went through and isn't harmful, or that they'll phase this out, especially if studies show his MIND program help make progress;

and that this is geared towards minors only (the press release mentions an 18-year-old, so not just young children). I'm an adult diagnosed in high school and didn't get much support, haven't had any in years, don't think I will have any soon, not even basic therapy, because there aren't enough therapists/psychiatrists/speech therapists, etc. and kids have priority over me. I understand the logic behind this choice, but I wish adult needs were at least acknowledged. I also don't want it to result in too much pressure on the children where people think "you went through programs and therapy and everything so you should act normal and handle everything now, don't ask for accomodations" (not talking about him here -- I know that's not his intent at all). I also think autistic people probably need therapy at every stage in their life, especially if there's been a change/transition (higher ed, getting a job, etc), so even children who've had support growing up will need to have something later. Right now the center just opened so I understand that they're starting with a limited range of programs, but I hope they'll expand and doctors won't ignore us!

A bit off-topic but I wish people would stop saying "SK is so unaccepting towards disabled people blah blah blah". Most if not all of the world is. My Western European country isn't any better trust me. For instance, SK is doing 탈시설 - deinstitutionalization, getting disabled people out of 'homes' where really they were neglected and abused and segregated from the rest of society. France is worse in this respect. The way a lot of people talk about SK is honestly very othering, condescending and ignorant. It's not some hellhole your poor oppas are stuck in, it's a country with its flaws and charms and plenty of nice people, shitty people too like there are everywhere. The way the people reacted to the failed coup should tell you that there are plenty of decent people in South Korea. It's also very comfortable to live for some autistic people (like me when I was on a working-holiday visa), because you can live with relatively little social interactions and that makes some things less intimidating (but it's not like cashiers, baristas, etc are gone either -- it just means I can take my time to choose at a kiosk, look up the exact place a book is in a bookshop online without asking a salesperson); it's also a great place for fangirling with lots of events with like-minded people, a great way to have social interactions and meet people in a safe setting where I can dive into my special interest (BTS for instance) without feeling uncomfortable or being too much, where I can collect little BT21 plushies I love easily, where I can buy fantastic stationery (other interest of mine since forever) and learning material (I'm a language nerd and studied Korean history on the side too), etc. I have to add that during this year people were nearly always (very) nice to me. (Yes I'm white I know.) I never disclosed that I'm autistic and I never had issues with people berating me for my behavior or making me feel uncomfortable, but encountered people who were kind and patient and even spoke English to make me feel comfortable when Korean was fine (taking a Korean history exam in Korean for Koreans - the man proctoring going out of his way to speak English with me made me feel welcomed). I strongly recommend visiting if you can afford it and learning Korean, you'll see experiencing all of this directly is a pleasant experience :)

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still a mama’s boy at 30 💗 cr. jung-koook

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“my mom saw me on TV and told me I looked like a boiled dumpling”

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the problem is if I don't have something to hyperfixate on I'll go crazy

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so i found this while going through a tag on my blog and i know it's not peak giffing but i love his facial expressions and hand movements so much i had to reblog

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I've already written a lot about it in my journal so I don't think I'll be exhaustive here, but I wanted to say something about it more publicly too.

I'm autistic myself and there are a few things I really like about him doing this.

First, he's not just donating money and being a face for a program someone else designed the way many other celebrities (at least in my country) do, sometimes more out of pity than actual interest and goodwill.

Second, he's doing it for the children and adolescents themselves. So much of the attention and resources are geared towards parents, siblings, other family and carers, and it seems that a lot of people don't even think autistic people could have an opinion about their own situation or could benefit from help themselves. We're very often portrayed as the burden that our parents have to carry (that, or as geniuses with savant syndrome...). It's dehumanizing (not sure that's the word I wanted to use but it'll do for now) and also implies that our parents deserve praise because they're doing a good job or trying their bost. I'll let you know autistic people can have abusive parents too, parents that refuse to accomodate their children's needs and we don't have to be grateful that they didn't kill us and did the bare minimum to keep children alive. Or did stuff that was meant to appease others, to look normal and acceptable to the rest of society, but was useless or harmful to their children.

On the same note, he's helping them develop useful skills to express themselves. Not teaching them how to behave in public like zoo monkeys that have to entertain "normal people", but skills they'll benefit from regardless of the people they're surrounded with. I think that could have been very useful for me and I'm still figuring stuff out in this domain. I'm even surprised I managed to write something this coherent and clear, at first I was 'I love this but I couldn't explain why' and that's how I feel about a lot of other stuff.

The only downsides I could find are that the center will have ABA and I haven't gone through it, but I know a lot of autistic people (not their families!) aren't fans and were traumatized by it, so I hope they're either doing something that they call ABA but is different from what thesen people went through and isn't harmful, or that they'll phase this out, especially if studies show his MIND program help make progress;

and that this is geared towards minors only (the press release mentions an 18-year-old, so not just young children). I'm an adult diagnosed in high school and didn't get much support, haven't had any in years, don't think I will have any soon, not even basic therapy, because there aren't enough therapists/psychiatrists/speech therapists, etc. and kids have priority over me. I understand the logic behind this choice, but I wish adult needs were at least acknowledged. I also don't want it to result in too much pressure on the children where people think "you went through programs and therapy and everything so you should act normal and handle everything now, don't ask for accomodations" (not talking about him here -- I know that's not his intent at all). I also think autistic people probably need therapy at every stage in their life, especially if there's been a change/transition (higher ed, getting a job, etc), so even children who've had support growing up will need to have something later. Right now the center just opened so I understand that they're starting with a limited range of programs, but I hope they'll expand and doctors won't ignore us!

A bit off-topic but I wish people would stop saying "SK is so unaccepting towards disabled people blah blah blah". Most if not all of the world is. My Western European country isn't any better trust me. For instance, SK is doing 탈시설 - deinstitutionalization, getting disabled people out of 'homes' where really they were neglected and abused and segregated from the rest of society. France is worse in this respect. The way a lot of people talk about SK is honestly very othering, condescending and ignorant. It's not some hellhole your poor oppas are stuck in, it's a country with its flaws and charms and plenty of nice people, shitty people too like there are everywhere. The way the people reacted to the failed coup should tell you that there are plenty of decent people in South Korea. It's also very comfortable to live for some autistic people (like me when I was on a working-holiday visa), because you can live with relatively little social interactions and that makes some things less intimidating (but it's not like cashiers, baristas, etc are gone either -- it just means I can take my time to choose at a kiosk, look up the exact place a book is in a bookshop online without asking a salesperson); it's also a great place for fangirling with lots of events with like-minded people, a great way to have social interactions and meet people in a safe setting where I can dive into my special interest (BTS for instance) without feeling uncomfortable or being too much, where I can collect little BT21 plushies I love easily, where I can buy fantastic stationery (other interest of mine since forever) and learning material (I'm a language nerd and studied Korean history on the side too), etc. I have to add that during this year people were nearly always (very) nice to me. (Yes I'm white I know.) I never disclosed that I'm autistic and I never had issues with people berating me for my behavior or making me feel uncomfortable, but encountered people who were kind and patient and even spoke English to make me feel comfortable when Korean was fine (taking a Korean history exam in Korean for Koreans - the man proctoring going out of his way to speak English with me made me feel welcomed). I strongly recommend visiting if you can afford it and learning Korean, you'll see experiencing all of this directly is a pleasant experience :)

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some yoongi gifs until he comes back home (77/79)

2 days left

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beautiful blooming darling

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some yoongi gifs until he comes back home (73/79)

6 days left

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guess we're back 🤷‍♀️ for @hopeinthebox

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so there is a painted version of this photo that has a beautiful but obscure title to it y'all please help me find it its probably one of my favorite paintings ever

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some yoongi gifs until he comes back home (79/79)

ZERO DAYS