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Mads Mikkelsen by Kenneth Willardt

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fuck the tories coming straight from the underground

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Be human. Leave judgment for God.

Humanity wins // @abillionlittlethoughts (via abillionlittlethoughts)

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Never be neutral. Always be brave.

You aren’t here to just coast through life. Pick a side. Stand for something. // @abillionlittlethoughts (via abillionlittlethoughts)

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Types At Their Worst

ESFJ: Fake bitch supreme with no real interest in other people other than to manipulate them for their own enjoyment and obsession with drama. Craves attention and admiration. 

ISFJ: Hyper-anxious and frigid with no life and extremely sensitive to any conflict around them. Agrees with everyone all the time to avoid criticism. Cannot handle anything outside of the norm. 

ESTJ: Control freak. Extremely judgemental. Boring suck-up. ‘Fun’ is not in their vocabulary. 

ISTJ: Buried in a pool of work worried about doing their best and all the things they have to do for other people. 

ESFP: Wild party animal maniac without a real grip on reality. Indulges in sex and drugs and goes out all the time, not concerned about material or practical matters. 

ISFP: Edgy emo punk kid that invents reasons to feel morally superior to other people to make theselves feel better about their own fragile ego. 

ESTP: Loud, obnoxious and dirty. Bullies other people for the fun of it. Cannot have a serious conversation about their emotions. 

ISTP: Completely absent from the world and doesn’t care about other people. Constant internal monologue of how they would strangle people to death so they would just shut up and leave them alone. 

ENFJ: Crushed by the weight of needing to please everyone. Will wear 17 different masks to make sure everyone’s needs are being catered to and no one will create conflict with anyone else. 

INFJ: Pseudo-poignant, depressed and anxious. Obsessive and controlling. Incapacitated by all the negativity in the world around them. 

ENTJ:  Sees everyone as their puppet. Will do anything to get to the top, even if that involves pushing down others to lift themselves up. 

INTJ: In denial about their own emotions. Finds pleasure in the misfortune of others. Feels superior to everyone. 

ENFP: Unable to stick to any obligation, flakes on everyone and disregards other people. 

INFP: Moody and sensitive about everything. 

ENTP: Emotionally challenged and sadistic. Unreliable, absent-minded and completely oblivious to other people’s needs. 

INTP: Unbearable know-it-all. Angsty nerd who becomes obsessed by a very specific subset of an esoteric field no one cares about. Talks pretentiously on purpose to annoy people, but is deeply hurt when no one wants to be around them. 

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                                                     People need people.

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Vært litt spess i det siste, Fredag 18.11.16 kl 13.59

I’ll give you a hint. It’s not a girl.

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I don’t get the weird tags on this. Did you watch S3? Even is mad confident and dominant. People can be both confident and unsure, dominant and vulnerable.

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@antis

In transformative works, you are allowed to diverge from canon. That is literally what makes the work transformative. So if people aren’t allowed to ship non-canonical pairings, non-canonical settings, or non-canonical dynamics, you’re not allowed your cutesy wholesome AU’s either.

Also, exploring problematic aspects of relationships and relationship dynamics is a major part of literature in general, but especially in transformative fanworks. If you do not like abusive aspects of the fiction do not consume it. If you think something has the potential to trigger you regarding your history of abuse, ask someone else to read through it for you. Depictions of gaslighting trigger me because of my own abuse history, but I either avoid the topic or have someone preview the work. 

It costs 0.00 dollars and cents to protect yourself without going on some sort of purity police crusade. And if it really bothers you but you continue seeking it out, you are practicing maladaptive coping and should re-examine your reasons for seeking the content out. 

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*Twitter/AO3, too.

Creators: *make something nice and release it into the world* For you guys! <3

Tumblr: *salivating* How quickly can we demonize this and ruin it for everyone?

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writers: *intentionally write villain as sympathetic*

fans: *sympathize with villain*

the purity police on tumblr dot com: 

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ship whatever the fuck you want

write all the dark!fic shit u want, however you want

vent the worst parts of yourself through writing and art and project that shit onto ur fav characters

fight ur evil shadow self on the astral plane

do it

DO. IT. 

D͉̻̦̪͈̺̞̩̭ͅO̘̼̫̦̮̟̳ͅ. ͈̞̯͔̤͙̠͍̻ͅI͈͈̦̰̬̣̹͉̗̰̬̻̼͈̞͔͕̰̘T͖̘̞̣̺͓̭̬.

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What amuses and saddens me about newer fandoms’ intense policing in content is that if you applied it to real life, it would be an obvious dictatorship. They don’t seem to realize that there are plenty of published works out there that have similar content to what they’re raging about. Pedophilia, incest, violence, gore, BDSM, and any kind of gritty, kinky thing you can think of.

Newer fictional works I can think of that has these “problematic content that makes people pedophilic incestous violent sexual devils”: Fifty Shades of Gray, Hannibal, and Game of Thrones. Even Twilight can be pedophilic with how Jacob imprints on a child.

Older fictional works I can think of: Star Wars (or did you guys conveniently forget the canon incest scene that happened in one of the movies?), Cardcaptor Sakura (had an elementary schoolgirl being proposed by a teacher, and she accepted, Sakura’s parents are a little better but not much - mom was in highschool and dad was in college when they dated, I CAN GO ON - CLAMP GENERALLY HAS WEIRDASS RELATIONSHIPS), and Harry Potter (beyond the violence, there’s also the part that you’ll symphasize with Merope, the one who drugged a man and raped him constantly until they had a child).

Let’s go older: Lolita, Silence of The Lambs, every horror film and game ever.

Let’s go even older: Oedipus Rex.

Can we get older? Yes we can: Literally any story about the adventures of Zeus’ cock, and the whole family tree of the Ancient Egyptian gods. And also their royal family.

You wanna know the reason why people would rather police works instead of actual pedophiles and sexual harrassers? Actual rapists? You wanna know why they’d rather go for an artist or writer who created something “evil”? Because it’s easier to burn a book rather than completely uproot a rapist and sexually abusive culture. They want to vent, they want to control. They’re ignorant and angry.

So fictional works that have content that is not child friendly and not safe for work? That can be gross and triggerry? That can be depraved and inhumane? They’ve always been there. Yes, it’s problematic that a lot of people online are perverts and harass others. Yes, it’s sad that filtering content is not 100% perfect in archiveofourown (ao3) and other sites most deemed evil. But newsflash: neither is Tumblr.

I’ve read posts about people saying how they encountered horrific content even though they used tags and filtering when they venture ao3, and is therefore bad. I’ve read posts about how they’re part of the Old Fandom and support this extreme policing of content because they were harassed.

If that’s the case, ignore that site and leave. You don’t burn a library to take care of a problem, you don’t shoot a writer to defend justice, and you don’t scream at a book to get what you want. The worst thing to happen to a show is when nobody watches it anymore. The worst fate of a book is when nobody touches it. It’s the same with fanfiction, especially since it’s free content. Don’t like it? Don’t read it.

I remember there was an issue about the Deadpool movie, how it was too violent and crude for children. Parents complained about it. There were two points Reynolds said about that. One, the movie is not for kids. Two, why are you bringing your kids to watch it?

It’s the same logic. If the content is not for you, stop watching/looking/reading it. Internet is more flexible than published works, true. But it was WORSE before. No safe search, no tags, little warnings, literal surpise buttsex in fanfiction, and porn galore. It’s young, much younger than the movie and book industry, so of course its warning system isn’t as perfect as the real word. The older fandoms tried and did a good job considering the messy lawsuits that appeared, what happens now is mostly on newer fandoms. And you guys have a better start since the stigma of fanfiction has lessened.

You don’t burn Fifty Shades of Gray to keep bdsm content from you, and you don’t accuse the writers of Deadpool for being evil because they wrote a Marvel script that isn’t child-friendly. You compromise, you create a system, and you try to understand why these fictional works exist.

Let me try this policing and anti logic newer fandoms have, to see if it has sense.

I’ve seen more porn blogs and bullies in this site than the amount of alpha-beta smut in ao3. I’ve had porn blogs reblog my art of a child with his guardians (for my followers, it’s my [tiny and terrifyingly cute au]). I’ve had porn blogs reblog my posts about the accounts of victims of torture from my country’s martial law. I’ve never had ao3 writers plagiarize my work for porn. I’ve seen more people attacking someone who draws fanart rather than someone who creates those disgusting blogs. From that logic, anyone who uses Tumblr must be evil.

Of course, you’d defend that not all of you are like that. You’d defend that you’re fixing it. You’d defend it’s not that simple.

And what? You don’t think people from older fandoms aren’t trying? We’re all disgusting pedophiles? You think that our problems are simple? That most of us aren’t trying to give warnings and tags? That filtering content is easy? Tumblr failed so badly in doing that!

So instead of being angry that somebody posted their works, maybe consider you’re a problem yourself. There’s a difference between reality and fiction. I don’t expect the writer of Silence of the Lambs to do cannibalism, I don’t expect Ryan Reynolds to be a red ninja assasin who’s crude. I don’t expect Anne Rice, writer of vampiric sexy times, to be evil by sexually harassing her fans. She’s already an asshole without being erotic. H.P Lovecraft was also an asshole, just so you know. He didn’t have to write gratuitous smut to do it.

I know it’s easier to judge someone based on their fics and art, but either take the time to actually know them or ignore them altogether. Never judge a book by its warnings, and never judge an author by their books.