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FACTS

HOW DO U MAKE NEW FRIENDS WHEN UR OLDER?!?!?! As I’m learning, I might need some new friends in my life.

How do i deal with creating and keeping healthy boundaries with friends that are only ever concerned with themselves/what they’re going through and need from me? Like, i love my friends but it’s hard not to realize that the level of care, support, or dedication to actually being there in any helpful capacity is not balanced in the slightest. I’m not trying to really have an argument on the matter with them, but I’m not opposed to being bluntly honest about the lack of balance. I just would rather be there as i can be and focus most my time and energy on myself/disengage mostly from them and their drama and most of all, being the fix it friend. (While also being somehow the friend that they don’t want to listen to but then regret not taking my advice weeks, months, or years down the line because i was right. Ah, the INTJ struggles)

I would just really like to make ONE friend that even gives a fragment of what i give. But now in days I’m so busy that the little time i do have, goes to maintaining the very lackluster friendships I’ve acquired over the years.

I’m just tired. Like, really tired. I love helping and I’m good at it but I’m tired of people saying one thing while meaning another. I’m tired of people not wanting to change while also being appalled that others around them aren’t jumping at the chance to change for their ideals. I’m tired of the imbalance of others and my dynamics with them, and it creating resentfulness in me because I’m also too full of love but filled with much heartache and headache due to this. For all i give i don’t deserve my reward being all this. It doesn’t add up. I’ve vented on other places and they all say the same things–my friends seem self-absorbed and straight up selfish, and like they don’t actually care about me. And ya know what i still defend them because i think somewhere behind that energy they do really care, sadly it takes ages to cycle back to caring about me again after ages of only “them, them, them” time, but it’s fine. I’m the fix it all myself type anyways because people usually hurt me in the long run when i do open up by seeming disinterested the second the convo turns to me. (Which actually proved their points, but still.. i mean, idk.. we have history that proves otherwise, i guess. it’s just not that easy to explain. when i need people.. i end up being the best people in my circle to turn to because no one else has time, energy, or abilities to actually help let alone listen to me. Okay this is turning into a rant but-)

Just answer me this: HOW DO YOU MAKE NEW FRIENDS THAT DONT FUCKING ONLY THINK ABOUT THEMSELVES?!?! Even just the little things, like “hey, prides coming up, lmk if you’d like to do something!/”/ “been thinking about you <3 hope your well, lmk if you’d like to plan a talk.” (and actually let you talk, like show interest in your life too)? 

LIKE, I’m tired of being the friend that reaches out, offers time, and energy, offers help, offers ideas and still if I’m not there that’s all they can think about–the times i couldn’t do whatever it is they wanted me to for them because i finally am putting myself first because no one else can/will–which in the end, i’ve grown with not being able to do it all and not being loved the same if i do (ending the people pleaser side of me because of podcasts i posted ages back helping a lot along with other research. i’ll link when i can). I understand, i always have, that no one can take better care of me than me, that’s all these friendships have taught me, all life has. I don’t want to sound as bitter as i once was about this even, it’s a lesson that is enlightening and i feel many could use (many, my friends included, are the type to think change will just come, slowly happen to them or suddenly be granted by some random force or person. i try to encourage them in proactivity in their life because they’re not, it’s exhausting talking to all them as a therapist–nurturing their inner child, telling them they must do the same to change, and still seeing them backslide or just stagnant. I’ve made peace with this too though young, people are all separate from me and we live and experience the world differently, no matter how much we love someone we can’t take their experiences/choices away from them… only help them along the journey, it’s just hard when you feel like a parent to everyone that no one listens to.) But really, i think they could do well with the lessons they’ve taught me to never look for what you can give yourself. but like a friend of mine i told this, said, external validation still matters for mental health… YEAH, YOU’RE RIGHT, IT’D BE GREAT IF YOU EXTENDED SOME MY WAY, THE WAY I AND EVERYONE ELSE POURS ONTO YOU/PEOPLE LIKE YOU. Like, as an INTJ I’m just getting tired of emotionally driven people getting all the attention and support just because that’s their main focus (they can easily impose help of the type on others) and not ours, doesn’t mean we don’t feel emotions or wouldn’t like some support from time to time too. 

ok, ok, ima stfu

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Reblog cuz Ima need this one badly.

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

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This right here...

I can’t wait to move out and go for walks with my best friend at 3am without being told it’s too late. I can’t wait to bake a cake at 2am without my family moaning about how long it takes to decorate. I can’t wait to walk around my house in my hot lingerie and not have to hide it away in fear of being called a slut. I can’t wait to lay on my bed for hours and do nothing without being called lazy. I can’t wait to listen to my music really loud without being told it’s rubbish. I can’t wait to do what I want without being judged by family that aren’t meant to judge you. I just can’t wait to be me.

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AND NOW IM THAT AUTHOR WHO LEAVES THINGS UNFINISHED....

THE CASE OF THE UNFINISHED FANFIC

Okay anyone hate it when you find this GrEaT fanfic and after 6 chapters it says it will discontinue or just no more updates since 1861… fuckin hate that crap, but me being a fellow writer I understand. So I’m not known and crap here but on Wattpad and FanFiction.net I’m somewhat known there. So when I first started off at first no one read my works so I was just writing for my self. Kinda boring sometimes when and feels weird to publish it. When no one is looking at it the author is like “ayyyy I don’t have to update it” and then leaves to another story and dose not update that. Then like 6 years later people see it and it becomes popular…… then we get pissed. Let’s give all our writers a chance and when searching for fanfics put in a filter that says newest updated so you can read someone’s unnoticed.

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Is this who we are???

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I been feeling down lately but here is Iruka for you all.

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how to draw arms ? ? 

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Facts

kakashi our communist king. your justu? nah that’s OUR justu now

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1st drawing - May 2013

2nd drawing - September 2012

3rd drawing - May 2012

It’s shocking to say the least..urghhhh

here have all the sketch dumps i have done in the last few years…

bonus:

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This is amazing-

HEADCANON TIME!!!! Oh, and happy 2018 valentines, eat chocolate, there tend to be good offers about this time, especially within a few days ;3

Aaaaanyhow.

People who stalk me probably knows by now but SERIOUSLY! All those kids grew up together as one big pack, Naruto was properly adopted by Iruka even though he have grown up, and the whole generation are all ‘oh yes, Iruka-sensei! One or ten kids doesn’t make that much of a differene to you right? And we have no trouble whatsoever trusting you with a whole mess of them!’ so Iruka have such a big extended family these days!

Give a kudo or two over at AO3 to this, too ;D

(added with edit: of course it’s Kakashi who made the bed with all hearts on the linen for valentines :3 Iruka think it unnecessary but that Kakashi is unbearably cute :3)

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SUB NOW... ways u can help

1) make fake accounts

2)Sub on your fams phones and ipads.

3)Sub on school computers

4) play your part

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Dont waste your time on people who played you, even if they said they where “blind”.

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Thee as I shall forget the burdens down my line but for one to cause it is something unfortunate

Me

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Yupz

You know what? Sebastian has a twizzler dick

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Lol me reading fanfic

Me: I’m so wholesome and innocent uwu

Me reading extra smutty fics at 2 am:

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I don’t want to disappear without a forewarning.

As of July 4th 2018, the Internet as we know it might be dead for good. 

The European Parliament is passing a new Copyright Directive.  Article 13 #CensorshipMachine will impose widespread censorship of all the content we share online. Art, fanfiction, parodies, remixes, mashups, memes, etc.. Anything that you do not hold the rights over will be taken down. 

Article 13 would force all online platforms to police and prevent the uploading of copyrighted content, or make people seek the correct licenses to post that content. Internet platforms hosting large amounts of user-uploaded content must monitor user behaviour and filter their contributions to identify and prevent copyright infringement. 

Such filters will be mandatory for platforms including YouTube, Facebook, Tumblr, Reddit and Instagram, but also much smaller websites. 

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This doesn’t just affect Europe. The content creators you love are going to be in hot water for sharing their art and writing with you online. Any and all content that doesn’t belong to us will be filtered. Even memes are at risk, as the person who took the original photo may want to file complaints against any platform that allows it to be used without permission. But it goes even further than that.

Last Tuesday (19th June 2018) a group of more than 70 people who have played important roles in building the internet and developing it (Tim Berners-Lee, Vincent Cerf, Jimmy Wales, Mitchell Baker…) into what it is today addressed an open letter to the members of the European Parliament:

“As creators ourselves, we share the concern that there should be a fair distribution of revenues from the online use of copyright works, that benefits creators, publishers, and platforms alike.

But Article 13 is not the right way to achieve this. By requiring Internet platforms to perform automatic filtering all of the content that their users upload, Article 13 takes an unprecedented step towards the transformation of the Internet from an open platform for sharing and innovation, into a tool for the automated surveillance and control of its users. […] The damage that this may do to the free and open Internet as we know it is hard to predict, but in our opinions could be substantial.”

Here is the original Article 13. It’s even scarier. / Link 2 

Here is how to contact your MEPs. 

Here is a full list of everything that will be affected.

Europe is facing a huge problem, and unlike with Net Neutrality, the world doesn’t seem to care. 

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