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many people see “pedophiles” as a type of villain to wish infinite angry death upon, as opposed to recognizing CSA as a preventable form of abuse. the former buys into moral panic and punitive justice; the latter is actionable, helpful, and much needed

when i went to conservative christian hell school, all we heard about was the evil scary men who wanted to snatch us up on the street. we learned about csa through strange, coded language. we were not taught how to talk about our bodies, and we were not taught what sex was. eventually, i was groomed and assaulted. so were an alarming number of my peers, often by teachers and religious leaders

then, as an adult, i got the opportunity to work at a summer camp. we developed an actionable plan to prevent campers from being alone with adult volunteers; we advocated for all of our campers to learn appropriate body part language; we led discussions about boundaries and consent; we answered questions about sex with honesty, care, and age-appropriate detail. and it was safe! the one time we identified shady behavior, there were so many safety nets and protocols in place that it never became a real issue.

so, having been in both situations, it’s frustrating to see 46387 threads a day of people angrily, viciously tearing apart the mere idea of a pedophile without ever stopping to ask “hey, what can we do about this? in real life? like, what are the advocates advocating for right now?”

i hate to break it to you, but 18+ daddy kink genshin yaoi (sorry idk i’m out of touch) isn’t the issue here, and it’s kind of silly and terminally online to pretend that it is. i would argue that adult-only erotica servers that block minors aren’t as big of a threat as, you know, “minor safe!! we are very safe for minors :) and we HATE the mean nasty scary people” communities that have a piss poor accountability system and no real mechanism for preventing abuse. there’s a huge difference between “weird gross thing that grosses me out” and “unsafe situation,” and the latter is far more worth emphasizing

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Devastating! Art museum gift shop doesn’t sell prints of specific and unpopular painting that struck a cord with you!

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To this day the fact that there’s people out there who think masturbating is a form of cheating is one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard

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I don't get you romantic types. How do you not see love as nothing more than parasocial pathetic infatuation that just makes you overly weak & emotional? Genuinely, I tried out this whole "love" thing. All it did was make me disgusted at my ex for how simple-minded & one-dimensionally affectionate they were. Just mindless affection that numbs away at the brain...its so...Hollow & empty, no substance to a real personality at all.

Sorry about your breakup but thanks for the unhinged ask I guess anyway I had so much fun making out with my boyfriend this weekend

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I’m having a sale until December 1! 25% off my entire shop, no code needed 💕✨🦄

Follow this link to find my Etsy

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By gaako_illust

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The stigma of self-inserts is so harmful to the creative process. Relax. Admit it. Everything you make is derivative of yourself, always, no exceptions. You can turn the mirror into tinier and tinier shards or you can make it as big as you want to reflect as much as you want. At the end of the day it's always going to show you inside of it. Pretending otherwise is stupid.

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having a mutual who’s a good artist literally feels like beyonce saw me at a supermarket and decided to make me her best friend

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i miss her

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when he finds out you pirated his gloomdredger

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something about foreshadowing being more prominent the second time around reading a story but in a way that the meaning is changed forever and you can never view a story the same as you once did before. do you know what i mean.

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packing all my mutuals a bowl unless you don’t smoke in which case it is soup in your bowl

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20231121 totk fanart

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harris reed | spring 2024

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grass nap

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Wanted to draw him (again)

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i highly recommend developing an intense interest in some natural phenomenon or creature such as bugs or stars or mushrooms. you will be delighted every time you go outside