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Back on MeetMe... Why do some of these men assume Dutch = German? Did you fail geology? Germany is NOT the country where they speak Dutch. If you meant Deutsch, still not the language spoken in my country or listed in my bio.

Go back to school.

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I'm trying to find penpals, yet all these people (mostly men), just... idk. They just feel a bit lacking in their responses...

I basically sell myself in these sub reddits, and all I get are lack luster messages.

1) This is not a dating sub reddit.

2) Introduce yourself. "Hi, how are you?" Isn't going to cut it. Properly introduce yourself. Have you been a pen pal to someone before? No? Then educate yourself.

Email pen palling is tougher when I have to "advertise" myself, and I get basically... nothing interesting...

It's kind of disappointing...

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Follow here on Threads

I hadn't thought about it from this perspective but it makes a lot of sense. Dating apps are the perfect platform for men to put forward the bear minimum and get rewarded for the most, and this cycle is only able to be reinforced by women being desperate for the bare minimum.

Dating apps don't work these day not only because they've become a money grab built on the loneliness of people, but also because they are not used in a serious and healthy way.

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I love it when guys ask me: "why not?"

Because:

A) I don't want to.

B) You're too old.

C) You're too young.

D) 2 or more of the above.

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Person: "where are you from?"

My profile: B E L G I U M

People are so dumb and lazy... Read people. Read. It takes like... maybe 5 minutes. If you can't even read a profile, how do you manage to send messages? Because you need to read the messages I send you in order for you to reply to them. It's just CRAZY.

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So... I'm on Bumble and I know this is all about women sending the first message. But, I just matched with a guy I didn't expect to match with! So that's nice!

I hope to not come across anyone that tells me "Beta males" would love me. But we'll see.

I can post about the positive conversations and matches too!

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Not one of these are introducing themselves. They just want me to email them. Most of these, are African men that I doubt that understand what pen pals really are. I'm just... Digging my own grave here.

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Met a guy through Facebook. He's 43 and has an 11 y.o. daughter. I don't see this developing into a romantic relationship at all. But, the moment I feel uncomfortable around this guy, I will tell him. Because, I think this guy is attracted to my photos.

I had no idea these were being seen by people not on my friends list. I also had no idea people could randomly message me on Facebook.

I'm an idiot sandwich...

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I blocked him on Snapchat after asking a friend for advice and guess what? He messaged me on Facebook!

I met M on MeetMe. He is a journalist for different well-known magazines and newspapers in Belgium.

We started talking and everything was fine. We moved things over to Snapchat. M decided that me being open about sex and relationships, that I also consented to him continuously talking about his sexual exploits. Including him doubting going on dates.

In July 2024, he messaged me on Facebook after I deleted Snapchat off my phone. The incessant talking about sex the majority of the time. We barely talked about anything else.

He messaged me. In July. Asking how I was doing. That he saw I added him on Snapchat. We added each other on Snapchat... On July 5th, he told me goodbye. That for some odd reason I no longer wanted to speak to him. Geez you think?

Today, after I downloaded Snapchat back on my phone like a day before, he messaged me on Snapchat.

What is this guy doing? Is he stalking me?

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I met M on MeetMe. He is a journalist for different well-known magazines and newspapers in Belgium.

We started talking and everything was fine. We moved things over to Snapchat. M decided that me being open about sex and relationships, that I also consented to him continuously talking about his sexual exploits. Including him doubting going on dates.

In July 2024, he messaged me on Facebook after I deleted Snapchat off my phone. The incessant talking about sex the majority of the time. We barely talked about anything else.

He messaged me. In July. Asking how I was doing. That he saw I added him on Snapchat. We added each other on Snapchat... On July 5th, he told me goodbye. That for some odd reason I no longer wanted to speak to him. Geez you think?

Today, after I downloaded Snapchat back on my phone like a day before, he messaged me on Snapchat.

What is this guy doing? Is he stalking me?

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He messaged me on Snapchat today...

Pretty sure I don't speak Turkish. So... him assuming I do, is just rude. Also... 43? Dude you're close to 20 years older than me! Fuck off.

Ghosted this guy on SnapChat because all he did was talk about sex. I'm all for mature conversation topics, but .... Sex isn't the main topic I want to talk about day in day out. There's more to life than sex.

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So setting boundaries is me creating an "interview"? Wow...

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My InterPals profile!

This is my InterPals profile as of right now, since 2 days ago. Focus on the about section where I state: "If you're not 29 -- 32 please do not reach out". If you or anyone else feels like this is about them, calling me an ageist or whatever, please seek help.

This profile is basically me telling older men and women I do not wish them to reach out! At all! Because I know that mostly men will reach out and disregard anything said on my profile. Either that, or they won't read it at all.

I have tried to stick to the truth and the facts about me, but obviously that picture is not me. I would use my picture, my actual face, but I have failed to get a tan and my face looks hideously pale with dark circles. So much so, I want to download Snapchat again purely for that one natural looking filter. I do use an Adobe Lightroom filter specifically for selfies, since it clears up the skin and softly airbrushes it. It erases most blemishes you don't want (acne, red spots, etc) and brightens up your skin a bit so it doesn't look... well, like you need sleep or a 2-month sunny holiday where you tan daily. Because I look pale as hell in normal photos! I really do!

I always add a natural looking filter that evens out my skin tone. It makes me look healthier.

But yeah, this is the one and only profiles I have on InterPals. Or I forgot to delete one and lost my password for it... But I think I deleted my previous one.

Anyway! I'll go back to cackling and laughing at stupid men. Maybe just respond to the "normal" ones from now on.

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I FUCKING CACKLED AT THIS!

Bro's age said 41 not 42. Yet, he calls me stating I only wish to talk to people between ages 29–32, freaking AGEISM!

Dude needs to grow up! Or realize a woman wanting to talk to people close to her age is not Ageism at all but her setting boundaries!

Blocked.

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Why does this even matter? xD

Common Sense? ZERO

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He then asked if I wanted to be friends, yes or no. what part of "sure" don't they understand? Oh and apparently my name is Clerly not Demi, uhm what?

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I told this man who is 48 yo to read a profile next time. Told him bye. This was his response.

I reported him and deleted the conversation.