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Ban men from driving.

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BRING BACK LESBIAN PRIDE

Same day as London Pride – Saturday 5th July 2025 – 11:00am Victoria Tower Gardens South, Westminster (Meet at the Emmeline Pankhurst Statue)

Women only. No men. No brands. No apologies.

WHY WE’RE MARCHING

Because London Pride doesn’t speak for us. Because lesbian visibility is collapsing. Because no one’s coming to save us – so we’re showing up ourselves.

THE PLAN

• Meet at the Emmeline Pankhurst statue • Walk to Parliament Square (short speeches) • Return to the park for drinks and fun • Pub fallback if it rains

No slogans. No gatekeeping. Just lesbians. In public. Together.

WHAT’S ALREADY COVERED

Permits, security, stewards, first aid

Megaphones, banners, flyers

This is entirely self-funded. No salaries. No sponsors. No middlemen.

Want to quietly back it? https://thelcommunity.com/back-us

RSVP NOW

Even if you're unsure, RSVP now. It shows others this space is real:

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WE ALSO NEED VOLUNTEERS

The ground crew is nearly set. We’ve got a few key roles left to fill.

Stewards – walk the route, stay visible Calm presence – arrive early, hold the line if needed

WHEN: 10:30am sharp – same location Quick briefing on arrival. No training needed. Just presence, reliability, and backbone.

Reply to this email or DM in the WhatsApp grouo step in.

50+ women are already coming. Many are arriving alone.

If you’re nervous about coming alone and have a straight female friend who truly gets it – email us first. No masks. Just truth. If you’ve ever asked, ‘Where are the lesbian spaces?’ – This is it. And it only works if we show up.

They erased us from Pride. We’re marching anyway. We move.

Can’t come? Make it louder. Send the flyer to someone who needs to see it. Jenny

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could you imagine being a paleontologist studying the coelacanth and then just. oh turns out it’s not dead. we don’t need dead thing experts anymore we need live thing experts. thanks for your years of study but we need the Present Men, not the Past Knowers

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I see how this campaign has united many women from Muslim countries or Muslim communities in the West. All these stories are full of pain. We are trying to make the rest of the world understand that we are the women who have lived under sharia, the ones who know Islamic ideologies best and that we have the right to be afraid of all the brutalities we have suffered. I have the right to tell my story! - Masih Alinejad, Iranian women’s rights activist

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Everyone hates the beaten woman! Self identified feminists hate the beaten woman! If it was all her fault it means you’re safe, it could never happen to you

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I saw the wokest minds of my generation convinced that women being objectified is feminist praxis

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The trans movement: black women are seen as men/male adjacent 1.Enslaved black women were wet nurses to white babes (side note: do people know how hungry and drained breastfeeding makes you? A child is literally sucking the calories out of you on top of the fact that your body has to exert energy making the milk) 2.Were repeatedly raped and impregnated against their will to give birth to more slaves- aka their female reproductive labor specifically exploited and pimped to directly financially profit slave masters. 3.Were raped and used as sex toys by both black men and white slave masters. 4.Were forced to do traditionally feminine roles like childcare, cooking, cleaning IN ADDITON to all the back- breaking, hard labor the men had to do. 5.In the founding of gynecology- enslaved black women had their guts cut open and wombs and uteri taken out and experimented on. Had their breasts, vaginas and buttocks, all sex organs, pickled in jars and shown in museums. In other words, our female ancestors experienced the absolute worst assaults on their SEXED bodies. Experienced horrors and mechanisms of torture designed for and exclusive to THE FEMALE SEX. And you people let transfemmes say we're seen as males. Unchecked. I'll never forgive or forget this. I'll never forgive. I'll never forget.

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every day, i find something on this hellsite that peaks me further. this time, it’s a TRA posing as a white supremacist radfem and buying bots to like and repost their content (as well as a lot of the same content).

enter, this character. already alarm bells should be going off in your head.

this post had 37 notes. i started to wonder “who’s reposting this shit?”

faceless tumblr accounts with random names. also note, multiple reposts from the same accounts.

what about the likes? are there any real accounts liking this?

faceless, random tumblr accounts.

okay… that’s weird. what about these accounts? do they repost anything else?

here’s one. lots of woman-hating, anti radfem posts. weird.

but that’s just one account, right? what about another one?

same thing, reposting similar posts, all the same jazz.

but that can’t be ALL of them, right? what about another one?

hm… a lot of reposting that same “ferfy” person….

what about another one?

jesus christ, are they all like this?!

second occurrence of that trans flag gif. weird.

… yeah no. these are bots.

yeah, this person is buying bots to reblog their white supremacist, obviously uneducated dogshit to spread a narrative about “terfs” being white supremacists. report this idiot, report their bots, and don’t engage with any of these faceless idiots.

sorry, tras, but all my reblogs have faces and names. oops.

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i've become more anti-romance these past two years, not because i hate love but because romance is such an infantalized, patriarchal way to look at love.

the entire culture of romance disgusts me, i think, primarily because of how it isolates women from their communities in real time, even alienates them from their sense of self. like, romance insists that there is such a thing as THE ONE and this one must be a sexual/life partner. like, already the premise forces a toxic environment where a couple has unrealistic expectations of each other, where they're both pedestalized, and i've seen so many relationships frustrated by this stupid, childish idealism when it comes to romantic relationships.

but it's always worse when a woman is romancepilled. when a man is romancepilled, chances are his misogyny decreases by like maybe 10% or something. but when it's a woman OH MY FUCKING GOD. it's like she gets a lobotomy. it doesn't matter how self-assured she used to be. what her temperament was. you just start watching these women humiliate and baby themselves in front of these men. like they adopt learned helplessness. and he becomes so CENTRAL to their lives that like, if you don't have a boyfriend/husband genuinely good luck hanging out with her. she'll bring him everywhere. she'll talk about him when he's not there. she'll be talking TO him when you're supposed to be hanging out. and you'll find that the only other women she maintains friendships with are the partners of her partner's friend group.

you're just not a priority. like at all. except for when she has low self-esteem or breaks up with him.

and my question is: why? why should people who've known you longer, who've been loving you longer, for DECADES, take a backseat to someone you've dated for like three? maybe two years? why is one kind of love exalted above all others? you point this out and they start calling you jealous. your life and love, because you are single, is just so small apparently. "i hope you find love one day" "i hope you discover what it's like for someone to love you so unconditionally" genuine question, but is this man your legit first time experiencing love let alone unconditional love??? because i cannot fucking relate. i cannot relate to only having deep, intimate connections with one person. i cannot relate to having my love and life be concentrated in one relationship. it's criminal how this new guy just usurps her life. just fills up every crevice and pushes everyone out.

it also makes het-couples such insufferable fucking martyrs, if not the smuggest most self-centred drags. all of a sudden it's "us against the world" and "no one gets me like you do" and everyone who doesn't like your PDA is just jealous? oh word? because i've watched you lie to each other's faces about shit you wouldn't lie about with me. your friends and family do "get you" they're just not obligated to pay you the kind of attention a romantic relationship traditionally demands (no matter how unsustainable and unrealistic). and look, i get that the more time you spend together, the closer you'll be. if you're living with your partner, chances are you're close. like duh. but i cannot fathom, genuinely, i cannot fathom how ONE person in your ENTIRE LIFE takes center stage.

that's what i fundamentally disagree with. why is there a CENTRAL PERSON? why does that make sense to anyone? genuinely how can you have a central person????? why can't you have a variety of deep relationships? why are you only willing to pour so much effort into ONE relationship? it just sounds more and more insane to me. like maybe i'm just crazy, and i thought that all my mutual relationships deserved my time, effort, intention and focus and that just because i lived with some and not others, or had sex with some and not others, they were all just "people in my life that i love." it's probably why i can imagine not living with someone i date for life. like if i was to forsake the febfem thing and date a man, i would neither marry nor live with him and that would make 100% sense to me, because like, he's one among many of my loves. why do we have to share a bed? i haven't shared a bed since i was 12. why do we have to do EVERYTHING together? i hate the fucking codependency.

you say shit like that and people look at you crazy. "but he's your PARTNER" "you must not be in love with him." i am in love with all sorts of people in my life every day. but i don't cling to any one of them as my end-all-be-all. i may not love them all equally, but i don't have a ONE. that's the thing. i just don't have a ONE because it doesn't make sense to me. each relationship has its own individual flavour, and all are worthy to me. the kind of relationship it is does not actually determine how much love and intimacy is there.

but even on a socioeconomic scale, romance is just patriarchal nonsense. it's all about starting your own family unit. leaving your families to become your own. in most cases, it's a woman leaving HER community and HER job and HER friends and HER family to integrate into the man's life. which is why men don't switch up so fucking horrendously when they get into relationships. they legit do not change 99.9% of the time.

i'm just so tired of adults treating life like a disney movie and getting mad when i don't. like no i do not believe in "the one." no i do not believe in "happily ever after." the entire thing just screams co-dependence and infantalism. with how some of these couples talk, i'm convinced they use each other as an easier way to gain social status and get new parents. the mommification of girlfriends and daddification of boyfriends sickens me. to my fucking core. like you're just here to make each other regress so that you trap each other there. people who weren't insecure wouldn't act like this. like they'd have that bigness to them. they're often more open with their love and time, and they have a rich community that they built themselves around them. they're intentional with all their relationships and they don't treat their partners as shields from society's stigmas. which is why their relationships aren't plagued by mistrust and controlling behaviour. (interestingly, i usually see this in people who married old like when their hair was starting to grey and a few lesbian couples)

but for romancepilled couples it's so miserable and small and pathetic and i'm so tired of watching it happen and holding my tongue. like heal and grow up.

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Every woman, of course, wishes to believe that the man in her life is an exceptional man, a man in a million, and that therefore she is the exceptional woman. But the odds are 99.9 to 0.1 against her (and .1 is probably a high estimate), because almost no man, no matter how gentle, no matter how liberal, could bear to reject the innumerable privileges (operant in very subtle as well as blatant ways in every sphere of his life) of being male, even if it were possible. A friend once wrote to me, "For me, the bottom line now with men is that any man (my brother, too, whom I love dearly) will sell me out if it's a choice between me and patriarchy, me and his male privilege."

- Sonia Johnson

Women feel that, without men, we will be alone and further isolated. We will have no one. We do not see relations with other women as an alternative. Without men, life isn’t worth living. This reveals the extent to which women experience our selves through men’s eyes. The more lost women feel without men, the more we have defined ourselves through our relationships with men and in relation to men.

Having most members of any oppressed group live one-on-one with their oppressors is probably the strongest possible arrangement for ensuring continued psychological enslavement. Whether the adult male is father or husband, the effect is the same: the woman is isolated from other women.

- Dee L. R. Graham

Men are thinking, writing, and creating, because women are pouring their energy into those men; women are not creating culture because they are occupied with love.

- Shulamith Firestone

Heterosexuality stands out as one of the last bastions of patriarchy where the notion of individual choice remains thoroughly unexamined. This leads to curious scenarios such as the phenomenon of feminists who might be critical of the notion of ‘choice’ and ‘agency’ in relation to oppressive systems such as pornography and prostitution, posting pictures of themselves in wedding dresses on social media, and defending their ‘choices’ as a purely private affair.

- Julia Long

Feminism is stifled by women with shifting priorities based on necessary compromises with the men in their lives. This will always create a burden for the woman to choose between her politics and the oppressor class she has an intimate connection to.

- Sustainable Separatist

Women’s magazines place young women’s ability to establish and maintain heterosexual dating relationships at the centre of women’s identities. Rhetoric surrounding the achievement of ‘wedded bliss’ and finding ‘Mr Right’ abounds, with men the ultimate source of ‘women’s fulfilment’.

- Kate Farhall

The whole world wants you to partner up with a man; the handful of us who want liberation don’t threaten your little domestic dream beyond asking you to self-reflect a bit and ponder your priorities. We’re not witches, and we’re not the monster under your bed either. We’re women alive leading fulfilling lives, and we’d love it if more women got to experience it. There’s no non-misogynistic man. Some do a good job of fooling the women around them, but none of them isn’t complicit in women’s oppression. Why do you feel such a need to put your life and your freedom in a man’s hand? Can’t you do things yourself instead of waiting for someone else’s input? At the end of the day it’s not about your feelings. It’s about doing something so things change instead of just waiting passively for men to deign to give us a few rights, it’s about women’s liberation. And that might very well be something you are not interested in, which is your prerogative, but it’s not my case.

- Floatingbook

The most exhilarating experience of my newly-divorced life was the discovery that I could be whole and happy without a man; that the fierce brainwashing to the contrary, which I’d sustained all my life, was not only composed of lies from start to finish, but was a total reversal of the truth: it’s not women who need men, but men who need women.

- Sonia Johnson

I don’t think we need to argue or defend female separatism. We just have to build it. Women who are able to speak against it obviously see no benefit in joining, so they can stay as they are. But they can’t control what we do. They can go on and on about how absolutely dreadful it would be, while we’re already building our houses and planting our gardens and having immense joy at the freedom and life. Separatism proves its points by existing and showing what it really is. Don’t waste energy telling people how stupid they are for fighting you about it, come learn all about berries and sustainable permaculture with us.

- Balkan Radfem

Friends and enemies will be clearly lined up, and the friends will be real friends and the enemies unable to hide behind phony benevolence — nor will we have to toady to them. An end to this constant remaking of ourselves according to what the male ego demands! Let us be ourselves and good riddance to those who are then repulsed by us!

- Dana Densmore

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People often jab at Dworkin via her weight — I read obits for her a while back and a surprising number were shitty about it. First her weight is used to discredit her; later, it’s used to explain (justify) her early death.

Dworkin endured an insane amount of stress… like not just her experiences being hunted down by a violent husband, and prostituted and raped and abused. But as she herself says, it is an agony as a woman to perceive reality.

Yet she never looked away — she stayed focused on her mission, and her message, for life. Given that stress predicts a shortened lifespan/healthspan more than basically anything… it makes more sense to attribute her declining health and early death to that. Rather than drawing snide conclusions based on her appearance, as a form of character assassination and depicting her early death as natural and justified

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modern gynecology was built upon the experimentation and torture of enslaved black women. i can't help but make connections with that fact and what's happening to adriana smith right now

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There Is No Such Thing As A Feminist “Pro-Lifer”

it is telling how the man is absent from the anti-abortionist’s rhetoric. it is the woman or little girl that “murders” the baby and not the man who put it there. who, in many cases, forced it there. it’s a failure to acknowledge the ability to impregnate as a weapon men wield against vulnerable, mostly impoverished women and girls. those weaker and with less socioeconomic defenses to stop men from taking advantage of them: in short, the kind of victims men know they can get away with victimizing. the high rates of black abortions in the US is the only time white evangelicals will decry “genocide.” as if the nine-year old a pedophile viciously attacked is somehow prejudiced against that which is already in her, of her—hers. as if she gets some kind of sociopolitical advantage over this fetus for castrating what would ravage her body to the point of possible death. as if she is cowardly for it.

rape is at the heart of this issue. for rape is coerced sex of any form. what else would we call an unwanted pregnancy? it can either be an accident or rape, and how many of these women and girls can be said to have these accidents? a good number of them can be better classified as rape by deception. uninformed consent is still rape. even more can be conceived as emotional blackmail. wherein the decades-long grooming of passivity as true femininity finally bears fruit in the bedroom. where she is too afraid to communicate her own needs or ask questions. we do not blame the victim if grooming is successful.

for the anti-abortionist, this is a moral issue. another thing to determine who goes or does not go to heaven. this is what makes it important. for the woman, this is a survival issue. the fetus is a biohazard. a legitimate threat to life and to quality of life. a potential trauma. and the man that impregnates threatening. just because pregnancy is survivable does not make it any less violent. rape is also survivable. in fact, one cannot have trauma sans survival. this does not stop violent things from being threatening or life-destroying.

the anti-abortionist stance is egregiously androcentric. it uses male wartime traditions/language “genocide,” “ethnic cleansing,” “murder,” to talk about a profoundly female experience. pregnancy is the one thing men and women cannot experience together as human beings. generalized language (which is really still patriarchal) does not account for the woman’s existential experience of pregnancy. the fetus is not another person. it is not “put there” by a man. it is being constructed by her body. it is as part of her as her lungs or heart, which is why she vomits, she swells, she faints or dies during that pregnancy. the language must reflect that reality for she is the authority on such an experience as the only one to experience such a thing. men can only imagine it. to treat the fetus and woman as essentially separate people is an androcentric error.

furthermore, to call mass abortions genocide is to make several logical errors in extremely bad faith since:

Women are not waging wars against fetuses because they are prejudiced against fetuses. They are defending themselves from violence (impregnation) and potential violence (birth). Self-defense is not unjust.

Women are not invading any land or space occupied by other individuals. Their bodies are their rightful domains. If their bodies answer to something or someone else, that is essentially declaring that the woman is state/another man’s property. If a woman is owned by someone other than herself, that is essentially slavery (since there is no moral way to own another human being).

No prejudice or discrimination occurs based on ethnicity or religious creed. Fetuses resemble their progenitors. Fetuses have no identities of any kind. Fetuses are not separate genetically or literally from the women gestating them.

Fundamentally, you cannot be anti-abortion and a feminist because to be the first, you MUST give up feminist analyses of society. You must seize thinking about the power structures in place that subjugate women unjustly. You must, in this case, deny that men use impregnation or the threat of impregnation against women and girls. And when that doesn’t work, you must insist it is better for women and girls to “just take it.” To essentially, “lie back and think of England.” You affirm that they are not autonomous persons that belong to themselves. Thus clearing the way for men to use women’s bodies as they have believed themselves to be justified in doing: whether for surrogacy, prostitution or scientific experiment. If women do not own themselves, someone else clearly does. And it will be the people in power. those currently presiding being men.

if men’s ability to impregnate has proven to be a weapon wielded against women, then women must be granted the right to defend themselves on that front.

anti-abortionists would rather, instead, that women accept their lot as such. not challenge male power over our bodies, wills and lives. essentially telling us to accept our own dehumanization as moral uprightness.

it’s evil, but it’s hardly the first time women are told their suffering and conformity is the only good way for them to achieve virtue as women while men are never held accountable.

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i can’t stop thinking about adriana smith. when roe was overturned i knew things were going to get hellish but turns out 50 years of scientific innovation means an entire new branch of soul crushing horror stories are now possible. we can’t possibly keep pretending we’ve advanced gender and racial equality when we’re using a dead black woman’s body as an incubator for a fetus. a society that does that is a failed society. fuck man im trying to hold on to some measure of hope here but its so hard.

ETA: there’s now a link to d/n/te to the family in the reblogs

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Omg I love when trans activists are like “you have no idea!!! What it’s like to be killed!! and murdered! and raped!! just for being the way you are cause you’re cis~!!! Transwomen are oppressed!!!!! Cis are not!!!!! cIs prIVILEGE!!!!!!!!!”

Like oh my bad. I completely forgot that women aren’t raped and murdered at such a common occurrence in every day life that it’s casually used a plot devices within media to further a male character’s development? Sorry my privilege is to be under the thumb of men so they can keep an eye on my uterus, waiting to see its worth instead of my worth as a human being. Sorry I got all that “cis” oppressive privilege gosh golly darn

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Milkmaid trying to get a pig out of the road, Norway, ca. 1932 - Nordmøre Museum