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A red and pink stimboard with tulips for @transfemtulips !!!!

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A Cardcaptor Sakura stimboard for @sakurashortcake !!!

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transphobes will use the experiences of people like you as a tool to hurt trans people and i think you know that and just dont care.

Hello Anon, thank you for sharing your concern, and I am sorry if my blog upset you. I have been around trans people almost all my life, and I still do not want to hurt them, even if my point of view has changed. I care very much. I care too much. But this is about me. I created this blog to reach out for help. Why did I reach out to radfems? Because they look at things differently. I learned about their opinions, and they are not as violently transphobic as I have been told. In fact, most of them aren't even transphobic. If I were to go to the trans community with my issue about maybe wanting to detransition, I would be met with a lot of hate, or pressure to keep transitioning if I explained how my dysphoria started. I would not have received the immense support I have received here. Nobody here that reached out to me personally thought 'Oh hey! A vulnerable trans person! Let's use this as an opportunity to hurt trans people!'. They reached out to me to help ME. They want nothing but the best for me. Nobody told me to detransition without thinking so I would add to the, according to the trans community, 1% of people that detransitioned. They wanted to help me so I could collect my thoughts, accept myself, trans or not, and be free from the thoughts that have tormented me. Nobody here was hateful. I am not contributing to transgender hate by detransitioning. I am only detransitioning for myself. To be happy. I am not a tool, and I refuse to be used as a tool to hate on trans people. Nobody here actually tried to do that. Nobody pointed at me and went 'Hey! That person detransitioned! You see??? Nobody is actually trans!'. Gender dysphoria is real, radfems know that, but sometimes transitioning isn't the way to cure it. Sometimes transitioning harms people, and it is important to listen to those people. The trans community doesn't listen to detransitioners, but I hope someday people can just take the time to listen to each other without instantly resorting to screaming at each other. Thank you if you read all of this. I hope it made you feel a bit better. Your concerns matter too.

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Embrace being a woman who doesn't follow stereotypes and leave these losers who are going to convince you you're a man because they want you to push they're ideologies. I do hope you grow out of this

Thank you very much <3 I am trying, and I am learning a lot about myself! Thank you for the concern.

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Girl shut the fuck up and get a life. You're annoying and addicted to identity politics. Leave and literally touch grass

I asked... A question? I asked for help with my struggle about gender identity. I do not understand how this told you I am addicted to identity politics. I merely asked for help because I am struggling. I'm very sorry, but I do not understand what your problem is. Feel free to DM, I won't be upset. I am just a little confused.

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Hey, just want to say as a nonbinary person: needing to re-examine and re-define your gender as an adult doesn't necessarily mean you made a mistake as a teen. If we don't judge people for transitioning later in life, why would we judge people who need to de- or re-transition later in life? There have always been FtMtF and FtMtX people (and all other kinds of complicated transition histories) around. An authentic experience of the self doesn't become less authentic because it's impermanent.

I hope you can find peace and security and I hope you can surround yourself with people who can value the little girl and the boy you might have been and the adult of whatever gender you are.

Hello. This message confuses me a little, but I thank you for supporting me(?). I do not think I had an authentic experience of the self; my gender dysphoria developed due to autism, internalized misogyny, and trauma. Wanting to be a man so I could leave behind my old life and escape the 'burden' of womanhood wasn't me authentically, it was a trauma response which could've caused me a lot of harm. It is difficult, and it is complicated. But, thank you. I hope I did not sound rude.

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Hello, everyone. I'm unsure how many of you that gave your support will see this, but all of your kind words mean everything to me. Over a hundred people have reached out to me. Over a hundred comments and reblogs, 20+ DMs, so many asks... I cannot answer all of them, due to exhaustion from everything that's been going on in my life, but just know I read every single one of your comments. I love everyone here so much. I cannot thank you all enough. Thank you all, from the bottom of my heart. I think I can finally start being me. ❤️

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I empathize with your struggles and I have also experienced some gender dysphoria and issues regarding my identity. And I'd like to also note that I've been speculating for years now that I might have ASD. Although I'm not diagnosed currently I'd like to be tested someday once I have the accessibility.

First off- I'd like to just say feminity is artificial. What makes a woman a woman is the fact that she was born as one. Not because of what she wears. Or what she acts like. How she speaks. Or her interests and hobbies.

I myself never identified as trans but especially during my teenage years I struggled with my body image and how I was perceived by others. And this also why I mention ASD, because many autistic people struggle to see themselves as real people. Many autistic people also struggle with gender identity. And this is only worse for autistic girls and women because of the unrealistic expectations we are demanded to fulfill.

Throughout my teenage years and even until now I struggled with my "femininity". I went years without makeup and shaving. I didn't even learn how to use mascara until a couple months ago. And when I started wearing makeup I felt like a fraud. I didn't feel like a real woman. I felt like someone who was pretending to be feminine and simply putting on an act. For years I almost never wore skirts or dresses. And I would look at my wardrobe and feel ashamed because I thought I needed to be more "feminine" presenting or no one would ever want me. That people would see me less a feminine woman and more like a man.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken.

The world we live in is broken. We live in a world where men perpetuate the way women should act and dress. And if we don't fit into their mold of what a "feminine" girl or woman should look like we are stripped of our womanhood. Told we are not real women based on a delusional, dangerous fantasy of what they want women to be like, regardless of what she likes and thinks.

I've been reading this message over and over. I cannot thank you enough. You are very right. Thank you for sharing this. It's of great help. I cannot put into words how much this means to me. Just... Thank you. So much. <3

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Hey! So sorry to hear about your gender issues, I’m not a Radfem, I’m trans, I just want to say I get the feelings your going through and I hope you find a way to be comfortable in your gender, whether that’s as a trans person or a person who tried out transitioning and found it didn’t work for the. I just want to wish you the best of luck in your journey.

Thank you. You're delightful. ❤️

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I recommend following and trying to reach out @tejuina

Sometimes some detransitioners do end up harboring some conservative views related to trans politics.....but obviously not everybody does. Idk many detransitioners around here because I don't follow many people but tejuina is pretty cool. She doesn't ally with conservatives or their politics because her views on gender identity changed.

Thank you so much for the recommendation! I will check out her blog! I'm grateful for the resources you all give me.

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I see you put the radfems interact post . . . the internet makes me believe that all detransitioners are anti-trans? Which is weird, like I'm surprised more aren't just like "Guess being trans wasn't for me, oh well!" but online I'm under the impression that all detransitioners are super anti-trans?

I never mentioned anything about detransitioning. I was asking for help from people that don't immediately point to transitioning to cure gender dysphoria. I was asking for help only, because I am lost. I am not immediately anti-trans for asking. I could not go to the trans community with my doubts because I would be dogpiled. You did not read my post correctly. Detransitioners are shunned by the trans community. Dogpiled, namecalled, suibaited.

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Read woman-for-women and feminist classisc.. don't feel ashamed or guilty a lot of radfem are former detrans and you don't have to be afraid.

happy to pm you if you wish for Blogs to follow that are generally level headed

Thank you very much for this. Yes, I'd like that. I appreciate you <3

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Hello. I have never really used tumblr before. I apologize if I have misused tags, or am doing something I shouldn't be, but I need help. I am reaching out to radical feminists / terfs because I need a different opinion for once in my life. I have always avoided these topics or opinions because I grew up with the side of the internet that say radfem ideology is harmful and bigoted, and I carelessly took those opinions. I am only now realizing I should be getting my own opinions, which should've been obvious, but it is difficult for me.

I am AFAB, diagnosed with autism and gender dysphoria, and have ID'ed as a trans man throughout most of my teen years, but now as an adult, I am questioning my transgender identity. I am terrified to admit this to my trans friends, who would likely despise me for even considering asking the opinion of radfems. I have no one to discuss this with in a healthy manner. I am worried my gender identity stems from wanting to escape womanhood, just wanting to start a new life, or to get rid of self-hatred. I notice I often 'wish' I could be a cis lesbian, as if I couldn't, because of the way I chose to identify. I am worried and I am scared I am making wrong decisions. I am worried I am not listening to enough different opinions and making my own. Is there anyone I could maybe talk to? Am I welcome here? I am very sorry.