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How to deal with burnout/low spoons? I don’t really do anything other than bedrot all day but I’m exhausted

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Uh. Sorry mod. This is nsfw. I just don't know where else to ask this. Nsfw wasn't explicitly stated as a rulebreak but I do understand if you don't want to post

For personal reasons I haven't had sex in years so I've been using a small vibe. I wanted to try something different though, something cool with thrust action or whatever. So I did some research and I bought the smallest one with that feature I could find, which is still bigger than I'm used to. But I...can't use it. It hurts. I primed myself up and everything, I used lube for the first time ever, i got sufficiently wet, but I still couldn't even get the "head" in. Lube or no lube it just hurt. I've taken bigger and thicker than that many times before. Maybe I'm just out of shape but...how much priming could it possibly need? I spent a good 45 minutes trying to make this work and enjoy myself. I shouldn't be disappointed in myself for this but I am. I don't know what to do now. Do I keep trying at it? How do I get more comfortable with this?

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after going through depression/burnout/idk I feel like idk who I am anymore. The things I used to enjoy feel like a chore. I know people grow and change but idk I feel like a stranger to myself (idk my likes/hobbies/ even my favorite color) I want to get to know myself again

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How do I un-reblog something I rebloged on tumblr?

You don’t, you just delete the post from your blog

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Hi, anyone have advice on how I can stop feeling terrified of mental healthcare? I’ve been mentally ill and disabled my whole life, and I can finally afford treatment now that I’m employed. The thing is, I’m really anxious when it comes to receiving treatment. Growing up, things like therapy were treated like a punishment, and I was manipulated into believing that having mental issues made me a bad person, which would cause me to face punishment if anyone found out about my problems. It was weird. I’m an adult and away from all that, but I’m still scared. I feel like I’m doing something bad, but I don’t know what.

I called a psychiatrist all by myself for the first time the other day, I was terrified the whole time, but still made it through the call. A second call is coming up soon, to decide when I’ll see them in person. I don’t want to back away, I need medication and therapy, I want to get better. But this anxiety is the worst feeling ever.

(Advice from people with anxiety disorders and/or OCD would greatly be appreciated as well, because I have both and this is definitely at least partially caused by those things lol)

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Guys what is the etiquette for when your mutual is venting on main. Because I dont wanna be rude by spamming xer feed while xes suffering, but I also dont want to go offline and have xem notice i went offline when i usually wouldnt because that could be rude too. Also is it a good idea to send xem anonymous lovemail and comfort while xe vent or should I wait until after?

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I want to add a little coffee station to my living space (unfortunately I do not have enough table space so I’ll need to purchase a desk or drawers)

I obviously plan on putting the stuff I need to make coffee & tea bags, but I want to add personality to that area. How can I do that?

(I thought about a plant (because they look nice) but I don’t have a green thumb at all and the dying plant would make me sad lol)

Thanks in advance everyone!

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I'm having trouble eating healthy. I never leave the house other than to go to work- which is the biggest problem, as I work at McDonalds. So I eat a lot of McDonalds. It's just really easy, and I don't have to pay a whole lot for it, and I'm not good at cooking nor do I have the energy- I work long ass shifts and I'm also disabled (rheumatoid arthritis and POTS). Currently fighting with social security to get the needed financial aid but they're pissbags as always. I've tried eating only the healthier items like fish filets and apple slices and water, but I still feel like garbage. If anyone else out there is struggling to eat healthy while disabled/poor, what works for you?

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I know this is the joy and whimsy fuck all rage site but pls I need like some actual advice here that isn't judgemental. I'm having the worst negative parasocial relationship right now. I'm not even willing to call it me being a hater becauae it's so intense, they actually make me violent. It's pathetic I know. This person doesn't even know I exist but I really hate them. I know a little about why (envy of their musical talent and hatred of their beliefs) but the reasoning for the intensity is actually beyond me. There was even a point where I compulsively checked their account just to get mad? It is confusing to me too

Idrc what I have to do so long as I can be free of this

By the way they're not really famous or anything so it's easy enough to avoid them, but what is troubling me is that the things even tangentially related to them make me angry, which sucks because we have a lot of the same musical interests, interests I struggle enjoying now because it makes me think of them

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I'm 19 and my sister is in her early twenties. When watch movies and tv shows and there's some sex scene or any dialogue with explicit talk about it, my sister will skip it and even tell me to "close my eyes" while she skips, an old habit we always had and never bothered me until now that I'm thinking about it, because I just think is kind of an hypocrisy of her doing that to me (19) when she read smutty books (like that "After" one) when she was a teen younger than me. Is that a normal behaviour of older sisters to their young siblings? Is it something to get bothered for or you think I have nothing to be overthinking about?

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I'm aware that I need to eat, but even just making a PB+J sandwich sounds like way too much effort. I need advice for either getting myself to make something simple or something I can eat that's even simpler than that

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dear hobbyless people

what do you do with life

because i just quit all my hobbies and im actually about to die of boredom. i cant even daydream because then it makes me itch with the need to try and get it out of my head through writing or art. ive watched pretty much every interesting thing on netflix, rewatched the same movie over twenty times now (i did count), and my screen time on social media is getting higher than it should. i have taken to afternoon walks but that's getting boring too. its gotten to the point where my boss is thanking me for putting a ton of hours in and i cant tell her im literally only doing this because im bored

thank you

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I’m the only one in my house who drinks plant milk, but I can only find one size in stores (family sized). I put it in the fridge after opening so it can last longer but only have like a cup a day (in my coffee).

Advice to use it before it goes bad? Also any idea how long it lasts in the fridge? (I usually go for coconut milk but I’m open to soy or trying different types if they last longer)

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I want to start a (faceless) social media account for coffee (I’m thinking of making fun drinks and rating shops). But I am anxious about filming in public (I do plan on putting a voice-over in post or subtitles but the filming in public thing makes me nervous.)

Advice?

(Ps the main reason I want to start the account is to get free coffee from brands (if I could get paid that would be great but my expectations aren’t high)) (if anyone wiser than me/with more experience on the social media scene has any thoughts about this (mindset? Or any advice tbh) please share 🙏)

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So burnt out but it’s exam season. Any advice to push through?

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I have the stupidest insecurity.

I am a smiley person, this resulted in smile lines next to my mouth. I know it is a stupid insecurity. I observed people I know today, I didn’t notice their smile lines before but now that I was looking for it I noticed. Some had more prominent lines than me some less.

I hate that I’m insecure about it regardless of what I tell myself logically like everyone I know has it, that it is proof I spent years being happy, and that it is a blessing I should be grateful that I have proof of my happy memories but I’m still insecure about it. Especially when I put on makeup and I come back home to discover it creased next to my mouth, making them more prominent.

Advice to get over this ridiculous insecurity would be appreciated.

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Advice on dealing with academic burnout/emotional exhaustion?

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