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ya know, more people should consider afamiliality, free yourself from the expectations of it all or whatever. you dont actually need to have kids, you dont actually need to love your family, you dont actually need to call that group of characters found family, you dont gotta do that shit. you can just unsubscribe from the concept of family, go no contact, only stay in contact with one member, don't say "i love you" if you dont mean it, say "i love you" because you dont know how else to say you care in spite of absence of love. its not a trauma-locked label either, your family doesnt need to be full of massive assholes for you to not love them, they dont need to be the reason you dont want to start a family of your own, you can just, not, no matter how perfect or fucked up your family life was and/or is. its literally just something you can try out for a bit to see if it helps make things make sense, and if it does, congrats, youre on the afamilial spectrum, and if it doesnt, congrats, no harm was done in humouring the concept of being afamilial. and its free, go get a little bit of afamiliality under your belt, nobodies stopping you.

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Afam ring color/placement opinions?

I think (correct me if I’m wrong) asexual is black on right middle finger, aromantic is white on left middle finger, and aplatonic is blue on pinky finger of either hand.

I would suggest red rings as our aspec ring because red is kind of our color.

But red rings are already used as a covert objectum symbol because of the red circle on the objectum flag.

So… other ideas? Better ring colors? Objectums, would you mind sharing a ring? Do afams need a ring at all? I don’t know. I just want more afamilial culture.

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"All humans experience familial love you can't be afamilial"

I am not even human are you alright

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i feel like someones opinion on lovelessness, or aplatonic/afamlial/asensual/other less known aspec identities lets you see how they really think about aspecness as a whole.

Are you really supportive of aromantic & asexual people if the idea of someone being aplatonic is too much? Because it really feels like someone being aromantic and/or asexual is only acceptable if they make up for it somehow.

Being aro and/or ace should not be an identity that has to make up for anything. Not only does it make the identies seem like something that’s negative or makes someone “lesser” because they don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction/love, it harms aplatonic people.

If the idea of someone not loving period doesn’t feel “right” to you, or that sounds impossible, then I’d ask what you really think about aspec people. If you can wrap your head around not feeling romantic or sexual attraction/love, not feeling various other forms or not feeling any period shouldn’t be that much more difficult to understand.

The only thing I can really guess is that you either don’t really thing a lack of attraction is possible, or you view being aromantic & asexual as lesser and needing to make up for the identity with platonic and familial relationships/love. Which isn’t true support. Excluding part of the aspec community makes you aphobic. If you can’t support aplatonic, asensual, afamilial, or any of other lesser known aspec identities while viewing aromantic and asexual ones as the only “valid ones, you are aphobic. And I sincerely doubt how much you actually support aromantic & asexual people to begin with.

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Caedfamilial (red vers)?

Caedfamilial flag colorpicked from exoplanet HIP 65426b

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Hi hi, i saw your sample banners post and was wondering if i could suggest a few more? (only suggestions ofc)

"This Post is about Asexuality Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Queerplatonic Relationships Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Alterous Attraction Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Polyamory Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Tertiary attraction Do not Derail"

"This Post is about The Atertiary spectrum Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Oriented AroAces Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Angled AroAces Do not Derail"

"This Post is about Xenogenders Do not Derail"

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Here’s your daily reminder that aspec doesn’t just mean aroace and that when you say aspec you should acknowledge everyone else on the spectrum. People ignore non aro/ace aspecs far too much. Coming from a strictly aroace aspec I love you guys and you’re always welcome in this community💚

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I should start posting more of my own stuff here. Instead of just reblogging.

But I don’t know what to post. I mean, it can’t all be depressing vents about how I didn’t just coalesce out of nothing and am not related to no one.

Any ideas? /lh

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Afamfucked/Afamweird

A term for when someone's afamilial identity and/or their relation to it is inherently so complex and transient that it feels unable to explain or comprehend. It can have ties to neurodivergency.

@radiomogai

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hello there!! may we request "this system is afamilial" and "this system's origins are none of your business" (with the praesigenic flag) ?

"This User is afamilial" + "This User's origins are none of your buisness" + their alternatives

Free to use by anyone. I don't have a DNI. Credit not necessary, but heavily appreciated.

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i wish i didnt have a family

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Afamilial plz??

Of course! Here you go :)

Afamilial: this refers to someone who does not experience familial bonds or relationships, meaning they don't feel a strong connection to those typically considered family, like blood relatives. This can also mean they don't prioritize or value those relationships in the same way others do. It's important to note that it's not about a lack of relationships in general, but specifically a lack of familial bonds.

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My afam experience is being unapologetic afamilial >:D

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Apothisexual

Apothiromantic

Apothiplatonic

Apothisensual

Apothialterous

Apothiqueerplatonic

Apothifamilial (We know there's another flag but it doesnt match the others and thats really annoying and we just dont like it so we made this one to match the other flags)

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Aran Ryan is Apothifamilial

ARAN RYAN from PUNCHOUT is APOTHIFAMILIAL

flag source

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I know this blog has been quiet recently.

But just popping in to tell allotertiary people to stop being so incredibly presumptuous about our experiences and how we discuss them. You don’t get to police our language, especially since when you take it from us we have no other way to explain what we are. Unless that was the goal all along.

(It’s totally the goal.)