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Some social situations feel like no effort, and some drain you really quickly. It’s all a matter of being aware of each and balancing your energy!

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standing up and blacking out for a few seconds is just transitioning from a cutscene to the actual gameplay

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fatigue is NOT getting tired from normal things . fatigue is "oh no i just stood up and it feels like i ran a marathon." . when even the most basic tasks like standing and sitting send your body into overdrive . i wish more people understood this.

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the looks you get when you try to explain to a non chronically ill person that reading a book or watching a movie can also be an exhausting task

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10 Signs You're Coming Out Of Survival Mode

Growing up with trauma or abuse molds your nervous system differently.

It's possible you've been existing in survival mode and you didn't know it.

That's what happened to me.

After years of struggle in most areas of my life, I had a lightbulb moment: could I be skimming the surface of what life has to offer because I'm in survival mode?

BOOM. Talk about a wake-up call!

I've been sad for years. I've been in freeze-and-fawn mode for decades. I didn't realize just how deeply I was suffering.

C-PTSD is a form of trauma that takes place over long periods during our developmental years.

C-PTSD is common in people who experienced consistent abuse or neglect from their primary caretakers, or those who went through a traumatic experience that lasted a long time (bullying, kidnapping, trafficking, or being in the system).

During these events, the nervous system learns that pretty much everything is a threat, which makes the person hyper-aware. This leads to hypervigilance in all forms — micro-managing, over-sensitivity, defensiveness, people-pleasing, self-harm, and abusing others.

For years, I had no clue I had C-PTSD, but once I did, so many habits made sense. Finally, there was a term to describe how I felt most of the time: terrified, alone, spaced out, and overwhelmed by basic tasks in life.

PSST! Below are helpful links to get more support for coming out of survival mode, from coaching with me to helpful digital products! Check them out!

Coming out of survival mode is not a joy ride.

Sure, you'll feel a hell of a lot better after you release the old, stuck energy, but going through the process is gonna feel crappy, and that's okay.

Some of the energy in your body has been stuck for decades. And because it has nowhere to go, it circulates and causes havoc until you identify it and send it back to Source.

Below, I list 10 signs I've noticed as I've come out of survival mode and made friends with my nervous system again.

I hope these signs are a beacon for you and bring you peace of mind.

Here are 10 signs you're coming out of survival mode:

1. You have the urge to cry at random moments.

Crying is good for you.

When you have the urge to cry, it's your nervous system's way of getting you back to the parasympathetic (or rest & digest) state. This is also called coherence.

Your nervous system was formed in childhood by default by the people you were around the most. Essentially, it's up to you to train your nervous system "back to normal" or back to what feels safe.

Crying is healthy and necessary to clear old, stuck energy.

When you feel that lump in your throat, that's your body's way of helping you normalize.

2. You need more quiet/alone time than in previous years.

As you connect more deeply with yourself, you'll start to lessen the time you spend with outside people.

Coming out of survival mode requires self-reflection and you need solitude to do this.

Being around other people also in survival mode will suck you back in if you haven't done the inner work.

You may switch from being an extrovert (who you were trained to be) to being an introvert (who you truly are) because now, you hear yourself and your wisdom more clearly.

Once you feel good, you won't want to give it up.

3. You've stopped denying your true feelings, and your throat chakra wants to express itself.

You know what feels good? Authenticity.

Speak your truth. Own your truth. Stop being afraid of your truth.

Your truth is your compass. Start listening to it, no matter what.

Your throat chakra has likely become blocked due to all this survival. Now, it's free to express itself.

Here's my advice: let your throat chakra do the talking from now on!

The more you express, the more space you create for new things to enter your life.

4. You're losing relationships — the people not vibing with you are leaving your life.

Let any relationships that no longer serve your new sense of self fall away.

They will anyway, naturally.

As you start expressing a more authentic version of yourself, relationships that were connected to your survival self will shift. Unless those folks decide to grow and change too, you will inevitably disconnect from them.

Understand that your authentic self relates to people differently from your survival self, and this means starting new connections with people who can meet you where you are.

5. You "see" your self-worth in a new light.

All of a sudden, you know your value and you know how deserving you are of everything you want.

Why?

Because you finally realize your true identity: as light, as energy, and vibration, and as pure love.

You realize you no longer have to suffer, beg, strive, ask, or want for anything because everything is already expressed inside of you.

This is the best feeling in the whole wide world.

6. You’re allowing anger, frustration, rage, and resentment to be released from your field — to carry them suddenly feels too heavy.

Coming out of survival mode means releasing stuck energy from the lower three chakras: root, sacral, and solar plexus.

When you do this, you get an 'energy upgrade' because now, those lower vibrating emotions are no longer clogging up your nervous system.

All that released energy is now available for creating new things and circumstances! Cool!

This new energy release also repairs and heals your cells, tissues, and organs. This is why you'll feel lighter, brighter, and like you have more power than you know what to do with!

7. Your thinking is more positive and geared towards what you want — versus being stuck in cycles that don’t feel good.

As your nervous system calms down and returns to coherence, your thoughts will naturally change because your focus has shifted.

Now, you're naturally thinking about what you want and having fun daydreaming about receiving it.

You're in a high vibes place now, consciously creating with your focused attention versus being a victim of your cyclical thinking.

Look how awesome you are!

8. You're laughing more.

Feeling better means more laughter.

Laughter is medicine. It releases all those good-feeling hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins, which attract more good things into your life.

As you laugh more and enjoy life, life enjoys YOU.

As you say, "yes" to life, life says, "yes" to you!

And by the way, laughter also stimulates and strengthens your vagus nerve, which controls every part of your body. The more resilient your vagus nerve, the better you feel.

9. You feel deeper self-confidence, self-trust, and self-assuredness.

When you focus on your power, something shifts.

Your confidence, trust, and assuredness in yourself skyrocket.

Survival mode energy is powerless and preventative. It doesn't allow anything new to be created.

When this stuck energy gets released, you feel lighter and more connected to your divine nature.

You realize your ability to trust your intuition, ideas, and guidance. You realize these were yours all along.

When you feel deeper self-trust, the world responds to you differently.

10. You’re no longer willing to sacrifice your health or happiness for another person — the doormat days are over.

The longest relationship you will have is with yourself.

You are not inside another person's experience — you're in yours.

Coming out of survival mode means understanding this and owning it.

Every choice you make will eventually affect you, so make choices that align with your true self.

You'll start to choose yourself, and that's a wonderful thing.

Need support as you come out of survival mode?

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Source: 10 Signs You're Coming Out Of Survival Mode

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30 Therapy Tweets That Are Probably The Only Thing Your Insurance Covers

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brain: let's do everything

body: we can't do anything

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nobody is faking POTS, fibromyalgia or ME/CFS for attention because nobody gives a fuck if you have POTS, fibromyalgia or ME/CFS. these are three conditions people are always accused of faking online (largely because they’re common chronic illnesses and young women are disproportionately effected by them 😃) and it’s like…..look around bitch. when was the last time you saw a fund for a cure CFS walkathon? you ever see a Google banner for fibromyalgia? these are illnesses that suck to have and that you are often treated like absolute dogshit by the medical community and pop culture at large if you do have them. you don’t get positive attention, or any attention at all, if you’re at home laying down 85% of your life.

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When you stand up and your body's car warning lights come on all at once and you suddenly go blind and you have to immediately sit down or your body will go "nope" and send you to the ground

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Your body doesn't tolerate lactose? How cute? My body doesn't tolerate being alive.

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hate that i never know if im betraying myself by pushing myself too hard and leading myself to a crash from which i may never recover, or if im betraying myself by sequestering myself in my apartment and refusing to go out and do things that would give life texture and meaning due to fear of the first thing

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Having chronic fatigue is sooooo boring 🫩 I don’t wanna rest all the time!!!

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What is medical trauma?

I get asked this question often, and the truth is: medical trauma is a wide and complex term. It can look like many different things, but at its core, it’s about the major emotional distress that happens as a result of illness, treatment, or experiences within the medical system.

Medical trauma can include things like:

Medical procedures or surgeries

Experiencing severe pain or discomfort for long periods

Being dismissed

A frightening diagnosis

Bad treatment experiences or unkind medical staff

Medical neglect or outright medical abuse

Therapy or mental health treatment that is harmful (yes, therapy trauma is real)

It’s important to understand that medical trauma isn’t only about things “going wrong.” Even if the doctors and nurses do everything right, a person can still be traumatized. Medical procedures, even when life-saving, can be terrifying, invasive, or leave you feeling powerless. Being intubated, undergoing surgery, or waiting in uncertainty about an outcome can all take a toll on your nervous system.

And then there are the times the system does fail you. Being ignored, invalidated, or gaslit by medical professionals about your symptoms or pain can cause lasting harm. Chronic patients, disabled folks, and people who experience repeated dismissal are especially vulnerable to this type of trauma.

Medical trauma doesn’t have to come from a “life-threatening” illness. Any treatment, diagnosis, or ongoing medical experience that leaves you distressed, fearful, or powerless can be traumatic.

There’s so much more to say on this topic, but if you take one thing away from this post, let it be this:

If your trauma comes from medical experiences, you are valid.