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The three distinct types of found family:

Commits crimes together.

Fights crimes together.

Constantly switching back and forth between the other two at a horrifying speed.

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putting this under the cut so you all have the same emotional experience i just did

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Idk kinda racist the way people automatically assume the worst about Moo Deng's zoo because it's in Thailand...

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we go through this every hurricane season but the way people will find any excuse to point the finger at the victims of natural disasters and say cruel shit like "fuck around and find out" like it's not horrifying having to leave behind your home and all your belongings and potentially your pets with the full knowledge that there might not be anything to come back to after... ignoring that there are people that don't have a car or the money to evacuate, ignoring disabled people who have no way to get out, ignoring people that can't find places for their pets to shelter, ignoring people that have medical equipment that can't be moved or replaced, etc... and even if someone stays behind solely because they want to, they still don't deserve to suffer.

as someone who worked extensively in disaster response previously, it is not easy to "just" evacuate, and the relief that comes afterwards is intentionally difficult to obtain. and already the forces that be are trying to spin this narrative that the victims are at fault, to put the blame on them so that if (probably when) people are forced to resort to looting (because the aid never comes) everyone will nod and agree that they're all bad people and deserved it... rather than acknowledging the fact that there was no attempt to make the evacuation accessible and safe for everyone, no guarantee that aid will be waiting for them when they return to a home that has been swept away... no empathy for the fact that these people's entire lives are potentially destroyed with no safety net to catch them.

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the rules say this but the way y’all treat adoptees as if we are not “real people” and just fictional concepts will never cease to amaze me. do y’all understand that adoption agencies advertise online or not?

REAL CHILDREN ARE ADVERTISED FOR P*RCHASING ADOPTING ON LEGITIMATE ADOPTION AGENCY PAGES AND YOU’RE MAKING A CUTESY POLL BASED OFF THAT IDEA!!!!!

honestly y’all (plus whoever has submitted, likes this content, rbs, or anything similar) should be ashamed of yourselves. the fact that so many people don’t even see a problem with this blog is wild to me. this is how real people are treated! adopt or ditch.

idk why y’all need a reminder but adoptees are real people. we are 4x more likely to attempt suicide than kept people and 8x more likely to be abused. we are more likely to die due to abuse than our kept counterparts. adoption isn’t something that’s a cute concept for your blorbos. even the concept alone is weird considering adoption agencies were started by human traffickers. in conclusion, adoption in general is a human rights issue because adoptees have less rights than the average person. adoption does not exist in a vacuum and the way this traumatic experience is constantly watered down amongst fandoms and online culture is not only insulting, but genuinely fucking harmful.

the fact that our identities are stripped and sealed just for us to be made fun of like this is unacceptable. this is not just fun. it is insensitive and mean. ditch this fucking concept and delete your blog @foundfamilyadoptionagency.

also, if you think this mean. go look at this memorial wall and ask yourself, “adopt or ditch?” and see if that’s any damn kinder.

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it’s very important to me how my therapist (attachment trauma specialist) who works with a lot of adoptees and ffy is also obsessed with supernatural. and agrees that jack is not adopted, and it’s important to his storyline that he isn’t. it’s so frustrating trying to explain to people that adoption isn’t about ‘what’s in their hearts’ or some other bullshit, because adoption isn’t about love, it’s a legal process that tfw don’t partake in. they never try to to erase his lineage or require it for there to be love. jack keeps his last name! jack has a picture of kelly at his bedside! jack gets the freedom to meet his first family, including lucifer! he gets to make his decisions about that even after he argues with cas about it! he is not adopted y’all just don’t know how else to describe their relationship because of the romanticization of adoption in ‘found family’ media and the fact that most non-adopted people have no idea what adoption actually is.

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Birth mom right to privacy.

Sorry, I disagree with this. Adoptees don't get a choice in the matter. If a birth mom doesn't want a relationship, that's fine, but refusing to share where we came from in the name of privacy is wrong. Every adoptee is entitled to know where they came from.

If birth mom doesn't want to be found or wants privacy, then she needs to understand adoptee rights.

There's no reason why adoptees have to suffer at the choices of others. We adoptees have every right to know where we came from, no matter how hard it is to know the truth.

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Since the Paralympics are happening and I’m seeing all sorts of people saying “See? This person doesn’t let their disability stop them!”

I would like you to remember that Paralympions are OLYMPIC LEVEL ATHLETES.

How would it feel if I compared your output to that of a literal olympic athlete and used that to justify not helping you or giving you what you need?

Oh, well Michael Phelps and Simone Biles can do it - why can’t you?

Thats how you sound.

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I think the hardest part about addressing child abuse is getting people to acknowledge, not just intellectually but actually responding accordingly, is that the biggest threat to children, the biggest risk of abuse, is family and parents.

it is of course most often parents who are crowing about needing to protect children (often against far smaller threats than family), and pointing out that they are, statistically, the biggest threat to their kids is not gonna be received well.

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I think the hardest part about addressing child abuse is getting people to acknowledge, not just intellectually but actually responding accordingly, is that the biggest threat to children, the biggest risk of abuse, is family and parents.

it is of course most often parents who are crowing about needing to protect children (often against far smaller threats than family), and pointing out that they are, statistically, the biggest threat to their kids is not gonna be received well.

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"universal asian experiences" and it's just a select few upper class east asian american experiences lmao

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Someone explain how even so called progressive leftists turn into insufferable bootlickers for rich white people when the topic is adoption...

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i feel weird commenting on "high T cis woman in sports is the subject of transphobic attacks" type incidents because like, its just racism, right? there's barely any transphobia left in the picture

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jurassic park music

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they're building "workforce housing" in my area