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“I think part of the reason why we hold on to something so tightly is we fear something great won’t happen twice.”

— Unknown

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Morality Features of the Types (Test #1)

Descending “dominant”/most conscious (X1) → least conscious (X4).

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ENFJ: Inseparable governing social ideals

ENFP: Inclusive conditional social ideals

ISTP: Selective conditional social ideals

ISTJ: Untouchable governing social ideals

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INFJ: Inseparable governing inner ideals

INFP: Inclusive conditional inner ideals

ESTP: Selective conditional inner ideals

ESTJ: Untouchable governing inner ideals

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ESFJ: Inseparable governing social ethics

ESFP: Inclusive conditional social ethics

INTP: Selective conditional social ethics

INTJ: Untouchable governing social ethics

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ISFJ: Inseparable governing inner ethics

ISFP: Inclusive conditional inner ethics

ENTP: Selective conditional inner ethics

ENTJ: Untouchable governing inner ethics

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Lost 2 people in March.

It was tough, but it was definitely tougher on them - especially nearing the days before they planned or unplanned to leave.

To the first person, thank you for always being a helping hand in this family. Our family will remember your small thoughtful gestures and how kind you were to your young ones.

To the second person, thank you for being a huge part of my secondary school. I will always remember for your nurturing disposition and how you tried to help me in becoming a confident person and that affected me greatly into shaping who I am now. You are a fighter, and you’ll always be.

To myself - you thought you couldn’t survive this month. You were on the verge on giving up on yourself, but you pulled through. Hold your head up high and please take care of your mental health.

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This is the exact feeling I felt when I was 15. Fast forward, 9 years later. I remembered my mind entering a dark hole. I loathed myself and my existence so much. This is the exact same feeling I’m experiencing now. I know I need help, but I don’t know where to start.

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Beware of what you let enter your heart. There’ll come a day when you’d give anything to remove it.

Yasmin Mogahed (via quotemadness)

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The 3 Shadows of MBTI:

Part 2: The Obstacle Mode

The Progressive Shadow

What I imagine to be the most commonly accessed of the shadows—even for Assertives—the Obstacle Mode refers to the process each personality type adapts when surmounting a significant challenge of some kind.

ESTJ—>ISTP aka The Schedule Crafter. ISTJ—>ESTP aka The Proficient Provider. ESFJ—>ISFP aka The Virtuous Template. ISFJ—>ESFP aka The Heedful Host. ENTJ—>INTP aka The Imaginative Initiator. INTJ—>ENTP aka The Restive Expert. ENFJ—>INFP aka The Idyllic Dreamer. INFJ—>ENFP aka The Insightful Idealist. ESTP—>ISTJ aka The Devoted One. ISTP—>ESTJ aka The Unbridled Enforcer. ESFP—>ISFJ aka The Dutiful Attendant. ISFP—>ESFJ aka The Proud Adherent. ENTP—>INTJ aka The Structured Executor. INTP—>ENTJ aka The Qualified Leader. ENFP—>INFJ aka The Motivated Mingler. INFP—>ENFJ aka The Model Citizen.

Unlike the Reduction Mode, this is a conscious decision —recognized or not—to invert the exertion of our four primary functions, thus creating a kind of heightened, efficient, yet exhaustive state—which is exactly why I estimate we do not live there more: it’s utterly draining.

Even if one isn’t aware of this in the moment, by the end of the Progressive cycle, the user will wholeheartedly feel altered, totally conscious of their efforts to obtain a desired result—whatever that may be. Because to use the Progressive Shadow is to essentially enter war, with victory being the only viable option. This typically restricts this mode to short spurts of highly focused activity, rather than a sustained way of life (I will address the unhealthy types who desperately cling to these shadows at a later juncture).

*this is a part of an ongoing theory I am currently developing*

Still to come…

Part 3: The Optimum Mode

The Advanced Shadow

Previously:

Part 1: The Reduction Mode

The Imposed Shadow

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so this helped me confirm my type, it’s the temperments from Dario Nardi’s book Neuroscience of Personality. It was very accurate, at least for me, so hopefully it will help someone at least narrow down their types, and if not, just read it for enjoyment i guess.

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another section from Dario Nardi’s book “Neuroscience of Personality”. these describe the brain patterns and sections that are used with each function. these are the judging functions.

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I thought I’m ok but... suddenly I feel this tinge of sadness. I know I’ve made peace with it but I can’t help this feeling.

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What You Are According to Your MBTI Type

INTJ: You are the coldest shard of ice, but also the hottest flash of lightning. You are the sofest velvet in a rose petal, and also the sharpest thorns underneath. You’re the terrifying depth to the ocean, and yet you are also the sun twinkling on the waves. You may be the sultriest summer day, but often you choose to be the quiet coldness of a winter morning. You are the calmest logic and also the roil of blood boiling under your skin. Of all these things, INTJ, you are a Paradox.

ENTJ: You are a screaming crowd, the rush of adrenaline pushing you further. The words I will not give up, a business contract with all signatures in place. You are droplets of blood-red ink, and the glint of sunlight off a reflective glass building. You are the gory beauty of a sunset before a storm, the soft certainty of a plant blooming each year. You are a mountain threatening to crumble, and a young tree that refuses to snap in the wind. You, ENTJ, are the confounding fluidity of Strength.

INTP: You are the rapid clicking of a rubix cube under clever fingers, the glint of dark steel, the soft sigh of rain on concrete. You are the flash of unexpected rage, the sound of a chair scraping against the floor as it is pushed hastily back. You are the flipping pages of a textbook, and the squint of eyebrows while reading scrawled writing. It is no wonder that you love asking questions so much, INTP, for you yourself are a Question.

ENTP: You are the flash of an old camera as a photograph is taken. You are the tinest licks of flame in a fireplace, and also the devastating blaze in a forest at the tops of the trees. You are a bright red canvas, washed over with every shade imaginable. You are the blackness of a pupil, going ever deeper in. You are the grafitti I see on street walls as I walk home at night, and the glimmer of icicles on a cold morning. You are the snapping of scissors being suddenly closed, and the sound of ripping fabric as it is pulled apart. You are the irregular motion of fingers tapping against the wooden table. You are both pleasantly warm and dangerously hot, ENTP, because you are Flame incarnate.

INFJ: I see the quiet strength in a mountain side in you, and yet I also see the dangerous temptation of a cliff face. You are the smooth rustling of a stream past rocks, but somewhere you become the roaring power of a waterfall. You are pure white sand and the burning heat on your feet from the sun; I see the softness of vanilla and also the sharpness of peppercorn in you. You are the warmth of the sun on one’s back, and the burning blaze of a desert’s surface. You are power in reserve and power in extremes, you are a dam holding back an entire lake and also the cracks threatening the stone deep beneath the surface. You are mocked as the ‘unicorn’, INFJ, but you prove yourself as something much deeper as the Moment Before a Wave Breaks.

INFP: You are the silken tinkling of water in a cave, and you are the echo of a terrified voice lost somewhere far beyond. You are gentle like a sheet of new paper, yes, but you are the stinging pain of a thousand inflicted papercuts. You are the burst of a flower blooming fast-motion on a camera, and you are the wilted petals underneath. I see the blur of water colours on the white of a desk, and also a room with no visible end or beginning. You are the sudden smile that appears for no reason, and the ugliest frown appearing like a storm. You are early mornings and quiet whispers, but most of all, you are Changes.

ENFJ: You are a mirage; the image of a shallow pool with a thousand feet of water underneath. You are dirt lining the cracks in one’s hands, and the threatening pull of mud under one’s feet. You are the purest feeling of happiness, and you are a maze with level after level. You are a bright blue shirt flipping on a clothesline in the breeze, and you are the flick of a light illuminating a dark room. You go many places and love to see new things, and that is well, for you are an Adventure.

ENFP: You of all others are a perennial favourite. You are the favourite younger sibling in a family, you are the warmth of protection glowing in one’s chest. You are waking up late on a slow day, and you are the beat of a song that plays during work. You are a child skipping rope on the sidewalk, and the wonder of a scientist testing an Element. You are pens scattered on a table in every shade of the rainbow, and the hopeless scrubbing of an eraser over paper. You are notebooks sitting in a shelf unused and half-finished art projects left for a soon-due essay. You, ENFP, are the Glow of Praise.

ISTJ: You are the crisp of white sheets being put on a bed. You are pancakes on a china plate, and black shoes polished to a shine. You are hair in graceful waves, and the graciousness of a smile. You are the furrowing brow of brewing anger, and the sudden splash of cool water on overheated skin. You are the beep of a heart monitor, and the prick of a needle on your finger. I see the quiet, far reaches of the ocean’s surface in you, and the grey shadow of sharks swimming somewhere below. You are not so easily stereotyped as boring, ISTJ; for you are Deep Water, slow to move and full of changes underneath unseen by those on the shore.

ISFJ: You are the glint of a sword being drawn free, and the warm smell of leather. You are the glossiness of a horse’s back, but also the sudden kick of fear. You are tiny smiles and curling fingers; a garden full of colourful flowers. You are the unexpected sting of poison ivy under one’s feet, and the soothing balm of chapstick over cracked, bleeding lips. You are a train rushing forwards, carrying thousands of pounds of cargo. You are the steady thrum of a heartbeat, a yellow ribbon wrapped around a present. You are still water in a vase, and the sudden frustration of broken glass and spilled liquid on the floor. Well are you called a defendor, ISFJ, because you are a Strong Wall, full of the tiny cracks that come with humanity and yet standing strong for all those who need you.

ESTJ: You are the click of an old typewriter’s keys, the soothing hum of a printer completing its task. You are a smile showing teeth, and the biting nip of the cold outside. You are the comfortable feeling of coming home, and a suitcase lying, half-packed, on the floor. You are the beautiful sound of a violin playing, and you are the sobs it so often draws out. You are an army of baked goods resting on a kitchen counter, and the smile on a child’s face. You are the secret desire for untested things, and you are a kind email directed at someone who needs it most. You are always accomplishing things, ESTJ, for you are an accomplishment yourself. Finally, you are spinning in a desk chair unobserved, for you are the Sense of Satisfaction.  

ESFJ: You are the flick of long hair over shoulders. You are gift bags resting on the floor at a party, and the sparkling bubbles of champagne. You are the terrifying shriek of a hurricane and hands wrapped around a warm mug. You are striped colours on a wall and the ticking beat of a watch on one’s wrist. A lively tune on the piano, the blur of 3D movies without glasses. You are the feeling of wandering across a busy city at night, and shaking hands gripping each other. You are as delightful to some as you are strange to others, ESFJ: you are an Unexpected Surprise.

ISTP: You are bubbles rising in a beaker, a baseball slamming into a glove. You are the curl of lazy smoke, and the sheen of sunglasses in the daytime. You are the age-old familiarity of denim, and the crisp cleanness of a white t-shirt. You are a smooth voice making love to the microphone in your hand, and the faint rasp of a speaking voice afterwards. You are a comb moving through hair over and over again, and the yawn unrestricted by a covering hand in a classroom. You are narrowed eyes moments before a game, and the passionate sting of a sudden kiss to the mouth. You and your eagerness, ISTP, are the easy impatience of a Rumbling Engine, desperate to move.

ISFP: You are paint rubbed smudged on a nose, and freckles washed over cheeks. A whisper louder than any scream could be, steam rising from a cup of hot chocolate. You are the bright green of grass in the summertime, and the wilting curl as it shies away in the Autumn. You are a picture of two lovers hugging, their faces absolutely at peace. You are the tossing of a ship in a storm, and the glint of a seashell on damp sand. You are the trusting curl of a child’s hand in your own, and the flash of pain when one bites their tongue. You are Rafflesia arnoldii and Wolffia growing together in a field, some strange combination that manages to be beautiful. You, ISFP, are the Beat of a Dragonfly’s Wings, beautiful and fragile and quick to escape.

ESTP: You are a thousand screaming voices in a stadium, and also the shaking earth underneath. You are a building standing proud and tall, full of life and energy and bustling movement. You are a fist holding the ribbon attached to a medal, and the rumbling growl of a motorcycle’s engine. You are the sting of cold air in the lungs on an early morning, and sparks crackling off a bonfire. You are a tree in the woods, being hacked to the ground, and you are a weed growing rampant in an abandoned garden. You are a force to be reckoned with, ESTP, and a formidable one at that, for you are Determination.

ESFP: You are the twirl of a new dress in the mirror, and the shredding of fabric under a foot. You are a newly polished mirror and shards of a broken glass on the floor. You are the pettiness of envy and also the beauty of magnitude, the gloss over pictures in a magazine and the sound of feet moving on a dance floor. You are the excited shout of a new discovery, and the shattering loss of a loved one. I see the allure of a late night, and the glow of string lights in you, and the rapid beat of a lunar moth’s wings. It is easy to see why you have such quickness in everything, ESFP, for you are Movement.

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What’s your fantasy?

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doing laundry? fine, even fun. putting laundry away? terrible. worst chore. wretched way to spend time.

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Enneagram

Something Nice for Each Type 

1- Reliable. Because they are often perfectionists, they’re great at getting things done and doing them right. They’re talented at the stuff they want to be good at. Occasionally morally uptight, this blooms into a great quality when they perceive something that’s unfair, they’ll right it and even if not extremely warm in their demeanor, if someone is being treated unfair or it’s an unfair situation, take bullying or something, they’ll try and fix it, and right it, make it better, because it’s not right.

2- They’re there for you no matter what. People sometimes accidentally take advantage of this, because they are so giving, even when unasked, they still give, and no one really stops and says thanks, and they feel that they need to do it, when they don’t have to at all, and they’re so sweet and they do this shit for everyone, and they don’t even want you to owe them, they just want you to pay them back in hugs, acknowledgement, and appreciation.

3- They take advantage of their potential, and when developed, help others along with them too. They are literally called the achiever. They motivate and inspire everyone, sometimes without even knowing it. They have a drive towards success and this shows, they don’t just want to be okay, they want to be great, and they inspire others to want to be great as well, and take advantage of their potential instead of giving up or settling.

4- They create beautiful things and have unique insights. Often artists of some kind, writers or painters or even music, they can really create beauty. They open you up to the richness and beauty of life. Their chosen crafts are equally rich with emotion. They weave emotion into their craft and it’s often very, very rich and beautiful.

5- They won’t settle until an answer is found. They will find out the truth, and pin it down. They could be an inventor or scientist. They like to dismantle things, and tell people what they’ve learned and how things work. They’re great knowledgeable teachers on a subject that they’ve an interest in. Discovering, inventing various theories, sharing more with the world when they feel comfortable enough to share it, some 5s may have some profound work, and they don’t want to just settle for the easy answer, they’ll flip and turn an idea or theory until they’ve found something new that hasn’t been answered and try and figure it out, and let you consider a perspective you hadn’t before. They’ll make you think.

6- They’re often somewhat suspicious, but when they’ve formed an attachment to someone, and feel they can trust them, they’re loyal to them to the end. They’ll fight for them and speak up for them, and never betray them. Trustworthy and reliable, once you get past the defenses, you’re in their inner circle and you likely have a loyal friend to the end, and they expect the same of you, and even if something bad happens, they’re likely to primarily take your side first.

7- They’re adventurers! Every day is an exploration with a 7, 7s like to try new things and have fun, that includes having fun with people so with a 7, they’re the “life of the party” they want to have a great time, and they want you to have a great time along with them. Silly antics and cracking jokes, they’re quick and every second with them is a refreshing moment of the unexpected.

8- 8′s can be aggressive, and when protective of loved ones, very aggressive. If you’re close to them they’ll defend you in the face of harm. Also when developed, they can be the voice of those who are too timid to speak up. Leadership skills when struggling, they can take charge. The 8 cares though it may not seem like it until those they care about are faced with harm then they’ll stand up for them and it’s as if they’re a mother hen, an aggressive, domineering mother hen who’s protecting her chicks.

9- They’re peacemakers. Though avoidant of conflict, when conflict does happen they’re unlikely to be rash, and not add fuel to a fire. They’re patient and understanding, and relaxed. Good mediators. They’re not likely to judge you first, and instead consider your situation. They put people at ease with their calm, accepting demeanor.

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“He feels an irresistible urge to open his heart, to reveal to his friend the darkest corners of his soul, so that their friendship becomes even closer. Sensitive souls confide in each other at such moments; but sometimes, it may happen that one shrinks in fear from contact with the other.”

— Ludwig Tieck (via quotemadness)

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As a type 9 child I feel the need to listen and pursue my parent’s interests or wants because I love them. Although I feel conflicted because they don’t necessary align with my interests.

Being in an Asian household, we don’t really talk it out? It seems like I have to take it in or I silently push away their ideas and direct myself to do what I want. I’m not being rebellious. It’s just that after all these years, it’s time for me to decide for myself.

Do any other type 9s feel the same way?

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season 1 ➟ season 5

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How to Find Purpose in Life

1. Take time to ponder the questions “What really matters in life; what do I want to have achieved when I look back over my life?”

2. Make time for solitude and silence. Filling every minute makes it hard to listen to our intuition, or that inner guiding voice.

3. Seek out people who inspire you – and then learn from them. There are many people who live inspiring lives. We can learn from their experience, and what they have to share.

4. Consciously monitor your progress. It is easy to slip back into unproductive habits. Hence, we need to be committed to sticking to our plan.

5. Accept that struggles and setbacks will be part of your experience. There will be times when you are tempted to give up and stop trying … but choosing to keep going will lead you to your dreams.