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The Journey of Job Hunting Application

At this moment, honestly, I feel pressured, but at the same time, I'm trying to be lenient with myself, which I don't know if this is still good. The backstory of my life is that I started working early, or should I say, I began working right after reaching the legal age. Initially, when I still had the spirit to do it, I tried juggling work and studies. However, I eventually stopped because my salary could no longer cover my expenses and bills.

As an only child and a breadwinner, I soon realized that the main reason why I work got pushed aside, which was originally to pursue my studies. But as time goes by, more responsibilities came my way, which honestly made me feel restless and drowned in my own world. After a long time working, I decided to resign. It was a heavy decision, but I'm at a point where I feel overwhelmed, and I knew I had to make this choice to preserve my well-being. Now, I'm anxious because my bills are approaching, and I still haven't found new employment. I acknowledge the reason behind it is that I haven't actively pursued it. However, I am aware that I have to take the initiative. In this situation, I don't have anyone else but myself to rely on.

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Foundations of Happiness and Contentment for Women: Stable Home, Fulfilling Job, Supportive Relationships, Personal Growth, Self-Care, and Mental Health

For a woman to reach a state of happiness and contentment, several factors play a crucial role. A stable home forms the basis where she can feel secure and confident. It's a safe place where she can relax and recharge, preparing herself to face the world.

A fulfilling job is another requirement. It's not just about the financial aspects, but more about feeling valued, utilizing her skills, and having opportunities for continuous learning and growth.

Supportive relationships, whether they are friends, family, or a romantic partner, provide emotional support, encourage her to be herself, and celebrate her achievements with her.

Personal growth, through hobbies and personal interests, also plays a significant role in a woman's happiness. It allows her to explore and realize her potential, enhancing her self-esteem and giving her a sense of accomplishment.

Self-care, which encompasses physical health and relaxation, is crucial. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, adequate sleep, and taking time for relaxation activities are all part of self-care that contributes to overall happiness.

Lastly, mental health is an essential component. Awareness and care for mental health, seeking help when needed, and practicing mindfulness and meditation can significantly impact a woman's overall well-being and contentment.

Together, these elements - a stable home, fulfilling job, supportive relationships, personal growth, self-care, and mental health awareness - create a foundation for a woman's happiness and contentment.

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10th Oct. 2023

unwell, at home.

ft. Rohan, plant/s, raindrops, and my books.

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“Manifesting and claiming: I am hired by a good company with cultured people, excellent benefits, ample opportunities, and a substantial salary.”

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These days, what’re you up to? The weather’s cold and it’s rainy, isn’t it? Pay attention to your health, and times like these, read a bunch of good books. Things you don’t know, things you can’t experience, all of it lies inside of books.

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Femme Fatale Guide: Game-Changing TED Talks Everyone Should Watch

"How Five Simple Words Can Get You What You Want" by Janine Driver

"Master your Mindset, Overcome Self-Deception, Change your Life" by  Shadé Zahrai

"How to talk to the worst parts of yourself" by Karen Faith

"Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication" by Catherine Molloy

"The Hidden Code For Transforming Dreams Into Reality" by Mary Morrissey

"Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Lauren Weinstein

"The public speaking lesson you never had" by DK

"Programming your mind for success" by Carrie Green

"How to stop screwing yourself over" by Mel Robbins

"Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success" by Louise Evans

"The psychology of seduction" by Raj Persaud

"Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap" by Nat Ware

"Think Fast. Talk Smart" by Matt Abrahams 

"Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix' by Tasha Eurich 

"5 steps to designing the life you want" by Bill Burnett

"Staying stuck or moving forward" by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko

"To reach beyond your limits by training your mind" by Marisa Peer

"Emotional laws are the answer for better relationships" by Diana Wais

"Feelings: Handle them before they handle you" by Mandy Saligari

"Cultivating Unconditional Self-Worth" by Adia Gooden 

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musical prodigies are always celebrated, early readers aren’t. And that’s because early readers are only good at something others will eventually be good at, too. So being first isn’t special—it’s just annoying.

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Take Care Of Yourself.

Levelling up means becoming the best, healthiest, most successful version of yourself. Here's some ways to do that:

Read books (education, flow state, calms and slows the mind)

Daily exercise (30 mins or more)

Listen to positive, uplifting music

Have creative hobbies (painting, pottery, sewing, etc)

Get rid of negative/toxic friends

Choose healthy, beneficial relationships

Therapy

Learn new languages

Meditate

Go outside and into nature

Spend time with animals (calming)

Positive affirmations

Keep your living space clean and tidy

Drink lots of water

Daily stretching

Prayer, gratitude, journaling, etc

Eat a healthy, nutritious diet

Reduce internet time and start physical hobbies (e.g. art, dance, surfing, gardening, etc)

Get 8 hours of sleep

Always take care of yourself first.

Mia.

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Speaking of recommendations and CHARACTER DRIVEN STORIES (my most beloved ♥️♥️♥️), which ones would you recommend/which ones are your faves? Have a nice weekend, lovely!🌹

Ooooo !! You like character driven stories too?! Mwah, you’ve phenomenal tasteeee 😙💕

Here are some of my fav book recs from the top of my mind:

My Cat Yugoslavia by Pajtim Statovci

It is an absolute SIN that this book isn’t more well known. It tells the story of two characters in parallel, I won’t go into detail about what this book is about because it’s best read without any prior knowledge! But some key words to describe it are: kafkaesque, lgbtq, longing and strength. If you’re somebody that grew up in a country different to the ones your parents are from, I think you’ll have a special appreciation for this story.

2. Kafka on the Shore by Haruki Murakami

I feel like most people know about this one already lol. There have been so many people talking about this book that I don’t feel the need to add anything else, but if you like bizarre whimsical tales then definitely check this out!

(P.s : If you liked 1, then you’ll like 2 as well! And vice versa 🥰)

3. The Travelling Cat Chronicles by Hiro Arikawa

This one is told from the perspective of a cat but it is done extremely well. I used to kind of cringe at the thought of a book told from an animals perspective but I just ahhhhhh… This book is a must read for anyone who has been close to an animal before.

4. Before The Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi

Kawaguchi is a play writer and so this book feels like watching a performance! It’s set in a cafe where you can time travel if you follow some really strict rules. This is a true character driven book because it’s composed of little tales from people who want to go back in time… as a side note: don’t read this in public like I did. (Unless you feel like tearing up in front of people lol)

5. Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys

This isn’t my favourite Ruta Sepetys book, but I thought I’d add it because it’s character driven historical fiction book. You get to read 4 different perspectives of the MV Wilhelm Gustloff tragedy in WW2.

Bonus?! Kitchen by Banana Yoshimoto

A very ahead of it’s time Novella that you can finish in one setting. It’s about grief, and I find myself interpreting it differently each time I read it.

I hope at least one of these appeals to you!! Definitely let me know if you read any of these, I love chatting about books :’)

p.s for all of these books be sure to research some trigger warnings before reading them!

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this is so important

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There’s been so many babies coming into work lately and it’s making me want one so bad 🥺

Like I don’t even want kids but their little hands and eyes and omg I want a baby right now please 🙏

My friends trying to set me up with people isn’t helping either 😂 they’re just full of boring guys, I need someone to actually have an intelligent conversation with lol

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