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Infants do not cry ‘for no reason.’

Infants do not cry to upset you. They don’t have a concept of hurting others and they don’t have any reason to want to do so.

Infants do not have any other way of communicating distress or an unmet need. They do not have a choice about crying.

Do not ever yell at, shake, or punish an infant. They will not learn from this – but they will be upset and afraid and possibly harmed, either in the moment or via problems in brain development.

It’s okay to take a minute to set an infant down and go into a quiet room if you are having a hard time staying calm and comforting, and come back when you have more self-control.

The only way to get an infant to cry less is to meet their needs. If you spend a lot of time with infants you can actually learn to notice when they need something, before they cry about it at all. Most infants show signs of discomfort, hunger, or having a full/wet diaper, before they get upset enough to cry.

Infants whose needs aren’t usually met right away may learn to cry immediately. Regularly not responding to an infant’s crying teaches the infant to panic every time they need something, and the trauma of being so afraid so often as an infant can cause issues with healthy brain develoment.

If a baby is crying, they need something.

Is their nappy/diaper clean and dry? Even if it’s just wet, it should be changed right away.

Are they hungry? A quick way to check is to run your finger over their mouth and see if they try to grab it with their lips.

Do they have air bubbles? You may be able to tell if this is the problem by feeling the infant’s tummy for unusual firmness. Infants need to be burped right after they eat to help them get rid of air bubbles that may get trapped and cause discomfort. If it’s been little while since they last ate, it may be more effective to lay the infant on their back and move their legs in a bicycle motion.

Are they too warm/cold? Touch the infant’s hands and feet to see if they need more or fewer coverings.

Are they overstimulated? If it’s too noisy/bright or they’re being touched by too any people, etc., they may need to be held by one calm person with a blanket over their head. Like most people, infants tend to get more easily overstimulated when tired.

Are they able to breathe freely? Infants cannot blow their own nose. A nasal aspirator is an inexpensive tool you can use to help them clear nasal congestion.

Are they in pain? When an infant is sick or otherwise in pain, it may be beneficial to give them pain medication formulated for infants, such as baby tylenol. Always follow the instructions on the bottle and consult a doctor or pharmacist with any questions. If a cold doesn’t start to improve within a few days or the infant seems to be in pain but you don’t know why, consult a doctor. The infant may have colic, silent reflux or other issues which can sometimes be treated. If the infant is more than a couple months old, they may be teething. Baby tylenol will still help but a numbing paste, like orajel, on their gums may be more effective. They may also need teething toys to chew on or a cold wet (clean) washcloth.

Do they just need reassurance? Infants like being sung to, murmured to, and soothed with rhythmic “shhh”-ing. Calm and steady sounds help reassure them that they aren’t alone and help them relax. Another way to comfort an infant is to bounce them gently and rhythmically in your arms, and/or pat their back rhythmically. Some infants, including most newborns, may need to be swaddled. A tight swaddle helps the infant feel secure and warm. Ask a doctor, nurse, parent, or YouTube to show you how to do a proper swaddle.

Do they need to be held? The need for touch is the need most often ignored. Infants are significantly more likely to thrive with lots and lots of skin-to-skin contact. They also just need to be held, in general, a lot of the time. Being held (especially with skin to skin contact but even without it) helps the infant release hormones necessary for healthy brain development. Being close enough to feel an adult’s steady heartbeat is calming and beneficial for an infant. For these reasons and many others, infants need to be held - a lot. Our closest primate relatives maintain constant physical contact with their babies for the first year of life. Historically most humans have lived communally, which allows several people to take turns providing the necessary physical contact. Infants don’t need to be held every single moment, but the more they are held, the safer and more secure they’ll feel and the more likely they are to be healthy. A sling, baby wrap, or wearable infant carrier can help an infant get necessary contact time. If an infant needs contact to sleep, consider getting a cosleeper cushion to safely allow you or someone else to sleep next to the infant. If that isn’t possible, sleep training where you pick up and comfort the baby each time they cry, and then put them down slightly sooner each time that night, may help.

Do not let an infant cry and cry for help and not give it to them.

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Do you think that Draco Malfoy knows he’s in love with Harry Potter? Because I have this head cannon that he doesn’t actually realise until that day in Malfoy Manor when he’s asked to identify him.

At first he tries not to look but of course he recognises Potter from the tiniest glance. He looks hideous, with all that swelling and the shiny red marks all over his face, so distorted that he’s almost indistinguishable. But not to Draco. Because Draco knows those green eyes. He thought he hated them, just like he thought he hated Potter. But just having Potter here surrounded by his family and fellow Death Eaters who surely want to kill him, or at least present him to Voldemort, Draco starts to sweat. “I can’t - I can’t be sure,” he tells them, avoiding Potter’s eyes as best he can, but as soon as he speaks he can feel them boring into him.

It’s not enough. Draco’s father forces him closer so that he’s face to face with Potter, with no way to avoid eye contact now. And Potter is searching Draco’s face, his eyes pleading for Draco not to give him away, asking him, drawing him in. But Draco’s already made up his mind anyway. Because he realises he doesn’t want Harry Potter to die. No Harry Potter can’t die. Because a part of Draco would die with him. It takes the threat of Potter’s death for Draco to finally realise he’s been in love with him this whole time. And despite all the choices Draco has made, all the punches he’s thrown on the other side of the fight, he wants Potter to win.

Draco can’t communicate all that with his eyes of course, but he sees something hopeful and forgiving in Harry’s when he finally answers his father: “I don’t know.”

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TamrynEradani Fanfiction Masterpost

This is a listing of all known existing public copies of the works of TamrynEradani.  The links to these fics have been placed under a read more cut so that I can update the list whenever new files are located, so be sure to check back to see if a fic you are missing has been added.  If you have a copy of a fanfic that isn’t found here, regardless of fandom or pairing, please drop me an ask so I can add it here.

Stand-alone fanfics and series are listed together in alphabetical order; if it is a work in a series, then the fics are listed in chronological order beneath the series’ name.  The pairing, fandom, rating, and original summary (if available) are listed for each.  I have also included a record of other known collections of TamrynEradani’s works.  Credit is given to all providing and compiling parties.

Happy reading!

Keep reading

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“Yes, being in a female dominated field, I do know what it means to be marginalized. “

oh

my

god

omg

oh my fucking god

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spn hiatus creations | week 7 ↳ alternate versions of characters: cas variations

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Things my brother has said to me since I’ve come out

Bro: You can’t say you’re pan if you’ve only dated cis-boys Jess..

Me: Then you can’t say you’re straight since you’ve never had a girlfriend

Bro: touche…

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Bro: so you like girls?

Me: yep

Bro: so youre gonna get a girlfriend?

Me: maybe

Bro: NOW I GOTTA COMPETE AGAINST YOU TOO?? 

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Bro: wanna bet on who kisses a girl first?

Me: sure… $10?

Bro: okay

Me: sweet…cough up the money because i already kissed three

Bro: WHAT?? WHO?? you whore…No but seriously who because we only have like 2 lesbians in our school….

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Bro: I SWEAR TO GOD IF I HEAR ONE MORE PUN ABOUT YOU AND KITCHENWEAR IM KILLING YOU

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Brothers friend: so your sister is pan?

Bro: yeah?

Friend: what’s that?

Bro: basically she’ll date anyone

Friend: think she’ll date me?

Bro: ew no, dude she has standered still..

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Bro: so…how was narnia?

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Mother: i dont want you going to (insert friend)’s house because you’re pan and they are too

Bro: shes 18 mom AND you had no problem with it before jess was out

Mother: yeah but-

Bro: and they’re both girls so its not like even if something DID happen she wouldn’t get pregnant or anything

Mother: yeah but-

Bro: just let her hang out with the one friend she still has

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Bro: *is complaning about something* Thats so ga- OH MY GOD IM SO SORRY IT SLIPPED

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Bro: *shows me a picture of a girl* do you think shes hot?

Me: ew no

Bro: I AM TRYING TO GET YOU A GIRLFRIEND STOP BEING PICKY WOMAN WE LIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF NO WHERE THERE ARENT THAT MANY OPTIONS 

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Me: *is complaining to my brother about this dude on campus* -anyways hes so not my type

Mother: but youre pan and ‘youre attracted to everyone regardless of gender’ so you dont have a type

Bro: thats like saying because i’m straight i like every girl mom…she can be pan and have types you limp lettuce

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Bro: do you think grandma will freak out when she finds out you’re queer?

Me: hopefully

Bro: sweet…..can i tell her??

Me: no?

Bro: dammit…

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Bro: *is playing COD online in his room* Guys seriously stop saying the F slur

Bro: Seriously i dont care about your kill streak, i will shoot you

Bro: NO SCOPE! I warned you!

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Bro: you know what my favorite part of you being pan is?

Me: what?

Bro: you’re no longer grandmas favorite…now i get all the money/food

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Bro: aw fuck

Me: what?

Bro: what if you get a girlfriend one day and she breaks your heart? i can’t punch a girl! 

Me: no thats okay-

Bro: HOW WILL I DEFEND YOUR HONOR???

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This had me in tears, it’s so beautiful😭😭😍

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ULTIMATE "OH FUCK I JUST GOT MY FIRST APARTMENT AND ALL I HAVE IS ONE CHANGE OF CLOTHES AND A THIRD SOCK" CHECKLIST

CLEANING

Dish soap

Laundry detergent

All-purpose cleaner

Hand soap

Broom

Mop

Wash cloths / rags

Vacuum

Dustpan

Lint roller

Sponges

KITCHENWARE

Plates

Bowls

Spoons

Forks

Knives

Glasses

Mugs

Tongs

Spatula

Plastic wrap

Ziplock baggies

Garbage bags

Paper towel

Tupperware

Ice tray

Oven mitts

Potato peeler

Mixing bowls

Frying pan

Pot

Baking sheet

Whisk

Stirring spoons / ladels

Tea infuser ball

Measuring cups

Strainer

Cutting board

Coffee maker

Kettle

Toaster

Magnets

Dry erase markers

Sticky notes

Microwave

Wire sponge

Trash bin

Recycling bin

Rubber gloves

Silverware organizer

Measuring spoons

Aluminum foil

Wax paper

Can opener

Bottle opener

Containers for salt, sugar, flour, etc.

LIVINGROOM

Sofa

Rocking chair (you know you want one)

Loveseat

Coasters

Blankets

Throw pillows

Coffee table

Book shelves

TV

TV stand

Floor lamp

End table

Stereo system / radio

BEDROOM

Mattress

Box spring

Bedframe

Linens

Sheets

Comforter

Hangers

Laundry hamper

Trash bin

Curtains

Pillows

Pillow cases

Night table

Alarm clock

Lamp

Dresser

Coat rack

Desk / vanity

Comfy chairs

DININGROOM

Dining table

Minimum of 2 chairs

Coasters

Placemat

Tablecloth

Tea lights /candles and candle holders

BATHROOM

Face clothes

Towel

Soap bar

Body wash

Shampoo

Conditioner

Tissues

Toilet paper

Trash bin

Plunger

Toilet cleaner

Cold, flu, pain, and allergy meds

Hydrogen peroxide

Antibacterial ointment

First-Aid kit

Tweezers

Nail clippers

Band-aids

Shower rod

Shower curtain

Toothbrush

Toothpaste

Floss

Period products

Bathmat

Air freshener

Trash bin

Towel rod

Towels

MISCELLANEOUS

Elastic bands

Stapler

Stables

Paper clips

Needles and thread

AA / AAA batteries

Light bulbs

Extension cords

Scotch tape

Duct tape

Shovel

Rake (if you have a yard)

Stain remover

Jar of courters for laundry mat

Screw drivers

Hammer

Nails

Sticky tack

Screws

Box cutter / X-acto

Pliers

Wrench

Pens

Paper

Pencils

Pencil sharpener

Eraser

Welcome matt

Shoe rack

Coat rack

Flashlight

Flashlight batteries

Watch batteries

Rechargeable batteries and charger

Safe place to discard dead batteries

Candles

Matches

Lighter

Mini travel fans

Real fans

Emergency Survival kit

Fire extinguisher

Landline phone

Window air conditioner

Carbon monoxide alarm

Fire alarm

FOOD STUFF

Mustard

Ketchup

Mayo

Salt

Pepper

Baking soda

Flour

Eggs

Milk

Bread

Olive oil

Tea

Jam

Peanut-butter

Coffee grounds

Cereal

Rice

Pasta

Vegetable soup

Tomato sauce

Frozen vegetables

Crackers

Chickpeas / lentils

Apples

Oranges

Granola bars

Juice

Hot chocolate mix

Frozen meats

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Fandometrics In Depth: Shipping

Shipping is one of Tumblr’s favorite hobbies, drawing hundreds of millions of engagements each year. On Tumblr, shipping exists in many forms: fan art, fan fiction, manipulated GIFs and videos, and roleplay, just to name a few. It’s a common practice no matter what fandom you’re in—from television shows and movies to K-pop and video games. On Tumblr, the most popular type is slash—ships comprised of two male characters. Out of the top 150, 95 (63%) were guy/guy love.

We grabbed the top 30 ships from 2013—2016. 2013—2015 were ranked by reblogs alone. 2016 and 2017 are ranked by their Trending Score. This includes volume of searches, original posts, and likes in addition to reblogs. We’ve sorted the source content behind each year’s top ships below.

2013

TV | 40%

Music | 40%

Anime | 10%

Celebrities | 6.67%

K-Pop | 3.33%

2013’s most reblogged ships were predominantly slash (76.67%). The remaining 23.33% were all heterosexual (het) ships—there were no femslash ships in the top 30 that year.

The most reblogged ship of the year was from an anime: MakoHaru (Nanase Haruka and Tachibana Makoto, Free! series).

2014

TV | 40%

Anime | 20%

Music | 13.33%

Celebrities | 10%

Movies | 10%

Web Celebrities | 6.67%

Though slash (66.67%) and het ships (26.67%) comprised most of the list in 2014, femslash ships (6.67%) made their debut.

 2014’s top ship was Destiel (Dean Winchester and Castiel, Supernatural). Though the ship is not canon (yet), the 200th episode “Fan Fiction” paid homage to it.

2015

TV | 43.33%

Anime | 23.33%

Music | 13.33%

Web celebrities | 13.33%

Movie | 3.33%

Celebrities | 3.33%

In 2015, femslash numbers also doubled, representing 13.33% of the ships. Slash accounted for 60%, het just 26.67%.

2015 was a big year for Larry shippers—Larry Stylinson (Louis Tomlinson and Harry Styles, One Direction) reached No. 1.

2016

TV | 50%

Movies | 20%

Anime | 13.33%

Web celebrities | 6.67%

Music | 3.33%

K-Pop | 3.33%

Video games | 3.33%

Slash ships began to take a dip (56.67%) in 2016, while het ships grew (36.67%) and femslash decreased (6.67%).

Despite femslash’s waning popularity, 2016 marked the first year a f/f ship not only cracked the top five, but hit #1. Clexa (Clarke Griffin and Commander Lexa, The 100) was embroiled in controversy when Commander Lexa was shot by a stray bullet and killed immediately after her and Clarke’s relationship was consummated. Her death launched a critical look at the “Bury Your Gays” trope by journalists and fans alike, and the argument that LGBTQ+ fans deserved better than the storylines given to them.

2017 (thus far)

TV | 50%

Anime | 13.33%

K-Pop | 13.33%

Music | 6.67%

Movies | 6.67%

Web celebrities | 6.67%

Video games | 6.67%

In the first half of 2017, slash has continued to hold over half the conversation (56.67%). Het ships and f/f ships are starting to equal out at 26.67% and 16.67%, respectively.

This year’s top ship so far? Klance (Keith and Lance, Voltron: Legendary Defender). Since we launched the weekly ship list on May 1st, Klance has been No. 1 seven times.

Further reading

Some great resources where you can learn even more about shipping and fandom:

Fansplaning (@fansplaining) is a biweekly podcast about fan culture that encourages thinking about fandom critically. We suggest “Shipping and Activism, Slash: The Movie”,  and the two parter on race in fandom (part 1, part 2).

The Organization for Transformative Works (@transformativeworks) is a non-profit organization run by fans dedicated to the preservation of fan works. Their projects include the fanfiction site Archive of Our Own, the Fanlore wiki, and the peer-reviewed journal Transformative Works and Cultures.

Destination Toast (@destinationtoast) has spent the past few years working with fandom and fic data. You can find all of her research, along with reblogs of posts created by others in different fandoms, on her side blog, ToastyStats (@toastystats).

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Harry: i don’t get girls, they’re crazy. please give some advice before i go crazy

Sirius: have you tried kissing guys instead?

Harry: what?

Sirius: it worked for me

Harry: wait what

Sirius: I’m gay

Harry: what?

Sirius: totally gay. completely gay. just look at me and remus!

Harry: you and remus?

Sirius: for years.

Harry: so remus is gay?

Sirius: no, no, he likes women too. he’s bi. i’m gay

Harry: and you two are together. right?

Sirius: exactly

Harry:

Sirius: but have you tried?

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Misha Appreciation Week | Day Two: Favorite Relationship ↪ Misha Collins + Jensen Ackles

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It was not supposed to end like this

you were not supposed to die….I wasn’t supposed to cry

Hey guys so here I am after some time off…. I am here today because of our little baby in a trench coat…I am pained as everyone else after the season final and I am waiting for his comeback (hope it will be a badass come back like his badass entry in season 4)

I would also like to thanks my best friends and translator @littlexredxriddinghood who support me since the beginning of my journey in Tumblr

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Prompt List

The wonderful @witterprompts has allowed me to compile a list of a few of my favorite prompts that they have written. If you would like to request an imagine based on one of these prompts, please send a number and character name into my ask box. 

1. “Just like that, you’ve lost my interest.”

2. “You didn’t even get the whole story. You just sat there and yelled at me over a rumored accusation.”

3. “All of this is my fault. I’m so sorry. If only I had done something about it.”

4.  “Do you even want me around? ‘Cause you certainly don’t act like it.”

5. “Did I ever get a chance to say I’m proud of you?”

6. “Us misfits have to stick together or we’d have no one.”

7.   “Let me swim in my denial a little bit longer.”

8.  “I thought that making the promise would reassure you. I knew I wouldn’t have been able to keep it.”

9.  “Do you have any regrets for the way you made me feel? After all of this?”

10.  “It really hurt. I know why you did, but it still hurt.”

11.   “I want my happy ending, so I’m going to go find it.”

12.   “Your bias is extremely obvious.”

13.  “Apparently I’m half alien and my family never bothered to tell me.”

14.  “I’ve finally left them behind and I’m ready for a new relationship.”

15. “At the very least, I can learn from my mistakes this time around.”

16.  “You left me there. Alone.”

17.  “You know how I feel about surprises.”

18. “I have to teach myself how to live without you.”

19.  “What am I supposed to do? Wait for them to get back? While I do nothing?”

20.   “Was it that much of a problem that you couldn’t let me help you?”

21.   “Whatever your problem is with me, you’re going to have to get over it for now.”

22.   “That was a good attempt, but not quite.”

23.   “Look at you being a rebel. Cute.”

24.   “You bring the worst out in me.”

25.   “I don’t like owing favors. You know this.”

26.   “It’s my duty and obligation to protect you, remember?”

27.   “One must not forget the reason they’re here. Understand?”

28.   “Surely you didn’t expect me to just let it go.”

29.   “I’ve never thought of you in a negative light before now.”

30.   “I’m being hunted down for mistakes that you made.”

31.   “You’d better remember who’s in charge, ‘cause it’s not you.”

32.   “Get ready for the fight of your life, because this is far from over.”

33.   “I think we both know that I’m not very patient.”

34.   “I promised I wouldn’t lie to you, so I’d appreciate it all the same if you returned that courtesy.”

35.   “I’m sad this happened, but I got to meet you.”

36.   “There must be a way I can help.”

37.   “I wasn’t sure what I was expecting out of this, but it’s more than enough.”

38.   “You gave me hope again.”

39.   “It wasn’t the same when you weren’t here.”

40.   “I can’t believe you’re asking me to do something so dangerous. I’m in.”

41.   “It’s going to take time. I can wait.”

42.   “I’ve never been good before, but I’m trying.”

43.   “It’s great that someone had faith in me, ‘cause I sure didn’t.”

44.   “You have absolutely no control over your abilities, remember?”

45.   “It’s been a while someone’s managed to interest me.”

46.   “Time wont heal this wound. It’ll just scar it over.”

47.   “They don’t exactly call me merciful.”

48.   “Oh, sorry, am I distracting you?”

49.   “Am I proud of what I did? No. Would I do it again? Yes.”

50.   “Will you just listen to me? Nothing good comes out of making hasty assumptions.”

 I did not write these prompts. These prompts were written by the wonderful @witterprompts

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A Very Special Supernatural Special [ x ]

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dealing with the worst case scenario

your condom breaks

you feel a lump on your breast

your friends are ignoring you

you’re stranded on an island 

you got rejected by a crush

you get into a car accident

you got stung by a bee/wasp

you got fired from your job

you’re in an earthquake

your tattoo gets infected

your house is on fire

you’re lost in the woods

you get arrested abroad

you get robbed

your partner cheated on you

you’re on a ship that’s sinking

you fall into ice

you’re stuck in an elevator

you hit a deer with your car

you have food poisoning

your pet passed away

you fall off of a horse

you or your friend has alcohol poisoning

you have toxic shock syndrome

your house has a gas leak