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Adam Harvey sings both my least and my most favourite country songs.

God Made Beer ❌ (alcoholism rules)

Putting On The Dog ✅✅ (really specific ass situation)

Worst types of country songs:

Alcoholism rules

God bless the USA

Truck

Diet christian music

Love a small town blue eyed girl

Best types of country songs:

Just a specific ass situation

I hate this damn job

Woman kills those who've wronged her

Alcoholism sucks

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abusive parents: we have to beat and shame and humiliate you, otherwise you’ll grow into a selfish brat! This will make you stronger!

statistical research showing results of beating, shaming and humiliating children: Children who are hit, shamed and humiliated grow up more likely to be depressed, anxious, traumatized, poorly deal with stress, are likely to develop cptsd, more likely to develop certain diseases, struggle with personal relationships, and some of them even go on to be violent themselves

abusive parents: no, it is you who is wrong for developing the symptoms

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because I've seen a couple posts like this recently:

Do not be discouraged if you see someone with the same idea for a fic as you! Because that's what we want--the same exact stories, over and over, through the unique lens of each writer! That's the beauty of fanfiction: you can read the same story, slightly to the left, as many times as possible!

So please, post that fic that has the same premise as someone else. Write your version of it, and rest assured knowing that at the very least, one person will be delighted to find the same kind of story as one they just finished!

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Original tweet

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Oh you give author comment?? You give author little kudos on their fic?? LOVE FOR READER!! LOVE FOR READER FOR ONE MILLION YEARS!!

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my favorite thing in the world is reading a completed fic and the author’s note on the first chapter saying “i think this’ll be like 3 chapters!”

but i already know that it’s thirteen chapters

somewhere along the way, this poor author lost control of their life and the rest of us have benefitted immensely

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Your whump word(s) of the day

“You don’t… you don’t have to do that.”

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your desire to write the same trope over and over again

🤝

my desire to read the same trope over and over again

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“contains violence/injury/torture” is like the road work ahead of whump. the warning is necessary I completely understand. at the same time uhh yeah I sure hope it does!

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Thank you so much for this

I realize a lot of abuse survivors have been attacked recently for sharing and writing resources for  dealing with narcissistic abuse, and all of the attacks are based on lies, and done with a clear goal in mind, so it’s time to do some explaining and debunking.

If you’ve read the ‘Why does he do that’ book, you already know that abusers quickly catch onto survivor terms and jargon and use them to pick victims apart. Victims are often accused of triggering abusers, gaslighting, emotionally abusing, neglecting and failing to acknowledge their side of the story; it’s done as an attack, to divert attention from their own abuse, silence the truth, and frame victims as the ‘worse’ and even 'deserving of abuse’. Narcissists on this site have gotten word of the term 'ableism’ and are currently having a field day screaming it at victims of narcissistic abuse. It’s very ironic.

Ableism as a term is coined for the benefit of disabled people. Its purpose is to remind us to not discount the disabled people when planning and organizing society. Narcissism and sociopathy traits have exactly nothing to do with disability; they don’t stop them from functioning in society, in fact, they’re often rewarded for indulging in manipulation and deceit. To imply that they’re covered under disability would mean we just have to let them manipulate, lie and abuse, because you see, they can’t help it – except they proved to be able to, when there’s any sort of consequence for them. I feel that we can, as a society, decide that it’s not acceptable for narcissists to appropriate terms meant for disabled, and use them against victims of abuse who have been traumatized, often to the point of an actual disability. We’re struggling with anxiety, depression, panic and eating disorders, cptsd and a whole array of issues that greatly affect our ability to function, do narcissists think it’s ableist to shut us up when we point out how abuse did this to us? Of course not.

They also learned to compare themselves with bdp (borderline personality disorder), because psychiatry lumps them all in 'cluster B disorders’, however bdp interlaps with a lot of trauma symptoms, and is an actual struggle, in difference to narcissism and sociopathy. Narcissists and sociopaths are extremely unlikely to get diagnosed, and I noticed recently a lot of young people are getting misdiagnosed with npd, despite not showing pattern of narcissistic behaviour; this allows actual narcissists to groom and manipulate them, and then hide behind when anything is called out. This is also why I will only use words 'narcissist’ and 'sociopath’, and by that I mean a pattern of manipulative, harmful, toxic, cruel and abusive behaviour, followed by refusal to account for their actions and victim blaming, and not a person misdiagnosed with a personality disorder.

Narcissistic abuse is recorded as a specifically cruel, emotionally devastating and terrifying phenomenon that millions of children experience and live with; these wounds do not heal without ever being addressed, and for all of the victims currently experiencing it or trying to recover, it’s vital to create and share resources. It’s also vital to provide a space where all of us feel safe to discuss it and out all our abuser’s crimes. To say to these survivors and victims that narcissistic abuse isn’t real, or to not talk about it, is not only gaslighting but implying their entire lives didn’t happen, they imagined their own torture, and to take away the option of recognizing and fighting this type of abuse.

Abusers keep insisting they’re doing it only because they’ve been abused themselves, even though by now it was proven to not be true – and we have been fighting for some time to show that abused kid doesn’t equal an abuser, and that it’s even worse to inflict abuse after you know what it feels like. It’s also fairly ridiculous to imply that we’re a threat to them, since most of us have next to no social power, are barely getting by, and struggle to stay alive. Lots of us are in poverty as well.

Their last point is – not all narcissists and sociopaths are abusive, so let’s think about that one for a second. If there was such a thing as non abusive narcissist, would they attack abuse victims for creating resources among themselves? Would they see a traumatized person writing about abuse as a public resource who by default, should exist for them only, or be destroyed? Would they attempt to gaslight victims of narcissistic abuse telling them such a thing isn’t real? Implying the victims are making up their entire lives? Would they feel comfortable harassing, threatening, attacking and silencing those who write resources for abuse victims, and are traumatized themselves? What about those narcissists who are abusive, should we let them abuse and keep silent for the sake of not bothering the fictional non-abusive ones? Who absolutely can stay away from these materials but for some reason, have a problem with it even existing?

This is where we come to the goal of these specific attacks on survivors; the point is to stop us from creating and sharing resources because their pool of victims of abuse shrinks once all the signs of abuse are easily recognized and shared. Narcissists don’t like victims realizing they’re being abused, and leaving. They don’t like not having a lot of possible new victims who wont be able to tell they’re predators. They especially don’t like being held accountable for their actions or experiencing any consequences for it. This is why they find it perfectly acceptable for them to attack and threaten into silence survivors of abuse, in my case to the point of violent threats, rape threats, suicide baits and smear campaigns.

Recently they’ve been individually attacking people for sharing resources, either by accusing them of ableism or something worse, and we shouldn’t keep this quiet. A lot of us have been attacked lately, so if you were, please speak up!

For every single abuser threatening and silencing, there’s thousands of us, struggling with abuse and trauma, needing resources, or just realizing for the first time we’ve been living in abuse. Narcissists are vocal, but right now they’ve had to do something they usually don’t – team up. New abuse and trauma resources blogs are cropping up, in amount they never did before, and they’re not going to be able to shut us all up.

If you got a private message requiring you to stop writing or sharing resources, reblogging from trauma blogs, reply to this post, send me a message, or screenshot it and I’ll give you an email to send it to, or dm me. Abusers are terrified of community support and it’s obvious given the way they’re coming after us. They’re bullying and harassing people individually to prevent solidarity and resource sharing. Let’s let them know we talk and they can’t isolate us and individually break us via private messages.

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immortals that feel they have to act like they aren’t traumatized by what happens to them because none of it shows on their body since they heal from everything <3 

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“who did this to you” is a marriage proposal

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i need to stop picking at my face but the problem is theres Textures On There and i would prefer if there Werent

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Hey you. If you've ever felt anxious or ashamed because of your enjoyment of whump, this post is me pulling you into a hug (if you like hugs, of course!) and telling you that you're not alone. You're not weird, broken, dangerous, or evil. The things you enjoy in fiction don't dictate your worth or morality as a person. I know what you're feeling, you are loved, and you are so welcome in this community. 💖

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“I will make you proud…”

I miss my boy </3

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People who are starved of conversation will approach it as if it was sacred, people who are starved of touch experience any touch given to them as the highest form of intimacy, people starved out of gentleness will react to it as if it’s an invasion, attempt to break them down, and people starved out of community will approach it as if it was a minefield.