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it’s like this.

if you only have one person in your life that you trust, you probably are always going to turn to that person when something shit happens. as well as whenever something good happens. or anything else. this is not inherently a bad thing, and it’s really beautiful to have someone in your life that you trust so much

but if that person is suddenly busy or going through something difficult themselves or doesn’t have emotional capacity for a while, suddenly there’s a problem. not necessarily through any fault of your own, you don’t have anyone to turn to with as much regularity as you did before

this is true of any kind of relationship. this is true of any kind of coping mechanism, also. the problem is not that you trust that person. the problem is not that you use that coping mechanism. the problem is not even that there’s something wrong with you and that it’s all your fault. the problem is that nothing can be everything

the solution is not to cut off your one trusted person or to cut yourself off from your one trusted coping mechanism. the solution is to do the difficult work of diversifying your life as much as it’s possible for you to do. which is why it sucks so much when external factors prevent you from being able to live a truly diverse life. okay that’s all have a good one

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Oh my gosh. I just found this website that walks you though creating a believable society. It breaks each facet down into individual questions and makes it so simple! It seems really helpful for worldbuilding!

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Get yourself a fabric store that will light your fabric on fire for you

No but legit I asked what the fiber content of something was and the guy didn’t know so he cut a chunk off and lit it on fire and felt the ashes and was like. Yeah this is mostly cotton with a lil bit of silk. And that was the moment I knew. This is it. This is the fabric store for me. Also that guy is marriage material. Not for me but damn some person is gonna be so happy with him.

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this is so beautiful im actually crying!!!!!

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"The nonbinary afab who goes by she/her, dresses femininely, and uses a push-up bra when I—" when you what? What's wrong with her?

Is she not nonbinary enough for you? Is the way she experiences her queerness and how she presents not perfect enough for you? Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny, right? So why is she the exception? Why does she have to hate herself to appeal to your standards? Why is she any less trans—any less worthy of respect—cause it's "not visible"? Queer solidarity my ass. Don't spout this bullshit on Pride, man.

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Let’s block a parking space with mama

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Sailor moon but make it this adorable 1968 evening gown i saw on twitter

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STOP! before you decide you are irretrievably doomed, try one of the following options:

transition

bdsm

iron supplements

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today I used the phrase "breasting boobily" in casual real life conversation and everyone was shocked asking how I came up with that and I had to explain it. ive been at the devil's sacrament so long that I forgot he wasn't god

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They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.

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boys night

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a niche ship had me deleting all my filters on ao3 and just raw dogging it in there. discovered that I’m even more of a freak than I previously believed and also that sometimes you gotta give that tag you hate a try

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he thinks he's being so smooth with his little face on my leg. i SEE you, villain

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Good evening 2 u, the flotilla of garottes I've had under my sink since I had my braces off, and these disclaimers:

Mb not a general embroidery hack, but good for keeping floss nice in a sewing travel bag, which is what I've done (my shit always frays)

Idk if the vid is that clear, but the 'floss bobbin' is ribbed, so the thread stays on well

I left the dental floss cutter in place just to hold the end down, bc it can't cut embroidery floss so much as tear it, which isn't easily threaded onto a needle

Haven't tried this yet, but the ribbed bits of bendable drinking straws would probably work as 'bobbins,' for traveling with multiple thread colors in one box (though imo more than 3 would impede floss-spinability)

Don't watch w/ the audio unless u like fakesnake asmr