janeyboundtoplease

[janeyboundtoplease]

Shots of me getting ready for my wedding day, 9 years ago. They were taken by another very talented photographer, my cousin Geoff. For a bride, this is a special occasion. You are about to give yourself completely to a man you admire and love deeply. There will be that moment later when he will undo the lacings of your beautiful wedding dress, unwrap and enjoy you completely. You know you will need to submit and give yourself to him utterly; his for all time; his Princess but also his obedient wife. Mart; I love being your woman, yours completely. Happy Anniversary @mandjforever Darling

[janeyboundtoplease]

A girl always looks forward to the Holidays! As well as the usual restraints and implements to discipline me, why wouldn't I appreciate a new Vacuum Cleaner and a Kenwood Chef? ;-)

[janeyboundtoplease]

A Model and Her Photographer

The relationship between a female adult model and her male photographer is a very simple one, isn’t it? It certainly looks simple. She removes her clothes and she poses. He points a camera and shoots. Doesn’t he?

Actually, the relationship is far more multi-layered and complicated than that. As girls we grow up, loving to dance, act and pose. It comes naturally. As we get older, we thrive on male attention and we flirt. In the bedroom we enjoy being a tease and then watch his reaction. Adult modelling is only distantly related to all of this. You can’t simply point a camera at a girl and immediately end up with a centrefold; it doesn’t work that way. Training plays a huge part, complicity between model and shooter, another.

Adult magazine shots for ‘girlie mags’ (or online) are typically from a male POV. After all, this is the main audience. As a girl, I don’t see what you see as a man. My point of view in sex is so markedly different to yours. As an adult model, this is one of the lessons you have to get right really quickly. You need to have a good idea of what the camera will and won’t see, what the angle of view will be and how you will actually look, how will your makeup look under lighting? Most models practice in a mirror, that way you get some feedback on it all, though it’s rarely entirely accurate.

Training involves learning to take direction. You are the paid talent and it’s your body, your titts, your pussy, your legs and ass he needs to get his shots. They are the raw materials but they need interpretation and they need to tell a good, sexy story. If you’ve danced, worked on film or tv; had any performing arts training; it all helps. Your photographer may or may not direct your shoot but he has a brief and a very clear idea of what he wants. To give him what he needs, your movements need to be precise, exact and on cue, your facial expressions too; sexy smiles aren’t accidental: Posing your legs, arms, ankles, wrists and the angle of your head are all so important and being trained to pose takes effort and concentration. You learn to act to camera, not to the guy behind it. That way, you know I’m doing this personally for you, the viewer. I guess having a deeply submissive and obedient mindset also helps too. You learn to do exactly as he says and not to rely on your own ideas too much. Many of them simply won’t work on camera.

All this can produce some great shots. The trouble is that after a while, as a model, you can get stuck producing the same trite, hackneyed poses we’ve all seen. When you look at porn pics, you want to see something a little different; a slightly unusual take on what you’ve seen before. You like to see your favourite model but you’ll be stimulated by seeing her do something new. Here is where complicity helps. A really good adult model, working with a familiar photographer, develops a strong rapport and can relax. He trains her to give her best and she begins to know exactly how to respond to his direction. Good directors and photographers, encourage, praise but also let you know if you’ve messed up. You have to learn somehow and practice in front of camera (with feedback) is the best way. If he’s good, you’ll get to see stuff back on a monitor or his camera to understand what he’s insisting on and what you’re actually giving.

For me, it got more complicated. I married my photographer (or rather the best one). He always made me to look fantastic. He encouraged me to feel good about myself as well as helping me earn money. We were already a working team, now we’re husband and wife. There is something extremely special about a husband/wife modelling duo. For a start, he gets to fuck you (properly) as opposed to simulating it. There is nothing like raw sex to help you learn what turns your partner on (or off). Intimacy is the express train service to photographer/model complicity!

In the end, the submissive model pupil gets to know her dominant photographer master so well, that she learns from him. If she pays attention, she begins to learn about photography, lighting, lenses, focal lengths, focal depths and more. She isn’t going to keep her looks for ever and it’s wise to have a second career. More models than you think, eventually become photographers: Gina Lollobrigida was a famous example. Several years ago, my photographer husband gifted me a film camera and I began to learn in earnest. Even in a modern digital world, film is the best place to start. Learning how to use a manual film camera competently is the first step to understanding the photographic process. From there you can learn about composition and the artistry that makes good photographs.

Photos included in this blog are lo-res and have inevitably been carefully edited/chosen with Tumblr's guidelines in mind. More explicit versions are of course elsewhere; you know where to look.

So there you have it. This has been a real blog post, not a micro blog I know; but then, you know, Tumblr is after all, a fully fledged blogging site. If you enjoyed my post, please like, share and re-blog. Do follow me if you like. I will answer questions and messages most of the time as long as they are on point. All photographs remain copyright.

Janey xx

[janeyboundtoplease]

In days gone by, adverts were a lot better ;-)

[janeyboundtoplease]

[janeyboundtoplease]

Back in the day....

[janeyboundtoplease]

Once upon a time.... ;-)

[janeyboundtoplease]

I'd better be much more careful which coffee I buy next time!

[janeyboundtoplease]

Spank me!

[janeyboundtoplease]

Obedience in all things.

[janeyboundtoplease]

Doing as I'm Told

Maybe that title should have a question mark? For a submissive, it isn't quite as simple as that. Submission doesn't just happen in the bedroom, in spite of what people think. It encompasses the totality of a relationship. I confess that, way back, I have been both manipulative, self entitled, wayward, stubborn, bratty and incredibly selfish. These aren't traits designed to help submissiveness.

Submission is about giving yourself up to someone else's will and there is a joy in doing that. It is about consensually relinquishing control to someone else. This is NOT 'punishment and reward': Feeling entitled leads you to want payment in return. That can never be part of submission.

Your training is there to help you eliminate those selfish, bratty, self entitled feelings as well as your manipulative behaviour. I used to hate them in myself. They are really unhelpful in any relationship and they are not allowed in any BDSM one. Any of those things can destroy a relationship. My first marriage, entered so early in life, was a vanilla one, with a partner who failed to take the lead. My attitudes won out and in doing so, I lost.

I am strong. I became a single Mom with no income. I had to build an existence for myself and my family. It taught me determination and self reliance but it didn't help me be a better person. If you grew up strong you will need someone way stronger to keep you in line, trust me. It's for your own good.

None of this either, excuses you from caring for yourself; eating, sleeping and exercising well; keeping yourself looking good. It is expected of you! Self Worth does not come from feelings of entitlement but in feeling you are ready to give freely to others and not be diminished. Paradoxically, handing control to someone else, releases you to do this. Do not neglect yourself or fail to maintain your self worth.

Submission and obedience do not mean relinquishing responsibility; quite the opposite. These are things you must work out with your dominant partner. Do it by talking and discussing. I look after and run a house, mastermind finances, carry out a demanding job and many other things. A submissive MUST have her own opinions or how can she discuss things with her partner? I am not a doormat and my husband would not thank me for being one! On the contrary; he pushes and encourages me to be my best self.

More later :-)

Janey xx

I do not re-blog anyone else's work but I may like or follow your blog if I'm interested. I really welcome follows, likes and re-blogs on Tumblr. I also welcome questions and compliments and I may reply or not, as suits my mood. All photos remain the copyright of the photographer.

[janeyboundtoplease]

After release and orgasm, yes I'm sore and I will feel that all day but the endorphins abound. Now, I am totally relaxed and completely at ease. The best cuddles are post-coital :-)

[janeyboundtoplease]

This is so painful but there is nothing I can do.

[janeyboundtoplease]

What will happen to me next? I have no idea. Do you have any suggestions?

[janeyboundtoplease]

18+ ONLY. NSFW. Mature & Sexually themed content.

There is so much power play in any boy/girl interaction. Sex is so beautiful in all its forms. Yet I am not ashamed to admit that I get off on being bound and disciplined by my husband always. While I know that he values and loves me, we have a very traditional relationship and my husband is the assertive partner. I do what he says, ALWAYS! There is no choice in this. I am his submissive and he controls me.

Yes, bondage and BDSM is truly painful. We interpret all intense sensations as either pleasure or pain and there are many of those in an intimate relationship. Sometimes they can be both. I need to be restrained, spanked and kept quiet for my own good. The choice of how to discipline and restrain me is entirely up to him, I don't get a say, why should I? That's how it should be. I prefer a world where a men are in charge and they are my superior. I am female and subject to my husband. I have no problem with that.

Being spanked puts me in a frame of mind to submit to his use. I have small tiddies and a trim behind but they still bounce when he disciplines me. Having my titts clamped totally subdues me, no matter how rebellious I feel. Being restrained puts me in the position he wants to enjoy me. There is absolutely no choice in any of this. The ultimate goal for both of us is orgasm, no matter how long delayed for me (if he allows it). Being bound, spanked or gagged just 'keeps the bubbles in the champagne'. Discipline creates sexual effervescence. For both me and him, when the cork pops, the climax is so much more ecstatic!

All BDSM portrayed here IS consensual. Let me qualify that. We have agreed that I need to be punished, spanked or used and must accept without question. In the moment, I don't get a choice and I HAVE to comply. He therefore needs no further consent from me to use, restrain and discipline me. He can ignore my pleas for mercy and entreaties for him to stop. I can say 'No' but I won't be listened to!

Relationships such as this are often misunderstood by others but they are nevertheless based on prior discussion and trust. Putting my trust in him is a precious gift and one of the most loving things a girl can do, believe me. Trust and Communication are also the essentials of ANY relationship whether BDSM or not.

There are WAY too many old images doing the rounds on Tumblr. Myself and my husband are content creators, NOT re-bloggers. We don't therefore re-blog anyone else's work but may like or follow your blog if we're interested especially if, like us, you create original content. I really welcome follows, likes and re-blogs on Tumblr. I also welcome questions and compliments and I may reply or not, as suits my mood.

Find me on Sharesome, my profile is JaneyW.

Janey xx

[janeyboundtoplease]

When he forces me do this. I don't really have any choice, do I? But I can scream!

[janeyboundtoplease]