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Ibn al-Jawzi رحمه اللّٰه said:

"The more love you have for Allāh, the more He will show you in return. The more glorifications you have for Him, the more He will elevate you and protect you."

[Captured Thoughts, Sayd Al-Khatir, Pg. 470]

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Do you know what this mosque is?

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Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله:

To endure short-lived difficulties that are followed by long-lasting ease, is better than hurrying for a short-lived ease that is followed by everlasting hardship.

[al-Hilyah, 2/134]

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Salam Julaibib.

Some thoughts are storming my mind ever since the idea of quitting my job started getting stronger.

The thing is that my current job is good, and in which I help a lot of people and I get a lot of Ajr, and alhamdoullilah Allah made my journey in this job so far less hard and more pleasant than expected but in the same time it is so tiring and obliges me ( especially in the future since I'm just learning right now) to do many nightishifts and go out and in a lot, which I find a little bit too much for my nature as a girl. ( not to mention that the job industry is so poor in this field for now). I feel like I just want something a bit more stable.

Now my question is: Is getting worried about my future Rizq in my current job is a sort of questioning Allah's mercy and not trusting Him and what He wrote for me?

What you are leaning towards is that the basic principle in Islam is that women are not required to work outside the home unless circumstances force them to do so.

The most important thing for a person is to save themselves before anything else. You should go for work even if it benefits others, but at the same time it does not harm your religion or yourself.

What you mentioned is very true, as the difficult nature of the work does not match your feminine nature, so Islam does not ask women to work.

A Muslim should not fear about his Rizq and should know that his livelihood is written, but on the basis of the reasons in his hands. If he has no other source other than this work, then he should be patient with it until he has another source.

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It is fine for a person to work for this world,

ولكن دون أن ينسى آخرته but without forgetting his Hereafter!

ولا بأس أن يجعل بيته جميلاً and it is fine to make his house beautiful,

ولكن دون أن ينسى قبره but without forgetting his grave!

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فَمَن يَعْمَلْ مِثْقَالَ ذَرَّةٍ خَيْرًا يَرَهُ

And he who does the weight of an atom of good shall see it then

وَمَن يَعْمَلْ مِثْقَالَ ذَرَّةٍ شَرًّا يَرَهُ

And whosoever has done even an atom's weight of evil will behold that

Quran | Surah Az-Zalzalah [99:8]

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The Quran mentioned the virgin who gave birth and the baby who talked. And the old lady who got pregnant and the moon that split in a half, and the sleepers that woke up after many 300 years, and the whale that didn't eat the human and the fire that didn't burn. Look at what Allah was able to do and ask him for what you want. Be greedy with your duas, don't be ashamed of Allah, and it's destined greater than what you have.

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And this is the nature of the Dunya. One day, it feels like you're healing. The next, you're breaking all over again. A cycle that seems never-ending. But remember-healing isn't linear. And when you turn to Allah, He grants you the strength to endure every hardship. "And whoever puts their trust in Allah, He will be enough for them." (Qur'an 65:3)

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raise your hands and say what is in your heart واعلم أنه أقرب إليك من حبل الوريد and know that He is closer to you than the jugular vein

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Malik Bin Dinaar said: "Every companion that you don't benefit good from, stay away from him." [الزهد لابن أبي عاصم ٨٦]

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Salam brother, thanking you for getting back to me (I’m the sister who’s on the app)

Unfortunately, I don’t go to the masjid just because I know that women need to pray at home. Our masjid circle is really small and we don’t have that concept of asking around for men and women who are ready to be married. Everyone now is looking for themselves.

Do you have any duas I can make to occupy myself and get them away from my heart?

It is true that women are not required to pray in the mosque, but relationships there may be a reason for nominating someone. However, in general, try to find all the right reasons for marriage, and always pray to God to grant you a righteous husband. Also, increase your seeking of forgiveness, read the Quran, and listen to the Quran.

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What's written for you has its own timing. Don't rush what's unfolding.

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Salam brother, I had a situation and i'd really appreciate your advice and how to overcome this.

I'm in an age where i'm ready to get married Insha’Allah. but as a girl who is always at home, i had no chance of meeting someone in real life so I joined a muslim marriage app. I had some interactions and discovered new things about me and what i want and what I don't. Recently I came across a profile of someone that i really liked mashallah but didn't have the courage to initiate a conversation or match with them so i just prayed that will find my profile since we were a 95% match. I kept logging in everyday to check but no update so I saved their profile on my favorite just to check. Subhanallah since i was young i had a certain type of man that i want to marry and this person looks so much like them and I even liked their profile and what they've written but the fear of being rejected or just my insecurity prevented me from showing up.

Yesterday around Fajr, i decided to check on the app just randomly and noticed his profile is gone, i did so many scrolls but it didn't show up. and I felt a huge lump in my throat and severe clench in my chest. My first thought is why didn't I initiate the conversation, why didn't I just send a like and waited for them. Did they find someone else on the app and matched and left the app? did they not find who they want and left the app? did they just reset it? I prayed fajr and prayed to Allah to take it away from my heart but today I woke up with an even worse clench. the regret is real. I even tried to track him down somehow hhh even though i know nothing about him except his name, age, profession and location. P.S. of the reasons why i didn't match the first time is because i don't want to leave abroad and he does. But it wasn't a deal-breaker. Just my insecurities got the best of me. What should I do now? I even deleted the app and my profile but i can't stop thinking about him subhanallah.

وعليكم السلام

You should know that everything is predestined and everything is written. Marriage is a blessing, just like any other blessing for a person, like money. Whatever is written for him, he will obtain. If this person wasn't written for you, even if you had sent him a message, it wouldn't have happened.

Therefore, you should praise and thank Allah in every situation and say, "Perhaps this is good for you." I don't know how these apps work, and whether sending him a message will force you to engage in discussions with him or not, but try to look for other reasons, such as interacting at the mosque near your area or city.

Perhaps there is a person there or someone who can recommend a good person for you. And don't stop praying that Allah will grant you someone who is best for you and you will be best for him.

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Assalamualaikum. Last year, I started getting closer to Allah and by the end of the year my heart was full of peace and love for Allah. But this year things are progressing backwards horribly. Idk what's wrong with me but I just can't concentrate on Salah let alone do other forms of Ibadah. I feel so empty inside. I listen to the Quran and lectures, wake up in Tahajjud etc but no matter what I just don't feel that Allah is here. I don't know what is causing this

وعليكم السلام

After good times of worship, a person goes through times of decline or slackness in motivation, and this is normal.

If a Muslim remained in a state of constant faith, he would become arrogant. Therefore, he may fall into a state of weakness in his faith, so he may try again and ask Allah to strengthen his faith and religion. He may begin to struggle with himself until he regains his faith. During these time,

advise you to make du’aa’, especially in the latter part of the night. The one who turns to his Lord and seeks His help to remain steadfast in worshipping Him and to worship Him well will never be let down.

Regularly offering naafil prayers and persisting in doing so, even if they are few, because one of the greatest causes of the Muslim becoming apathetic is when he starts to do acts of worship and does a great deal in the beginning. This is not the way of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and is not what he advised his ummah to do. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) described his actions as ongoing, i.e., not interrupted or infrequent. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that, “The most beloved of actions to Allaah are those which are done persistently, even if they are little.” If a Muslim wants not to be afflicted by apathy, then let him strive to do a small action persistently, because this is better than doing a lot infrequently.