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it really is fine, but i'll take a lollipop anyway // april 25 2024
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you want me to have romance in my life? the thing that killed my friendships?
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shoutout to aplatonic people with npd.
shoutout to aplatonic people with aspd.
shoutout to aplatonic people with a dissociative disorder (not just didosdd)
shoutout to aplatonic people with psychosis or a schizospec disorder.
shoutout to aplatonic people who are low empathy/no empathy
shoutout to aplatonic people with avpd
shoutout to aplatonic people with ppd
shoutout to aplatonic people who are alloaro or alloace
shoutout to all aplatonic people, we're really cool ^_^
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Rest in peace to the touch starved arospec and/or aspecs. You deserve more hugs.
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"being queer is about love" hmm actually being queer is about defying societal norms about gender and sexuality and does not depend on feeling love at all
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With great power (aromanticism) comes great responsibility (destroying romance with my bare hands)
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very much related!! i didn't speak on this aspect of the issue very much in the original post because i wanted to initially put focus on a lack of love being neutral, but the love = morality mindset 100% does damage when it comes to a heroization of love and an inability to reconcile love and harm. all of your points are very real. would also point out an assumption that if another person Really Loves You then they wouldn't want to/can't really be hurting you, which can make it really difficult to recognize harm when it happens in relationships. a lack of love does not preclude the presence of goodness, and conversely, the presence of love does not preclude the presence of harm.
this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...
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this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...
#and also. not the direct focus. but love doesn't make things good. you can be in love and do terrible terrible things.#people do bad things in the name of love and in despite of love all the time.#but!! imagine a world where people could exist as people and not be demonized.#sex positivity means being cool about All sex. reexamine your internal systems of moral judgement.#this goes for sex workers. for aroallo people. especially aroallo men. for aro people in general who might enjoy sex.#and frankly i think it can easily bleed into discussions about mental health disorders around 'not feeling' certain things#especially demonizing ppl who don't feel as much empathy. i think there's definitely a correlation between that and the emphasis on love.#our support needs to go out to Everybody and i think these things are all structured together in one way or another!!#it might not be immediately obvious but when i tell you it all leads back to amatonormativity..... little bit wild.... large bit wild....#anyway. horror movie psychopath 'oh he can't feel emotions or love' damn alright. well. let's take a closer look at that.#silly that there's an association between lack of love and Murdering. feel like that might affect some stuff.#love is just an emotion/a feeling it doesn't mean anything about you one way or another#same with empathy. you can feel it all you want but it doesn't inherently change the actions you choose to take#anyway. thesis statement. there is a socially constructed link between love and morality. unlearn that.#kiss kiss (<— lovelessly)#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#talking#aroace#aspec#sex positivity
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people collectively reinvent slut shaming every other month in new terminology. "noooo I don't think she's a disgusting slut...I think she is participating in casual sex toxic hookup culture and this makes her used and corrupted untrustworthy" do you hear yourself at all💀💀
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Love is a scam designed by big marriage to sell more weddings
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hello I have a theory that aspec people are in charge of tumblr
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render yourself incompatible with this world. then stay
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eroticism of the machine this, eroticism of the machine that. what about the AROMANTICISM of the machine. what about the electric comfort of looking at a beautiful turbine engine and knowing that it is just like you. what about the urge to cut open your chest to prove your heart is made of wires and your ribs are made of steel. what about that
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an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024
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i like to say that aromanticism is like experiencing shrimp emotions // april 9 2024
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ppl are so quick to modify and soften and put qualifiers on aromantic people’s statements. i’ll say “love loses” and here come seven thousand people in the notes going “funny joke but love is good actually!” “romantic love loses but not platonic love platonic love is great!” “but platonic love is still good though…” no actually i said what i meant the first fucking time. is it so hard to let someone just say something ever
#prev: 'love loses' is a joke that goes around the aro community in response to the common lgbtq slogan of 'love wins' :)#it's meant as a sort of jokey counterpart to it because. well. obviously. for us love does not win.#'love loses' is both a way of playing off the 'love wins' trope and a way of asserting our own personhood against the love-centric phrase#'love wins' is like. great for alloro people. but it is also very amatonormative. nobody's fault but it just doesn't work for aros.#cause y'know. love doesn't win for me. my victory in queerness is in the absence of love. therefore love loses.#i'm not doing a fantastic job of explaining it right now. but the aros get it. love loses <2#it's also just funny in general to me personally. 'love loses' is a great joke whether in aro contexts or not
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