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medical professionals: aw why don’t u have any hobbies or do anything with ur free time? :(

me: yeah maybe it’s the 7/10 baseline chronic pain you’re refusing to treat but idk bro could be something else i guess

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i’m gonna hold your hand with a glove on when i say this

when disabled/chronically ill people tell you they can’t do something, then that is not your cue to tell them that they can actually or that they’ll always find an excuse if they’re looking for one.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes that doesn’t mean it’s outside the realm of possibility, sometimes it means if they (attempted to) do that, they will seriously hurt themselves.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes it’s preventative care, and they refuse to do that thing to prevent a flare up from happening/their symptoms getting worse in the first place.

disabled/chronically ill people are not “looking for excuses”, they are giving you reasons why. something they don’t even have to do! so maybe just accept the reasons they give you.

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"Punishment works!!!" We're drowning in three to four generations of people so pants-shittingly terrified of ever being wrong that half of everyone has constructed a worldview wherein they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong and the other half behaves like one wrong move will make anything or anyone explode violently into a million irreperable pieces. I don't think it works guys

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JOINTS IS PAIN

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If you are feeling good about yourself or situation and then your mood suddenly shifts leaving you feeling insecure, unsure, etc. try to remind yourself that nothing has truly changed but your perception. Your cute outfit did not suddenly become horrid. Your delicious meal did not tranform into a terrible one. Your peers perception of you has not radically transformed over a social misstep. Everything we experience is put through it through our mental filter, and that can convince us that everyone else sees us with the judgement we have for ourselves. Be kind to yourself.

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"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

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happy autism acceptance month. this month, regardless if you're abled or disabled, allistic or autistic, try to consider if you really do accept people with autism. all aspects of autism. people who:

without volume control

talk to themselves or make sounds (seemingly) at random

have huge screaming meltdowns

stim any way, including smearing body fluids

only talk about one subject and will never "move on"

stare inappropriately

struggle with personal hygiene

are unemployed

who left education early ("dropped out")

has a carer and will always need one

don't use mouth words to communicate

have comorbid intellectual disability and don't want to separate that from their autism

autism acceptance month can't truly be about acceptance if we don't broaden our understanding of autism and confront our internal biases. these things listen above are normal parts of autism. sometimes very common. there's stigma around them, but that's stigma we can actively fight.

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for autism acceptance month i think it's important that we understand that autism acceptance can't be based on the lowest common denominator. which means we can't simplify autism to only the broad aspects that appeal to the largest group of people (ableds). it was wrong of people to act like autism was a horrible disease that "stole your child" from you. it's also wrong to act like common symptoms of classical autism are only stereotypes that have to be shut down. there's going to be lots of different ways that people with autism behave, how their symptoms manifest, what they struggle with. instead of acting like there's some one true presentation of autism, acknowledge how varied it is. how many aspects of someone's life it can affect. how they're different severities and different presentations. include autistic people who are like you and autistic people who are not like you

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Despite popular belief, smelling bad is not actually a crime and should not be used to judge someone's morality or character. Lots of good people smell stank as hell. Real bad. You can acknowledge that bad smells are unpleasant, and how you might not want to be around someone who stinks (I choose to suck it up personally, just acknowledging it as an option!) without perpetuating a sentiment that causes disadvantaged people to face more harm and scrutiny. Stand up for stinky people I'm being so genuine rn.

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you know when i say we have to accept autistic people who have symptoms of autism that cause things like body fluid smearing, inconsistent or no personal hygiene, lack of volume control, etc. I'm not talking about some fringe cases of autistic people with "extreme" symptoms. these things are common. they're common amongst medium and high support needs autistics, but also amongst low support needs autistics. some of your peers at the local autistic peer support society are struggling with incontinence. it's just that they can control their liquid intake and use pads to manage symptoms. some of them are smearing fecal matter but they just clean up after themselves. the divide between low support needs and others isn't that low support needs autistics are actually more palatable, have fewer undesirable symptoms, or are in any way better than the rest of the autistic population. even if some people like to act that way. it just refers to the level of support they need. like being able to manage your own incontinence for example doesn't make you have it any less. we've gotta accept that various symptoms are part of autism. they're actually quite common. there remains a lot of social stigma around these symptoms, but that doesn't make them rare or not worth talking about. things like skin picking or hitting your head are behaviours that naturally arise from having autism, and we've got to accept that

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I hate when people act like being diagnosed early is inherently a privilege, because in a lot of ways it really wasn't for me.

I didn't get accomodations. I wasn't met with understanding. I was abused even worse and made to feel like a defective human because I was diagnosed with autism at the age of 8. My abuser knew exactly what was "wrong" with me and he weaponized that against me nearly everyday. I was told explicitly so many. Fucking. Times. That I needed to hide my autism and "act normal" if I ever wanted to be accepted and not ostracized for the rest of my life. I was treated like I was a walking disease, and I was told a LOT that my diagnosis was an "epidemic" that needed to be cured. Do you realize what saying shit like that does to a person, especially a young kid? It took years of healing and radical self-acceptance to not see my diagnosis as a curse.

Don't get me wrong, a lack of an early diagnosis and/or being misdiagnosed can be (and oftentimes is) just as traumatizing for a lot of autistic people. But not everyone that is diagnosed early gets the accomodations and understanding that they need. I'd argue that a lot of us don't, myself included. If I had not been diagnosed while I was living with my abuser, would my abuse have been nearly as bad? (Although I'd rather not speculate on that, because, at the end of the day, I don't know. And I never will.)

I don't really know what I'm aiming for with this post, to be quite honest. I guess I just want another perspective on diagnosis out there.

Just because the grass LOOKS greener on the other side, doesn't mean it actually is.

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*shaking sobbing covered in blood* yeah it's fine that i can't do The Thing because of my disability. thats fine. its whatever. i am completely at peace with the fact that i cannot do The Thing and i will stop torturing myself on that basis. it totally doesn't make me feel subhuman at all that i can't do The Thing. i'm so normal about my inability to do The Thing. i really am. i really, really am. it's whatever. it's fine. i'm fine. everything is FINE

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“Autism doesn’t cause low empathy! In fact we’re all just hyperempathetic we’re not bad peo-“

SHUT UP. SHUT UP. SHUT UP.

There’s a few things going on with this statement.

1. Assuming that low empathy makes someone a bad person. It does not. Actions are what matter, not empathy levels.

2. Demonizing autistic people whose low/no empathy they attribute to their autism. Autism fundamentally impacts the way you interact with the world, others, and yourself. That includes empathy.

Anyway I love you people with low/no empathy this is a safe space for you <3

Signed,

A very pissed off autistic person with fluctuating empathy levels

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This is a threat

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“bi women bringing their cis-” bi women can do whatever they want shut up

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I learned a lot today from Obviously Queer’s video essay “FEMME: Lesbian History, Identity, Politics and Invisibility” and femmebis’ “The “Lesbian-Only Term” Myth: A Comprehensive Historical Essay on ‘Butch’ and ‘Femme’ ”.

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"we need more weird queers!!"

you start parroting TERF talking points the milisecond someone says they are a lesboy or gaygirl

you cry when mspec lesbians/gays exist

you refuse to use neopronouns or it/its, even when those are a persons only set of pronouns

you expect a-specs to experience attraction in some way (yes, that includes platonic attraction)

you exclude intersex people

you can't even accept furries.