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Dating Woes

Lately, I have tried to use dating apps. It’s like when it comes to this too, the world hates me. No, it’s not that I got no likes. I did. It’s a combination of a couple of different problems. I ended up deleting all except two and should probably give up on one them because there’s literally no one out there for me. On that one. I just feel so lonely. Fortunately, the remaining one lets you look for friends as well as dates/life partners. Oh, well. There’s still books. And tea.

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New Social Network

I’m trying Vero, as an alternative to Instagram.

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Get Ready for Exciting Fashion and Style Updates

This is just to let any potential readers know that I will be posting again. Definitely. Probably. About fashion and style. And maybe a bit of my accessory history, if there is such an expression. If not it seems there is now. I might also add photos. Try to contain your anticipation. LOL.

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Disappointed

I can’t get dark blue pillow cases. They’re not for sale in Sweden (or where I live either, at least as far as I know). Not big ones (50x90). Or the ones for the so called hotel pillows (70x100).

I also can’t get solid dark blue duvet covers.

There are other colors, but blue makes me happy. Dark green might too, but I’ve never seen dark green bed linens. Ever.

I’m so disappointed in this. Why can’t I get stuff I like? Is it so weird not to like monochrome textiles?

IKEA only sells washed out colors, and so do the rest of the companies. Well, there might be really expensive bed linen sets in other, darker colors, but I need at least two sets, preferably a lot more. Washing, drying etc. You know how it is. Grr.

When it comes to clothes it’s a little easier. This year I was able to get a pair of very nice dark blue cruelty-free pumps for quite a good price. I’m quite happy with my jackets and coats. Blue and green.

I have jeans, t-shirts, dresses etc, in colors I like. There are towels in nice colors, curtains and so on. We have a few carpets too. But bed linens? No. Nothing.

I checked on Amazon, even though lately I’ve been unhappy with them. So many things that never arrived and we haven’t even got our money back for two of them. And again, the disappointment. However they don’t sell pillow cases in the right sizes.

Sorry to whine so much. It’s just a rather disappointing time in my life, despite having finally had kids, which makes up for a lot of disappointments.

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Over the past two years my family and I have been staying in several different hotels, rented apartments and houses. Most of the time it’s been ok, but a bit disappointing, since we’d prefer to live in a place of our own. However, I’d like to tell you about the times it hasn’t been ok.

Sometimes, the kids have broken something, and we’ve had to let the staff know and offer to pay for whatever was broken, and sometimes we have. Other times the staff has been gracious and told us it wasn’t necessary to pay.

However, on a few occasions, when we’ve been completely sure nothing is wrong, we’ve received emails demanding money for something or other. Once it was a month after we stayed in a certain seemingly very nice holiday apartment and the man wouldn’t even tell us what, in his opinion, was wrong or send us a link to some secure payment option. Clearly he was just fishing. I wonder how many former guests fell for it. And that man seemed so nice in person. He never got back to us with that link.

Another time we were told a sofa was damaged in some way. My sister began to type the usual email offering to pay, then realized something was wrong. There was no sofa in the room. When she asked for clarification, the man didn’t get back to her.

It seems to me that families with children are targets for these types of scams. Most parents of young children can’t be 100 % sure nothing is stained or somehow damaged, maybe in a weird place an adult wouldn’t normally see. So many people will most likely pay to avoid the embarrassment.

These days, we’ve learned the hard way to be on the safe side.

1. Any stains or damage will be photographed immediately when we first enter the room or apartment. The date stamp will prove it was already in existence.

2. We always travel with our own broom and shovel (mini sized), toilet paper and even soap (because there’s never enough for seven).

3. Never leave more than tiny amounts of trash in the hotel rooms. We bring our own tray bags/bin liners, then throw our trash in a public trash can somewhere around the city. We’ve had snarky remarks about all our trash. I guess they don’t have kids in diapers/nappies.

After all this time, I’m getting really fed up with hotels and rented homes. This autumn I hope we’ll finally live in a home of our own.

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Fashion and clothes

This is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Fashion. Clothes. Body image.

In the past five years or so I’ve put on several extra kilos. Also, since the C-section, my body looks different. My abdomen sort of lost whatever shape it had before my pregnancy.

After that a chronic condition hit me and I put on so much weight in only three weeks or less (I have photos to prove it) that I couldn’t wear jeans. And I had only just managed to get them on after I had the twins. I can wear jeans now, fortunately.

Then on top of that the pandemic. No more long walks, but instead chocolate, ice cream, cheesecakes, mousses…

So extra weight on a flawed body.

That got me thinking about fashion. Clothes. Most fashionable clothes are ugly rags, meant for young, fit, perfect bodies. And when I say young I don’t mean late twenties or early thirties. Teens, early twenties. They must buy these clothes to make statements. ”Look, I’m young, fit, perfect. I can afford to buy this fashion.”

It occurred to me that I want reasonably priced clothes that are cleverly tailored garments meant to flatter even less perfect bodies. In my colors.

Lately I’ve looked through my wardrobe and found that much in it doesn’t suit me. At least some do.

And I’ve studied people around me. What do they wear? What might I wear to look a little better?

I learned to be brave. Let some of my defects show. Many women or young girls look like me. In my worst moments I refer to myself as a walking sofa cushion. Well, if I look like that, many others do too.

So what do I have that helps me look better?

Some examples:

A pair of slightly too small indigo blue yoga leggings. They’re actually better than expensive shapewear.

A really pretty blue dress, with a flower pattern and a detail that cleverly hides my defects to some extent.

A denim blouse that covers my arms in short-sleeved or sleeve-less tops.

An emerald, A-line, workout top that has an asymmetrical hem (?). It’s so pretty it can be worn as an ordinary t-shirt. It’s also cool during a heatwave.

From now on I’ll think before I buy, because now I know what to wear.