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"The Broadway Tunnel seemed to be a safe place for sex--except for the drivers who couldn't keep their eyes on the road!" (Photographed by Phyllis Christopher.)

source: The Femme's Guide to the Universe, written by Shar Rednour

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going on a nightcore listening spree and woah... cant tell if it's the nostalgia or if songs were actually just better back then <3

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Gaza children die of starvation and fear of the severity of the violent shelling on Gaza

Please help us so we can get out of the hell of Gaza

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Abdul Rahman Risks His Life for a Loaf of Bread

Every morning, *Abdul Rahman* leaves his home in Gaza, heading to *Netzarim*, not in search of a better life... but for *some flour* to feed his hungry brothers.

✦ He goes to where the *army that shoots without mercy* is.

✦ He faces *immediate danger of death*, just to return with enough to feed his family.

✦ He has no flour at home, no food, and no sure hope of survival every time he goes out.

*50 kg bag of flour = $1,500*

Where does a besieged young man get it from, who has lost everything, and is left with only his hungry little brothers?

*Help Abdul Rahman's family survive.*

Every donation, no matter how small, is a life.

**↳ Don't ignore the sound of hunger, don't ignore the cry of danger.

Help Abdul Rahman before he returns home lifeless.**

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Don't ignore, please donate!!!!

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whats the worst fruit everyone please sound off

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this image came to me in a dream

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@aiueo_3106

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✨INTEREST CHECK ✨

This is addressed to all lycahugo fans. We're about to steal what's most dear to you.

We'd like to introduce Dear Ex-Partner, a Zenless Zone Zero fanzine for the pair lycahugo.

📅 June 24th - July 24th

INTEREST CHECK

CARRD

GUIDELINES

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Platonic love is real love and shouldnt be treated like less becuase it isnt romantic. Defining love as only romantic is a terrible concept. You should be able to love people in a platonic way as much as romantic way and not be seen as less

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nanami__hair on ig

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hello white transgender person. in front of you is a computer displaying a post by a trans person of color discussing racism within the trans community. you may either respond to the post or close the window and move on. if you choose to respond to the post, just know that if you say anything to the effect of "it's not that big a deal", the bomb i have placed under your chair will explode. good luck.

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I realized the other day that the reason I didn't watch much TV as a teenager (and why I'm only now catching up on late aughts/early teens media that I missed), is because I literally didn't understand how to use our TV. My parents got a new system, and it had three remotes with a Venn diagram of functions. If someone left the TV on an unfamiliar mode, I didn't know how to get back to where I wanted to be, so I just stopped watching TV on my own altogether.

I explained all this to my therapist, because I didn't know if this was more related to my then-unnoticed autism, or to my relationship with my parents at the time (we had issues less/unrelated to neurodivergency). She told me something interesting.

In children's autism assessments, a common test is to give them a straightforward task that they cannot reasonably perform, like opening an overtight jar. The "real" test is to see, when they realize that they cannot do it on their own, if they approach a caregiver for help. Children that do not seek help are more likely to be autistic than those that do.

This aligns with the compulsory independence I've noticed to be common in autistic adults, particularly articulated by those with lower support needs and/or who were evaluated later in life. It just genuinely does not occur to us to ask for help, to the point that we abandon many tasks that we could easily perform with minor assistance. I had assumed it was due to a shared common social trauma (ie bad experiences with asking for help in the past), but the fact that this trait is a childhood test metric hints at something deeper.

My therapist told me that the extremely pathologizing main theory is that this has something to do with theory of mind, that is doesn't occur to us that other people may have skills that we do not. I can't speak for my early childhood self, or for all autistic people, but I don't buy this. Even if I'm aware that someone else has knowledge that I do not (as with my parents understanding of our TV), asking for help still doesn't present itself as an option. Why?

My best guess, using only myself as a model, is due to the static wall of a communication barrier. I struggle a lot to make myself understood, to articulate the thing in my brain well enough that it will appear identically (or at least close enough) in somebody else's brain. I need to be actively aware of myself and my audience. I need to know the correct words, the correct sentence structure, and a close-enough tone, cadence, and body language. I need draft scripts to react to possible responses, because if I get caught too off guard, I may need several minutes to construct an appropriate response. In simple day-to-day interactions, I can get by okay. In a few very specific situations, I can excel. When given the opportunity, I can write more clearly than I am ever capable of speaking.

When I'm in a situation where I need help, I don't have many of my components of communication. I don't always know what my audience knows. I don't have sufficient vocabulary to explain what I need. I don't know what information is relevant to convey, and the order in which I should convey it. I don't often understand the degree of help I need, so I can come across inappropriately urgent or overly relaxed. I have no ability to preplan scripts because I don't even know the basic plot of the situation.

I can stumble though with one or two deficiencies, but if I'm missing too much, me and the potential helper become mutually unintelligible. I have learned the limits of what I can expect from myself, and it is conceptualized as a real and physical barrier. I am not a runner, so running a 5k tomorrow does not present itself as an option to me. In the same way, if I have subconscious knowledge that an interaction is beyond my capability, it does not present itself as an option to me. It's the minimum communication requirements that prevent me from asking for help, not anything to do with the concept of help itself.

Maybe. This is the theory of one person. I'm curious if anyone else vibes with this at all.

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It’s just a coloured sketch but Im very happy with how it turned out🥲