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Online aesthetics and the effects of social media trends

Let's talk about this.

How it can affect young teenagers

Open Tiktok or Instagram and everything on my For You Page now shows "How to achieve a Clean Girl Aesthetic"', "Old Money Aesthetic Hairstyles", "Cottagecore Hobbies", "How to be a Femme Fatale"

It never ends. Trends keep popping up left and right and it's inescapable.

As a young, impressionable teenager, I was, of course, naturally going to be influenced by these ever-changing trends. I'd constantly change my room aesthetic, buy new clothes, and I was never satisfied with my appearance. Why? Because I didn't look like the girls on screen.

News flash. You're never going to look like them. All that content they produce which gets 100k likes is done with excessive attention to detail, expensive lighting and sound equipment, and top-notch editing software. OF COURSE, you can't look like that. It's completely manufactured. It's heartbreaking to see young girls develop body image issues because of the constant bombarding of these "aesthetics" which are basically different beauty standards and stereotypes all wrapped up in a neat little package that is labelled "personality and style". I don't have anything against the concepts of aesthetics. I love how Dark and Light Academia is centred around learning, and how Cottagecore is all about relaxation and not conforming to being part of a 9-5 and just living life. I like how the Clean Girl is focused on being healthy and productive. What I don't like is how all these healthy things, which normal functioning humans should be doing are now turned into "trends" and you must "choose" between them.

Why it's so harmful

Fashion: Since aesthetics keep changing, you're going to find multiple that appeal to you. What happens when you discover you really like cottagecore, but your closet is filled with dark academia tweed? You turn to fast fashion. It's cheap and stylish. But it's horrible for the environment and that floral dress you're wearing was made by a woman in a sweatshop in Bangladesh, while fashion giants like Shein pocket the money.

Makeup: It's always there. Always. You cannot find a "how-to" post regarding aesthetics and makeup is not included. Its always how much blush to apply, why mascara is your best friend, blah blah blah. You know what I want to see? An aesthetic which promotes a clean, fresh face. I do wear makeup, not saying I'm perfect(yes, I wear lip tint and sometimes eyeliner), but it's the ridiculous notion that there's a specific makeup look for each aesthetic, and they say it's not very heavy, but really is concealer, foundation, blush, mascara and lipgloss light makeup?

Other: Then comes the things you should own, the bags, the shoes, the jewellery, the house decor. Did you notice to achieve the look, we're spending money bit by bit? Then you don't even realise it's made a dent in your savings.

Mentality: I hate this part about aesthetics so much. A while ago, I was really interested in Dark Academia and how it was centred around learning and studying. But everything was gloomy and dark and said I should be tired and bitter to achieve this. I'm not a serious person by nature in the first place, but here were blogs telling me to be "mysterious" and how I should be getting only 4 hours of sleep to be true Dark Academia? What is this dystopia? There's this weird obsession with how someone should behave if they like an aesthetic.

Online trends are all consumerism based. It's all to get you to blow your money on things that don't even benefit you.

There's a reason I never include and never will include tags like #clean girl or #pink pilates princess in my posts because it sort of reduces you to a certain aspect. Why confine yourself to these barriers? Wear what you want. Read what you like. The one "aesthetic" I believe in, is "that girl" which in reality is different for everyone, but boils down to being educated, well-mannered, and considerate. I will make a post on this. Being educated and kind is such a flex, not wearing one flowy white dress and "thinking" you're in a meadow. Break out of the pattern of being influenced by algorithms. Don't restrict your identity because of FOMO and the urge to be trendy. You've got this.

<3

[leahsfieldnotes]

Angelic winter guide

Light candles in the morning when it's still dark and gloomy outside to create a cosy and peaceful atmosphere. <3

Write down some positive winter affirmations to set the tone for the day!

Invest in some cute accessories like ear muffs, bows, legwarmers, mittens or pearl jewellery! <3

Style your hair with pretty ribbons and dainty braids.

Buy yourself a cute mug for all your adorable winter drinks!

Start slowly preparing for the Holliday season, make some plans and chat with your friends.

Look out for your loved ones! Seasonal depression can be tough. Make sure they know that you are there for them. <3

Get a pretty manicure, maybe some rosy pinks, french or something glittery!

Experiment until you find the perfect hot chocolate recipe, and share it with your loved ones!

Play classical music in the background for a calm vibe.

Make sure your hands and lips stay soft! The cold can be really rough on your skin; try something with a nice scent, like vanilla. <3

Purchase a big, fluffy scarf to keep you warm.

Draw little hearts or write sweet messages on foggy windows for strangers to find; it might make their day! :)

Start adding cinnamon to your coffee; it matches the bitterness really well. <3

Take care of your skin, especially during the cold winter months; your skin deserves some extra love.

Wear cosy knitted sweaters In light pastel colours to keep you warm.

Try the 'snowy/I'm cold make-up' trend! It's adorable! (like in the cover picture) <3

Make your bed comfy; add lots of silk pillows and fuzzy blankets.

Drink tea with honey after coming home to warm up from the cold.

Bake something lovely to share and invite your friends to a cosy get-together. Maybe some cinnamon rolls? :)

Cuddle up in a warm blanket, light candles, open your windows and read while enjoying the cold air.

I hope everyone has been doing alright and November has been teating you well. As always, feel free to add more suggestions in the comments! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

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Small things that changed my life

Complimenting people. If you think someone looks good, tell them!!

Prioritising self-care!! I always do my nails, take care of my hair, skin-care. Non-negotiable.

Taking more pictures. Capturing all the little fun and lovely moments and being able to look back at them is one of my favourite things!! <33

Making time to call my friends/family. Catching up with my friends or my Mom, who travels for work, is a must!!

Finding hobbies that don't include my phone or computer. Reading, baking, working out, shopping, journaling, making collages, planning outfits <3

Stretching and working out regularly. Feeling good and looking good? Win-win.

Smiling more. Forced happiness. Kinda like manifesting, lol..

Listening to more music. I always listen to music. Life is a movie; obviously, you need a soundtrack?? Follow me on Spotify, lol <33

Going on long walks. I started two years ago when the whole 'hot girl walk' thing was trendy, and now I can't live without it!! I look forward to my walk all day long lmao.

Hydrating >>> exfoliating. I used to exfoliate my face every day… big mistake… HYDRATION.

Annotating. I've always been an avid reader, but annotating my books has completely changed my reading experience. Love it!!

Self obsessing. In a good way. I'm so in love with myself and you should be too. <33

As always, please feel free to share your own little tips in the comments; I'd love to read them!! <3

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How to Handle Procrastination

Source: James Clear.

The Two Minute Rule by David Allen

- best for small tasks such as chores and smaller work tasks (sending emails, sharing feedback, etc)

- Small wins mindset

1. The two-minute rule aims to banish procrastination and help people accomplish small tasks.

2. Here’s what the rule says: if you can do an action in two minutes or less, tackle it at the moment — and don’t delay. This has the potential to deliver long-term benefits.

Temptation Bundling

- habit stacking method

1. Temptation bundling is a concept that came out of behavioral economics research performed by Katy Milkman at The University of Pennsylvania. Simply put, the strategy suggests that you bundle a behavior that is good for you in the long-run with a behavior that feels good in the short-run.

2. Only do (what you love) while doing (what you’re procrastinating).

Eg: only do (pedicures) while (answering work emails).

Only (watch your fave tv show) while (ironing your clothes).

The Ivy Lee Method

1. At the end of each work day, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks.

2. Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance.

3. When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before moving on to the second task.

4. Approach the rest of your list in the same fashion. At the end of the day, move any unfinished items to a new list of six tasks for the following day.

5. Repeat this process every working day

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Angelic winter guide

Light candles in the morning when it's still dark and gloomy outside to create a cosy and peaceful atmosphere. <3

Write down some positive winter affirmations to set the tone for the day!

Invest in some cute accessories like ear muffs, bows, legwarmers, mittens or pearl jewellery! <3

Style your hair with pretty ribbons and dainty braids.

Buy yourself a cute mug for all your adorable winter drinks!

Start slowly preparing for the Holliday season, make some plans and chat with your friends.

Look out for your loved ones! Seasonal depression can be tough. Make sure they know that you are there for them. <3

Get a pretty manicure, maybe some rosy pinks, french or something glittery!

Experiment until you find the perfect hot chocolate recipe, and share it with your loved ones!

Play classical music in the background for a calm vibe.

Make sure your hands and lips stay soft! The cold can be really rough on your skin; try something with a nice scent, like vanilla. <3

Purchase a big, fluffy scarf to keep you warm.

Draw little hearts or write sweet messages on foggy windows for strangers to find; it might make their day! :)

Start adding cinnamon to your coffee; it matches the bitterness really well. <3

Take care of your skin, especially during the cold winter months; your skin deserves some extra love.

Wear cosy knitted sweaters In light pastel colours to keep you warm.

Try the 'snowy/I'm cold make-up' trend! It's adorable! (like in the cover picture) <3

Make your bed comfy; add lots of silk pillows and fuzzy blankets.

Drink tea with honey after coming home to warm up from the cold.

Bake something lovely to share and invite your friends to a cosy get-together. Maybe some cinnamon rolls? :)

Cuddle up in a warm blanket, light candles, open your windows and read while enjoying the cold air.

I hope everyone has been doing alright and November has been teating you well. As always, feel free to add more suggestions in the comments! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[leahsfieldnotes]

How I’m Looking After Myself (simple self care and beauty)

Hair

- High frequency on my roots on wash days (2x week), followed by onion serum meant for hair

- Homemade hair mask of egg + mayo for 15 mins before shampooing (dry hair) and applying Shikakai powder + water mixture to my roots

- Apparently air drying is bad for your hair, so I’m trying to use very little heat from the blow dryer instead

Face

- 1 clay mask/ the ordinary’s red serum mask (AHA+BHA) a week

- Morning routine: face wash, toner, vitamin C, eye cream, sunscreen and moisturiser

- Night routine: face wash, toner, hylaronic acid, eye cream, moisturiser

- Lymphatic drainage massage on mask days

- Occasionally using high frequency

- Waxing upper lip/ chin/ eyebrows myself once a week/ 15 days

- Black head removal twice a month (i steam my face while doing this)

- Minimal make up, even on work days to prevent clogged pores

Body

- a gentle body wash of mint and some other herbs

- A combo of body oil and moisturiser after shower

- Red nails and toes, always

- Waxing instead of shaving - especially down there to reduce growth, waxing lasts so much longer than shaving; I wax once in like 1.5 months

- Oil massages at my local masseuse once a month

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Guide to Building a Classic Wardrobe

I was asked a long time ago by an anon for a guide to build a wardrobe. This style caters to someone mature, slightly conservative, NOT fashionnova-esque, something that will last a long time in all fashion seasons, provided you look after your items well. I live in a relatively hot climate and the coldest temperature I’ve experienced when living in a place is like 10 degree Celsius, so I will admit that I am not very well versed with living in cold climates for a prolonged period of time (I don’t think a 2 week trip to Switzerland in the summer counts as “cold”).

I have purposely built with keeping neutrals in mind. I’ve learned that its best to first build a neutral coloured wardrobe in mind, then start adding colour to it. You might find this wardrobe boring, but if you work in a corporate environment/ somewhere where you can’t showcase too much colour or creativity/ if you come from a relatively conservative/ high profile-but-not-entertainment /modest culture, you’ll find this useful.

ALWAYS keep an eye on the material of the item you are buying. If you have to buy a sweater and you live in a cold climate, buy cashmere. Yes, it will be expensive, but it will keep you warm and last longer. If you live in a hot climate, invest in tops and dresses made out of pure cotton. Material plays a huge role in the climate you live in.

I do not endorse fast fashion or over-consumerism but I understand that it is affordable. I would therefore recommend you to buy things carefully and with consideration, not just for the sake of the environment but for your wallet. It’s better to buy 1 quality item than 10 horribly made, short-lasting items.

Never mix more than 3 colours in your outfit at a time. That’s something my father taught me, and I recommend you stick to it, especially if you’re new to building a serious wardrobe.

Lastly, do not be enthralled by what influencers buy or wear. I can guarantee you that the clothes they wear on Instagram aren’t even theirs half the time. Don’t fall into the trap of micro trends.

(Pictures for this post have been sourced from Pinterest).

Underwear

Nude bra + thong/ undie

Black bra + thong/ undie

White bra + thong/ undie

Strapless bra (black)

Strapless bra (nude)

2 sexy bra sets (optional, I have these in red, pink, blue)

Nipple pads

Tops

White silk cami

Black silk cami

White plain tee

Black plain tee

White tank

Black tank

Beige tank (or whatever suits your complexion - brown/ nude)

White shirt

Black shirt (satin/ silk)

Blue shirt

Pants

Navy blue trousers

Wine/ red high waisted trousers

White trousers

Beige trousers

Black trousers

Straight leg jeans (blue)

Another pair of jeans (not ripped, blue)

White jeans, straight leg/ mom cut

Skirts

White

Black

Red

Beige (a checked print, like Burberry)

2 maxi skirts

1 pencil skirt in black (work appropriate)

Shorts

Denim (not distressed)

Tailored white shorts

Tailored blue shorts

Tailored black shorts

Formal attire

1 maxi dress - red/ black/ a neutral colour

White/ black vest and trouser set

Everyday dresses

Knit dress in black/ cream/ brown (long)

2 summer dresses, short

White peasant dress

Outer wear

Leather jacket in black/ brown

1 cardigan in black/ white

A shawl/ silk scarf

Denim jacket

Long trench coat in camel/ brown/ beige

Blazer in white/ navy blue/ black

Sweater in black/ white/ red

Shoes

Black/ white/ brown leather boots

White/ silver heels

Black heels

Gold heels

Mules in black

Home slippers

Running shoes

White sneakers

Accessories

1 brown/ black leather bag

1 tote bag

1 clutch for parties

Hair clips

Tights/ leggings - sheer and opaque in black

Socks

Jewellery

Diamond studs

Everyday pendant

2-3 simple bracelets/ bangles in silver/ gold

Signet rings in gold

Chunky hoops

Devices

Hair straightener

Hairdryer/ Blow brush (i prefer the blow dry brush)

30 mm curling wand (for long, big curls)

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50 Interview Prep Questions

Here’s a list of questions I used to get a job. I felt it could be useful for you too, and is fairly generic. I think this is one of the most comprehensive HR/ job application question guides that I’ve created - so I hope that you find it useful.

Questions:

Why are you interested in working for this company?

Tell me about your education.

Why have you chosen this particular field?

Describe your best/worst boss/ teacher.

In a job, what interests you most/least?

What is your major weakness?

Give an example of how you solved a problem in the past.

Give me an example of a time you did something wrong. How did you handle it?

What are your strengths?

How do others describe you?

What do you consider your best accomplishment in your last job?

Where do you see yourself in three years?

Think about something you consider a failure in your life, and tell me why you think it happened.

How do you think you will fit into this operation?

If you were hired, what ideas/talents could you contribute to the position or our company?

What do you know about this company?

Give an example where you showed leadership and initiative.

Give an example of when you were able to contribute to a team project.

What have you done to develop or change in the last few years?

Tell me about a time where you had to deal with conflict on the job.

What are your goals?

What can you do for us that other candidates can't?

If I were your supervisor and asked you to do something that you disagreed with, what would you do?

Describe how you would handle a situation if you were required to finish multiple tasks by the end of the day, and there was no conceivable way that you could finish them.

Can you describe a time when your work was criticized?

Give me an example of a time that you felt you went above and beyond the call of duty at work.

What was the last project you led, and what was its outcome?

Where would you like to be in your career five years from now?

What do you know about this industry?

Have you ever been on a team where someone was not pulling their own weight? How did you handle it?

How do you want to improve yourself in the next year?

What do you see yourself doing within the first 30 days of this job?

If selected for this position, can you describe your strategy for the first 90 days?

What are your lifelong dreams?

What do you ultimately want to become?

What is your personal mission statement?

What's the last book you read?

Who are your heroes?

What do you like to do for fun?

What do you do in your spare time?

Tell me about a time when you had to give someone difficult feedback. How did you handle it?

Are you willing to relocate?

What salary are you seeking?

How would you describe your work style? (Autonomous/ collaborative/ freedom to take certain decisions/ get a list of tasks from your boss and finish that)

What would be your ideal working environment?

How do you juggle multiple high-priority projects?

Tell me about a time you had to deal with a difficult client. How did you handle it?

How does this job fit in with your career aspirations?

Do you have any questions for me?

How well do you assimilate into a new environment?

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Ways to Feel Like a Powerful Woman

1. Buy lingerie when you’re single.

2. Read about finance and news.

3. Take care of your physical body.

4. Meditate.

5. Stay in touch with your friends - host every now and then if you can.

6. Set small goals everyday and accomplish them.

7. Be disciplined in whatever you do.

8. Work on your emotions. It’s important to be aware of what you’re feeling, and not brush them away.

9. Be good at math. Bonus points if you can calculate discounts, sales and tips in your head.

10. Stick to one sport of any kind. It’ll create a sense of self.

11. Aim to always be educated, without your ego of knowing everything getting in the way.

12. Cut off people - especially men- when they aren’t worth your time. Do it politely, cordially and quickly.

13. Be able to say no.

14. Dedicate one day a week to beauty and care. Masks, hair removal (if you choose to), exfoliation, blackhead removal, body brushing, nails - take care of your body.

15. Enjoy things without developing an attachment to them.

16. Know the best happening places in your city/ the city you know you’re going to eventually live in/ your dream city. Events, people (even if you don’t know them personally), establishments - keep yourself up to date.

17. Iron your clothes before you wear them.

18. Never prioritise anyone over your well being.

19. Drink stuff that isn’t alcohol or soda. Water, soups, cold pressed juices, smoothies, teas.

20. Multivitamins and collagen.

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How to get your life together : a guide

1) Make a list of goals you want to achieve, if you don’t you’re going to forget about them. It could be yearly goals, it could be monthly goals or both (even better). Just write them down and put them somewhere you can see them every day. Also don’t forget about the smart rule :

Specific (simple, sensible, significant).

Measurable (meaningful, motivating).

Achievable (agreed, attainable).

Relevant (reasonable, realistic and resourced, results-based).

Time bound (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).

2) Choose habits which will lead your towards your goals. You want to be a the top of your class ? Start by actually completing your homework, assignments and by paying attention in class. You want strong and healthy hair ? Stop using heat every day and start a hair care routine. Yes, it is that simple trust me.

3) Starts adding those habits to your daily life and be realistic. For exemple, if you want to achieve your dream body start exercising and eating healthy. You want to keep those achievable and enjoyable : if you used to never step away from your couch for too long, you are not going to exercise 5 times a week right away. Start small, start with maybe twice a week and then add more when you feel ready.

4) Stop making excuses. You cannot reach your goals if you find excuses to stay home and do nothing such as « I will start on Monday » or « I am a bit tired today so I’ll just rest ». Don’t, if you really are motivated you will start right now and won’t skip your workout. The less you do, the less you wanna do.

5) Remind yourself why you wanna reach those goals and motivate yourself. You cannot solely rely on motivation, you have to create it yourself. Make vision boards of you dream life and ask yourself why you want to get out of your actual situation. If you already feel miserable and lazy in your every day life it won’t hurt to at least try, right ?

6) Enjoy the steps. That one is the most important. If you feel like completing a workout is torture, you will last a week or two tops. If doing your skin care or a daily walk feels boring, you will stop doing it. Try making those interesting by watching a movie or listening a podcast at the same time, find a workout you’re actually able to enjoy.

7) Finally : enjoy your results. If you’ve kept up the work for months, even weeks you will see them. People will start praising you about your hair, your skin… You will be able to see those changes yourself when you look at your body or at your grades. You will also be more confident because when you decide to put in the work and get results, you will be so proud of yourself I can assure you that.

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A happier life in 2023

Health

Nourish your body properly, drink enough water, eat your greens, and take vitamins.

Don't punish yourself if you're having a bad day, are upset, or had something negative happen in your life, dont take it out on your body by depriving yourself of your daily needs.

Aim to become the healthiest version of yourself. Exercise and eat to feel your best, focus on your education, read, and be social.

Try therapy. Talking to someone helps you organize your thoughts, especially if you struggle with overthinking or anxiety. It's 2023; there is no shame in asking for help!! <3

80/20 rule. Find balance in your diet and lifestyle.

Mindset

Treat yourself with care and love. You deserve to feel good; start by appreciating yourself more and aim to feel comfortable within yourself.

Stop comparing yourself, your life and your accomplishments to others. Everyone has a different back story, don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle.

Ignoring negativity. Maybe delusion truly is the key to happiness. Remember the brightest moments, write them down and keep them close to your heart. :)

Smile at people. If you start sending good vibes, they will eventually come back to you.

Be kind. Small acts of kindness can truly mean the world. <3

Lifestyle

Spent more time in the sun. Try reading, studying, or exercising outside when it's sunny!

Be organized. Buy a planner, try notion, start using your calendar more. Staying organized is a great way to reduce stress in your day-to-day life!

Small daily comforts, a nice perfume, your favourite tea or coffee... simple small things that you can look forward to every day <3

Establish routines. Getting up earlier, open your curtains, some simple stretches, having daily routines can be so relaxing and fun!

Save money not just for emergencies but also to treat yourself! Set yourself saving goals for things that you've been wishing for :)

As always, Please feel free to add more suggestions in the comments!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[leahsfieldnotes]

How to Study like Rory Gilmore

A guide on romanticising school, studying like Rory Gilmore, and effective study methods. <3

Create a schedule. Rory is well-known for her strict schedule and commitment to sticking to it. To study like Rory, you should first make a timetable outlining your study time, reading time, and free time. Include breaks in your schedule and follow it as strictly as possible! :)

Lots of reading. Rory is an avid reader who always carries a book with her. Pick books that interest you and make reading a daily habit. Reading will help you develop your vocabulary and critical thinking skills.

Take notes. Rory is well-known for her detailed notes and ability to retain information. Take notes in class and annotate your books. Make your notes more structured by using highlighters and different colours, and review them daily. (goodnotes and notion are great for digital note taking!)

Make use of flashcards. Rory memorises stuff through flashcards. Flashcards can be used for vocabulary terms, key concepts, and other relevant information. Use them to test yourself and review regularly.

Define your goals. Rory has a set goal, what are you working towards? Make a vision board, write down your goals, visualize. This will help you stay motivated and not loose focus!

Stay organised. Rory is well-organised, and her study space is always neat and tidy. Keep your study area nice and free from distractions. Use folders, binders, and other tools to keep your notes and supplies organised, and make sure your workspace is clean and clutter-free.

Seek help when needed. Rory is not afraid to ask for help when she needs it. Don't hesitate to ask for help from your teachers, tutors, or classmates if you need it. To enhance your learning, ask questions and seek out extra resources such as textbooks, youtube videos, and study guides.

Atmosphere. Don't forget to make the atmosphere cosy, light a candle, prepare yourself a cup of tea or coffee, and wear a comfy sweater. Create an environment in which you can stay focused for hours. <3

Studying like Rory Gilmore requires dedication, discipline, and a love for learning. By following these tips and strategies, you can create a study routine that works for you and helps you achieve your academic goals.

As always, Please feel free to add more suggestions or questions in the comments!

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

[leahsfieldnotes]

(through gritted teeth) i love being out of my comfort zone it is necessary for my personal development

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10 Pretty Privilege Affirmations FORCED

My beauty brings men to tears every nanosecond

My desirability increases by 10,000% increments at the universe’s speed

I am a show-stopper at every place I visit every nanosecond

My confidence is increasing in magnetism at the universe’s speed

My pretty privilege makes me money every nanosecond

I am immune to low quality experiences every nanosecond

My walk brings traffic to a standstill

I am so stunning, I naturally have a spotlight every nanosecond

I am immune to time wasters every nanosecond

My pretty privilege is opening every door I desire at the universe’s speed

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Subtle ways to change how people view you:

Lean in slightly to appear more interested in the conversation

Speak slower and softer if you wish to seem like a dream / at peace

Keep your bag organized, when you reach to grab things out of it you’ll seem more put together if there’s little to no struggle to find things

Using a fragrance oil on your wrist and under your ears will seem more Sophisticated than spraying yourself with perfume

Read poetry, keep a select few favorites in your mind. When people ask what you enjoy, say poetry and provide an example. You’ll appear more emotionally intelligent

If you’re going to fake smile, move the muscles under your eyes so that your cheeks raises enough to halfway squint. It seems more genuine that way.

Walk with your head up everywhere. And I mean everywhere.

Stop messing with your little imperfections only you notice. There’s no need to straighten your shirt, rub your hand down your pants etc. Leave it be and you will appear more confident.

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green flag: you're not worrying about how your laugh sounds or looks when you're with them

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things that mean a lot to me but I will never mention:

• goodnight/ goodmorning texts • I miss you’s • I hope you’re okay’s • thinking about you • when someone goes out of their way to show you they care • when someone shows a real interest in you • feeling wanted • feeling like what you feel is validated •feeling important