librarianoftheclayr

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i feel like something that's missing from some people's understanding of kink fiction and fantasy is, like... in fiction and fantasy, everything is in-scene.

when real people do kink in real life, you gotta do all that good out-of-scene stuff like discuss boundaries, set limits and expectations, check in with each other, do aftercare, et cetera et cetera et cetera... but in fiction, everything can be in-scene!

the people in that fanfic don't exist any more than, like, the make-believe sexy football star and make-believe sexy cheerleader in a couple's roleplay exist. that couple doesn't need to get into character and then pretend to be a sexy football star having an important consent conversation with a sexy cheerleader, because that's a conversation that's already happened out-of-scene and out-of-character. (i mean, if you're into in-character negotiations, chase your bliss.) when they're in that scene, they can just pretend to be a sexy football star having sex with a sexy cheerleader. that's okay.

so like. when fiction does kink in a way that would be unsafe or harmful irl... just keep in mind that you're not watching actual people neglecting check-ins or ignoring their set contract or genuinely harming each other. you're watching a scene without the behind-the-scenes bits, and that's okay.

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ok the first rule of experimental psychology is that once that door is closed, all of us are completely cut off from all of the cultural and experiential forces that have ever shaped us and we are now somehow communing observationally with unspoilt Human Nature in its infinitive state. (because the door is closed.) the second rule of experimental psychology is to have fun and be yourself

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Relationship statuses and how much I doubt it if you add "happily" in front of it:

Happily single: I have no reason to question that, nobody else gets to decide how you feel, and I'm happy for you.

Happily dating: Kind of weird that you'd feel the need to clarify. You know you don't have to date someone who doesn't make you happy, right?

Happily engaged: Same as previous, but more so. You know you should not be getting married to someone who doesn't make you happy, right? I'm not leaving before I know that you know.

Happily married: Could go either way tbh, but most likely you are. If someone's not actually happy with their marriage, it shows, no matter what they say.

Happily divorced: Yeah this one I have no reason to doubt. Nobody says they're happy about being divorced unless they really are happy about it.

Happily widowed: I wouldn't doubt that you are but girl did you kill him.

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i think every british journalist should just be gunned down

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dont piss me off. next time you go on a trip im filling your house with galapagos finches. by the time you return, they've evolved to fill your niche. they're a better spouse to your partner. they're a better parent for your child. and? they're a better friend to me than you ever were.

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this is getting concerning no i do not want to coddle a man like a child nor do i want him to control me and make all my decisions. have none of you considered maybe a man who is nice to you and treats you well and respects you. just a thought

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it does not matter if you think it’s “badly prioritized,” most people are going to see the bigotry that they face as their number one priority. they will not throw in with people who mock and demean and belittle their concerns, who say they are jumping at shadows, and why should they?

[librarianoftheclayr]

Making a weighted velvet baikal seal plushie :3

Head and tail end are stuffed w ultra plush fiber fill and the bulk of the body is packed full of weighted pellets that have a nice crunchy sound when you squeeze it. Not weighed yet, but it feels between 1.5 - 2lbs?

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maarten inghels

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When you spend all day gentle parenting other people’s children and then watch their parents undo it :)

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I got 9 rounds into 180 stitches of lace knitting with the splittingest yarn ever and realised I'd joined it twisted at the beginning and had to rip it all back to the start and I DID NOT THROW IT ACROSS THE ROOM WHILE HOWLING LIKE A BANSHEE and I think that kind of composure and self-discipline is very sexy actually.

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y’all ever read a fanfic that you cannot believe an author just wrote for free?? what an honor it is to read a piece of someone’s soul they shared out of nothing but love for a piece of media. what a privilege it is to be allowed their talent because you share an interest!!

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He made it 🥺

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Put bluntly, Jackson, while preserving Gimli and Legolas’ friendship, has pretty dramatically reshaped the characters to fit modern standards of masculinity. Gone is Gimli and Legolas’ concern for each other over the result of the ‘game’ at the end of the Battle of the Hornburg, replaced by juvenile one-ups-manship in the film (also done away with, I will note, is that Gimli is wounded in the books: “about his head was a linen band stained with blood,” which colors the scene; I don’t think we ever see Gimli or Legolas truly wounded in the films). We get Gimli’s fear before the Halls of the Dead in the films (only when his comrades aren’t looking), but not his moment of vulnerability confessing the terror to Pippin (RotK, 165). Gone too is Legolas’ sea-longing, or his remark that there was grief at Aragorn and Eowyn’s parting and that it grieved him to see it – not only that it happened, but that it made him feel a feeling just to see it. We do not see Legolas feel many feelings in the Jackson films, really. Mostly he looks stoic and occasionally cracks wise.

Instead, Legolas turns into the silent type, playing the straight-elf to Gimli’s humorous blunderer. Gimli mostly exists as the butt of the joke while Legolas exists to be awesome (despite the fact that, as the Unfinished Tales remarks, Legolas was perhaps the least impactful of the company). A great deal of both character’s emotional vulnerability is lost, buried under layer after layer of cutting humor and ‘ribbing’ worn like armor. In effect, both heroes are remodeled into modern ‘action heroes’ at, I think, considerable cost to their richer, deeper book characters.

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I really hate to side with Gollum on this, but “what’s in my pocket” is not a riddle and should not have counted. 

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Oh and I want to fight all the Gen Z kids who are like ‘teehee, we’ll just do lavender marriages instead!’ Some of us are adults who want equal rights and protections under the law of our land.