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i cant believe a woman directed babygirl but alas we support women's rights AND wrongs

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Challenge gender roles, embrace your natural body.

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so true actually

I dont think that TERFs exists. If you are a radical feminist (as the ,,RF" part of that acronym suggests), then you understand that opression is based on sex. female people are opressed no matter their identity, location, body, name etc. etc.

Radical feminism or ,,terfism" simply doesnt include males. The big bad evil TERF who thinks that trans men or afab nonbinary people or whatnot are opressors isnt real. Its a contradictory term. We can all drink some matcha ice tea now.

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i wish i could tell everyone this

« The world is not divided between East and West. You are American, I am Iranian, we don’t know each other, but we talk and we understand each other perfectly. The difference between you and your government is much bigger than the difference between you and me. And the difference between me and my government is much bigger than the difference between me and you. And our government are very much the same. » - Marjane Satrapi, Iranian Graphic Novelist

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is it nice advocating for your rights on a dinner table? is it okay for you to tense up whenever a man passes by in the streets? is it ideal to never know a different world where your subjugation didn't exist? no, but we do it everyday and we will continue to.

I do not have a gender. I'm not cis. I'm a woman because I'm female, not by choice. Many times I wish I wasn't. Who would, in a world where we are oppressed and discriminated? In a world where we are always treated as less? Where we are made to hate our bodies for what they are and for what they aren't, for what they can and can't do?

I wish I had no body. I wish I was neutral. But I can't. It's okay to feel that way, it's normal. We must find strength in each other.

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I am deeply, deeply sympathetic to the horrific trauma that gender-nonconforming male/amab children are subjected to on the basis of their gender-nonconformity, but it is SO intellectually dishonest to say "I was abused because of my femininity in my boyhood and therefore I am not male socialized" when being abused for expressions of femininity that are COUNTER to how you're expected to behave is literally definitionally male socialization. Female/afab children are not abused out of their femininity in an effort to get them to express masculinity, because female socialization is centered around extorting feminine, diminutive behavior out of girls.

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where do people get the idea that we live in an extremely puritanical era. im genuinely asking bc everywhere i look i feel like porn has rotted everything

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What transphobia actually is:

Firing someone solely for being trans

Being denied housing solely for being trans

Physically assaulting and murdering someone solely for being trans

What is not transphobia

Someone not wanting to date/have sex with a trans person

Acknowledging biological sex and differences

Women wanting their own single sex spaces (sports, gyms, clubs, etc.)

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“When I was young, women were raped on the campus of a great university and the authorities responded by telling all the women students not to go out alone after dark or not to be out at all. Get in the house. (For women, confinement is always waiting to envelope you.) Some pranksters put up a poster announcing another remedy, that all men be excluded from campus after dark. It was an equally logical solution, but men were shocked at being asked to disappear, to lose their freedom to move and participate, all because of the violence of one man.”

— Rebecca Solnit, Grandmother Spider in Men Explain Things To Me and Other Essays

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tired of being visually assaulted everytime I wear a short and a tanktop any advice?

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lesbian: look you’re just not someone I consider part of my dating pool

man with she pronouns: but i IDENTIFY as part of your dating pool

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halsey just wrote “my body carries sadness that my brain cannot yet see, and i’ve been holding onto memories in my stomach and my teeth, and my shoulders have been burdened by the weight of my mistakes, and everytime you lean in closer both my knees can’t help but shake” and i’m just supposed to be normal about it?????

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from “You Can’t Fuck The Sadness Away” by Vanishing Points, Substack

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the “block op they’re a terf” movement was so thorough that now none of the libfems have any idea what radical feminism is about. I just saw a post saying that we enforce rigid gender roles and most of us are white like…not only are there a LOT of radfems of color (including myself), our whole thing is abolishing gender while acknowledging sex based oppression

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the relatively small-fry feminist issue that upsets me the most is that girls hardly use parks, and in every survey and study, they cite boys as the reason. skate parks, basketball courts, soccer fields, they’re overwhelmingly male dominated starting at a very young age. girls get less physical activity, get out of the house less, and participate in less play, because as soon as those spaces have boys in them, girls are either pushed out, or stop using them before they can be.

and it’s a minority of landscape architects who factor this in when designing new parks. are they well lit? are the bathrooms clean and in a busy space? do they have walking trails, roller skating loops, bike paths, rather than only organized courts? are those paths wide enough to accommodate groups? are there multiple courts/play areas, sectioned off from each other? are there lit, covered seating areas, especially picnic tables or other group seating?

in an ideal world, girls would feel just as welcome jumping into a pick-up game as boys, would be able to claim a soccer field with their friends and not worry it would be overtaken or they would be jeered at, would feel free to take up hobbies like skateboarding and go to the park on their own. but they don’t. we’re not in that world. claiming a mixed sex space is an equal one is a lie, for now. we have to meet girls where they are.

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Women have another option. They can aspire to be wise, not merely nice; to be competent, not merely helpful; to be strong, not merely graceful; to be ambitious for themselves, not merely for themselves in relation to men and children. They can let themselves age naturally and without embarrassment, actively protesting and disobeying the conventions that stem from this society’s double standard about aging. Instead of being girls, girls as long as possible, who then age humiliatingly into middle-aged women, they can become women much earlier – and remain active adults, enjoying the long, erotic career of which women are capable, far longer. Women should allow their faces to show the lives they have lived. Women should tell the truth.

— Susan Sontag, from “The Double Standard of Aging”