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i don't know who needs to hear this, but:

there is no "right", 100% freak-proof way to depict rape or incest in fiction. someone somewhere is going to think your story is sexy or romantic no matter how carefully you handle the material.

there is also no "right", 100% critic-proof way to depict rape or incest in fiction. someone somewhere is going to feel like you were insensitive or wrote it as a kink thing no matter how carefully you handle the material.

write what you want. tag it appropriately. you cannot please everyone and you'll drive yourself crazy trying.

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It's always "take vengeance on your slavers" but when I, MIRRI MAZ DUUR, do it with a fan favorite character---

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Wikipedia describes Tanith Lee as exploring “themes of gender and sexuality” which at first I took as a statement that would more or less apply to every woman in 80s SFF but what they actually meant by that is she’s obsessed with cross-dressing, dual-gendered souls, gender shapeshifting, people being possessed by entities of a different gender, intersex divinities, etc. remember this is an author who said some of their works were authored by the ghost of a gay man who sometimes borrowed her body to write erotic fiction with

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i hate it when a ship is so popular fhat you cant go into a character tag without seeing the other guy too... i dont want him. go away

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something about tyrion lannister—the man who treats sex workers like property, fantasizes about raping and killing his sister, slaps his teenage lover for mocking him, makes his child bride undress and proceeds to grope her, strangles his lover to death for humiliating him, rapes multiple enslaved women (on his way to the literal breaker of chains)—being haunted by the question of “where do whores go?” is genuinely horrifying.

after a lifetime of physical, emotional, and sexual abuse against women—particularly sex workers—now you want to know where whores go? now you’re finally starting to consider them beyond the context of sexual objectification? to understand what could have happened to tysha, tyrion has to understand a group of people who have never even been human to him (and still aren’t, considering that he rapes two enslaved women before asking them this question, though he doesn’t get an answer from either woman). even regarding tysha, tyrion only starts asking “where do whores go?” after finding out that she wasn’t a sex worker and therefore didn’t deserve to be gang raped. tyrion only recognizes her humanity when she’s once again defined as HIS wife.

tyrion will never know where whores go because he doesn’t deserve to. maybe he’ll find peace or maybe he won’t, but he’s never going to find tysha.

and yeah, tyrion’s misogyny and abusive behavior doesn’t exist in a vacuum. he’s a victim of sexual violence at the hands of his father. he resents women for the revulsion and mockery he sees in their eyes when they look at him. he treats sex workers like objects because they’re the only group of people that he can exercise control over. ALL of that is true. and he’s still never going to know where whores go.

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苇名的樱花开了

cherry blossoms of Ashina

Reference: pin.it/74alildIM

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Entitled white women I swear to God

People have been doing book clubs since forever. They do not put George RR Martin on the phone so he can join the chat.

Oh, thank you, kindly court jester jingling into my life under the brave banner of anonymity, for illustrating the exact problem of current fandom.

(This ask is about this post about private fanfiction "book clubs," for those of you who are not following my jester's ire.)

The bedrock of the problem entrenched fandom is having with the newer "TikTok fandom" element is that we have a fundamental disagreement about what fandom is, and what is the social relationship between the people who write fanfiction, make fanart, etc, and the people who read that fanfiction and enjoy that fanart.

(I am not going to use the term "content creator." Because that term is not applicable to fandom, fanfiction authors, or fan artist. Kill the capitalist in your brain. Content is hummingbird nectar made with artificial sweeteners. It resembles the real thing at a distance, but it is devoid of nutrients. It will fill you up so you're not hungry while starving you. Generative AI can produce content because it's empty; it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't even want to engage with you. The sole purpose of content is to get you to sit still long enough for the people who own the platform to squeeze whatever it is they want from you out of you and then abandon your malnourished husk until the next time they can get something from you.)

George RR Martin is not a member of fandom, and the relationship he has with his readers is fundamentally different, because his relationship as an author is explicitly a professional one. When George RR Martin sells a book—not to his readers, but to a publisher who acts as intermediary—he is given a lengthy contract outlining the terms of the sale. How much he will be paid, what can be done with his work by who, etc. George RR Martin is not your peer.

Fanfiction authors are your peers. They're your next door neighbors. They write fanfiction to connect to other fans in celebration of a canon everyone involved loves. Nobody makes a single red cent from writing or sharing their fanfiction. George RR Martin has sold 90 million copies of his books, and he gets money for every one. Because TikTok has trained you that people who are putting their creations out there are monetizing the experience of you reading or watching their art, the "TikTok fandom" element has you sorting your peer posting fanfiction on AO3 into the same category as George RR Martin. But your relationship with George RR Martin is a professional one, and the expectation from fanfiction authors and artists is a social relationship.

When you have a private book club reading and discussing fanfiction without ever telling the author or, God forbid, leaving a comment about how much you enjoyed the story—which is the expectation entrenched fandom authors and artists who view fandom as a social relationship—you think you're reading a mass produced novel from someone who has already been paid for it several times over, but this isn't even Walmart vs. local mom and pop. What are you actually doing is going to your neighborhood block party, picking up the cake someone made and brought to share, and taking it back to your house to eat with friends.

We are your peers. We are your neighbors. We are doing this for free because we want to talk to you about our common interest. No, it's not "payment." We offer our work for free, and you have the option of treating us like vending machines or ChatGPT or Walmart. This is a social relationship; you have this option just as you have the option of leaving your shopping cart in the middle of the parking lot instead of walking it to the cart return. You have that option just as you have the option to stick your chewed gum on a park bench or park your car across three handicap spaces or take a shit on the floor of a public bathroom. How you treat your peers and neighbors, how you treat the people in your community, is up to you.

You can keep stealing cakes from block parties. But don't be surprised when people get fed up with it and stop having block parties. Then you'll be stuck buying cake from Walmart or consuming artificially sweetened hummingbird nectar from ChatGPT while vultures raid your corpse for data.

Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk, court jester. Now get the fuck off my lawn.

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Ko-fi doodle comm; this time of Morgott cuddlin a huge teddy.

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god i hope the DLC characters are either lady knights who can take a hit or more yaoi bait so i can see something besides fucking wyldeye everywhere

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From some people mad at cosplayers doing Anya from mouthwashing and doing some sexy poses: "ONLY SA SURVIVORS SHOULD COSPLAY SA SURVIVOR CHARACTERS!!" You... you don't see how that's a pretty fucked up demand? You do see how that's dehumanizing and vile. Right? The fuck?

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Ah yes, give up on liking characters you relate to or else broadcast your personal trauma to the world. What a good and functional way to approach cosplay.

I mean, anyone should be able to cosplay Anya, but even if we agreed with the stance that it should be SA survivors... The implications, man... Have they thought this through?

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the house that was condemned may be yet redeemed. i shall personally lick away all mold if i must . if i must

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would do anything to protect their smile

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An exchange with a friend: Me: [notes that I find Dr Temple Grandin's tendency to make sweeping statements about autistics that work on the assumption that all autistics work exactly like her kind of endearing even though it's totally wrong, because it's such a fucking autistic way to be wrong] My friend: I think that's a really untrue generalization, I don't think that's an autistic trait at all. Me: [too tired for once to argue about shit] Okay. {BREAK OF SOME TIME} A direct-message from my friend: My friend: Remember when you were talking about Grandin being very autistic in her assumption that all autistics are just like her. Me: Yeah? My friend: I accidentally just spent a shitload of time on autistic TikTok and Instagram and I now know exactly what you were talking about.

(pro-tip to young and newly diagnosed autistics: do not assume that the communication problem you're having is always because the other person is an NT who refuses to try. It may in fact be a fellow autistic who has a different POV on the world than you and thinks YOU'RE being some asshole NT who can't just communicate directly.)

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look i'm just going to block anyone who comments "Messmer did nothing wrong" on my posts. it's annoying.