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it's a fine tuesday with tummies around!

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It's so warm this tummy tuesday, so have a brief photo of me relaxing before heading back to work

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nonchalance turns me off so badly. give me obsession on the brink of depravity or give me nothing

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i hope i'm not just a friend to you but also a warm tight unwilling hole to jerk yourself off with

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My wife is out helping her Mom, my two local partners are out together at an event, and I'm at home, being internally horny as hell.

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All songs taken from my recently played. Yes there are duplicate artists, deal with it. They're not all I listen to, just what's come up in the past few weeks

Look Alive, Sunshine – My Chemical Romance

Undercurrent – Jami Sieber

Moth Into Flame – Metallica

It's Not a Fashion Statement, It's a Death Wish – Mu Chemical Romance

Na Na Na (Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na Na) – My Chemical Romance

After Midnight – Chappel Roan

Naked In Manhattan – Chappel Roan

Teardrop – Massive Attack

Ju$t – Run The Jewels

The Emptiness Machine – Linkin Park

Saving Faces – Orgy

Serotonin – Girl in Red

Tags: you. You're tagged. Get to it.

Tagged by @maj-spirals to spell out my URL using song titles; then tag as many people as there are letters in my URL (going to fail that)

J - Juna / Clairo

E - Everything Now / Arcade Fire

N - Neat Neat Neat / The Damned

N - No Pussy Blues / Grinderman

Y - You Need Me Now? / girl in red & Sabrina Carpenter

B - Brandy Alexander / Feist

B - Boom Boom / John Lee Hooker

A - Alternative Girlfriend / Barenaked Ladies

C - Can’t Be Still / illuminati hotties

K - Kaleidoscope / Chappell Roan

I’m tagging @sad-butt @lasmokingbunny @tuesy @themiserychic @la-principessa-nuova @lunasgayshit @starfruit-selections

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True story: one of my old friends, a cis dude, when he was first talking to the True Me after id begun transition:

Him: "So, wait, did you ever make the joke that because you like girls you must be a lesbian?"

Me: "Well, yeah!"

Him: "So did I. But then I laughed and moved on. I guess you never forgot about it, huh?"

Me: "I truly didn't."

And that's how I knew that the guy who makes the best dick and fart jokes, also somehow truly understands the core of being trans.

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I'm gonna keep the other post civil.

But fuckit, here's the thunder dome post. Here's the poorly articulated pop off. If you want to fight me, fight me in the notes here, let's get our online arguments out of the way and then we can all go back to actual action and survival and community building (you are doing that, right?)

But anyways. Here's the fucking deranged tranny rant about how many people, including transmascs, are talking about transmisogyny:

I'm frustrated by the absolute, sheer REFUSAL of people to realize how misogyny affects trans women, and the silencing that comes with it. Too often I've seen trans women talk about a specifically trans woman issue, only to be hit with a "they hate all of us equally". Maybe they hate us all equally. I don't have a fucking hatred measuring meter stick. But they don't hate us all the same.

And so when I talked about that bathroom issue. When I talked about the annoying as fuck joke about "Oohh look at me I'm a big hairy trans man going into the woman's room where the transphobes want me!" And I told trans men to stay out of it for a moment. It came from a place of "for the love of fucking God let trans women talk FOR FUCKING ONCE without being talked over here". The sheer impossibility to convey the idea that women's spaces are the ones policed was fucking infuriating. People pointed out the example of a trans man being arrested in a bathroom- failing to mention that IT WAS A WOMANS RESTROOM!!!

And I just. I don't fucking know. Somewhere along the way, trans men also started claiming "erasure" and "lack of representation" as uniquely transmasc issues that trans women will never know and I'm like ???? Where the FUCK are you seeing these waves of genuine trans women voices in the media. Because I see some- and I also see transmasculine voices, in the news, on social media, arguing in front of the Supreme Court.

And then I don't see trans women. I see clowns. Clowns in dresses for cis people to laugh at. I see men in dresses representing something that is not trans, so we can be a laughing stock.

And somewhere in the whole mess, I just want to scream: FUCKING LISTEN TO US. The important point here is NOT about whether trans androphobia exists or not. It's that there is SO. FUCKING. MUCH. That trans women are going through that we can't even talk about, partially because it's so far fucking down the "Todo" list of activism.that it doesn't even seem like it matters, and partially because NO ONE WILL FUCKING LISTEN TO US

And look. I get it. Transmascs arent listened to either. I know. I've seen it happen to my friends in real time.

But no one. Fucking NO ONE. Is prepared for the sheer level of punching down and sheer DISGUST that people have towards trans women. This isn't an oppression Olympics. More what I'm talking about is that people DONT THINK TRANS WOMEN ARE AFFECTED BY MISOGYNY DAY TO DAY, and YES this has affected me in the workplace and in my daily life so this is not me being terminally online, fuck off. The sheer lack of support trans women have for condescension, discrimination, sexual violence, because we are EXCLUDED FROM SUPPORT NETWORKS THAT UPLIFT WOMEN AGAINST MISOGYNY is INSANE. My cis friends have seen it happen to me a few times, and are fucking FLOORED every time.

Many people don't believe I can get sexually harassed. Until they see it happen. People don't think that men are treating me with the sexism they treat other women with in professional environments. Until they see it happen. People don't believe my experiences with SA. Until I show them the evidence.

And I hear you screaming "Sierra that's how all women are treated no one believes women" AND THATS MY FUCKING POINT

But people are unpacking how they listen to cis women, and haven't made it to trans women yet

So yeah, sometimes it isn't about trans men. Sometimes it isn't "they hate all of us". Sometimes trans women need to actually talk.

Also, counterintuitively, this and everything in my other post are why I fucking hate TME and TMA. They completely reduce and obscure what transmisogyny is actually about. Not only do they separate trans women from being affected by frameworks of misogyny that have existed for longer periods of time, it also frames transmisogyny as a unique thing that is an inherent property of transfemmes that can't be avoided. When it should be fucking unpacked and addressed. This is super fucking nitpicky, but if I see "TME" in your bio, it's a little message to me about how you're more concerned about using the right acronym or right words as opposed to actually unpacking your relationship to transmisogyny as a societal force. PLEASE just call yourself transfemme or transmasc instead of TME or TMA. I guess that's not important in the whole grand scheme of things but fucking seriously, it just seems childish.

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being dominant about consent

“you will tell me if something makes you uncomfortable.”

“can I touch you here, sweetheart?”

“would you like me to think for you for a bit, smart girl?”

“i will always take care of you. you can put your trust in me.”

“tell me your color, or i will stop.”

“tell me with words, or i will stop”

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"An insult to practically everybody with any point of view at all" one of the most beautiful sentences possible with the English language.

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Reblog if your tits are free-use stress balls for any lesbian who needs them

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Mouth on bulge through the fabric. You agree. Reblog

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in general i think we should talk more about the emotional changes on feminizing hrt, like we all know it gives you some nice boobs and hips after a year or so but every time it's just listed as generic "emotional changes" with no further elaboration on what actually happens to you

like of course it's a bit difficult to do because so much is anecdotal and heavily varied but we can't just brush off the new, wonderful levels of emotional depth you get in favor of growing a rack. i am not exaggerating when i say that shit probably saved my life already.

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how i am trying to beeeeeee

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that's a happy ending, kindness in action can do some good here and there.

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With my youngest son at Micro Center. It's an okay little trip, but he's doing the thing kids do and asking for everything he's sees that's mildly interesting. Doesn't matter if it's $5 or $3,500. And I'm over it and maybe a little grumpy about it. We both got what we came for, I just wanna pay and leave.

The cutest young trans girl happens to be at the register we get sent to. I've got various pins on my purse, and I instinctually let my voice get a bit resonant, the way you do when it's Just Us around.

She's obviously jazzed to see an Elder Trans in the wild. Both of us are all smiles. We chat briefly, complimenting one another's tattoos, hairstyles, clothing. She tells me she wants a moon tattoo like mine; I tell her I want an estrogen molecule like hers.

Clearly, both or days were wildly improved, just by happening to cross paths.

running into a trans girl while you're out and about makes the entire miserable errand worth it, whatever it was. like glancing upward at just the right time to see a shooting star. I spot a trans flag and it sincerely ceases to matter that the bus is crowded and it rained unexpectedly and my shoes are soaked through and my headphones are dead. I am happy to be on that specific bus on that specific day, because you're there too.