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Reading through my old posts. Just reblogging this cause I was right 🤣🤣🤣

Saw the first clip of the Borderlands movie and I’m just not feeling that shit. Granted I’ve been pissed since casting. Casting is so trash. I mean Kevin Hart as Roland? Are yall serious? You mean to tell me Terry Crews wasn’t available? I don’t think Jamie Lee Curtis did any research into the character of Tannis. Tannis is a bad ass in her own right. Real mad scientist vibes mixed with strict logic and unintentional humor. I’m not getting any of that from Curtis at all. Claptrap’s moment in the scene was entirely too over the top. And I’m barely taking Kate Blanchett seriously as Lilith. I think she’s a great actor, just not for this role.

But then characters like Marcus and Moxxi look spot on, and all the psychos look cool. But damn that main cast is just not it. I personally would have liked to see the 4 playable characters from Borderlands 2 (Maya and Zero most especially) as the main cast while people like Lilith and Roland pop up as side characters. But I guess that’s not the story they’re telling.

Let’s just say I don’t expect this to be the kind of success that the Fallout show was.

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I made a comment about Serena Williams lightning her skin or wearing lighter makeup, whatever it is, and my disappointment in that. I felt gaslit cause I was like I know this woman was much darker than this when I was watching her when I was growing up.

Not to pit them against each other, I’m just happy to see her sister is still beautifully chocolate. That’s all.

Venus Williams stuns for @LOfficielItalia 📸

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Happy Juneteenth to all my fellow Black Readers and Writers!!!

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the pleating?! insane

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imma say this and then i’m gone ….

BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL.

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This look took me owt! 😍😍😍

Teyana Taylor attends the 2025 #MetGala Celebrating "Superfine: Tailoring Black Style

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Jayme Lawson ❤️✨

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SAY👏🏽IT👏🏽AGAIN👏🏽

Relationships are subjective!

I’m so happy to hear this come out of somebody else mouth cause that has always been my response to the gender wars.

Giving ourselves bullshit reasons not to like each other when the reality is nobody is healed or communicating and everyone is manipulating and trying to get something out the other person.

The more y’all come to yall relationships with actual vulnerability and love, the more our relationships will be successful.

But nah, some of these men out here trying so hard to live up to white patriarchy that yall don’t realize that where WE FROM, the kings and queens always worked TOGETHER. MUTUAL RESPECT.

So if 50/50 work for yall, great!

If it don’t great!

Whatever flows in your relationship is great as long as both adults are consenting and happy with the situation. But what works for y’all may not work for another couple.

So this whole “one size fits all” depiction of relationships is tiring and foolish and unrealistic. Nobody can tell you how to be in your relationship.

And stop bringing shit to the internet when it doesn’t end well just cause you looking for validation. That feeds into this gender war bullshit too. Heal and move on. Talk about it from a “learned a lesson” place rather than a I’m still hurt so I’m gonna drag him or her place.

This dude is a godsend when it comes to male podcasters!

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Black fathers

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70s⏪

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Tatiana Ali

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Whenever my dad would give me advice or mansplain something to me, and I would disagree or be reluctant to take the advice, maybe I just felt like I couldn’t really relate to it, he would say shit like “I been there and I done that”.

Essentially the whole “there’s nothing new under the sun” statement. Which, yeah, depending on context that statement could be true.

But I remember it getting on my nerves all the time when he said that. And as a young kid and as a young adult, I didn’t really know why it bothered me. I just knew that at the time instead of explaining to me why he thought shit was a good idea or even giving me multiple options. Or sharing his own experiences for why he thought something would work, instead it was just “I know what I’m talking about. Listen to me.” In other words “because I said so”.

I now know that was a form of control.

As a 35 year old woman, I look back at those moments and I just laugh. I’m hurt but laughing through it. The explanation to any questioning I did was always well, I’ve done this already. I been around longer than you. If you would just listen to me, you’d be good. This coming from an African man born and raised in Nigeria in 1955 talking to a daughter born in 1990, born in Nigeria but being raised in America. Sure he came to America and had his college education here. But just because we’re both going to college does not mean we’re having the same experience. Just because we’re both working in the job force doesn’t mean we’re having the same experience. Just because we’ve both experienced dating, does not mean we’re having the same experience. So what does “been there done that” really do for me?

On top of that, it’s not like my dad was this highly educated genius who’d done so much work on understanding himself and the world around him and as a result had reached copious amounts of success. If he seemed happy and fulfilled in his own life, then yeah, maybe I would have been more inclined to listen to all of his advice.

But he was the exact opposite of that. A man who apparently thought he was born with all the smarts that he needed. Never taking time to read or even entertain an opinion that differs from his own, even if it means elevating his own knowledge. And believe me, it showed in everything he did and said.

He would only listen to likeminded people who would validate the beliefs he already had. And the moment they deviated, disagreed with him, or argued a different point, he would stop dealing with them or they would stop dealing with him when they saw he had no desire to grow or even acknowledge their perspective. Hence why he has no friends now. To him, he knows it all. Been there done that. There’s nothing that anyone could possibly have to teach him and anyone who tried never knew what they were talking about. Cute you had an opinion, but it’s wrong..in his eyes 🙄

He just wanted me to put him on this pedestal that he had done nothing to deserve. Because at the end of the day, did listening to him get me ahead of the curb somehow? No. If anything it set me back years. Things I had been so sure about pursuing since a young age, because it didn’t fit into his little fantasy of who he wanted me to be, he would shoot it all down. No daughter of his was going to do anything outside of what he wanted. You want to model? Being a doctor would be better. You want to write? Well don’t write fantasy like you want, write historical nonfiction or go into journalism, that’s more “respectable” and you won’t have to be a “starving artist”. You want to get into influencing or social media work? Well I’m going to follow you on every platform so I can pressure you to take down the posts I don’t like. You want to move out? It doesn’t matter that you can afford it, you should stay home until you get married so that I can help you avoid expenses. Read as: so I can continue to control and manipulate you and have easy access to you whenever I want. Because my expenses were definitely still mine, and since I had to give my mom/his wife money that he would not give her, there was no “saving” that I was really able to do.

Most parents know that once 18 or at least 20 rolls around, time to take the “raising” hat off. You’re dealing with an adult now who makes their own decisions. My dad never wanted me to get to a point of being independent from him. In his eyes, I was supposed to go from being under his control to being under another man’s control. No in between. No living on my own and taking care of myself. I was being raised to be the kind of woman that would be dependent upon a man, unable to do anything for herself or I guess too afraid to have the confidence to do it…like my mom. Ironically, I’m now with a man who can’t seem to handle any sort of business, so he depends on me for all that. He has anxiety to a degree that I don’t think he’s acknowledging. If customer service needs to be called, we’re having an issue with the leasing office, the car needs to go to the mechanic, or research needs to be done on anything that pertains to life or whatever we may need, please believe I’m the one doing it. He’s good for researching a workout or some shit about food tho. So what was I being groomed for? Lol. My dad made it seem like the man handles everything but that’s not at all my experience.

Listening to him because he “been there and done that” got me absolutely nowhere in life.

And looking at what my life could have been if only I had followed my own heart, vs what my life has been listening to him…I’m still struggling to move past the anger I feel whenever I think about it. Im still struggling to forgive myself and give myself grace for not being more of a rebel. For being so afraid to disappoint.

But my life is in my control now. Has been for the past 5 years. But I’m having to spend time healing the trauma before fully moving on, and this is only the tip of the iceberg of shit my father has done.

I guess I’m just asking the universe for strength and patience as I realize I’m not done with my healing journey.

Currently reading ‘The Body Keeps the Score’ and I’m sure it’ll inspire me to write more posts like this.

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As much as I love Rhi, it is so jarring to hear her voice coming out of smurfette lmao. She sounds so out of place to me, especially since they didn’t hire any other black voice actors to play any of the other smurfs. It’s giving they using my girl as a gimmick. I love that she’s not code switching but she also sounds exactly like herself. Not even a lil character voice, and I get the feeling that’s how she was directed. Cause compared to the only other animated movie she’s done, Home, she didn’t necessarily code switch in that either but she did have more of a character voice rather than using her own. I’m not the target audience; obviously her kids are lol. But ever since they announced her voicing smurfette I was confused. And now to hear her in the trailer, my confusion was justified lol. To me at least. The song is cute tho

New trailer of “Smurfs” featuring Rihanna new song ‘Friend Of Mine’.

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Michael B. Jordan & Wunmi Mosaku

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Yes! I need more of them, less of Hailie 🙃

MBJ & Wunmi Mosaku

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The last pic would have been better with just Russel and Ciara but anyway, love these

Inside the 2025 Met Gala