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Your abuser’s opinions of you are not who you are.

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there is no such thing as being "behind in life" but it's okay to recognise that you missed out on some things whilst you were busy surviving

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You know let me just say, to every single person with NPD, that I am so sorry the world treats you the way it does. Like you don’t deserve to be treated like a fucking Bond villain evil mastermind. You deserve better.

What prompted this, is that I was looking at books on abuse, and over 75% of them were about “narcissistic abuse” and how to “own the narcissist”. How fucked up is that?

These books are supposed to help trauma and abuse survivors, people with NPD HAVE trauma and ARE abuse survivors, yet almost all of them demonize their existence.

I’m sure even the books that aren’t explicitly about “narcissistic abuse” probably still have ableism like that in them.

So I am very sorry to all people with NPD. You deserve to be able to heal from trauma and abuse just like everyone else.

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it’s okay to not be okay. allow yourself to feel all emotions, good and bad. if you suppress your feelings, they’ll just come back again later. feel whatever emotion you’re feeling, collect yourself and then begin to heal at your own pace.

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ok so you support the disabled, disordered, and mentally ill. but are you normal when someone takes long to respond to you? or if they have a hard time listening to you? when someone has a hard time giving you their attention? or when their manners aren’t perfect? or when someone makes mistakes that may be obvious or simple to you? or when someone talks loudly or “causes a scene?” are you normal when people have to think really hard to explain things? or when they have a hard time putting their thoughts into words?

are you normal when people’s hair is unkempt or oily or visibly unbrushed? or when their face might be full of acne? or when they don’t have deodorant on for one reason or another? how about if their clothes are dirty? 

are you normal about disabled/disordered/mentally ill people when they make you a little uncomfortable?

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images I screenshotted towards the end of this video clip:

Original Tweet/X Post states: Presenting, "your sustainable future with eV batteries" Brought to you by: Cobalt Mines of Congo. Twitter/X User Response: What scares me is so much "green" technology and products and such are built off human suffering. The entire world is built on this. The entire world is irrevobaly tied to mass exploitation and I desperately hope that changes in my lifetime. #CongoGenocide #CongoIsBleeding

I have attached a video below these Tweet/X images of Congolese people in Cobalt mines. Video Description: Men, in front of a large, dark brown and muddy area of the mine are digging other men out of a hole that have been inside, excavating for Cobalt. These men are not wearing any protective equipment; other than something to cover their eyes, like goggles and lights attached to them. There is a crowd of people surrounding this area and many are cheering them on; a few men are pulled out due to the velocity/force of being pushed out of the mine area they are coming out from. It looks like the mine is opening up and down like the entrance of a beast's mouth. The exit of this part of the mine opens and closes several times during this video. I took a screenshot at the end of the video to showcase how many people have gathered, and there appears to be hundreds.

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on the days when your trauma is louder than your love, remember you are more than what has hurt you

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being a person is so weird bc i’ll be like “i wish my brain was kinder to me esp when i’m already having a hard time,” and then i remember that i’m my brain and i have to be kinder to me and that nobody else will do it for me

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Something inside of me has died and I can't bring it back to life. I feel really bad right now.

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I’ve been seeing so many posts about burnout relating to working/studying hard......but burnout from fighting mental illnesses, disabilities, and chronic conditions needs to be talked about more. When you struggle with these things, you fight so many invisible battles a day that you don’t even realize you’re burnt out. You don’t have to be studying or working or “oN tHe gRiNd” to be burnt out. Being strong every day is the most grueling and exhausting kind of work. Please know that you are valid, even if you can’t get up and work/study. You are having to learn a curriculum that school doesn’t teach, and I’m so proud of you <33

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people with cluster B personality disorders are wonderful and deserve to have their voices respected and heard. i wish everyone with cluster B personality disorders good health. whatever you're struggling with, you'll get through it! i believe in you. 💕

for those who don't know, cluster B contains: antisocial pd, borderline pd, histrionic pd, and narcissistic pd.

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Things that don’t make you a bad person:

Displaying “scary” symptoms of mental illness

Being diagnosed with multiple disorders

Having one or various personality disorders

Being diagnosed with NPD, BPD, or ASPD

Having very low empathy, or no empathy

Having symptoms that cause anger, emptiness, or paranoia

Having triggers or “strange” personal boundaries

Needing extra help or accommodations

Having intrusive thoughts about upsetting or scary topics

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Also to note: There is not one mental illness that CAUSES abuse. That is because abuse is a choice made via how someone thinks.

Abusers cause abuse, not a mental illness. So many people can have NPD and NOT be abusive because abuse is a choice. While some mental illnesses might make it easier for someone to make that choice, it is still a choice made by the person abusing first and foremost beyond any mental health factor.

Not everyone is a narcissistic abuser, sometimes they are just abusers. Not everyone with NPD is abusive.

We really truly and severely need to do something about the "narcissistic abuse" fad. like do you guys know and understand people with NPD are more likely to successfully attempt suicide (often with no warning or announcement and a solid plan) than any other PD (yes, including BPD). has anyone considered for one second that this may have something to do with the fact you can't fucking fart on the internet without hitting a post about "dealing with narcissists".

NPD often turns inward into a toxic perfectionism and even the grandiose subtype can turn into a case of fragile/vulnerable subtype in the face of extreme, berating criticism (like, yknow, not being able to google your disorder without getting 1000 results about how irredeemable you are)

when you see people stigmatising NPD: call it out. tell people "narcissistic" doesn't equal abuser, it doesn't equal toxic, and it isn't acceptable to use it as such. remind people there are other words they can use. don't let it slide just because "oh but they're venting about trauma :(". A vent that contributes to the trauma of people who read it is not a vent. do not drop the subject. do not forget about it. do not be scared of confrontation.

i've lost damn good friends to this disorder. not because of their behaviour, but because of stigma that made them feel like suicide was doing the world a favour.

it HAS to stop, and it has to stop NOW.

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being in yr 20s is like every day is a Try Not To Spend 40$ Challenge and i keep losing

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-Bylthe baird, if my body could speak