#npd positivity

[quitblamingnarcissism]

"I can say whatever I want about my abuser. If they don't like what I'm saying, they shouldn't have abused me."

Yeah. Your abuser. Not an entire demographic who had nothing to do with it.

Feel free to call your abuser a monster, a douchebag, an asshole, a piece of shit, or any other insult you can think of. You can even wish they would die if their abuse was bad enough.

But when you call your abuser's actions "what narcissists do", you're not just demonizing your abuser. You're demonizing people who never did anything to you.

On top of that, you're giving a free pass to those who have the same patterns as your abuser but have the privilege of being able to do it in a way that society considers normal. For everything your "narcissist" did to you, there are many similar patterns that society normalizes on a regular basis.

[bathroomflooder]

people with low/no empathy don't need to "make up" for it by having sympathy. It's completely okay to have neither :)

[corvinarc]

This narc needs attention

[deceiver-of-god]

I'm glad I'm a narcissist, because it keeps me motivated. It makes me want to constantly improve myself, be better than the rest and be better than myself. It makes me want to aim higher every time. It allows me to learn new techniques, try new hobbies, and find new ways to face challenges.

Being a narcissist makes me take care of my appearance and my health. I want to be attractive, I want to dress well, I want everyone's eyes on me. I need it, and I will get it, because I always get what I want.

Yes, I admit it, I want attention, and I want compliments, and I want recognition. I want people to talk about me, and praise my abilities. I want to be the best at everything. I want glory on its knees.

I have NPD, and it is because of it that I am who I am, and that I do well in life.

Of course there are moments in which I hate having NPD, because it's still a disorder, and it has its negative consequences, not everything is precious in this life, but, despite everything, I'm glad I'm a narcissist.

[evilsystemm]

uhh???

[sin-esthezia]

the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.

depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.

ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.

and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.

mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.

but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.

[frogsforthefrogwar]

We love people with low and no empathy here!

[fella-lovin-fella]

hey i just wanted to give a shout out to people with personality disorders real quick. your disorder doesn't make you evil, it doesnt make you an abuser, and it doesnt make you unlovable. you're just as deserving of respect, care, and support as people without personality disorders. stay safe, i love you and i hope you have a happy holiday season. we're in this together <3

[mirroringshards]

sorry for being mentally ill and actually having symptoms it will happen again xoxo

[quitblamingnarcissism]

"Narcissists shouldn't be allowed to have children."

There's no reason for a statement like that.

If you're worried about narcissists abusing children, just say what actions you're worried about narcissists doing and say that people who do those actions shouldn't be allowed to have children. For example,

Those who want power over their children and no accountability shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who see their children as property and not as people shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who think it's ever okay to hit their children shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who destroy their children's belongings shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who believe in "as long as you live under my roof you will follow my rules" shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who believe in "I buy things for you so you owe me" shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who can't handle criticism from their children shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who can't handle their children not conforming to their expectations shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Those who care more about how their children make them look than about their children's well being shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Of course, you won't do that, because that would apply to neurotypical parents who do those things all the fucking time. You don't actually want to protect children from abuse. You only want to single out narcissists while giving typical authoritarian parents a free pass.

[autopsyfreak]

tired of people on tiktok acting like BPD and HPD are the ‘good cluster b disorders’ or the ‘victim cluster b’s’ meanwhile NPD and ASPD are the ‘evil mean abusive cluster b’s’

stfu.

we’re in the same cluster for a reason, you can’t support some whilst demonising the others.

[lyingnarc]

dear npd people with manipulative tendencies that theyre working on, i love you

dear npd people with manipulative tendencies that they can't work on, i love you

dear npd people with intrusive thoughts, i love you

dear npd people with a billion different blogs for all the possible attention, i love you

dear npd people with low or no empathy who dont try to mask it, i love you

dear npd people with low or no empathy who DO try to mask it, i love you

dear npd people who have been told they're wrong their whole lives, i love you

dear npd people, i love you

[3ntity56]

Tips for Cluster B Anger

~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:

[corvinarc]

Everyone is all for celebrating neurodiversity until you're the "wrong" kind of neurodivergent.

[beanmanty]

[chaosdisorganized]

I just discovered a narcissistic abuse believer in my followers. So friendly reminder:

I love people with npd. People with npd deserve compassion and understanding. People with npd are not inherently abusive just because they have a disorder. No disorder is "abusive person disorder" and people with npd deserve so much better. I love narcissists and I hope they have a lovely day.