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“octopodes” but pronounced like “socrates”. this isn’t a joke that’s how it’s pronounced

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"#hate mail#jesus fucking christ i cant even joke in this site you people are so violently pro closet#please explain to me how it can go "catastrophically wrong'#tell me. tell me what you think will happen."

I don’t understand how this can possibly be hard to understand. Let’s say you see someone — a perfect stranger, mind — online whose posts lead you to believe they are struggling with masculinity. They are nervous about their appearance, they latch onto male characters in a way that seems performative, and they talk about being depressed and being uncomfortable with the way others perceive them. Let’s say you reach out to them and tell them, it’s okay, you can just be a girl! Let’s say a bunch of people say this, with all the love in their heart.

Let’s say, hypothetically, they happen to be a trans man who does not appreciate hundreds of strangers unknowingly telling them they’d be better off living the lie they were forced into their entire life.

If you don’t know someone, you don’t know what would be good or bad for them. Crack your friends by all means, but strangers are not your friends.

the thing about eggs as a trans metaphor is that, like, if it cannot break out of its shell a chick will die without being born. we are the chick. the world is our egg. if we don't crack the world's shell, we will die without being born. smash the world's shell! for the revolution of the world!

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the other thing is that if someone else comes in and tries to force the shell to crack that can go catastrophically wrong

the thing about eggs as a trans metaphor is that, like, if it cannot break out of its shell a chick will die without being born. we are the chick. the world is our egg. if we don't crack the world's shell, we will die without being born. smash the world's shell! for the revolution of the world!

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Oh and also: I think it’s been deeply unhelpful and confusing to define sexual attraction as experienced by allosexuals as “seeing someone and wanting to have sex with them”. That’s sexual desire. Sexual attraction is a lot more nebulous and trickier to define. I won’t say that it’s unheard for allosexuals to experience immediate sexual desire, but neutrality -> attraction -> desire is pretty typical. And even when the sexual desire is present that doesn’t mean that there’s actually any actionable want—it could begin and end in the realm of fantasy and the idea of actually acting upon it be kind of upsetting.

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horrifying on accident <<<<<<<< horrifying on purpose

so many people in the notes of that post about the worldbuilding (or lack of it) about gay marriage as an institution in queernorm are doing that thing where they’re like “well this thing is problematic so I’m going to fix it with this other, even more horrifying solution that I haven’t interrogated at all and think is just great” like man I don’t know that eugenics and reproductive slavery are the unproblematic solution to have your gay prince marry his husband

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it makes me sad the way cis women are so terrified of and disgusted by their own body hair. and i'm not talking "i have to shave for sensory reasons" i mean i keep seeing videos of women using hair identifier spray on their faces and hands so they can shave the tiniest barely-there bits of peach fuzz that came free with their bodies. hair that serves a purpose and that purpose is cleanliness and protection. i mean when i was in elementary school girls who had barely hit puberty were talking about shaving their arms. i mean full-grown adult women who will have a breakdown if they see two days of stubble on their legs/crotch/ jaw/pits because god forbid you don't look like a perfect plastic barbie doll. god forbid your body that keeps you alive comes with hair that may not be soft and glossy and photogenic. some women are so afraid of having any hair apart from their head and eyebrows that they've uno reversed themselves into six different kinds of gender dysphoria that they can't recognize as such because they're convinced that this unnatural state of highly-groomed capital-informed beauty is how women have always been. you're so scared of looking "gross" or "ugly" or "mannish" that you can't even look at your body in the mirror and recognize what it is. sister you are an ape. why are you so determined to deny your nature.

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was math your worst subject in school?

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The only reason not to ban it entirely is that it’s not practically enforceable and would provide a lever for dogpiling via mass false reports of AI use.

I kinda want to establish a baseline now...

Regardless of my opinion on the matter, if I'm going to be talking and asking questions about AI generated works and/or works with other AI input (such as when a creator uses ChatGPT or the like to get out of a block), I feel like it would be useful to establish what I'm talking about exactly.

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what people don't get about tim drake is that his robin is batman's partner qua batman's partner. unlike the others, his robin doesn't have an end date because it is not a mode for him to grow into himself. from the start he had a very defined view of what "robin" as a mantle means, and everything he does is in service of that, with or without batman immediately by his side.

i honestly don't think the idea that "robin is for children" has any real canon basis besides the broader cultural miasma of robin is a kid. but the broad cultural understanding of robin is generally incorrect about what robin is in the comics -- how many non-comics readers do you know who are surprised there is more than one robin? even people who like comic book movies and games and the like?

dick grayson was going to university when he was still robin. he's definitely been robin longer than most people on this site have been alive. they're still publishing ongoings about his time as robin. jason died, steph was fired and 'died'. neither of them were given the opportunity to be robin until adulthood and by the time they were adults it wasn't something they wanted to be anymore. i truly don't see what is obstructing tim from continuing to be robin as an adult besides people's acanonical gripe about robin being for children. (and personally i think this is an exciting opportunity to expand on tim's thesis of robin as batman's partner, as an adult.)

tim was a character designed to embody the platonic ideal of what robin is: the david facing down goliath, someone who is always physically weaker and less skilled but uses his smarts and his connections to fight for what he believes in. he is someone who believes wholeheartedly in community and solidarity and fights to achieve that end. tim likes to be respected and taken seriously, but he doesn't need to be a leader (even though he's happy to take on that role when it comes to it). he likes being a bit of a fixer and a floater. he has chronic "i'm right and i'm going to be holier-than-thou" about it disease, and a strong moral sense (even if he doesn't always default to it). he takes many qualities from dick and jason's runs and expands on them to an extreme that's both in homage and also totally new. tim's robin has had such a profound impact on the mantle that the other robins were retconned to align closer to his take, such that it's difficult to seperate out what makes tim so unique.

however, from conception, tim is positioned in opposition to the other robins: he is robin before he is bruce wayne's ward/son, he has no personal stake in crime fighting beyond a belief it is the right thing to do, his crime fighting and civilian lives are divorced from each other and he's maintaining that balance, etc. he is also still markedly different from the robins who come after him: both steph and damian follow the same story beats as dick & jason of having some initial stake in the criminal world, and needing guidance and direction from batman to find themselves and their place in the world. (the "robin" who is really the most tim-like in terms of behaviour and backstory is maps.) so, why would he follow the same path as other robins before and after him?

the problem is that the modern dc editorial doesn't understand tim as both the ur-robin and the contra-robin, so they don't know how to use him. he feels unstable and incomplete because he has been left to rust and fall apart, and because he is given few opportunities to show the contradictions of his character on the page.

it's silly to think he needs to "find himself" because he already did. this is why all the "get tim his own mantle" attempts don't work.

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I think youre spongebob lost in the dark waiting for a bus that never comes

fuck….. that’s fucked up….

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I would come back from a silent retreat five hours after it started, hair half ripped out of my head, stumbling and muttering, thinking it had been decades. Sanity would be a lateral move.

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I’m writing a character with schizoid personality disorder and am wondering what things about this disorder might not be covered by the DSM-V? Highkey don’t trust it and I find it really helps me to hear others experiences with the disorder and not just the diagnostic criteria

I may not be the best person to answer this question, so I can only talk for myself (I may have comorbid stuff going on). But I totally agree that the DSM5 gives a very limited (and sometimes extreme) perspective on SZPD. 

For example while feeling and expressing emotions is limited for a person with SZPD it’s not like we have no emotions ever at all. (It can also be that some emotions are more affected then others) 

Also, often SZPD is stereotyped as the "boring" personality disorder (specially compared to more "dramatic" disorders like BPD) but I don’t think that's how other people perceive us in daily life. As a cluster A disorder (in the schizophrenia grouping) it can make you seem "strange" or quirky with unusual interests and mannerisms (or at least very "don’t give a fuck" about current trends and social norms). Specially in covert form, people with SZPD can seem "mysterious" because they are so protective of their privacy (even though sometimes they give out information to make themselves seem more normal not to attract people who "want to find out what they have going on") I myself don't even disagree that we are "boring" (because I don't care about the value judgement of that word), but I think it's more like we have no or very little sense of self or identity that makes you think of yourself as a "blank space" (or void).

Besides that, even though I personally am not interested in actual sexual intercourse I do know at least one other person with SZPD who doesn’t mind having sex regularly (even though they don’t seek it out actively)

Another thing is that the low expression of emotion doesn’t mean one has a constant :I face on. At least for me, when people are around I keep a slight smile on my face, but it’s not connected to any real emotions, it’s just a covert thing to not get asked about a potential resting bitch face. (That’s just a small thing, but this was the reason it took so long for me to get the diagnosis)

I think the wikipedia page on SZPD is not bad when you want a wider view of symptoms and different perspectives of understanding for this disorder (including underlying systems and not just symptoms as a end all be all). I think the Millon’s subtypes and Akhtar's profile are interesting.  For a more inside perspective I also recommend schizoid vision, the channel owner has SZPD herself and she does interviews with professionals and other affected people (there is a tumblr as well).

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you miss because you were doing a backflip, but one of the bullets ricochets off the sidebar and hits jfk

does a backflip over your post and shoots at it with dual pistols in midair before continuing to scroll

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writing tip: searching "[place of origin]ish names" will get you a lot of stuff and nonsense made up by baby bloggers.

searching "[place] census [year]" will get you lists of real names of real people who lived in that place.

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Most of those iPad babies you're seeing are probably sick of that fucking tablet too.

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The r slur is bad, by the way.

Yes, even when the person you use it on is being an asshole.

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the authors open fetish that complements the themes of their work