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Narcissistic people can never truly accept the negative impact they have on other people’s lives.

Why ?

Narcissistic injury…

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Things you can’t do with a narcissist:

go “d.e.e.p.”

D efend

E ngage

E xplain

P ersonalize

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D: They’re going to blame shift, if you defend you will get trapped in a gaslighted mess.

E: Refrain from any unnecessary engagement.

E: Don’t explain, the more you explain yourself they are not listening. They do not care. Don’t waste your time.

P: Don’t personalize it’s not about you, they are constantly avoiding shame and propping themselves up

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Narcissistic people have a false or inaccurate self esteem. They have a grandisose version of themselves on the surface but on a deeper level they are deeply insecure and it is unprocessed, and unconscious.

Anything that activates that shame or insecurity is when you’ll see their sullenness, resentment, aggression etc.

Ultimately they are trying to protect themselves from this insecurity that lives deep inside of them.

A narcissist will always get angry at you when you criticize them, or when you show them emotions. It’s all triggering that deep rooted shame.

“You made me feel bad by feeling bad about the bad thing I did.”

They like the emotion when you’re stirred up because of something they brought up and they’re calm. Because a calm person always looks like the person in control.

They need to be in the drivers seat.

“Apologize to me”

They perceive the world through cognitive distortion and logical fallacies. This helps them facilitate the belief that they are victims. They struggle to draw any connection to their behavior and your reaction to their behavior. They operate from value systems rooted in entitlement, objectification, and expectation of submission. So when you issue natural consequences to their abusive behavior they FEEL like they are being abused. Thats when they point the finger at you.

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Sagittarius IC

“I’m hungry for knowledge. The whole thing is to learn every day, to get brighter and brighter. That’s what this world is about.” - Jay-Z (Sagittarius IC/Gemini MC)

Growing up as a Sagittarius IC meant doing right by your family. As children, Sagittarius IC are quite responsible in the sense that they obeyed their parents and wanted to make them proud… or had to make them proud. Their parents may have either been lenient and let the Sagittarius IC have their freedom (while still imposing good morals onto them) or may have been overbearing with the lectures and beliefs, making them strict parents.

You, Sagittarius IC, could have even felt left out or “distant” from your family members. You could have also wanted to distance yourself.

Sagittarius IC may have either hopped from school to school or may have moved homes a lot in their life. The Sagittarius IC, in most cases, excelled academically and made sure of it. One of their parents could have been huge on education. Sagittarius IC’s generally radiated a lot of happiness and optimism in their childhood, but may have either been introverted or embraced their extroverted nature by having many friends.

You were understanding of your family roots, maybe even grateful for the friends you had, but internally you craved starting a new life somewhere else.

The thing with Sagittarius IC is that they want to travel, but could also be scared of the idea of travel. Nonetheless, they could feel that they are better off somewhere away from their family, but still keeping in contact with them. The Sagittarius IC, having obtained much knowledge during their youth, would love to share this knowledge with everyone the older they get.

And that’s exactly what you do. Having experienced much in life, maybe even picking up a few tricks along the way, makes you an old soul. You are wise beyond your years whether you’re aware of it or not and you are blessed with the gift of gab which you have yet to fully unleash. Share your knowledge with others because your mind is your strongest asset and your words are your greatest weapon.

And then, Sagittarius IC, is when you shoot up to your Gemini Midheaven.

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