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Since the r-slur is making a comeback (you know, the word that starts with R, has six letters, and ends in D), I'm gonna make a little PSA:

Yes, it's an ableist slur.

Terms like "asshat," "head-up-ass," "up their own ass," and "high on their own farts" exist. There's also words like crap, dogshit, half-assed, assclown, and chucklefuck. And on the less vulgar side, there are terms like ridiculous, nonsense, train wreck, pointless, insipid, self-absorbed, pretentious, annoying, boring, contemptible, vile, and disgusting.

Substituting words like restarted, poptarted, brain damaged, smoothbrain, etc. is still ableist, because either 1. you obviously still mean the r-word, or 2. you're still using disability as an insult.

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the fact that Reylo discourse is now almost entirely 'is this ship toxic :)' always throws me off so much because I genuinely think the MUCH bigger issue with Reylo was that it pushed a black man to the side as Not Love Interest Material in favor of a white nazi. Like the issue is that shipping Reylo arrived transparently because people did not care about the black man – which I know, because the ship became popular before we even had The Last Jedi! When they'd barely interacted! If Kylo were black and Finn were white, Reylo would not be popular and it would never have become canon in any way, and I do think a refusal to grapple with that is honestly very embarrassing.

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kids get me outta here im stuck in a fake png

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movies where someone hears an important message only once and retains all the details….

girl if that were me, we’d be fucked. I have to reread emails like 4 times.

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Friends don’t let friends make jokes about zookeepers getting killed/eaten by tigers. Or other big cats.

This is not the post I wanted to make for International Tiger Day, but it’s apparently the post I feel compelled to make. A big name photographer decided to make a joke in a post today about maybe needing to use an intern to bait a tiger into approaching for a photo and I just… I’m still upset over an hour after reading it.

It seems kinda silly, right? Like those are really common jokes, right? Especially after Tiger King and shit.

But guys, I’ve seen up close what happens when a facility has a fatality involving big cats. I know people at multiple facilities who have lost colleagues (and in some cases, they were interns). It is horrific and traumatic and people carry it with them for the rest of their lives. The folk I know went on to become staunch advocates for better safety practices - which is an incredible, important thing, and which also means they make a choice to relive that trauma endlessly in front of their peers in an attempt to prevent anything similar from happening to someone else.

It really bothers me that our general online/media culture has decided that zookeeper fatalities are okay to joke about. It’s not. It’s disrespectful to the person who died and it is incredibly unkind to their colleagues and peers and friends. These days, I’m very quick to push back on jokes like that - just a quick, hey, we don’t do that here, that’s not cool - and I guess I’m asking y’all to join me in that.

I don’t have a closing statement, I’m just distressed by the whole thing. I’ll probably post some cute tiger photos on the repository site this afternoon.

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shipping win! they have different but equally terrible coping mechanisms

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A hero without a cape

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sorry but someone assuming you have "left a fandom" when you don't post about it a lot anymore feels like bilbo coming home to the sackville bagginses having him presumed dead and selling all his stuff. girl i was just on a little quest????

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“how would you feel if someone blocked you just because they found you annoying?” then i wouldn’t have to interact with someone who thinks i’m annoying? i don’t see a problem

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romance is a type of friendship and im sick of people pretending like they're two seperate categories. your romantic partner is Supposed to also be your friend like at the very least why are we pitting romance AGAINST friendship when they r intertwined???? romantic partners are also friends and u can have romance with ur friends stop acting like these bitches are seperate forces

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The fact that people are treating the idea that men have privilege over women as like. An example of "radfem" thought and a dangerous indication of trans women falling for "TERF" thought is actually quite scary. This is like basic feminism. No, this idea isn't contradicted by intersectionality. What are we doing here.

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I am BEGGING people to actually learn the true definitions of abuse terms like gaslighting, dogwhistling, lovebombing, grooming, etc. because yes, they are often misused and to some degree have lost all meaning, but they are still legitimate terms for abuse tactics and people need to learn what they actually mean so that they can better understand what victims are trying to say, instead of just going "that's a tiktok word!!!" and completely discrediting someone's actual trauma

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spoke deeply to me.

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i think people conflate “this thing is edgy” with “this thing is insincere and mean-spirited” far too often

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tsunami alert for west coast and hawaii and japan, maybe other pacific coasts. big earthquake off russia.

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