mithliya

[mithliya]

sending me anons using my name only highlights that you are knowingly and intentionally violating my privacy and trying to make me feel threatened. criticising opinions you publicised on tumblr is not akin to you posting my name repeatedly. you are intentionally invading my privacy. i want to be left alone. feel free to criticise my statements, but repeatedly invading my privacy, sending my mother’s and sister’s name and even my own name, and otherwise posting my private information won’t make you look good. in the end, you will have to live with yourself.

i do not consent to anyone using my real name when referencing my blog. i do not consent to invading my privacy. i do not consent to people reposting old pictures of me from when i was 15-16 or pictures my ex posted 8 years ago. i do not consent to excusing this behaviour by saying you found my name by digging through an abandoned blog and found one post mentioning my name 13 years ago, a post i had already intentionally deleted 7 years ago when i realised. i would like to be left alone, or at the very least leave my name out of it. this isn’t asking much.

[mithliya]

i do not consent to anyone using my real name when referencing my blog. i do not consent to invading my privacy. i do not consent to people reposting old pictures of me from when i was 15-16 or pictures my ex posted 8 years ago. i do not consent to excusing this behaviour by saying you found my name by digging through an abandoned blog and found one post mentioning my name 13 years ago, a post i had already intentionally deleted 7 years ago when i realised. i would like to be left alone, or at the very least leave my name out of it. this isn’t asking much.

[mithliya]

first (and seemingly last) news article from western media. unfortunately i’m not seeing much acknowledgement of the government passing misogynistic law nor conversation around this. libyan women’s rights are being taken away and the world is almost completely silent.

i'm not finding any english news coverage on this but libya is making the hijab mandatory, they are making it illegal for women to travel without a male guardian, and even prohibiting women from being in the same public spaces as men. women's rights are being taken away in libya and its being ignored by the world so far. please please please speak up for libyan women.

translation of text:

Imposing the veil in Libya and banning the import of "inappropriate" clothing.. Decisions of the Minister of Interior of the Government of National Unity raise controversy

The Minister of Interior of the Libyan Government of National Unity, Imad Trabelsi, announced the return of morality police patrols to work next month, adding that they will prevent inappropriate hair "fashion" and young men's clothing that does not conform to the culture and privacy of society. Trabelsi warned against women traveling without a male guardian, and banned mixing with men in cafes and public places, and said that whoever wants to live freely should go to live in Europe. Trabelsi's announcement sparked great controversy in the country and was criticized by many.

[mithliya]

i'm not finding any english news coverage on this but libya is making the hijab mandatory, they are making it illegal for women to travel without a male guardian, and even prohibiting women from being in the same public spaces as men. women's rights are being taken away in libya and its being ignored by the world so far. please please please speak up for libyan women.

translation of text:

Imposing the veil in Libya and banning the import of "inappropriate" clothing.. Decisions of the Minister of Interior of the Government of National Unity raise controversy

The Minister of Interior of the Libyan Government of National Unity, Imad Trabelsi, announced the return of morality police patrols to work next month, adding that they will prevent inappropriate hair "fashion" and young men's clothing that does not conform to the culture and privacy of society. Trabelsi warned against women traveling without a male guardian, and banned mixing with men in cafes and public places, and said that whoever wants to live freely should go to live in Europe. Trabelsi's announcement sparked great controversy in the country and was criticized by many.

[mithliya]

hey I know you don't use this blog and this isn't common knowledge but I want to bring forward that Fred Sargeant is a huge zionist. I understand he's an important figure in history, but his tweets towards arabian/middle eastern people are vile.

https://x.com/FredSargeant/status/1847063959242768540

vomit-inducing. “gender critical” people are often so weirdly racist and genocidal it seems.

a white gay man who has a history of admirable activism on behalf of gay people doesn’t mean he’s above criticism when he regurgitates statements intensifying racism, colonialism, genocide, etc. his gay activism isn’t relevant in this case.

[mithliya]

the jarring contrast between radblr having posts detailing white men drugging and raping a woman in her 70s, a white man creeping on his own daughters, a white man strangling his wife and then pureeing her in a blender, white men joking about a woman being puréed in a blender, a white man keeping a woman captive for years and torturing and sexually violating her, a white man getting a slap on the wrist for the possession of child porn, and then posts arguing that white men are more humane and less misogynistic/violent to women indicates severe cognitive dissonance.

[mithliya]

this racism is genuinely insane op wtf are you thinking posting several blatantly racist anons disparaging me.

women like menalez who deny this are traitors to the female sex and have chosen race consciousness over sex-class consciousness. her, and everyone repeating the same political line, are traitors to women and can only blame themselves if white women also react by choosing race-consciousness in response to protect themselves against moc.

are you serious? woc opposing white women’s racism, which affects us, are somehow worse than white women who choose “race-consciousness” ie are racist to us? you’re literally posting shit blatantly supporting white supremacist rhetoric

theres no point listening to menalez, she is terminally (metaphorically) married to moc. any subject or debate on earth, you would be called insane for suggesting the people involved in XYZ have nothing to do with XYZ.

when it comes to (marginally) less sexist culture and laws in white countries, somehow the white people, and white men who still control almost everything have nothing to do with it? how do you make that logical leap, do laws magically descend from the skies untouched by the people writing and obeying them?

while i believe their reasons are selfish, made out of personal interest (porn, sexual freedom, prostitution etc) and very rarely genuine respect for women, yes, white men make 'better' laws and cultures for women to live in. white women don't have the power to force white men to do something 0% of them want to do, not even today. it's not even debatable, look at the state of the world elsewhere.... and of course it's not 'also racist to woc', because patriarchy means laws and culture reflect male priorities more than female priorities, everywhere on earth.

but women like menalez who deny this are traitors to the female sex and have chosen race consciousness over sex-class consciousness. her, and everyone repeating the same political line, are traitors to women and can only blame themselves if white women also react by choosing race-consciousness in response to protect themselves against moc.

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[mithliya]

nomorerww/cl34nslate/umbra-mortis/tehms--ally/freeewheeling/fem-archives8/plzgethelpnow/dworkin-was-right/radposting/etc how many blogs are you going to make to harass me with? the fact that you’re being even more blatantly racist with comments like “retarded brown bitch” is insane. it has been 6 years, leave me alone.

[mithliya]

don't listen to that dumbass menalez she escaped her shitty misogynistic country and lives a privileged life in a european country and wants to turn it into a woman hating shithole too.

and i’m supposed to believe far-right racist & xenophobic rhetoric isn’t also being applied to brown immigrant women like myself? i’m supposed to agree with this rhetoric and not question it and side with white women who show repeatedly that they look down on people who look like me? ok

Hey girl, just wanted to say don't listen to that dumbass menalez she escaped her shitty misogynistic country and lives a privileged life in a european country and wants to turn it into a woman hating shithole too.

As a woman living in a third world country, you are 100% correct. Men here are socialized and encouraged to be rabid woman haters, if you let them into your country they will eventually take away your freedoms too.

Why is a radfem so concerned about brown men or any men for that matter? I say only accept female immigrants from misogynistic countries. Women are the ones who actually need refuge.

People will be crying that acknowledging the misogyny of brown men will lead to racism against brown women but i'd still put a racist woman's safety over a brown moid's feelings. Even if she calls me slurs i'd still prioritize her safety over a man's feelings.

Great points anon! I'd say you summarised it better

"but i'd still put a racist woman's safety over a brown moid's feelings." 👍

[mithliya]

are indian men “lone, undocumented african men with nothing to lose”? are they who people are referring to when discussing “mass illegal immigration coming from muslim countries” (illegal immigration being racist-speak for “refugee”)? the post op took from wasnt about indian men. it was about black men and brown muslim men (which you know, most indian men are not muslim). as for the people in question being racists, searching their urls is easy:

https://menalez.tumblr.com/tagged/mandyfem

https://menalez.tumblr.com/tagged/deadfish-inabarrel

i live in europe myself, for a grand total of 7 years now in 2 different european countries. i also come from one of those “barbaric” “muslim countries”. yet whenever i point out the blatant white supremacist and far-right rhetoric plastered all over these posts as someone who is affected by such rhetoric, i get told to ~go back to my country~ and falsely represented as some pro-islam extremist. it’s interesting how hearing the voices of women in europe specifically means “listen to the voices of far-right white european women”. you talk about how difficult it is to discuss moc’s misogyny as a woc.. i agree. it is hard. i feel like i can’t even discuss brown men’s misogyny because i’m worried open white nationalists will then use the misogyny we, not they, are victimised by to fuel their racist rhetoric.

if you ever do choose to leave india, or gain the ability to, just know that the anti-immigration rhetoric you view as harmless criticism of men’s misogyny is a big part of the european far-right’s rhetoric and also harms immigrant women. it harms non-white women in the west in general. the populist parties being backed by this rhetoric, which are currently growing in power in europe, aren’t just going after the criminal men. this same rhetoric fuelled anti-immigrant riots in the UK, based on the crimes of a BRITISH man. it fuelled anti-refugee riots in turkey, based on a syrian man violating his syrian niece. in the end, innocent brown people and their businesses were targeted. and unshockingly, all of these riots were spearheaded by “local” men (white, specifically, in the UK)… not feminists looking to protect white women. either way, i do think it’s possible to criticise moc’s misogyny without falling into racist populist rhetoric or without putting white men on a pedestal.

To anyone barking racism for pointing out brown men are dangerous

Just read this humble passage before you bark racism. And yeah, Indian men deserve the image of being rapists because they actually are.

[mithliya]

really upsetting to see all the mutuals reblogging this post https://www.tumblr.com/a7xlizardqueen/759662235284062208?source=share

including “big” names like eldopism and bitter harpy or whatever. mask off moment. Radblr is insanely racist and they are just ignoring it and somehow switching it around by just saying they’re not. Europeans will be racist in the most insane ways.

im so disappointed they love to use women of color to win arguments but actually hate us and hate our cultures. they see us as others and illegals. Can they honestly say when they dehumanize men from those culture that it doesn’t affect the way they view the women from them?

Hope you are well. Thank you for trying to fight racism on here.

racist woman: calls refugees "illegal immigrants", makes white supremacist claims of "mass immigration", calling male african refugees "lone, undocumented african men with nothing to lose" (does she realise what being a refugee means? they kind of have everything to lose if theyre sent back to a country where they can be killed. most refugees are painfully aware of this and extremely afraid of that outcome btw), saying woc "instantly scream racism", complaining that brown women aren't being called racist for criticising white men (aka claiming reverse racism), dismissal of white privilege, the very subtle "not to mention the threat of terrorism some of these men bring" line where she implies brown ppl = terrorism, etc

hundreds of white women on radblr: sounds about right! *reblog*

[mithliya]

i’m getting spammed with anon hate and i honestly don’t think this place is redeemable so im probs not going to be posting for idk how long. radblr has given me less than nothing. since joining radblr, people have overwhelmingly been unbelievably cruel to me.

my first year on radblr, women 1-2 decades older than me viciously harassed me for asking questions as someone not familiar with certain beliefs held here. these women harassed me for months non-stop, posted my full legal name, posted homes neighbouring where i lived in bahrain, and essentially released my private information. i had to threaten them back just in hopes they would leave me alone, which they didn’t really do. they simply stopped posting my name bc they wanted to make me look like im bad for finding one of their names simply by googling her url (her full name was her twitter username). one of the people in that circle was radicaldumbass, who then came back as macroclit, and again came back as radicalstoner. i moved on but i haven’t forgotten.

then, black-diaspora repeated the same thing. she posted pictures of my mother and led people to finding my mom's facebook. to this day, i still get anons with my mother’s name and my sister’s name. my sister was about 13 when anons first started sending me her name in threatening anons. somehow, black-diaspora was rewritten as a victim of mine despite her being repeatedly racist & lesbophobic to me & posting my mom’s info.

i was being abused by my ex-gf and women on here literally picked my abuse apart and enabled TRAs like lostelvenqueen to make up lies that i was the one abusing my abuser. that vicious lie was reiterated for 4 years. while being abused, women on radblr were mocking me for needing money when my ex-girlfriend was actively stealing from me at the time. to this day people use against me the fact that i needed help in that time bc some mutuals helped finance 2 dinners & my medication, all of which i either paid them back for or drew art as payment.

then, again, another woman dug through an old blog i ran as a teenager and found some posts here and there to make it seem like i, as a 15 and 16 year old, definitely loved being totally controlled by someone and physically abused whenever i didn’t follow his exact commands. i spoke openly about this trauma years prior to this person “exposing” me & arguing that i actually wanted that abuse by pointing to random innocuous posts and forming a story out of it. i think every abuse victim can imagine how difficult it is to still face trauma from something and instead of being allowed to heal, having it brought up to you several days a week to taunt you and having “feminists” tell you that you actually wanted it and are lying when you say otherwise. to this day, i get daily anons mentioning my name because this woman also put my legal name out there.

women here have put me in physical danger, they have made up the vilest lies about me, they’ve called me racial slurs, they’ve been outright racist to me, they’ve speculated about my rape & abuse, they’ve joked about lynching me, they’ve questioned things as minuscule as what i had for dinner. and despite that, i haven’t returned that same treatment. i remained relatively consistent, i simply criticised what i thought was wrong and provided evidence to my statements.

i made some nice friends on here & i’ll keep talking to them. but i’m going to be reevaluating why i’m wasting my time in a space that has overwhelmingly caused me stress, a space where countless unbelievable lies have been spun about me and a place where people have said & done the vilest things and in the end, i was always framed as a bad person based on half-truths or outright lies. now, people falsely claim that women who unfollow me or block me risk having their private information exposed, when i have met at least a dozen women from radblr and run a server with hundreds of women from radblr, have seen hundreds of faces, and have never exposed such information even if we end up disliking each other. i could tolerate many ridiculous lies, but why should i? i’m pretty fed up of tolerating this.

enjoy spinning this however you want and lying about me further. idk when i’ll be back or if i’ll want to be back. it’s pretty clear to me that this space prioritises lesbophobes & racists (& sometimes even downright misogynists) over people who calmly criticise it. i joined this space initially bc i thought it was somewhere where i could freely be a lesbian without being hassled for it, but radblr doesn’t even offer that anymore.

[mithliya]

homosexuality has no race nor religion (not to mention that not every palestinian is a religious muslim... even if they were, why should ppl support war crimes against them regardless?). the same way u will come across 'gay christians' u will come across 'gay muslims', the same way u will come across 'christian allies' u will come across 'muslim allies'. the same way u will come across religious muslim homophobes, u will find christian ones:

[mithliya]

omg all the anons sending ‘well meaning messages of love’ and then basically telling you to stop calling out racism and homophobia within radblr spaces because it’s ‘causing drama’. fuck off. i don’t think you’re starting drama or doing it for attention, i simply think you’re a popular outspoken blog in radblr community so your blog gets a lot of traction. also, you’re allowed to have opinions that you share with others, i haven’t seen anything you’ve posted lately that’s indicative of ‘stirring and engaging with drama’ other than to (rightfully) call out the actual people who are swinging at a hornet’s nest with braindead takes about their reliance on men and how it’s misogynistic to criticize them. who’s to tell you what you can and can’t do with your blog? being a feminist most often comes with the notion that you’re going to have to be a killjoy at some point or another in order to bring reason to an argument. also, radicalstoner/macro/milo/whoever the fuck she is has been saying atrocious, homophobic, and downright incendiary things about lesbians while getting cheered on by her other homophobic het-partnered mutuals who circlejerk all day about how theyre ‘more feminist’ than others. that deserves to be called out. she gives me rancid vibes, and you & heterophobicdyke have made excellent points in your arguments against them. if these people don’t want to handle a bit of debate and yes, sometimes drama, i can’t imagine how they go about dealing with dissenting arguments in real life. it also seems sinister to me that you have been open about your bpd and people are trying to imply how dramatic youre acting about everything. if anything, i think you’ve been rightfully defensive without being disrespectful or overly inflammatory or reactionary at all. but yeah, the one who’s wrong here is you and not the woman who’s purposefully speculating on other people’s mental state and calling lesbians freaks for disagreeing with her.

i think if radblr was as misogynistic as it is lesbophobic or racist, a lot of the ppl who frame me as dramatic (unsurprisingly overwhelmingly people not personally affected by lesbophobia or racism) would be acting in a much more dramatic fashion. i agree i’m defensive sometimes but i think if ur constantly getting attacked and have the vilest things said to u and ppl treat it as if it’s somehow more normal than it is etc then it’s hard not to be. im glad i generally manage to be pretty calm and collected despite ppl framing me as so dramatic n hysterical at least.

[mithliya]

idk how y’all can be so hostile toward separatists when the leading cause of femicide globally and by a wide margin is intimate partner violence. equally baffling how so many white tribalfems on here are against immigration bc of evil colored men when the leading cause of sexual violence in their countries is from men in their families and circles. you are literally (as a woman from any country) more likely to get raped and beaten by your husband, boyfriend or male family member than by any other man. you are more likely to be raped multiple times by men you have intimate relationships with. dating and marrying men is LITERALLY the danger.

[mithliya]

kanelia taking a break from being a lesbophobe + a racist xenophobe to middle easterners to then bring up iraqi & syrian women as a silencing tactic 💀 aren’t you busy justifying the genocide of palestinians? why suddenly pretend like you care what middle eastern women go through when you justify racism against us every chance u get

idk how y’all can be so hostile toward separatists when the leading cause of femicide globally and by a wide margin is intimate partner violence. equally baffling how so many white tribalfems on here are against immigration bc of evil colored men when the leading cause of sexual violence in their countries is from men in their families and circles. you are literally (as a woman from any country) more likely to get raped and beaten by your husband, boyfriend or male family member than by any other man. you are more likely to be raped multiple times by men you have intimate relationships with. dating and marrying men is LITERALLY the danger.

[mithliya]

the way so many of u invent rumours and gossip about each other is genuinely disturbing. the fact that so many of you are on lolcow spreading lies or saying vile things about other women is deranged. the way some of you will take an inkling of truth about another woman’s life and twist it into something else entirely is depraved. the way some of you hold onto shit a woman on radblr may or may not have even said 12 years ago and use it against her anytime she says something you dislike is bizarre. the ignoring of racism that is prevalent, the use of disturbing misogynistic terms, the lesbophobia that is always overlooked & downplayed, the downright harassment directed at lesbian rape victims that none of u speak up about, the way y’all will turn the worst women on here into martyrs, the bizarre pretending like heterophobia is real except calling it misogyny to look less stupid, the weird racial comments y’all make, the anons u send each other to bait each other so u can make each other look bad, the fact that almost none of u are concerned about the obvious conservative women spreading far-right propaganda on radblr, the zionism, the rape denialism, the antisemitism… what does this space have to offer? it’s too toxic and infested with garbage to actually help build female solidarity and class consciousness.

i’m starting to think the TRAs were right about y’all but also i don’t like the TRAs either 😔