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What if Daniel had gone into heat on his wedding night? Would Terry have had a field day with that or…? I suppose Daniel would have relaxed more though since his body would want it.

That would have inflated Terry's ego to unmanageable size. I always feel that weddings are usually planned soon after the omega's last heat because they want them to keep their head. Marrying heat drunk is considered unwise, but secretly Alphas would feel very proud of themselves.

Usually the omega suffers through a pre wedding heat alone so that partners have a chance to get to know each other and sightsee. Honeymoons end in a week or two of relaxation and ideally the omega is free to go into heat then but a lot of omegas do not. So the fact that Daniel did was enough to make Terry's head swell already. A heat on the wedding night would have made him insufferable.

Heats don't happen very often at all, so it is definitely encouraged for couples to learn how to have fun together outside of them. After all, omegas go years without heats between litters in my verse.

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Ugh the recent fill for Pawnverse killed me. Them dancing at the end so much like their wedding day and yet not. The regret and love that’s there. The sadness and happiness. Since Daniel will not redo his wedding day, perhaps Terry can do something for their 25th anniversary instead. The “silver” one!

I don't know what it is yet, but Nonnie you're right, Terry will want to do something enormous. Alexander will have been born by then, and would just be about beginning to toddle, so Daniel will be a little freer in his day to day life as Alex will be mostly weaned. Maybe if Terry pampers his Danny, he may have another heat.... Not that he needs an excuse to pamper his sweetheart but Terry is always playing 4D chess.

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It’s rare, but omegas can get pregnant outside of heats. But are there rare heats which don’t lead to pregnancy?

Nothing is ever 100% certain, but a heat is made specifically to induce pregnancy. Maybe if the other partner is sick, maybe if an egg isn't viable because of a small genetic defect and the omega's body doesn't let the ovum nestle but more often than not when birth control fails, you are going to be a parent.

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Very busy night at work, but a very friendly Italy-based coworker is named Daniele and I am all 🥰😍☺️

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Do you think life is oppressive for upper class omegas in Knights and Pawns? They can’t — or it’s strongly discouraged — for them to leave the house unchaperoned. They must go out with someone to guard/protect them in case of heats or just being preyed upon by Alphas. They must go to omega only schools after they’ve presented. Their heats cause them so much distress that they mostly get married young. They can easily be used as bartering pieces in games of war despite being wealthy and pampered. No matter how much power they hold, they remain second and yes, subservient to their mate, especially if they are mated to an Alpha.

One could say Daniel has no power in his relationship except his love, which Terry is terrified of losing. But it’s a double edged sword since his love hurts him as well because no matter what, he would be broken hearted if he lost Terry. His love also has him endure and forgive Terry’s darkest, most terrible moments, but also the mob lifestyle in general which is risky, and which risk extends to his beloved children.

And then of course there are the dirt poor or immigrant omegas who are given no protection at all, or omegas from other cultures like Anoush’s for example for can easily be treated like dirt.

That is slightly similar to asking is life oppressive for women - depends which women. There are many variables at play here of course.

Beta people in my verse would not put up with any of it but omegas in my verse for the most part would feel very anxious, abandoned and alone if they had more freedom. People react to them very strongly, especially Alphas, who are incredibly intense even to betas. Many omegas want a protection that for us would feel like limits. They find public life quite stressful. The danger for them is not their limited access to power; it's that the fewest people who are power driven understand the need for responsibility. Power can feel like you have no responsibility, because who is going to stop you? It takes something more profound to realise that if you lead, you also have to carry. Alphas want to call the shots but that means you have to take people's long term needs into account. You have to voluntarily take on burdens no one can force you to take on. It's all well and good to want people to treat you like the king of the universe but that only works when you take on some of the mental load of their decisions and Terry, when he was young, didn't learn that. He just killed maimed and kicked his way up to the top and that earned him a profound loneliness. The biggests of Terry's sins all come from self-centredness. And Daniel's Pop has the same faults. Daniele couldn't stop him doing what he did but that didn't mean it made it the right thing to do. But if Daniel had run away from home rather than marry Terry he would have been in very acute stress. School was freeing because it was so structured and reclusive. He doesn't want to have adventures on his own. He wants someone to lean on. But he was taken advantage of, as many people who have trouble asserting themselves are. Daniel wants the insulation and the protection it affords him. But if you don't claim power you can get hurt when dealing with selfish people. And Daniel, in canon too, doesn't do well taking charge. It takes a lot out of him when he has to. He does much better with giving to people and enjoying it when they give back.

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I finally feel slightly less anxious when shopping because I am starting to notice what a huge positive difference it can make not so much what you buy but where and when you buy. Yes, I am still extremely salty that going into the nearest store for any item has become an extravagant thing to do. But I am also finding store brands that are cheaper than I would have paid for name brand pre covid and just as good and Eurostar has a discount option now and name brands are so enshittified anyway that there is little difference in quality and cinema tickets are half price on Tuesday through certain websites and you can make butter from cream by shaking it by hand and I found some store brand candy I really like and you know what? Maybe it's gonna be fine.

It's gonna be fine.

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I don’t know if you know it, but I think the song ‘I Drink Wine’ by Adele is such a Silverusso song. The lyrics, the reflective ambiance, the jazzy piano…it just gives me Daniel and Terry vibes, but especially with each other. I think it’s a beautiful song too!

"Everyone wants something from me, you just want me" - kaching! To me this song reads about what part of loving Terry is good for Daniel. It isn't completely voluntary: "Why are we so bound to choices someone else makes?" Terry manipulated everything about their relationship, every single choice he set in motion. But he allows Daniel, and that is something nobody else in his life allows him, to be a bit selfish. Daniel is so giving and fundamentally decent, that this becomes what people know him for. And this part of him isn't fake, but it is convenient, isn't it? To have someone be kind and giving and decent all the time? When Daniel gets selfish, his environment doesn't appreciate that at all. Amanda feels left alone, Johnny feels Daniel owes him, every interaction they have, the kids are kids, they need care, Chozen pivoted away from selfishness so he's not going to encourage it in Daniel. Kumiko simply basks in Daniel's presence but it can never last...

But Terry? Terry doesn't need Daniel's best self. He revels in Daniel's worst self. He doesn't need him to be kind or accommodating or sweet he just needs him to be totally his. Warts and all. Does he needs Daniel's sweetness? Yes, but if Daniel wants to be catty and bitchy and rude it delights him. It doesn't threaten their bond at all. And Daniel who is always asked to give, because giving comes so naturally to him, well, he wishes he could love Terry for free. Because society doesn't want what he is with Terry. They want the nurturer, the sweetheart, the family man, the sales guy the Sensei the hubby and Terry just wants him. It's a bit of a relief.

But nothing is for free, him? Not their love either.

Much is made of how scary Terry is, how controlling and unpredictable, but far less of how accepting of Daniel. He really wants every iteration of Daniel as long as he stays. He loves every part. Amanda wants much more of him. Daniel likes how she is a leader but she needs him to step up. And of course he does. But he always does. Mr. Han also wants him to step up. Johnny wants him to step up. There's a lot of slack to pick up, and that had been Daniel's life always... And he does it because he can't bear to see people in pain... But Terry would love him just the same if he stopped doing any of it. And that's something nobody in his life ever allows him. And of course he is a grown man and taking responsibility is part of life but he is been trying to be everything for everyone as long as we've known him. It's probably his identity and Terry disrupts all that with no repercussions. If Mr. Han had come to Daniel to tell him to go to NYC and fix Li's problems out of some bullshit semi familial obligation he'd have told him to fuck right off. Daniel would probably still have gone but he'd feel safe in the knowledge that he really didn't have to, because he doesn't owe this stranger anything at all.

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I miss seeing TIG active on social media :( It seems after CK ended he’s returned to being a recluse :( We know he didn’t like what happened to Terry but I wish he’d give acting another go. He’s really good! He just seemed to keep getting not so great roles in B movies.

And yeah I miss seeing his ridiculously handsome self haha. Maybe Mrs. TIG can soon provide 🥵

He's smart and stupidly handsome and his social media is ❤️, but if you think millenials are old, TIG's generation probably sees social media as some strange novelty still. He posts when he needs to for work, but otherwise? Why?

And I've found Mary Page Keller's social media during S4 and S5 very preoccupied with pointing out to the world she's married to him, thank you, and don't people get any ideas now! So if she were to post anything it would probably not for us to lust over.

Seeing TIG at the last S6 premiere left me with a sad feeling too. TIG poured so much into Terry and then they wrote him... that. You have stupidly little control over the story you want to tell as an actor. If he was disillusioned with acting I don't think the end of CK would have done much to change that. And however much they meddle with stories from outside as a writer, you can still try your best to not write badly. As an actor, there is far less you can do to influence the story and look where that got Thomas. The kidnap the baby plot. I mean what? Would that make anyone reconsider retirement? I doubt it.

I'd understand why he'd be OK writing.

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What US manufacturing jobs were outsourced to Switzerland, pray?

In a shock move, U.S. President Trump imposed a 39% tariff on Swiss imports on August 1, coinciding with Switzerland’s National Day. The decision followed a failed phone call with Swiss President Karin Keller-Sutter, despite months of talks aiming for a lower 10% rate.

The tariff, effective August 7, threatens Switzerland’s export-driven economy, with the U.S. being its top non-EU trade partner. Tensions were fueled by Trump’s push to cut U.S. drug prices, pressuring Swiss pharma giants Roche and Novartis. Switzerland is now urgently seeking a revised deal to avoid the economic blow.

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If Daniel ever finds out about Connor, it would be perfect timing for him to throw the Claddagh ring in Terry’s face.

“Fidelity? Here’s what I think of your brand of ‘fidelity’ Terrence Silver!”

“Danny!! 😭 This happened before we were engaged, sweetheart! Surely—“

“Do you think that matters to me?? This is a whole other PUPPY!! 😡 💔”

Maybe it’s time for Don and Co to plan another Save the Marriage Trip… 😬

The reason why I was hesitant to bring Connor into this is because if they fight about it, I don't think Terry would fight fair. He'd be like: oh, we're going to hold past relationships against each other now are we? Then what about Kumiko? And that would be ugly, ugly business.

"I don't have a pup with her!"

"Not for lack of trying!"

It's not a fight I want to write.

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Who was the easiest puppy and hardest puppy to deal with growing up in Mobverse? I feel like Robby, and Axel would be easy in both childhood and teenage years, they’re so chill and mellow. Eli is the worst along with Sara because they’re terrors haha! Yasmin is just a total brat throughout. Luna is an angel in childhood but might be difficult in her teenage years because she loves everyone too much ♥️

Yasmin feels rejected because what she wants is something she knows Mama disapproves of. For Sammy it's something she feels she has to live up to but Yasmin chooses it, while Daniel feels - I could keep you out at least why are you glamorizing this? It's not Yasmin's fault she's more like Terry in this way but it causes friction. Anthony is also trying to find his own way of being an omega which can be difficult because everybody adores his mother so much. The easiest one up to the point it worries his parents is Gianni. They're both so relieved when it turns out that he can flip into very dangerous on a dime, but only if the situation calls for it. Sammy and Eli are harder on Terry, Yasmin and Sara are tricky for Daniel, Robby has such a different vibe that he surprises them both, Luna is on a different frequency which makes her very fierce when she truly believes something and Alexander is totally chill until he gets obsessed.

And Daniel reading this would be why are you even talking about my pups like that to me they are my whole entire heart?!?!!? And Terry is planning a very slow death because that's his blood we're talking about. Daniel really admires how Yasmin takes no shit and moves on and he's so proud and grateful about all the ways she is there for Luna, who, let's face it, really needs her but doesn't consciously realise that. She simply adores her big sister. And Yasmin has a soft side she doesn't acknowledge and they're all so clever and Robby is so original and Sara is so joyful and Alex is so kind and Anthony is so witty and Gianni can stop all drama just by being there and Sammy is a huge dork if you let her and why are we even talking about this? What if they think that we don't love them what if something happens and they don't feel they can come home what if they do not know how gorgeous they are Terry they need to know oh Dio what if they left and didn't want to speak to him again?? 😭😭😭

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But if Daniel could just leave Terry he would have long done so.

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That comment surprised me, because I was under the impression that outside of those seriously dark and cruel moments in their marriage, Daniel was…happy. Happy to be married to Terry. Happy to love and be loved by him. (He does keep having heats after all despite the rape and the cheating reveal and just the overall nature of how their marriage came to be and isn’t that visual proof of enduring love?)

I can’t imagine Daniel happy if he divorced Terry, and lived separately from him. Maybe at the start, but I am under the impression that he loves him too much and would miss him horribly. Maybe at the start Daniel would be relieved, but after a while…

Am I wrong?

Perhaps what Daniel needs is a vacation just for himself, away from Terry and the mob life. Maybe several weeks apart when he’s older and the puppies are grown up. Terry would probably barely be able to function during this time and have a period of clinical depression (RIP), but Daniel might enjoy being by himself without being beholden to anyone for the first time in decades. Or even his life.

To me, Daniel's biggest issue - and this predates marriage - is that he doesn't feel safe. "I don't want to be in business," he tells Michael at 18, because the mob is not a safe environment and all the love in the world cannot make up for that. He tried very consciously to love his family into safety by loving Terry and even though he does, and the love is mutual, Terry is not a safe man. He relishes being a mobster and Daniel always knew he would hurt him; by hurting his family and then later by hurting himself and yet later, through Yasmin in particular, by endangering his pups. Terry is a loose cannon and everybody knows he is. What Terry can give him, and what I think few other people could, is to reciprocate just how deeply Daniel loves. There is few people in the world who could love him back with the same intensity. Daniel doesn't see that because he is so preoccupied by his fear. Daniel wants security that was taken from him in canon with his father dying and here with his father being one of the most dangerous men in NYC. The Don shares Daniele's fierce love but Michael is also his son, all the ruthlessness and cunning without access to the warmth. I don't really think that Daniel understands that the capacity for love he has is matched by very few people. He thinks that the only thing he lacks is a sense of security and as soon as he gains that, everything will fall into place. What he would come to realise if he lost Terry is that there is so preciously few people that can get on his level. And he doesn't have to really face that because Terry isn't going anywhere, under any circumstances. Daniel would suddenly feel the same loneliness he felt in school where he thought people rejected him - and there was some of that - when people were simply more easily satisfied. So if he got his picket fence suburban all American life he would be far more emotionally starved than he knows. And yes, you do lose part of yourself in such an enormous family but his family really nourishes him, too. So take him out of there for a long time he doesn't do well with it. He wants to get back. But he's not going to find that out until Terry actually lets him go and you'd have to shoot him first. But school, Daniel used to think that some of his classmates lived life on rationed love and he'd feel that way again. He never understood how people could be satisfied with that and he doesn't have to understand because school was three years, most of the time spent besotted with Kumiko, and then Terry showed up straight after. If Daniel has an inkling now and then, he's still distracted by his dislike of the danger he lives with on the daily. And however much he loves his Pop, his father knows no other way to live and Terry chose this life - with relish.

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What if Daniel left Terry in Mobverse…only to end up with another version of Terry lol? Like Frank or maybe the Terry from Black Friday haha. He just can’t escape! 🤣 🤣

Btw Black Friday Terry is criminally underrated. He’s hot af!

I don't think I've seen Black Friday, thanks for the tip! But if Daniel could just leave Terry he would have long done so. He indeed can't escape Terry - his Terry! So then being with another Terry he'd be like: why do I even bother?!?

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Hahah yes! The thought of Omegas having QR code wristbands in case of a heat emergency is sending meeeee. I could see Daniel refusing to wear one, and of course running into trouble when he doesn’t. Terry either makes him wear one or sneakily tricks him into wearing one. I could see him putting some sort of tracking device on Daniel in Old Wounds for sure…hahah

Old Wounds Terry I'm not too sure about. Daniel in Knights and Pawns is lucky that trackers are hard to come by. I feel that for modern omegas they have beautiful jewelry with QR codes but Daniel would refuse to wear one. Be real, they totally have some sort of heat emergency setting on their phone so no he is not putting a qr code on his body. With the eternal argument being "Phones get stolen, Danny boi!"

"I am not a pet!"

And so on and so on and so on.

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Häää?! Was solln ditte?!?!!!

I know we are all used to hear bad news from the USA or UK when it comes to trans rights but this time Germany wants to play in the same league.

Our idiots at home ministry came up with the fucking idea to start a register for all transgender and nonbinary people which would mean every person working at some public position could always at any given time see your assigned gender at birth, your deadname, your address and who knows what else.

We had been there in the past. Hitler Germany called it the "Travestite Law" back then. Our politicians didn't learn.

We all know this is unacceptable.

Please, if you are German, sign it. If you are not, spread it wide and far.

This had been stopped once a few years ago. It needs to be stopped again.

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I work in a Dutch company and though people speak English fluently here, that doesn't mean our English doesn't get very interesting. There's a lost and found corner in the break room with a sign which I presume should read something like: "Attention, owner please make yourself known." Or: "Is this yours?" But they want to make it sound more cutesy, so I think they meant to write something like: "Looking for my maatje", a word which has connotations of "buddy" and "match". You know, if you're a container looking for a lost lid.

But what they wrote - in English- was "Looking for my mate" and I've read too many omegaverse AU's not to do a triple take and seeing an omega wearing a qr code wristband in case they get lost mid heat or something, or Alphas frantically putting out ads after an emergency.

None of which I could ever utter to another soul, of course, bless my freaky heart.