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It's so common and applicable to basically any comparable situation that you'd think people would be better at understanding it: a lot of the time if a space has suddenly declared itself as discriminating against you, it is not massively appealing to go back there if it undoes that policy.

like obviously it's very important to support the people being discriminated against in places but it's really really tiring when you've been barred from a place and people's main thought is "we should let you back into this place that is obviously willing to discriminate against you" and not "maybe we should stop supporting this place that has discriminated against people".

like the second a place makes a no trans women policy you basically lose any desire to ever go back there again. so even if they do undo that policy you've effectively still been kept out permanently. it's really crushing and defeating.

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when terfs say they hate men they're saying they hate trans women. they do not hate cis men. they don't even mean trans men. they mean trans women. that does not mean trans women are men. it means they know what upsets trans women and are acting on it. "they see trans women as failed men" 1) no they don't, they see trans men as failed men they need to save 2) they see trans women as subhuman atrocities needing eradication 3) this doesn't mean they respect and coddle trans men/mascs, some are nicer to trans men/mascs than others, but overall they're horrible to trans men/mascs 4) even if they actually do see trans women as [failed] men, that's no reason to acknowledge that, all you do in your "actually they really do see trans women as failed men!!" is tell trans women/fems that they need to put up with being called men even by you.

"but they hate men!" no they do not. terfs work with homophobic/transphobic organizations full of cis men. lots of terfs are married to men. but pushing the "they really actually hate men" thing you're taking the lie, the insult, the misgendering, at face value. they hate trans women. or, at the very least if you can't bring yourself to say that, they hate trans people, not men.

transandrophobia is a terf recruiting tool. transandrodorks are constantly being presented terf ideology in more progressive language occasionally sandwiched between real issues transmascs face. every time one of you says "terfs hate trans women cuz they hate men," you are spreading terf rhetoric. every time you push "terfs hate trans women for being failed men" you are lying. "Trans men can't benefit from patriarchy" / "trans men can't be privileged unless they're super transitioned" you're being convinced trans men can't actually be men. Every single one of these and more is meant to make subtle jabs to make you associate trans women as men and trans men as women. Some blogger you're parasocial with says these things, you parrot them, the people that follow you parrot them, now they're completely disconnected from their source and just accepted as true, despite them being completely wrong. Bloggers like nothorses and genderkoolaid and genderqueerdyke are known to platform terf rhetoric all the fucking time, to platform outright lies about trans women, while also throwing in actual issues with transphobia or "we're all faggots in the eyes of the state!" kind of posts. and you take them seriously because you're not educated about feminism. About transphobia. About misogyny. About racism. etc. Your knowledge comes from posts on tumblr, facebook, twitter, you don't actually read anything about these topics, instead you get taken in by terf grifters writing their own medium articles and then reposting it on tumblr.

Then there's the fake intersexism element, like with dabwax (literal terf btw, barely even a crypto) and status-quo-hater who make a living out of demonizing transfem hrt and surgeries and say they need to be banned or harder to get under the guise that our medical needs are intersexism, they often misgender transfems (dabwax once called me a male and after i blocked her for it she refused to gender me correctly). But none of the transandrodorks notice that because they'll parrot things like "trans men face a unique kind of oppression that transfems could never understand" or something, self serving interests.

All the while yall show up on the posts of transfems and call us bitches (classic misogyny), hysterical (classic misogyny), tell us we need t-dick / we all need to make out (sexual harassment / lesbophobia, misogyny), "we're all faggots in the eyes of the state!" (why are you calling us faggots?), say you should be allowed to hunt trans women (do I need to say it?), stalk and harass and misgender transfems (seems pretty obvious, right?), call us pedophiles for literally anything - even calling a trans woman a pedophile for not liking Stardew Valley, call us "mentally ill ugly tranny," say we can't be lesbians, say we have "AMAB privilege," say we were "male socialized" (VERBATIM TERF RHETORIC) and if you question any of this you get the pet transfems that have bought into terf ideology that then stalk you and harass you and try to speak over you and one look at their blogs you find they're unhappy conservative losers.

"but transmascs need a term to talk about our oppression!" it's called transphobia. it has always been transphobia. it will always be transphobia. At the very least don't use a fucking term created by someone who believes in the corrective rape of lesbians (and before someone pops up to say this is taken out of context, no it wasn't a private password protected kink blog, the person who coined transandrophobia would post shit about raping lesbians on an easily accessible blog sandwiched between political posts).

I am just so genuinely done with this. I'm sick of having weird little men and men-adjacent weirdos being misogynistic to me and thinking it's ok cuz they're also trans. I'm sick of being sexually harassed and lied about and dehumanzed by people who claim they're our community. I'm sick of having my gender belittled and mocked by "sissy male (she/her)" shitheads. I'm over transandrophobia and the people who say it exists, all of you are terfs, all of you are transmisogynists, all of you are frothing at the mouth for trans women to die.

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"Reinventing the Gender Binary"

CWs: Rape, fetishization, impregnation by assault, dehumanization, transmisogynistic degendering, misappropriating the language of racial justice, objectification, and worst of all, "infighting". I'm going to do something stupid---post about transfeminism on Tumblr again. The following is transcribed from two Bluesky threads:

I have a story.

About how "transfeminists reinvented the gender binary". About how "every trans person is subject to transmisogyny". About how "we're all faggots, deviants, perverts, so why demand specificity?" It begins with a transmasc individual saying "chicks with dicks" isn't offensive.

See, this individual identified as a chick with a dick. Or a man with a vag, depending. They revealed a lot about themselves over the course of the argument with a trans women. They were 19, married, a parent, and never availed of any transition care. They didn't consider this term dehumanizing.

When the trans woman they were arguing with told them that they didn't have the authority to deem whether a term fetishizing her was dehumanizing or not, they got very nasty. Trans women did not have any special claim over 'chick with dick', and to say so was to practically misgender them.

So justified, they talked about how trans women *are* just a sexual identity, a kink identity, and we did not have any special authority over transphobia or transmisogyny. Unlike them, who experienced real oppression. This is where they strongly implied that they had been impregnated by assault.

That's deeply traumatic, and violent, and something no trans woman will experience. So therefore, of course, we have no epistemic authority over misogyny. Or transphobia. Or sexual assault, and fetishization. Our suffering is always going to be a subset of "real" misogyny, see. Because no wombs.

This individual is young, and they do not know they are a TERF. Trans identity, to them, is a mask, a way to "escape being gendered". Oppression to them is intrinsically linked to reproductive exploitation, which is synonymous with misogyny, and trans women don't experience that. We costume.

Every time I hear someone say that "we've reinvented the gender binary", I sigh deeply. We never needed to reinvent it. Trans women, in the midst of the most queervoid-y of spaces, have always keenly been aware that our claims of oppression and experiencing misogyny are rarely believed.

You can say this was a young individual---but where are they going to learn better? Who is going to tell them that trans women's oppression isn't a costume, isn't a stigma for a kink, is more than just a mask we put on? That we are, meaningfully, women? Even without the wombs?

The gender binary is already there. The queervoided social spaces always cease to be queervoided when a tranny walks in, because these spaces recognize true trans people yearning to be free from (re)gendering and oppression, and "male pretenders who want to be gender I wish to escape, the freaks".

I am not the one who made the gender binary important. I am not the one who tolerated TERFs in my spaces, who encouraged the uncritical adoption of naturalized sex split from gender, and promoted a model of misogyny intrinsically tied to reproductive injustice.

I am the one who is offal.

Trans women are women who cannot be reproductive exploited, and we are too tainted to be allowed to be men ever again. So we are trash. Even to queervoids, because their "beyond the binary" ends at the threshold of a tranny demanding respect.

You think you are beyond sex? You think you have eliminated the need to divine what kind of gendered violence an individual is subject to?

I don't believe you.

I don't believe you, because I have seen gendervoids enact this violence on trannies, time and time again.

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

[Red, in a different post]:

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

I don't believe you are beyond gender.

YOU MARK ME AND MINE IN THE SAME WAY THE CIS DO, IN THE SAME WAY OUR MOST DEDICATED EXTERMINATIONIST FOES DO, AND YOU HAVE THE SHEER, UNREPENTANT, UTTER GALL TO PRETEND YOU ARE IN ANY WAY MORE ENLIGHTENED THAN THE GUTTER OF THE PATRIARCHY YOU EMERGED FROM?

You are not beyond gender.

Fuck your pronouns. You treat a tranny like this, your gender is fucking "sexist". Piss on your "gender abolition". It's worth nothing.

I will, in fact, be even blunter:

Trans women are not trying to say transmisogyny is "the worst oppression". We gave up on trying to stress the severity of it a long time ago. We are, at this point, trying to communicate that we *are oppressed at all*, to people who refuse to believe it.

I have seen fifty-year old men pull out the "I was a woman longer than you, tranny" card. I've seen people of every identity and experience go "I'll always be more of a woman than you, tranny, and don't you fucking forget it." Trans women are surveilled, scrutinized, targeted, and not believed.

The most gender-enlightened of us all refuse to deign to recognize trans women as meaningfully impacted by misogyny, as anything but second-class citizens of womanhood and feminism, as meaningfully oppressed because we are woman-gendered, sure, maybe, but we are not FEMALE.

And we notice that.

Then when we notice that even fellow trans people are more willing to self-regender to talk over us than BELIEVE US ABOUT OUR OWN LIVES AND OPPRESSION, or GRANT US THE PRIVILEGE OF SPEAKING AS THEIR EQUALS IN THE STRUGGLE AGAINST PATRIARCHY, we are called "divisive".

Fuck that.

Hear me, here and now: You will get nowhere but a singularity of a "gender-enlightened" movement collapsing in on itself because for all the yearning for a post-gender existence, no one is willing to grant the tranny the dignity of womanhood, to admit that she, too, suffers AS a woman.

If you want to tie the core of misogynistic oppression to reproduction and deem transness as nothing more than "gender-play", fine. I wish you luck.

Cassandra has spoken.

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It's your life to live. Don't let anyone stand in the way of being your authentic self! 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

I hope ya'll don't mind me posting non bear content for once but I made the companion piece for my Pride lions (MtF this time) & I wanna share it here before it gets re-posted without permission 💔

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Hey I believe in tme/tma. if you think this makes me a trans radfem, not only should you unfollow and block me, you need to stay the fuck away from other trans women too.

Honestly if you label any trans woman talking about transmisogyny at all, a trans radfem, unless she explicitly identifies as a trans radfem you are being transmisogynistic and actively unsafe for transfems to be around.

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idea that intersex people are rare is intersexism

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intersex people get routinely mutilated after birth, put on non-consensual hormonal "therapy" later in life, our medical history may be altered or hidden from us, doctors often lie straight in our faces to not tell us our diagnoses or push us to "consent" on "treatment" by fearmongering or witholding information about this treatment, the official definitions of intersexness are constantly narrowing to exclude as many variations as possible.

we aren't naturally rare, we are made rare, and then this "rareness" is used as excuse to not include us anywhere. to not address our discrimination. to not think about our experiences.

intersex people aren't rare. we're (often violently) erased and separated. and this is intersexism.

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Butch positivity post for

💖butches who take estrogen 💖

💖Butches who use she/her pronouns exclusively 💖

💖Butches who voice train💖

💖Butches who get laser hair removal/electrolysis💖

💖Butches who get breast augmentation 💖

💖Butches who get facial feminization surgery 💖

💖Butches who get orchi💖

💖Butches who get vaginoplasty💖

💖Transfem butches in who do none/any/all of the above.💖

You are seen, you are loved, and you are no less valid as a butch or as a lesbian.

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pins by Abprallen

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bitches on the internet will be like "oohh that sounds like some terminally online Tumblr Discourse™️ to me" and it's just talking about transgender women being given rights

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HAPPY FIRST EVER INTERNATIONAL AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY

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afab trans men as opposed to..?

trans nonbinary people as opposed to..?

the transandro bloggers are in a race to just obscure what being trans even means

which makes sense when you look at how many of them are already, or later become, detrans TERFs.

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I'm not fond of the lgbt at this point like as a demographic white queers aren't any less likely to be racist than any other type of white people. Native queer people get fucking murdered and you can't talk about how their race is relevant, like you haven't been killing us for centuries. Happy pride month

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happy pride month

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I'm literally begging you to listen to intersex transfems when they say that the terms tme and tma are intersexist. I'm begging you to listen to the woman who coined the term transmisogyny when she agrees that the terms are intersexist. why is it so difficult to understand? do the voices of transfems only matter if they're perisex?

hmmm who should i believe, my multiple intersex transfem mutuals who have talked about the subject, or this random anon who is definitely in good faith? WHO KNOWS

anyway get off anon so i check your biases or go fall down a flight of stairs.

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the absolute nerve of repeatedly using perisex ("is not part of my minority") while calling tma/tme ("is/is not part of my minority") problematic or whatever is fucking atrocious

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like if you’re reblogging shit like this you’re obviously a transmisogynist. this is such an obvious gamergate level strawman. even if the person holding this value actually exists (& i don’t doubt this is a misrepresentation) it would be pretty easy to ignore them instead of saying something on the level of, “look how far the trans community has fallen, trans women used to be ACTIVISTS and now all they are is annoying bitches”. It’s the exact same joke as when antifeminists argue that the feminists of old had REAL things to argue about — like employment! and voting! — but now they all just complain about people sitting funny on the bus. It’s a blatantly sexist & antifeminist strawman.

and to top this all off, it's tagged as "transandrophobia". like we're apparently supposed to laugh at the (probably fictional) trans girl being shit-talked in the original post, but simultaneously meant to consider "being told you can't have a blahaj because that's trans girl culture" as a serious example of bigotry against trans men? that's a pretty obvious double standard!