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The little girl in me

The little girl in me is a part of who I am, even as an adult. She represents my innocence, curiosity, and creativity. She reminds me of the simple pleasures in life, like jumping in puddles, blowing bubbles, and making new friends. She is a reminder to slow down and enjoy the journey, rather than always focusing on the destination.

As a child, the little girl in me was full of wonder and imagination. I would spend hours playing with dolls, drawing pictures, and pretending to be a princess in a far-off kingdom. My mind was always active, always dreaming up new adventures and scenarios.

As I grew older, the little girl in me didn't disappear. She just changed form. I became more interested in reading books, writing stories, and exploring new places. I started to see the world in a different way, but I still had that same sense of wonder and curiosity.

Sometimes, as adults, we can get so caught up in the responsibilities and stresses of life that we forget about the little girl or boy inside of us. We forget about the things that used to bring us joy and excitement. We forget to take time for ourselves, to play, and to explore.

But it's important to remember that the little girl in us is still there, waiting to be rediscovered. We just need to take the time to listen to our inner child and give them the attention they deserve.

Bradshaw (1988) explores the concept of shame and how it affects our lives. He argues that shame is often rooted in early childhood experiences, and that by reconnecting with our inner child, we can heal the wounds of shame and lead more fulfilling lives.

Also Chopra (1944) once said the importance of reconnecting with our inner child in order to tap into our natural creativity, joy, and intuition. Also argues that our inner child represents our true self, unencumbered by the limitations and conditioning of the adult world. He suggests that by connecting with our inner child, we can access a sense of wonder and spontaneity that can lead to greater success and fulfillment in all areas of life.

By reconnecting with the little girl in us, we can tap into our creativity, our sense of wonder, and our ability to see the world in a different way. We can learn to appreciate the simple things in life and find joy in the present moment.

So, let's not forget about the little girl in us. Let's embrace our inner child and let them guide us towards a more joyful and fulfilling life.

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"Unraveling the Mystery of Teenage Love: Navigating Romance in the Digital Age"

As a teenager, you are in a period of life where you are exploring and discovering the world around you. This includes exploring romantic relationships, which can be exciting, confusing, and even overwhelming. With the rise of technology, social media, and dating apps, it can be challenging to navigate teenage love in the digital age. In this blog, we will unravel the mystery of teenage love and provide tips for navigating romance in the modern world.

Firstly, it's important to understand the generation Z perspective on love. Unlike previous generations, Generation Z places a higher value on emotional connection and authenticity in their relationships. This is reflected in the rise of terms like "situationships" and "textual chemistry." However, it's important to recognize that online communication is not a substitute for real-life connection. While it may seem easier to connect with someone online, it's crucial to invest time and effort in building meaningful connections face-to-face.

One study conducted by Santos et al (2016). explored the experience of love among Brazilian teenagers. The study found that teenagers often experienced love as intense and passionate, and that their experiences were shaped by cultural and societal norms surrounding romantic relationships. The authors also noted that love during adolescence can play an important role in shaping one's identity and sense of self.

As a teenager, it's essential to know your side in a relationship. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement of being in a relationship and lose sight of your values and boundaries. Take time to reflect on what you want and what you don't want in a relationship. Communication is key, so don't be afraid to have honest conversations with your partner about your expectations and boundaries.

Navigating teenage love can be challenging, and it's normal to experience struggles along the way. Whether it's dealing with rejection, heartbreak, or jealousy, it's important to know that you are not alone. It's okay to reach out for support from trusted friends, family members, or even a therapist. Remember that you are still growing and learning, and every experience is an opportunity for growth.

Throughout your teenage years, you will undoubtedly have your fair share of romantic experiences. These experiences may be positive, negative, or somewhere in between. Some relationships may be short-lived, while others may last longer. You may experience your first love, your first heartbreak, or even your first breakup. Whatever your experiences may be, it's important to remember that they are all part of your journey and can teach you valuable lessons.

It's also important to understand that not all relationships are meant to last forever. As a teenager, you may feel pressure to find your "soulmate" or have a perfect fairy-tale romance. However, the reality is that not all relationships are meant to last, and that's okay. It's normal to have different priorities and goals as you grow and develop as an individual. If a relationship is no longer fulfilling or healthy, it's important to have the courage to end it respectfully and move on. Remember that the end of a relationship is not a reflection of your worth, and that there are plenty of opportunities for love and connection in the future.

So Teenage Love can be a mystery, but it doesn't have to be. By understanding the generation Z perspective on love, knowing your side, and seeking support when needed, you can navigate romantic relationships in the digital age. Remember to embrace your journey and prioritize your well-being above all else. Happy exploring!

Reference:

Lopez, F. G., & Gormley, B. (2016). Perceived partner responsiveness mediates the association between attachment anxiety and relationship satisfaction: A daily diary study. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 33(1), 64-85.

Lambert, N. M., & Fincham, F. D. (2016). Expressing gratitude to a partner leads to more relationship maintenance behavior. Emotion, 16(2), 220-224.

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Don't call me kid, don't call me baby

“Her words hurt like a thousand cuts” Mother and daughter issues has been relevant these generation. Mommy issues and the mother-daughter relationship can be a complex and sensitive topic. In psychology, the term "mommy issues" often refers to unresolved emotional issues or conflicts that a person has with their mother, which can impact their adult relationships and overall well-being. There can be a variety of dynamics and challenges in the mother-daughter connection, such as problems with attachment, communication, and limits. For instance, a daughter may feel like she can never live up to her mother's expectations or may feel smothered by her mother's over-involvement in her life. Instead, a daughter could experience feelings of abandonment or anger as a result of her mother's neglect or lack of support.

                As mentioned in christiancounseling (2023), A toxic mother-daughter relationship is a dysfunctional relationship that can be detrimental to your physical, mental, or emotional well-being. It can manifest in various ways and is not something that just develops out of the blue. Typically, there’s a history of self-centered, overly critical, controlling, manipulative, or combative behavior. When thinking of toxic mother-daughter relationships we usually tend to attribute them to the mother’s dysfunctional actions, but often it’s the daughter who is causing the toxicity in the relationship.

As stated by momjunction (2022), several people have described a mother-daughter relationship in different ways. Some say, ‘A mother’s treasure is her daughter.’ And others say, ‘While a mother’s treasure is her daughter, a daughter’s sunshine is her mother.’ A mother is a role model, best friend, and a pillar of strength for her daughter. For the mother, her daughter is her world. However, sometimes, there are situations when this beautiful relationship wobbles. This affects both mother and daughter. In such circumstances, it is essential to address the issues and make the relationship better.

Despite being the only person, I can turn to in times of trouble, my mother and I don't have a very good relationship. We often argue over a certain matter, and our relationship has become toxic over the years. As a child from a broken family, I used to dream of having the kind of mother-daughter relationship that could weather any storm. However, as I grew older, I came to realize that our bond was strained and in badly needed to be fixed.

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AS FRAGILE AS GLASS: FRAGILE MENTALITY OF TODAY'S GENERATION

Today’s generation is a lot more fragile than the past; a small hurtful word can make them cry even the slightest! I do have that kind of mentality though, it’s as fragile as a piece of glass that dropping my anger at people would just make me cry.

Just yesterday I told myself that I wouldn’t let my emotions get to me it still did, This has been my problem since middle school I still don’t know why I have it I mean I’m surrounded by friends and lovely people.

Can you believe I cried just because one of my friends haven’t been talking to me yeah... and that one time when I was ignored, I felt hurt, but I knew deep down I’m just overreacting. Funny how I’m also the therapy friend of the group…

Teens do struggle with this kind of mentality; many millennials would just call it overreacting but it’s a real problem especially when you can’t handle your emotions or don’t know how to. Parents aren’t the only ones who are the cause of this fragility there is a lot of factors when it comes to a teens mental state, we can’t always blame the parents.

Teen mental health is a major public health concern that has become even more pressing during the COVID-19 crisis (Pauletta Cha, 2021). The teenage years are a time of transition from childhood into adulthood, Teens may feel overwhelmed by the emotional and physical changes they are experiencing (Leisa Bailey, 2022).

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A Delicate Flower: The Fragility of Growth

The most challenging part of the life of humans is the process of change and coming out of one's comfort zones. As a child, we are never deprived of dreaming of the impossible; it can be said that children own the right to dream. This stage of life is a remarkable reminder that innocence brings out such genuine fantasies of our horrible reality. However, we are never meant to be a child forever; time continuously challenges us and brings us enlightenment of the world. The end of childhood is where a new beginning of life starts—teenage life—the stage of life that is often faced with misunderstanding from the crowd.

Most people would complain, "Why are teenagers so sensitive?" This thinking must be because growth is a fragile process, and the life of innocence is finally realized during this stage. According to Walsh (2022), all of this occurs at the exact moment as the brain's emotional centers go into overdrive. Teenagers are particularly vulnerable to powerful emotions, incentives, threats, and stress. Connecting the links, it is unsurprising that typical stress and more serious mental health difficulties may worsen during adolescence. There is no lack of personal, societal, and environmental pressures in the lives of today's youth. Researchers think that, as compared to childhood, brain changes during adolescence enhance a teen's sensitivity to sadness and anxiety.

On top of that, teenagers may be more susceptible to external pressures, such as peer pressure, social media influence, and academic stress. All these factors can make teenagers feel more fragile and vulnerable. However, it's important to note that teenagers are also incredibly resilient and capable of adapting to these challenges. They can overcome obstacles and become confident, independent adults with the proper support and guidance.

Teenagers go through a lot of physical, emotional, and psychological changes during adolescence, which can make them feel overwhelmed and fragile at times. However, it's important to note that while teenagers may be going through a difficult time, they are resilient and adaptable. It's crucial to support teenagers in a positive and nurturing environment and to provide them with the resources they need to navigate the challenges of adolescence.

At long last, teens are as delicate as flowers. They are as fragile as flowers, as growth may be a tender process in many ways. A delicate balance of appropriate surroundings, resources, possibilities, assistance, and motivation is required. Any disruption or imbalance in these components might hinder progress and result in setbacks.

Reference:

Walsh, E. & Walsh, D. (2022). Adolescent mental health: Why teens are sensitive to stress and support. Spark and Stitch Institute. https://sparkandstitchinstitute.com/adolescent-mental-health-why-teens-are-sensitive-to-stress-and-support/

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If I Get More Pretty, Do You Think He Will Like Me?

It is a common belief that being physically attractive can increase one's chances of finding love or being liked by others. This belief is often reinforced by societal standards that prioritize physical beauty and often perpetuate the idea that attractiveness is the most important factor in a romantic relationship. According to Oakes (2019), society often puts a lot of emphasis on physical beauty, and this can lead to feelings of insecurity and pressure to conform to certain beauty standards.

However, it is important to remember that true love and genuine connections are not solely based on physical appearance. While physical attraction may be a factor in initiating a relationship, it is not the only factor and should not be the only focus. Relationships built solely on physical attraction are often short-lived and superficial.

Furthermore, constantly striving to change one's appearance in order to please someone else is not a healthy mindset. It is important to love and accept oneself for who they are, rather than constantly seeking validation from others. According to Gupta (2022), some people are able to accept their shortcomings; whereas others fixate on them and become their own worst critics. Confidence in oneself is an attractive quality that can often overshadow physical appearance. Gilbertson (2019) stated that to stop feeling insecure so often, you’ll need to develop a stronger sense of who you are and a genuine affection for that person.

It is also important to note that physical beauty is subjective and varies from person to person. What one person finds attractive may not be the same for another. Therefore, altering one's appearance in hopes of pleasing someone else may not even be effective. It is important to focus on qualities that are not related to physical appearance, such as kindness, intelligence, and a good sense of humor. These qualities are often what truly make a person attractive to others.

In conclusion, the idea that one needs to be prettier in order to be liked by someone is a harmful and inaccurate belief. It is important to focus on self-love and acceptance, and to seek connections based on genuine compatibility and mutual respect. At the end of the day, true connections are built on much more than just physical appearance.

References

Gupta, S. (2022). How to Embrace Self-Acceptance. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/self-acceptance-characteristics-importance-and-tips-for-improvement-6544468

Lpc, T. G. (2019, November 14). How to Stop Feeling Insecure. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/201911/how-stop-feeling-insecure

Oakes, K. (2022, February 24). The complicated truth about social media and body image. BBC Future. https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190311-how-social-media-affects-body-image

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Unlocking the Secret to Stress-Free Productivity: Time Management Tips and Tricks

Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed and stressed by your daily workload? Do you wish you could be more productive without sacrificing your mental health and well-being? It's time to unlock the secret to stress-free productivity with these time management tips and tricks.

Old efficiency models of time management aren’t for everyone now. In fact, they can have a detrimental effect on stress levels, since they tend to leave us pulling overtime to tick boxes - or beating ourselves up when we don’t make it through our list. So, with proper training, how can taking better charge of our time reduce stress?

One of the most effective time management techniques is to prioritize your tasks based on importance and urgency. Start by creating a to-do list and organizing your tasks according to their level of importance. This will help you focus on the most critical tasks first and eliminate unnecessary stressors that may be holding you back.

Another effective time management technique is to eliminate distractions. Set aside specific times during the day to check your emails, social media, and other non-essential tasks. This will help you stay focused on your work and avoid getting sidetracked by distractions.

In addition to time management techniques, there are also many stress management techniques that can help reduce stress levels and increase productivity. One effective method is to practice mindfulness, which can help you stay focused and centered, even in the midst of a busy day.

Exercise is another essential stress management technique. Exercise increases your overall health and your sense of well-being, which puts more pep in your step every day. Regular physical activity has been shown to reduce stress levels, improve mood, and increase energy levels, making it an essential component of any stress management plan.

By unlocking the secret to stress-free productivity and incorporating time management and stress management techniques into your daily routine, you can reduce stress levels and achieve your goals with ease. So start today by prioritizing your tasks, eliminating distractions, practicing mindfulness, and engaging in regular physical activity. With some simple adjustments to your daily routine, you can achieve a more productive, stress-free life.

References:

Clear, J. (2020, June 9). How to be More Productive by Using the “Eisenhower Box.” James Clear. https://jamesclear.com/eisenhower-box 

Mayo Clinic. (2022, August 3). Exercise and stress: Get moving to manage stress.   https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/exercise-and-stress/art-20044469

Watts, K. (2022, July 1). How to Reduce Stress by Having Better Time Management. ZandaX.https://www.zandax.com/blog/how-to-reduce-stress-by-having-better-time-management 

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"Bullying: Understanding the Pain and its Impact and How to Stop It"

According to the New Zealand Ministry of Education (n.d.), bullying can affect everything about a person: how they see themselves, their friends, school, and their future. Back in the days when I used to witness my big sister getting bullied just because she had a cleft lip, that's why everyone was mocking her, especially boys; I couldn't do anything because they were boys, so I couldn't run after them that fast to teach them a lesson. So she grew up having low self-esteem and always wearing a mask. 

The impact of Bullying does affect her, as are other people, specifically kids, and teenagers. Bullying can happen in many contexts, from physical to verbal, and it can happen anytime, anywhere, like at a school, at an office, or even in public places and online, which we call it cyberbullying (Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs & Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs, 2022). Regardless of its condition or the environment, it can negatively affect both the victim and the abuser.

 Bullying can lead to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and suicide. The victim may feel alone and isolated, teaching them to hate themselves instead of loving themselves more; they can develop post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) due to their experiences. On the other hand, bullies may have difficulty empathizing with others and struggle with compassion; they might adopt the bully life for the rest of their lives and end up hurting everyone and themselves. 

It's essential to understand that you are not alone if you are now a victim of Bullying. Everyone can use several techniques to stop Bullying and help people harmed. We always have a coping mechanism in every situation, so as a Blogger, I am spreading awareness and strategies to protect your mental health from bullies. 

The following coping techniques may be helpful: Higher levels should implement school programs and policies for students to foster kindness and respect; Discussing your struggles with someone is necessary, so please seek support; Training teachers and staff to identify and deal with bullying behavior; And last but least, love yourself because when you love yourself, you gain self-worth and self-confidence and generally feel more optimistic.

Bullying does have a significant impact on victims. Being aware and able to deal with bullying behavior would not just help the victims; we can also help and lessen the bullies by being more educated on this situation. Our call is to be a team and establish a kind and respectful environment where everyone feels secure and supported and won't tolerate Bullying.

 References: 

- Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs (ASPA) & Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs (2022). What Is Bullying. StopBullying.gov. https://www.stopbullying.gov/bullying/what-is-bullying

- New Zealand Ministry of Education. (n.d.). The effects of bullying. Bullying Free NZ. https://bullyingfree.nz/about-bullying/the-effects-of-bullying/ 

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"Unleashing Your Inner Self Queen": My Journey to Self-Discovery

“A woman who is in the process of learning to know, accept, and love herself on all levels — mind, body, and spirit. A woman who, because she focuses on personal growth and self-awareness, experiences a life, increasingly filled with peace, love, joy, passion, and fun. A woman that understands that she has unlimited capacity to make her life anything she wants. A woman who is inspired to give to those around her because of her sense of gratitude and abundance. A woman who is so beautiful, brilliant, and wholesome that she is simply not like any other woman on earth.” - Breyanaa

"What is Unleashing Your Inner Queen?"

Let me introduce you to the concept of "Unleash Your Inner Queen," according to Sunday Dami. Unleashing your inner self-queen is the ideal companion for any woman looking to embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and personal growth.

It encourages women to tap into their inner strength, confidence, and power to become the best version of themselves. It is about discovering your true self, accepting your unique characteristics, and ruling your world with grace and determination.

My Journey of Finding My Inner-Self Queen

In my journey of self-discovery, I have come to realize the importance of finding my inner queen. This concept refers to the idea of embracing and embodying the qualities of a powerful, confident, and self-assured woman.

It involves recognizing your worth, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care. By finding your inner self-queen, you can unlock your full potential and live a fulfilling life.

My Story 

My journey took a very long time to discover myself. Back in my childhood, when my teacher asked me “What do you want to be in the future?”, I had many things to say: “I want to be a teacher!”, “I want to be a model!”, “I want to be a dancer!”.

How funny it is to reminisce about those days now because I had many dreams and wanted to be many things in the future.

But now, if someone asks me that kind of question, I would say “I don't know”. Because as I grew up, I started to forget my dreams, and I didn't even know myself.

People always had something to say about me, and I always listened, understood, and applied their opinions to myself. I tried to be nice to others and cared about them more than myself. I just tried to look good and do my best so that everyone could like me.

I was miserable, and it only got worse. I was always comparing myself to others and feeling jealous. People gossiped about me and laughed at me. I even cried in front of my mom and said, “Ma, I don't want to dance. I want to stop pursuing my passion.” Imagine that my whole life I was a performer, and my mother supported everything I achieved, and my father wanted to see me perform on stage.

But it was ruined, and it became a trauma for me to be a performer because people around me were cruel. They gave me harsh words and made jokes about my mistakes. I feel worthless; my confidence is little by little gone; I'm having social anxiety; I'm a people-pleaser; and I'm scared to commit a mistake again.

The worst part is when people call you out and say, “You are just overreacting," and just like that, those three words make everything turn black. My life was dark and full of negativity, and it felt like there was no hope.

My Process of Finding My Inner-Self Queen

However, the pandemic happened, and during those almost two years at home, I discovered hope for myself.

I planned to start learning about self-love and empowerment. I started reading books about personal growth and watching videos about self-improvement.

My progress wasn't easy. At this age, I'm still a young woman who is innocent and still learning, progressing, and doing it for myself.

It took me a while to realize that I needed to focus on myself and my own happiness rather than trying to please everyone else.

I started taking small steps towards self-discovery and empowerment, such as setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and exploring my passions.

It wasn't easy, and there were still moments of self-doubt and insecurity, and sometimes I had to start from zero again and again. But I knew that I needed to keep pushing forward.

I know it's easy to say, but I know it's really hard to do because we need to beat our enemy, which is procrastination. My advice for you is to take your time. It's okay to start with small progress, though you're still progressing.

Every step, no matter how small, is a step towards growth and self-improvement. I learned to be patient with myself and to celebrate every accomplishment, no matter how small. 

Over time, my confidence grew, and I began to see myself in a different light. I no longer saw myself as a victim of my circumstances but as a strong and capable young woman who could overcome any obstacle.

It was a long and difficult journey, but I am proud of how far I have come. I am now living my life on my own terms, and I am excited to see what the future holds.

Celebrating the Progress of Finding My Inner Self-Queen

I finally crowned myself for knowing my inner self-queen and the power I hold. I am grateful for the lessons I have learned and the growth I have experienced.

The struggles I faced in the past have allowed me to understand what self-discovery and empowerment truly mean. I now prioritize self-love and my mental health and am committed to pursuing my passions and dreams.

I hope that this journey will inspire every woman to be a confident woman who knows her inner queen and always loves herself with empowerment.

We are all a work in progress, and together, we will journey toward empowering ourselves and others. Standing shoulder-to-shoulder, walking hand-in-hand, it's time to take charge of our destiny, Queens! - The Queens

References:

Breyanna. (2013, November 27). WHAT IS A GODDESS? Retrieved from https://breyanaijae.com/author/breyanaa/

Dami, S. (2023). Unleash Your Inner Queen: Women's Notebook for Self-Discovery, Empowerment, and Personal Growth. goodreads.

The Queen Studios. (2022). Workbooks. Retrieved from https://www.thequeens.ph/workbooks

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"Old Enough to Understand": Being the Center of Parents Fight 

Have you ever experienced having this situation or do you know someone who relates to this issue?

Fights between parents are a common problem that many individuals face, especially youngsters. Parents assume that their children are not old enough to understand the things that are going on. A lot of people say fighting with your loved ones is a normal thing to happen. I, myself, talked with someone regarding this issue, but the response that I got was "normal ra mana sa mag-asawa," and I wonder if they could understand what I feel when hearing the words from my parent's fight. How can they be so insensitive when saying that? What if they experience things that I wish I had never experienced?

I came to the point where I could hear small voices and wondered if it was just me who was making those noises inside my head. As time went by, I felt like my heart was disconnected from my father. I tried to ignore my him because of what he had done that caused my family so much trouble. It all started with him. It hurts so bad that our family is slowly drifting apart. I hate blaming someone, and I am not blaming my father; I just wish and think that we would be so happy if only my father would be better for us. Growing up, as a daughter,  I know my mother did not do anything wrong. To Mama: You deserve the world. I wish I could give everything to you, but I can't.

Al-Qudah (2016) stated, “The family is the main influence in the lives of individuals because it is the first group that has a direct impact on them. The family has a profound impact on children's behavior, attitudes and maturity of emotions. Therefore, the children's personalities are formed through experiences in which they live and through the family atmosphere that arises from the interactive family relationships.”

Fighting is an impulse-driven activity and is loaded with intense feelings and emotions. A similar situation arises when parents engaged in a fight are unable to comprehend the impact their actions may have on their children. Most fights among parents are a result of failure to resolve conflicts and disagreements, or the lack of compatibility. Even parents who are intelligent, love each other, and appear well-adjusted 'outside the home environment' engage in fights (Merciline, 2022).

While arguing, one person says something they don’t mean, and the other doesn’t realize that their children are listening on the other side of the wall. Regardless of our age, we are affected more than they know; we can be physically or emotionally affected. I know for sure that it can't only be me who can relate to this, but there are just arguments that don't need to be fought and are nonsense that cause kids to be more affected.

Coping

Children have several different coping techniques for forgetting, such as hanging out with friends. As someone who experienced this kind of issue, spending time with friends is the only way for me to forget. Friends who are open-minded enough to understand what you are going through. According to Mayo Clinic Staff (2022), having close friends is beneficial to your health. Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends prevent isolation and loneliness and give you a chance to offer needed companionship, too.

Impact

Family issues, specifically this issue can affect the mental health of the children, their appetite, and their day. Example: going to school with a heavy heart; doing homework while not in the mood; having sudden waves of sadness and insecurities.

Loving someone is a hard thing for me to do. I developed overthinking, men issues, trust issues, attachment issues, etc., but now I am slowly healing and slowly forgiving my father without even hearing a single "sorry". Morin (2019) mentioned, “Children who are raised in high-conflict homes are more likely to have negative views of their family relationships. They are also more likely to view themselves negatively. It’s also important to think about the message that you’re sending to your kids about loving relationships. If you and your partner treat each other with disrespect, your kids will grow up thinking that it’s OK to do the same—and perhaps they’ll believe it’s OK to let others treat them poorly, too.”

References

Al-Qudah, M., & Hatahet, F. S. (2016). Family Problems Experienced by Students of the University of Jordan. ResearchGate. Retrieved from https://www.researchgate.net/publication/305591628_Family_Problems_Experienced_by_Students_of_the_University_of_Jordan

Mayo Clinic Staff. (2022). Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health. Mayo Clinic. Retrieved from https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860

Merciline, A. D. (2022). The Dangerous Impact of Parental Fights On A Child's Mental Wellbeing. Parent Circle. Retrieved from https://www.parentcircle.com/the-impact-of-parental-fights-on-children/article

Morin, A. (2019). How Parents Fighting Could Affect a Child's Mental Health. Verywell Family. Retrieved from https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-parents-fighting-affects-children-s-mental-health-4158375

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So sick of myself, I’d rather be anyone else

Feeling sick of yourself can be a difficult emotion to cope with. It's easy to get caught up in negative self-talk and self-doubt, especially when life seems to be going wrong. But it's important to remember that everyone experiences these feelings from time to time, and that there are ways to work through them.

A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that individuals with low self-esteem are more likely to experience feelings of jealousy and envy than those with high self-esteem (Birnbaum et al., 2010). This is because when someone has low self-esteem, they may be more likely to compare themselves to others and feel that they are not measuring up. This can lead to feelings of jealousy towards others who are perceived as more successful or attractive.

Another study published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found that jealousy can further exacerbate low self-esteem, creating a cycle of negative emotions (Hirsch & Mathews, 1997). This is because when someone experiences jealousy, they may feel even more insecure and inadequate, which can further damage their self-esteem.

If you're feeling like you'd rather be anyone else, it's worth taking some time to reflect on why you might be feeling this way. Is it because you're unhappy with your current situation, or is it because you're not living up to your own expectations? Whatever the reason, it's important to identify the root cause of your negative feelings so that you can take steps to address them.

One approach to dealing with these emotions is to try to shift your focus away from yourself and onto others. Volunteering or helping others can be a great way to boost your mood and take your mind off your own problems. You might also try focusing on your strengths and accomplishments, and making a list of things you're proud of. This can help you see yourself in a more positive light and boost your self-confidence.

Another helpful strategy is to engage in self-care activities. This can include things like exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature. These activities can help you relax and feel more at peace, which can in turn help you feel better about yourself.If you're still struggling with negative self-talk and feelings of self-doubt, it might be helpful to seek out the support of a therapist or counselor. They can provide a safe space for you to explore your emotions and develop strategies for coping with them.

Remember, it's normal to feel sick of yourself from time to time. But with patience and self-compassion, you can work through these emotions and come out the other side feeling more confident and self-assured.

Reference:

Birnbaum, G. E., Reis, H. T., Mikulincer, M., Gillath, O., & Orpaz, A. (2010). When people claim to know love: Attachment style, interpersonal dependency, and caregiving in close relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 98(6), 967-984.

Hirsch, C. R., & Mathews, A. (1997). A cognitive model of pathological jealousy. British Journal of Clinical Psychology, 36(3), 375-387.

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When Fluttery Goes Wrong

I know we all have been given a compliment or much worse a backhanded compliment at some point in our life. It's when people compliment you but with insults or as what Sarah Kaufman said: “A backhanded compliment is hardly a compliment at all, it’s an insult that is poorly disguised as a compliment, oftentimes rooted in the insecurities of the person delivering it". They would leave us feeling uneasy, even insulted.

Well, I have always been given such compliments ever since I was a kid.They always would and it hurts. We all can relate to it but we just would think nothing of it. We would just pass it through our ears and just thought nothing of it but in reality, we always think about it.

They think giving such compliments, we would be thankful but we also feel insulted by the underlying message. Which leads us to feeling confused and unsure of how to respond. Sometimes we might not even know we've been insulted until later.

Backhanded compliments are often used to put someone down while denying it. If you were given a backhanded compliment remember that the problem is the person who has given you such a compliment, not you. If you catch yourself giving a backhanded compliment, it's important to know what your intentions are. Are you trying to lighten them up, or are you trying to put them down? If so, it's time to change your style of communicating, try to be more genuine and kind.

In conclusion, backhanded compliments are compliments that seem nice but are linked with insults. It is best if you avoid giving such compliments as they can hurt someone or damage relationships. So always be kind and honest with your interactions with others.

Reference: Cox, J. (2022, August 26). How to Respond to Backhanded Compliments. Psych Central. https://psychcentral.com/health/backhanded-compliment

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The Pain of Distance: Coping with the Sadness of Missing My Parents While Studying Far Away

"It is the sunlight of parental love and encouragement that enables a child to grow in competence and slowly gain mastery over his environment" – Felicity Bauer.

As a student studying far away from home, it can be challenging to cope with the sadness of missing your parents. I know this from personal experience. When I moved out for my studies, I was excited about the new opportunities and experiences that awaited me. However, as time passed, I felt increasingly homesick and missed my parents more than ever. According to a study by Mahilum (2013), the left-behind children of OFW feel helplessness, loneliness, pessimism, deprivation, and isolation. 

Being a teenager is often accompanied by a high degree of emotional turbulence, and being away from one's parents only adds to this turbulence. As a teen studying 217 miles away from my papa and 4785 miles away from my mama, I can attest that the distance between us has made a significant gap in our relationship. The feeling of missing the old times is a constant companion, and it can be tough to cope with. It's hard to be away from the people who have been a constant in your life, who have been your support system, and who have always been there to guide you through the ups and downs of life. At this age, when one is trying to figure out their place in the world, the absence of parents can be a daunting reality. 

Despite the challenges, it's important to remember that this distance is temporary and that the love and bond between parents and children are unbreakable. In this blog, I will share my experience and some coping mechanisms that helped me overcome the pain of distance.

Keeping in Touch with Parents through Technology

Technology has made it easier than ever to stay in touch with loved ones, no matter where they are in the world. Take advantage of video chat apps like Skype or FaceTime to regularly talk with your parents. Hearing their voices and seeing their faces can provide comfort and connection. We can also use messaging apps like WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger to stay in touch with them throughout the day.

Bruen (2022) stated that technology has made it simpler to stay in touch, which is essential in any relationship. No matter where your loved ones are, you can communicate with them thanks to technology, whether through a short text or FaceTime video call (Shawn, 2023). This can be extremely useful in a long-distance relationship because it lets you stay close even when separated.  

Creating a Support System While Away from Parents

Creating a support system for yourself is important when you're away from home. This can include friends, roommates, or even professors. Surround yourself with people who care about you and can offer support when you are feeling down. Join clubs or organizations on campus to meet new people and build connections. A strong support system can help you feel less alone and more grounded. Good friends are good for our health (Mayo Clinic Staff, 2022).

Taking Care of Yourself While Missing Parents

Taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is important when you miss your parents. Eat well, exercise regularly, and get enough sleep. Take time for self-care activities like reading, meditating, or bathing. Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment rather than dwelling on thoughts of missing your parents.

Finding Joy in New Experiences While Missing Parents

Focusing on the new experiences and opportunities available while studying far away can be helpful when you're feeling down about missing your parents. Explore your new city or town and try new things. Take advantage of cultural events, museums, or parks. Make new friends and create new memories. By embracing new experiences, you can find joy and purpose even when missing your parents.

Conclusion: Remembering the Reasons for Studying Far Away and the Importance of Staying Connected with Parents

Studying far away from home can be a challenging experience, but it's also an opportunity for personal growth and development. Remember why you chose to study far away in the first place and focus on the positive aspects of your experience. Stay connected with your parents through technology and create a support system for yourself. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Embrace new experiences and find joy in your surroundings. And above all, remember that your parents love and support you, no matter where you are.

References

Bruen, C. (2022). Technology Advantages and Disadvantages in Your Relationships. Gizmosphere. https://www.gizmosphere.org/technology-advantages-disadvantages-relationships/#:~:text=1.-,Communication,no%20matter%20where%20they%20are.

Mayo Clinic Staff. (2022, January 12). Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health. Mayo Clinic. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860

Shawn. (2023). How Technology Affects Relationships. Digital Connect Mag. https://www.digitalconnectmag.com/how-technology-affects-relationships/

Mahilum, J. (2013, December 1). Nuts in a Shell: Exploring the Impact of OFWs Phenomenon on the Family in Region X. Document - Gale Academic OneFile. https://go.gale.com/ps/i.do?id=GALE%7CA512855480&sid=googleScholar&v=2.1&it=r&linkaccess=abs&issn=20941064&p=AONE&sw=w&userGroupName=anon%7E914b7325#:~:text=Findings%20are%3A%201)%20the%20most,with%20health%20and%20academic%20problems.

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BEING ME IS THE BEST THING I CAN BE

CJ

Being oneself is essential to living a fulfilled life. It is a concept that has been around for centuries and has been explored by numerous philosophers, poets, and scholars. The idea of authenticity and self-discovery is the basis for many self-help books and therapy sessions. Being yourself is more than just embracing your quirks and flaws; it's about accepting who you are and striving to become the best version of yourself. As Oscar Wilde once said, "Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."

One of the benefits of being yourself is the sense of freedom that comes with it. When you embrace your authentic self, you no longer feel the need to conform to societal norms or the expectations of others. This freedom allows you to explore your interests, pursue your passions, and create a life that is uniquely yours. When you are not trying to fit in or be someone you are not, you can focus on what truly matters to you.

Another benefit of being yourself is the sense of confidence that comes with it. When you accept yourself for who you are, you no longer feel the need to compare yourself to others. This self-confidence can lead to greater success and fulfillment in all areas of your life. As Mark Twain once said, "The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself."

Being yourself also allows you to form more meaningful relationships. When you are not pretending to be someone you are not, you attract people who appreciate you for who you are. These genuine connections are more fulfilling and can lead to greater happiness and well-being. As the Dalai Lama once said, "The greatest happiness is to be at peace with yourself."

Finally, being yourself sets a positive example for others. When you embrace your authentic self, you inspire others to do the same. This can lead to a more accepting and tolerant society, where people are valued for their unique qualities and perspectives. As Maya Angelou once said, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

In conclusion, being oneself is the best thing one can be. It leads to greater freedom, confidence, meaningful relationships, and sets a positive example for others. As Shakespeare once wrote, "To thine own self be true." So, embrace who you are and strive to become the best version of yourself.

CHRISTIAN JHADE P. ODIONGAN

11- MYERS

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Lost as a person; I've Lost my way

Being lost as a person has more to do with our surroundings and how we engage with them. Being alone can be quite relaxing at times, however it can also be depressing and lonely at most, but lonliness may be a result of us growing lost. As we discover in our surroundings, youngsters taste in fashion, clothing, and personalities are rapidly changing. These are indications that most individuals are lost and attempting to find themselves, but it is not easy.

Most teenagers are lost and are unable to make decisions for themselves; they observe their surroundings in order to make a decision, and the pressure to make a decision immediately away may worsen the sensations of being lost. Teenagers are prone to making rash decisions due to a lack of experience and information. It is tough for kids to escape out of that feeling once they fall into a deep black hole surrounded by darkness; it becomes more difficult day by day. It is almost impossible to recover from a loss.

There are numerous reasons for feeling lost, but the most common must be suppressing feelings from others and not letting them know how you truly feel. Not communicating your feelings and thoughts with others is like to locking oneself up like a caught bird; it may appear joyful, but it is longing to get out. When teenagers start suppressing their genuine emotions, things become more difficult for them, and it becomes more difficult to read them as they get better at hiding their grief.

Being lost may be sad and depriving in so many ways. Having those feelings can be unbearably difficult, like a thousand stabs in the heart. Every day, they attempt to be free of such dreadful and agonizing feelings, but they fail. Not being heard can also have a significant impact on one's emotional well-being, especially if they are feeling lonely. They may feel the desire to try and talk to someone, but most individuals are unable to detect those symptoms.

According to Imogen L. (2022), Lonliness can be experienced by everyone at least once in their lifetime. Getting locked inside of the house, not being able to see friends and family, has affected multiple civilians accross the world. The perspective that I take an effort to mask or alter due to the fact that I don't want to be seen out as too emotional, weak, or bizarre. If I eventually do decide to let go of it later and it is not well accepted. Given the situation we're in, going back to self-isolation and in-depth reflection before it became a common thing to talk about (Pat Kay 2020).

References Imogen L. (2022). My Experience with loneliness. University of London. https://www.london.ac.uk/news-and-opinion/student-blog/my-experience-loneliness

Pat Kay (2020). 11:days ago-5:35pm. Tokyo, Japan. Pat Kay. https://patkay.com/blogs/pk/its-okay-to-feel-lonely

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Feel Calm, Not Anxious:

In today's fast-paced world, stress and anxiety have become a part of our daily lives. It's crucial to manage these feelings and find ways to stay calm and centered. Research has shown that mindfulness meditation can be a powerful tool in reducing anxiety and promoting relaxation. According to a study published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology, mindfulness meditation was found to be effective in reducing anxiety symptoms in individuals with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) (Hoge et al., 2013).

In addition to meditation, another effective strategy for managing anxiety is to practice deep breathing exercises. Deep breathing has been shown to decrease heart rate and blood pressure, which can help calm the body and mind. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Nursing found that deep breathing exercises were effective in reducing anxiety and improving sleep quality in patients with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) (Holland et al., 2017).

Another way to manage anxiety is to engage in regular physical activity. Exercise releases endorphins, which are the body's natural mood boosters. A study published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research found that regular exercise was effective in reducing symptoms of anxiety and depression in individuals with major depressive disorder (MDD) (Dunn et al., 2005).

In addition to these strategies, it's important to maintain a healthy lifestyle, including getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, and avoiding substances like caffeine and alcohol that can increase feelings of anxiety. It's also helpful to practice positive self-talk and engage in activities that bring joy and relaxation, such as spending time with loved ones or pursuing hobbies.

In conclusion, managing anxiety requires a multi-faceted approach that includes mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, regular physical activity, healthy lifestyle habits, and positive self-talk. By incorporating these strategies into our daily lives, we can cultivate a sense of calm and well-being, even in the midst of life's challenges.

References:

Dunn, A. L., Trivedi, M. H., Kampert, J. B., Clark, C. G., & Chambliss, H. O. (2005). Exercise treatment for depression: efficacy and dose response. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 39(2), 175-184.

Hoge, E. A., Bui, E., Marques, L., Metcalf, C. A., Morris, L. K., Robinaugh, D. J., ... & Simon, N. M. (2013). Randomized controlled trial of mindfulness meditation for generalized anxiety disorder: effects on anxiety and stress reactivity. Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 74(8), 786-792.

Holland, A. E., Hill, C. J., Rasekaba, T., Lee, A., Naughton, M. T., McDonald, C. F., & Burge, A. T. (2012). Updating the minimal important difference for six-minute walk distance in patients with chronic obstructive pulmonary disease. Archives of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation, 93(2), 389-393.

JOSH REYAN NUDALO

11 MYERS-SET B

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The Strength in Emotions: I am a woman, and I feel things!

Women are complex beings with a range of emotions. However, we have been taught to suppress our feelings and hide our vulnerability. The societal expectation that women should be strong and resilient is often at odds with our natural emotional state. The focus of this blog post is to discuss the idea that women’s emotions are a source of strength, rather than a weakness, and why we should embrace our feelings.

The belief that women are illogical and unpredictable is one of the most harmful fallacies that is spread about women and their emotions. The opposite is true, as you can see. Women are capable of rational decision-making on par with men, and our emotions do not render us irrational. In reality, our emotions may be a source of power, enabling us to empathize with others and establish lasting bonds. 

It is well-documented that women experience a wider range of emotions than men. Studies have found that women experience more intense emotions, more frequently, and for longer durations than men (Barrett et al., 2019). This is not to say that men do not experience emotions, but rather that the societal expectation for men to be tough and unemotional often results in the suppression of their feelings.

The idea that women are too sensitive is another common misperception regarding our feelings. The fact is that our sensitivity is a gift that enables us to relate to people and comprehend their perspectives. We should be proud of this empathy rather than feel bad about it since it makes us these effective change agents.

The quote “I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I'm beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story-I will." by Amy Schumer highlights the importance of women determining their own stories and rejecting the societal expectation that our emotions make us weak. By acknowledging and embracing our emotions, we can create a more authentic and fulfilling life for ourselves. 

Listen! Women must understand that our emotions play a crucial role in who we are. We should never be embarrassed about our feelings, and we should never allow someone to say that they are a sign of weakness. Instead, we should embrace our emotions and use them to create meaningful relationships with people and make a difference in the world. I am a woman, and I feel things. And that is a reason for pride. 

Reference:

Barrett, L. F., Adolphs, R., Marsella, S., Martinez, A. M., & Pollak, S. D. (2019). Emotional Expressions Reconsidered: Challenges to Inferring Emotion From Human Facial Movements. Psychological Science in the Public Interest, 20(1) 1–68. https://doi.org/10.1177/1529100619832930