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After Breakup Realizations & Advises

Realization 101 – June 8,2017

My love towards him(ex) is pure & genuine!

But I do not believe that it’ll take long for you to move on! It all depends on you if you wanted to let go or not. Letting go is not easy! But with God, everything can be possible.

Be open to all chances. Learn to listen to your brain!! This is a must! You can’t direct your heart to love someone, but you can direct your ego and conscience to feel sorry about yourself and the struggle to do anything to move on.

Cry all you want! Cry all day and night if you want! Don’t eat if you want, if you don’t want to waste food. Don’t be afraid to cry. Remember! God made your eyes for you to express your emotions through tears! As the song goes “Tears are a language, God Understands”. Even actors/actresses still cry if they feel happy, mad, sad or depressed. Emotions are hard to fight! You should accept that. Instead, learn to control yourself to do the right thing.

Don’t be ashamed to feel miserable, that is normal! Accept it! Just don’t do anything stupid. Only feel miserable, but don’t do things that make you look like a fool and miserable!

Crying is okay, but drinking and getting wasted is not gonna help! You think your ex will feel sorry if they learned that you got drunk because of them, that you look like an idiot & pathetic because of them? That you cried because of them? NOOOO! They will not! They will be more proud and feel great about themselves, seeing you miserable and frustrated makes them happy inside. Don’t get fooled! They will just use it as an advantage. Just imagine them, talking to their friends, boasting or gloating that they were the reason why you cried! That’s like so embarrassing. You don’t want that, don’t you? Have some pride, do it for yourself! You are tough. And DO NOT make an excuse like you just wanted to get drunk for you to forget the pain. THERE ARE A LOT OF WAYS TO FORGET! Don’t be an idiot and don’t be lazy! Go on a trip, get some exercise, get a job, and be busy. Keep yourself busy.

Music also helps. Create a playlist if you want. All about you being angry, sad, hard to move on, etc. do it! It makes you feel better. Though at first you might cry because you dig deep to the lyrics, it reminds you of the past, but duh! You’ll get over it eventually, esp if you keep on repeating the song over and over and over again. Trust me, everything will just go  numb

Have self-pity and self-courage to face the reality. And embrace the truth. Always remind yourself the reason why you broke up. Don’t make it as an excuse for you to cry. Make it a motivation for you to move on.

I was once have the crown of “MISS BITTER” with my circle of friends. I showed them how bitter I am for like almost everywhere we go, everything I do, anything I hear that I can rhyme my hugot lines to. You can express yourself freely especially if you have friends who understands your situation and can understand you. Make sure that they can be trusted as well. A support system can help improve your mood.

You may feel empty sometimes, and jealous of other couples out there that are happy. You might even consider on getting a new relationship immediately after the break up. Restrain yourself, you are depressed. Don’t make any rash decisions. If you want, you can spend time alone yourself and reflect on things that have happened. This tests the level of how mature are you when it comes to relationships. For boys: If you have girl you like, think twice before going to the courting stage. Do you like her because you like her as her? Or do you want to court her just because you want to have a girlfriend that can fill the void your ex has left? For Girls: If a guy courts or flirts with you, before showing you are interested, do you like the guy because he spends some time with you, you are treated like you are special the way your ex makes you feel? Do you miss the feeling of having a boyfriend and you don’t want to be alone? Or do you like him as him without comparing to anybody else, and you like him as him? Getting back to a relationship is pretty hard, be mature enough to realize these things. You don’t want to get hurt again don’t you? If you want to play? Well, I’m here to tell you that KARMA is REAL! Before I forgot, learn the difference between LIKE AND LOVE. As I ALWAYS say to my friends, be in a relationship when you are sure that you LOVE the person, not LIKE!

I don’t know about you guys. I do have principles in life. And for me, LOVE IS A PRNICIPLE. It defines you of who you really are. A relationship reflects to you as an individual. This is how you handle problems and temptations, esp LUST. Even I have felt it inside, all the intimate and strong feeling a girl can feel while in a relationship, and it is up to you if you want to give in, or if you will hold strong and say NO. There are no buts, and maybe’s on this. If it’s a yes, then YES, if no then NO! This is where you will be testing your dignity as well, as a person. Again, it defines you for who you are. Love is strong, but you are stronger! Everything still depends on your decision. YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE!