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Do'a-do'a Simple Tapi Kenak Semua.

Eps. 1

اللهُمَّ إِنَّا نَسْئَلُكَ سَلَامَةً فِي الدِّيْنِ

Allahumma innaa nas aluka salaamatan fiddiini

(Minta selamat dalam Agama)

وَعَافِيَةً فِي الْجَسَدِ

wa 'aafiyatan fil jasadi

(Minta sehat badan)

وَزِيَادَةً فِي الْعِلْمِ

waziyaadatan fil'ilmi

(Minta tambah ilmu)

وَبَرَكَةً فِي الرِّزْقِ

wabarakatan firrizqi

(Minta berkah rezeki)

وَتَوْبَةً قَبْلَ الْمَوْتِ

wataubatan qablal maut

(Minta taubat sebelum mati)

وَرَحْمَةً عِنْدَ الْمَوْتِ

warahmatan 'indal maut

(Minta dapat rahmat waktu mati)

وَمَغْفِرَةً بَعْدَ الْمَوْتِ

wamaghfiratan ba'dal maut

(Minta dapat ampunan setelah mati)

اللهُمَّ هَوِّنْ عَلَيْنَا فِي سَكَرَاتِ الْمَوْتِ

allahumma hawwin 'alainaa fii sakaraatil maut

(Minta diringankan saat sakaratul maut)

وَالنَّجَاةَ مِنَ النَّارِ

wannajaata minan-naar

(Minta selamat dari api neraka)

وَالْعَفْوَ عِنْدَ الْحِسَابِ

wal 'afwa 'indal hisaab

(Minta diringankan saat hisab)

Amunisi 10 Hari Terakhir Ramadhan.

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how could be an angel broke my heart....

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Kamu masih jadi hantu di kepala saya. Setiap saya nemu cafe lucu, saya membayangkan kita di sana. Setiap saya liat konten liburan, saya membayangkan kamu sama saya liburan bersama. Kamu masih jadi hantu di kepala saya. Cuma saya yang bisa lihat dan ga pernah mampu saya usir.

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Bu, Pak … Maaf kalau hidupku begini-begini saja.  Maaf aku belum bisa bikin kalian bangga. Aku masih berusaha, dan akan terus berusaha. Doakan aku, ya.

Nak …

Tidak apa-apa.

Kamu tumbuh dengan baik dan sekarang dalam kondisi sehat. Bagi kami, itu sudah lebih dari cukup.

Dan kami bangga.

Kami bangga karena kamu sudah berusaha sebaik-baiknya.

Kami akan terus mendoakanmu.

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Aku pikir, jatuh cinta–mencinta–dicintai seseorang itu gila luar biasa. Kau temukan dirimu giat tanya "apakah kau tetap mencintaiku meski aku terpatri kekurangan?" kepada ia yang jawabannya selalu, ya.

Gila!

Aku pikir, pada akhirnya kita hanya perlu menemukan seseorang yang melihat kita bak museum karya seni: yang tindak buah ketulusannya mengapresiasi guratmu, memahami nilaimu, mencintaimu dalam karena kau layak mendapatkannya.

— Arief Aumar | flaws

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Nasihat Kamis

Hari ini dapat nasihat yang menurutku patut untuk dimiliki oleh siapapun yang mungkin sedang di fase yang sama.

Saat diri merasa saat ini pertimbangan-pertimbangan hidup diukur dengan hal-hal yang sangat duniawi, apapun ukuran duniawinya mulai dari harta benda, status pernikahan, anak, pekerjaan, kondisi lingkungan, kondisi negara, dan lain-lain.

Juga, saat diri merasa semua hal yang sedang dikhawatirkan adalah urusan duniawi yang kita ambil contohnya tadi. Maka, apakah saat ini dunia yang sementara ini sedang memenuhi ruang hati dan pikiran kita? Sehingga keputusan-keputusan beribadah kita pun diukur dengan pertimbangan dunia. Sehingga sebab-sebab kekhawatiran dan ketidaktenangan hidup kita, itu karena masalah dunia.

Urusan pekerjaan yang tidak sesuai, permasalahan lingkungan kantor, gaji yang belum mencukupi. Belum menikah. Takut sama masa depan. Dan berbagai macam hal yang ternyata, kembali lagi, duniawi.

Mari kita tarik diri dari semua itu. Coba dilepas dan diurai satu-satu. Menilai sendiri atas hal yang sedang kita kerjakan dan miliki saat ini. Apakah sudah kita optimalkan untuk beribadah.

Social media yang kita miliki, kita tulis hal-hal yang baik alih-alih mencaci orang lain atau berkata-kata buruk.

Parangkat yang kita miliki, apakah kita gunakan untuk memudahkan hidup orang lain, alih-alih tidak digunakan.

Dan semua proses penilaian terhadap diri yang berujung pada apakah kita menilai diri kita sudah berlaku baik, nggak apa-apa terpaksa baik, yang penting hal baik yang dilakukan. Lebih baik terpaksa menjadi orang baik kan daripada sukarela jadi orang buruk.

Sudahkah kita mengevaluasi diri sendiri. Apakah yang memenuhi ruang hati kita selama ini? Apakah selama ini kita menuhankan rasionalitas dan pikiran? Apakah kita selama ini ternyata tidak yakin kepada Sang Pencipta?

Jangan-jangan, selama ini kita selalai itu dan sejauh ini.

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Why can’t I catch a break?

Kim Seol-hyun as Lee Yeo-reum SUMMER STRIKE (2022)

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summer strike (2022)

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30 days of shadow work challenge

hey everyone! i’ve found myself in a bit of a journalling/shadow work rut and thought i would give myself a little challenge to do for the next 30 days. i know that this is pretty common for a lot of people, so i thought i would share my challenge with you so we can keep each other accountable and do some reflective work 🤍 obviously you don’t have to do all 30 days, and this can purely be a prompt list if you need it! you can join in whenever you like 🤍

what is something you wish you could be doing right now? what’s stopping you?

if you could receive the truthful answer any question of your choice, what would you ask? why? what response would you hope for?

if you could change anything about your childhood, what would it be?

name 3 of your least favourite things about yourself. then challenge them - why do you think that way? what could you do to change?

what relationships in your life bring you joy and which ones don’t?

how could you show yourself love in your love language?

when was the last time you felt at peace?

write a letter to someone who hurt you - no matter how long ago. write everything you wish you could say to them, every emotion that comes up. burn, tear apart or flush away the letter

how would you treat yourself if you were a young child? how could you make them feel loved? see where you could incorporate that into your life

what triggers your temper most? why does it make you angry/frustrated/sad?

if you had everything you ever wanted, what would your life look like?

what emotions or feelings do you avoid? why?

what are your core values? do they align with the life you’re living right now?

what do you hate about yourself and why do you hate it? did someone tell you you should?

what negative patterns keep repeating in your life?

when you lash out, what part of you wants to be protected?

what is something you fear others knowing about you? why do you fear it?

in what ways do you consciously or unconsciously punish myself?

what is a grudge/instance that you are holding onto that no longer serves you? why are you holding on to it? how can you let it go?

what are your pet peeves? where do you think they come from?

when was the last time you felt wronged by someone?

when are you the hardest on yourself? why? can you find a way to be kinder to yourself?

how do you respond to situations that make you angry?

what are you the most proud of in your life?

in what ways are you hypocritical?

when am i my truest, most authentic self?

what advice would you give to yourself 5 years ago?

what boundaries do i need to set and reinforce in my life?

what things make you feel the most alive and present?

list 10 things you like about yourself. get specific! list more if you can 🤍

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2023 notes

Di tahun 2023 w mau lebih fokus ke leading indicators aja instead of the lagging indicators (or simply, the outcomes) - I want to work more on my consistency.

Ini sih hal-hal yang ingin kulakukan di tahun 2023:

Meneruskan Duolingo streak-ku, harus full sampai akhir tahun (sekarang udah day 257 dan streak terpanjangku sebelum ini adalah 456)

Konsisten nge-track pengeluaran pake app dan bikin analisis pengeluaran di tiap akhir bulan. Pas 2022 kemarin sempet nge-track tapi 2 bulan doang terus skip

Tidur maks jam 10 malem (I really need to get rid of my eyebags :<)

Rutin puasa Senin Kamis (I need to shed some weight, better get some pahala with them)

Coba intermittent fasting di antara Senin-Kamis, dan coba untuk mulai makan sekali sehari aja (ini hasil dengerin orang presentasi sih, jadi ya intinya gapapa makan cuma sekali yang penting nutrisi terpenuhi dan juga minum tetep banyak) 

Olahraga :”) (tahun ini lumayan lah paling nggak ada 2x Chloe Ting 14 days challenge yang terselesaikan - tapi 2023 pengen bisa lebih konsisten aja gitu setiap hari olahraga min 30 menit) 

Nyicil belajar CFA 1 jam sehari (bisa ngga ya….. takut deh. Tapi w sehari bisa nonton drakor 2-4 jam kalau lagi kejar tayang. I really need to be serious)

Baca paling nggak 1 buku per bulan (ini w masukin IDP :) sebenernya lebih ke ingin mengembalikan kemampuan untuk duduk, membaca dengan fokus dan mindful, dan bisa menyelesaikannya dengan baik sih) 

Segini dulu deh yang aku tulis, nanti kalau ada lagi yang kepikiran akan aku tambah lagi.

Bismillah :< I’ll try to update my progress over here. 

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udah gatau lagi alesan apa yang bisa dipake kenapa masih stay di asrama. suasana sekarang bikin udah ga berlaku lagi deh lagu i'm only me when i'm with you...

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maret yang padat tau tau udah april ajaa. udah terlewat kaann!!! dasar emang sukanya misuh-misuh duluaan :p

kenapa kalo mau ngeluh banyak ingetnya ke tumblr (?)

kalo tumblr adalah teman yang hidup, pasti kesel karena didatengin pas ada butuhnya aka, heu.

hari ini tu super hectic. aku jadi sekretaris di acara PHBI sekolah, isra’ miraj. berangkat jam setengah tujuh karena ada banyak file acara yang belum diprint out. capek karena aku juga pj di lomba ranking satu. meskipun gak yang ngomong-ngomong ekstra karena pake mic. tapi teteup kerasa banget capeknya karena yaa, gak duduk.

habis itu cukup kosong lalu aku isi hitung uang sedekah jumat yang kemarin belum dihitung. sesudahnya aku baru tau kalo jadwal rapat dimajuin jadi tudei (sebelumnya jadwalnya hari jumat). denggg….. padahal ngantuuuqqq banget!!!

jadinya aku chat gita, ngajak dia ke mesjid buat tidur atau at least tidur2an karena jadinya emang malah ngobrol (waktu luang menuju rapat cuma satu jam, belum harus sholat dulu).

perdananya rapat sampai se-ngantuk itu. setengah dari kultum pak miftah dihabiskan dengan nundutan (perdana nundutan di sekolah wkwk).

yang bikin aku cukup stres adalah begitu liat schedule bulan maret di sekolah padat sama acara. baru selesai phbi di awal bulan nantinya ada acara lagi. bakal ngos-ngosan karena harus ngebut materi kelas enam karena bakal ada ujian akhir semester (khusus kelas enam) di akhir bulan ini. 

daaaaangggg!!!!!

mana materi tiga bab lagi. sebelumnya kelas enam itu jadwalnya sering kena libur (jadwalku hari rabu). karena saat itu bentrok nikahan guru, vaksin dan entah apa lagi yang bikin materi sempet rada lelet.

menyadari itu aku tambah puyeng karena periksa ulangan harian kelas enam belum selesai. mana nanti pts bakal meriksa-meriksa banyak ulangan lagi. mana nanti gaada tempat pelarian buat nginep karena miss ii udah di rumahnya sendiri. 

mana sekarang lagi ngejar banyak target pribadi. terus inget urusan ini malah jadi gasempet untuk mikirin targetku itu, huhu sedih banget T_T

mau ngeluh tapi malu, serasa paling banyak urusan di dunia padahal apaan. tapi tidak menyangkal aku juga maunya sambil bisa menjalani hal-hal yang ingin aku kejar. 

ayo ginaya, gapapa ngeluh. tapi sambil dikerjain ya!

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Life Crisis #2

Kalau kata orang yang pernah kudengar, nanti di usia 30-40an, saat semua hal dalam standar masyarakat kita, harusnya udah stabil; pekerjaan, keluarga, pendapatan, dsb. Terus, buat orang yang masih bingung sama dirinya di usia 30-an, seolah udah terlambat, tidak ada kesempatan. Tapi rasanya, dirasa-rasa, saya sendiri seperti mengalami fase krisis berikutnya. Saat pekerjaan yang memang dari dulu freelance sudah memberikan banyak sekali akses untuk sumber income, sudah berkeluarga, anak sudah mulai sekolah. Ternyata, ini hawa-hawanya mau krisis lagi. Dan kemarin cerita sama istri tentang keresahan; sebenarnya mau jadi apa, harus ngejar apa, lari ke mana, dsb. “Kalau ngejar dunia emang gakkan ada ujungnya, udah sampai, masih ada lagi, udah sampai, ada lagi di depan, begitu seterusnya.” ujarnya. Iya juga, sepertinya fase usia 30 ini bukan lagi tentang ambisi-ambisi diri pada hal-hal yang sifatnya material, fase krisis yang cara penanganannya harus berbeda dengan saat krisis di usia 20an kemarin. Apalagi, menjadi dewasa ternyata banyak sekali hal yang harus kita ketahui dan lakukan sendiri. Tidak ada lagi bantuan orang tua, atau petunjuk yang seperti “User Guide” yang benar-benar memberikan tata cara langkah pertama sampai terakhir dan kalau mengikuti petunjuk tersebut, pasti berhasil, tidak ada. Mulai kepikiran sama sekolah anak-anak, dan gimana memberikan akses serta biaya untuk mereka sekolah sampai selesai nanti. Mulai memikirkan tempat tinggal, mulai memikirkan kesehatan badan, lebih pemilih dalam makanan,dan banyak hal yang sangat berbeda antara usia 30 dan 20 kemarin. Apa yang beda di kamu? @kurniawangunadi

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Memaksa Ikut yang Trending

Lagi baca-baca, tetiba bertemu nasihat Abu Darda yang sangat cocok untuk keadaan kita hari ini, "siapa yang memaksakan dirinya untuk menjadi seperti apa yang orang-orang mau, maka sedihnya akan panjang, dan amarahnya tak akan reda."

(diriwayatkan Abu Dawud dalam Az Zuhd)

"Sedihnya akan panjang", sebab kebahagiannya ia tumpukan pada apa kata orang, pada yang trending di khalayak. Tertinggal sedikit saja, runtuhlah klaim bahagia itu.

"Amarahnya tak akan reda", sebab ambisinya ingin terus membuat semua manusia ridha. Dan, kau tahu, itu mustahil.

Di zaman kita, mungkin itu yang dinamakan "Fear Of Missing Out" (FOMO) yakni rasa takut merasa “tertinggal” karena tidak mengikuti aktivitas tertentu.

Media sosial yang cepat melaju itu membuat kita tertatih, dan mungkin itu penyebab kita susah senang. Karena apa? Tidak tenang.

Sudah saatnya kita punya waktu untuk lepas dari aliran berita yang deras itu. Punya ruang untuk rileks dari tren yang diikuti orang dengan terkaget-kaget itu.

Mengikuti apa yang selalunya dibicarakan manusia perlu; sebatas jadi obrolan penghangat suasana, bukan patokan bahagia.

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twenty five twenty one: all my thoughts on episode nine

joke’s on me because i have no thoughts just one aching feral scream blowing through me like a gust of warm wind

i really don’t know how to begin to be coherent about all this oh god

okay. i think i’m sort of fine. scratch that i’ll never be alright again because no one will ever love me this much but who cares because this is about THEM. today’s commentary will be sorted by relationships: first yu rim and hee do so i can calm down some more, then yi jin and hee do so i can have another breakdown as a treat. ready?

               ~ “i’m not disappointed that it’s you” ~

the first thing that comes to mind is how happy i am at the turn of events in this entire episode. wait, happy isn’t the right word. to paraphrase yi jin, happy doesn’t begin to cover it. i feel like i’m just a bundle of exposed nerves waiting to be electrocuted any moment. i feel like a lightning rod in a summer thunderstorm.

i need to begin this section by praising yi jin (as one always should at any given situation in life) for telling hee do that he wasn’t injeolmi the instant she told him she thought it was him. this plotline could have easily spiraled into a web of deception that could have filled an entire episode, in which yi jin could have danced in circles trying to impersonate injeolmi, with hee do ultimately getting seriously hurt. instead, this man, THIS MAN goes out and tells her IMMEDIATELY that she has the wrong impression, and the only thing that stopped him from revealing that it was yu rim was the culprit herself. someone give this man a gold medal in treating hee do because he earns it every minute of every episode.

facing the mirror

a literary device at least as old as the gothic genre, the double is your equal in every parameter: appearance, attitude, history, aspirations, even name. in classic literature, a meeting with the double is a life threatening event, because the trick that your double does best is theft: the theft of your life, your love, your future. doubles are disturbing, because they permit us the uncanny and deeply vulnerable experience of observing ourselves from outside, of encountering the best and worst in ourselves in the form of a physical entity that might destroy us with the weapons we most love.

the foil, on the other hand, is the opposite of the double: this is a character whose every aspect contrasts with who we are. the foil is an annoyance, an obstacle, a rival to compare ourselves against and determine our worth.

and love? love occurs between people who are each others’ doubles in some aspects and each others’ foils in others; people who understand each other because they have “the same destination”, and who are opposites in enough aspects to emotionally enrich the other. loving the double means loving ourselves; loving the foil means accepting and appreciating the parts we lack.

love requires equality; hate requires rivalry. true rivals are always equal.

reaching through the mirror

from the very start of the series, hee do and yu rim have been clearly positioned as narrative doubles as well as foils. the direction shows it most eloquently during fencing scenes and the scene where they both run to grab the new copy of full house, by switching between shots of either girl to indicate that they are each other’s warped reflections. they have the same childhood dream; they have the same relentless work ethic; they have the same great love, the love of fencing. but hee do is rich where yu rim is poor; brash where yu rim is elegant; burning where yu rim can be ice cold.

and hee do’s fire, her staggering capacity for compassion and her genuine ability to feel for others as intensely as for herself, would have burned away the spell of coldness sooner if yu rim had permitted her to. but in order to reach the double, the foil, and love, you have to break through the mirror of perception dividing you both; you have to see beyond your own idea of someone to the real person waiting behind the glass, the fencing mask, the computer screen.

and it’s only when yu rim does this, only when she’s able to truly see hee do is she able to take the hand that has been waiting, outstretched, to be clasped. only when the glass cuts both your palms can your blood run the same shade of red.

we have waited a long time for yu rim to open her eyes. we have thought to ourselves, maybe when hee do bests her during training she’ll see her as a rival. maybe when hee do wins the gold medal she’ll see her as an equal.

but for better or worse, it’s not until yu rim sees hee do’s heart in their shared messages, when she sees her without the fencing armour, that she realizes what she has done to her best friend. and oh, how she repents then. she repents in the way we have needed her to repent for so long, mending our broken hearts along with hee do’s.

the new pact between them, the pact of soulmates, is sealed in the most appropriate fashion: in a bout where honour is defended and where, for the first time, they are fighting side by side.

              ~ “there’s no word for our relationship” ~

literally breaking down before i even start this section way to go baekdo couple

“i have to have you”

i love na hee do. have i mentioned today how much i love na hee do??? i love everything about the way she is written, the way she is acted, and the way she is rendered completely, viscerally real by this gift of a drama.

this series shows hee do’s path through the most turbulent time of her life: the time where she fights for her dreams and understands what it means to love and be loved. it’s only real for both of these journeys to be difficult, to be rent by false starts and bruising falls; it’s only hee do who would turn them into blocks to build her future from.

only this time, the future isn’t hers to build alone.

this time, there is someone else by her side, someone with the power to build their tower into a castle or knock it all down. that is, if she doesn’t knock it all down herself first.

a relationship is such a tender thing to build. in this episode, we find hee do and yi jin stumbling upon it for the first time, this miracle that they seem to have constructed in their sleep, while their hearts were dreaming together. we see them wake up in a cold sweat, understanding for the first time that they have built their homes in each other. and we see them take a deep breath, meet each others’ eyes, and see the same dream reflected in the other.

building a dream starts with i want. building a dream together starts with sharing that desire through all languages invented by humanity: the language of words, the language of touch, the language of shared silence.

and in this episode, hee do and yi jin earn a gold medal in couple communication. hee do braves through the ordeal of confessing in the middle of awkwardness and uncertainty; yi jin sends a signal through the vacuum of distance and hurt. and it’s this, this willingness to open themselves to the sword path of the other, this bravery to surrender to the words of the other, that shows us they are built to last.

“are you still jealous of me?”

but a healthy love is impossible without equality, and this episode does a stunning job at humanizing the “grown-up” yi jin for hee do.

relying on the one aspect of yi jin’s life that seemed as unreachable as outer space to hee do - his journalistic career - the script draws the curtain on yi jin’s perfect “adult” composure on TV, and invites hee do backstage. and it’s here, in the intimately muted glow of the lights, in the stage fright before the performance of adulthood, where hee do sees yi jin as she’s always seen him: as someone close enough to hold.

“someone might get hurt”

and this is where i started to get really, really nervous. this is where i had to pause the video with a helpless, terrified curse before gathering what little peace of mind i had remaining and see the episode through to the end. 

because everything was going just too fucking well for comfort. because there were twenty minutes remaining, and hee do and yu rim were making heart eyes at each other while hee do and yi jin were back to their beautiful, complex love just short of the word for it.

when that documentary plotline rolled in i wanted to break someone’s nose. preferably that broadcasting senior know-it-all.

but the episode managed to do what this show seems to specialize in: surprise me in the most delightful way. instead of reprising the past by creating a journalism-based scandal between hee do and yi jin (as it has reminded us many times that it can), the drama uses its realistic criticism of the media to show us how enduring their relationship is.

there is no tension between hee do and yi jin because of this plotline; there is only the shared closeness that calls for whispers in a crowded room, only the proud affection that fuels you with bravery in front of your fear.

throughout this part, hee do and yi jin guard each others’ dreams as jealously as their own: she’s scared to speak out against his senior when he treats her and yu rim like circus ponies, while yi jin doesn’t hesitate to challenge his bosses again and again when they’re willing to throw hee do’s health under the bus for their own benefit. the question of whether hee do can trust yi jin to put her well-being before his career hangs over the entire segment, and is answered loudly when he confronts his senior about her hurt ankle and picks her up in front of everyone he’s supposed to pretend he doesn’t care for her for.

“i don’t need a rainbow”

to paraphrase portrait of a lady on fire, all lovers invent love. the beauty of this drama is that it allows us to witness this invention, from its first unconscious understanding as friendship to its pivotal redefinition in this episode.

words have value because we give them value. “love” stands for the feeling of love because we encode our emotion in the word, and because we trust the person we communicate with to decode both the word and the feeling.

but what happens when the feelings we have are beyond the words we know?

how can we begin to define the relationship we have with someone?

how can we encompass all our shared memories, our shared comedies and tragedies, into a universal phrase used to describe so many other relationships that are completely different from the one we have?

by inventing a word for their relationship, yi jin and hee do take full control of its definition. the word “rainbow” belongs to them: it becomes a symbol of all they are to each other, a code that acquires meaning only when spoken between them.

and it’s only when we are at a loss for words that we are encouraged to find them. it’s only when the word “rainbow” isn’t enough that yi jin finds the word love.

and in this moment, we don’t need a kiss. we don’t need a sign to help us translate meaning. we can see love written in the air between them, as clearly as words on a blank page.

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Minta rekomendasi buku/sumber apapun mengenai ilmu percintaan kak. Sepertinya mengambil keputusan yang tepat dalam suatu hubungan gapernah jadi hal yang natural buat saya, bener2 butuh banyak belajar. Terima kasih.

Jujur emang jauh lebih banyak belajar dan lebih nempel kalau sambil praktik sih 😂😂😂😂 Lebih banyak belajar dari bikin salah, dari disakiti (cailah), dikecewakan, maupun balik mengecewakan, dari salah ucap maupun salah berbuat.

Menurutku nomor 1 tetep: love yourself. Harus set boundaries dan batasan, dan harus lebih cinta sama diri sendiri daripada sama orang lain. Jangan mau diperlakukan nggak baik, langsung tinggalin aja - you deserve the best (Tentang apa yang baik untukmu? Itu yang harus kamu tetapkan). Don't settle for less. Don't be with people who tells you to shrink yourself.

Aku banyak belajar dari School of Life-nya Alain de Botton sih. Tentang apa itu cinta (ciah). Start by watching this one:

Or this one, the much shorter one:

Sama ini, excerpt dari pemikiran Jiddu Krishnamurti tentang apa itu cinta (atau lebih tepatnya, apa yang bukan cinta):

Lengkapnya di sini: https://www.scienceandnonduality.com/article/krishnamurti-on-love

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Good luck