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Hello aplatonics and allies of tumblr! Here is your reminder that Aplatonic Day of Visibility is May 4th! So if you want to prepare art, writing, posts, etc, you've got about two weeks to do that! I know we're a small community, but hopefully if we start preparing now, we can draw more attention

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having a freeze response to stress is so funny in the context of normal adult stressors. millions of years of evolution are trying to tell me that the email will not find me if i stay very still and do nothing

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You know, I may be aromantic and aplatonic, but like. I do still want to be a person who people do grand dramatic gestures for. I like attention! Not having attraction doesn't mean I don't want attention and to feel appreciated and like a person worthy of doing big things for.

Which is to say that my FWB apparently went on Grindr and found another trans guy to sleep with, just so she could practice her skills and be better at sleeping with me. Literally did an entire hookup just so they could fuck me better.

It doesn't matter how aro you are. You can still find people who appreciate you that much. Love is not a requirement for dedication or effort on either side.

Anyway, that's my contribution to aro week. Giving you all proof that aro joy is real.

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the thing about having a job is i just don’t want to do it. Sorry

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hey americans there is a recall on testosterone gel because they found benzene in it! please check the lot numbers on your batches, benzene is really not something you want to be rubbing into your skin, also you might be eligible for compensation because this is just insane what the fuck

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getting attached to a piece of media where a character is split into two (or more) or has multiple people in their head is probably a plural canon event

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Definitely one of the funniest feature discord has added.

WARNING! ANNOYING BITCH HAS BREACHED THE PERIMETER!!!

DO YOU WISH TO EVACUATE?

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Shapeshifterkin culture is thinking about something a little too long and all of a sudden you grow appendages/shift into a form related to that thing. Was thinking about getting into swimming again and all of a sudden theres fins on my arms, head and back wth

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theyre gonna fuck, yeah, but its gonna be aromantic and you gotta be normal about that

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Every so often you see some aroallo* on here saying that the aro and ace communities should be separate and I just. Have you never actually talked to an asexual? Have you never had a single conversation with one about your aspec identities?

Like, obviously there's the fact that so many people are aroace and so the two communities would still have a lot of overlap no matter what, but even if you're talking about people who are just asexual, we both say and feel the same exact things, just about romance instead of sex. Honestly sometimes it feels like I have more in common with alloaces than aroaces because we both have the same central frustration of "why the hell has society decided that these two things have to go together? Why is only wanting one such a hard concept?" They understand the struggle of how hard it is to find people who are willing to do one thing with you but don't expect you to do the other.

Like, I have had a conversation before with someone who was like "I know this is going to sound super weird, especially from someone who is ace" and I got to say "oh my god, no, not only is that not weird, I've done the exact same thing before but with romance." That's so cool! It's great that we can do that!

Whether you're aro, ace, another aspec identity (because let's not forget about atertiaries), or some combination of those, we all share the same frustration of "why is all media so obsessed with this one thing?" We all can't easily explain our identities to other people. We literally feel the exact same ways, just about different things. The aspec experience is the same across all identities, it's just in different fonts.

Saying we should be separate is like saying that lesbians and gay people shouldn't be in the same community, because lesbians know nothing about attraction to men and gay people know nothing about attraction to women. People have said that too, and I hope you all know how ridiculous that is. It's ignoring the common ground of being attracted to the same gender instead of the one you're supposed to be attracted to, and it's also ignoring how much defining those identities as not liking men/women is going to alienate the bi/pan/etc people who also share most of the same experiences.

Anyway. Hi aces. You are very cool. If anyone doesn't want you sitting with me, I'll make them leave instead.

*(Full disclosure that I'm sure there are aces who say this too, I just don't see it because I don't follow ace tags)

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aplatonic people are awesome by the way. apl people i am forever wishing you the best in whatever way you choose to engage with the world and with other people. you’re doing amazing and i think you’re so cool forever 🫡

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”you can just make an oc” you dont understand anything. the character needs to mutate naturally until unrecognizable. like all evolutionary processes it takes time. you can’t force it or it doesn’t take. you must endure weird ooc thematically discordant versions of a guy until they bud off into beautiful new life. have patience

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t shirt that says i survived hell and all i got was this stupid personality disorder

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hey did you know that whenever you want you can decide to stop being an idea and begin to be a whole and tangible person. but watch out

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Today I was chatting with two guys and mentioned I was aroace. It went a little something like this.

A: wtf is that

B: it means she’s not attracted to people in that way

A: bro you can’t just not pick a side, that’s crazy

B: nah, it just means she’s spectator mode

A: OHHH IT MAKES SENSE NOW

I have never felt more validated or laughed so hard