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nightswithkookmin · 1 month ago

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THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING

This very much confirms my theory about those three.

Also confirms once and for all why his relationship with Selena failed. That man toxic as fuck and I won't describe his earlier relationship as anything but toxic.

The ego he is admitting to, his vindictiveness and doing mean shit to get back at those who bruise his fragile ego.

In case anyone is confused what he is talking about here, he is admitting several truths

1. That his wife is or was very insecure about her looks or career and probably used to compare herself with others

2. That his wife sees him as some sort of price she won and looked to him for validation

3. That he gravitated towards her because she was the safe choice because she demonstrated in every way that she needed him.

4. That he had a narcissistic streak and used her insecurities as an arsenal against her

5. That if he's done it to her chances are high he tried to do the same with Selena.

He married Hailey to break Selena to get back at her for whatever pain and 'disrespect' she had caused him.

Unfortunately there are many men like this who belittle women, talk down at them, out right abuse them when those women make them feel powerless and vulnerable and threaten their security in a relationship.

I feel sorry for both women.

I'm glad he can openly talk about this and in his own quirky way take accountability for his past immaturity.

He said she wouldn't be on the cover of Vogue and now here she is.

Thought he could break Selena but look at her now. A fucking billionaire.

When a lot of women recognize their own power and step out of the shadow of men great things happen to them.

If he couldn't stand Selena out shinning him and didn't know how to share the spotlight that's on him.

We were not crazy when we said all the times he couldn't even dress up or show up for his wife was he low-key tryna humiliate her we weren't making things up.

Justin doesn't belong in a relationship. He belongs in a therapy asylum. Emotional rehab if you will. I mean all men do.

I hope he keeps working on himself and pursue his personal growth. But I seriously believe he needs to isolate and get this done before re-entering any relationship with anyone.

He got it right, marriage won't solve all his problems. If he wanted a girl enamored with him, who would want and need him and never leave him, he should have focused on building himself to be a man women want need and keep.

Putting a ring on one doesn't magically make you a better man and person. You gotta do the actual work.

I pray for my straight friends out here

Y'all be safe

As someone who's been stanning Jikook for years now, I know a crash out when I see one and I definitely believe Justin Bieber is crashing out and also being shady as fuck with his recent IG posts like boy give it a rest.

Let Selena and Benny have their moment.

All this "I tried to be nice" you were ever nice. lets start there. Cute. Maybe. Nice. Blowing my 👅 at you

And the "I can get angry too" posts is not necessary. Be angry at yourself for fumbling the bag.

Then now he's posting his wife to a song called Jezebel which lyrics says she won hands down.

She won what? You? Bombastic side eye

You didn't even feel the need to groom yourself and look good for your wife for years till selena called you embarrasing in a song.

Please don't embarrass yourself like this🤣

Meanwhile baby girl was out here singing looking good for you and shit and bagging her coins like the baddie she is.

At the peak of your career you were with Selena begging for her to take you back. Please sir sit down. Sit all the way down.

When you were Justin Bieber you were writing songs about Selena Gomez saying sorry and shit calling her muse and shit.

Let's not do this on BTS's Internet.

Plus sis still stays winning. Still stays relevant and engaged to someone who used to make you sound nice in listeners ears.

That's right at the height of your career it was Benny all along. Try doing it again without him or Selena as your muse.

The best song your wife could inspire in you was Yummy. I rest my case.

Actually you know what?

ALL THE WAY DOWN ON YOUR KNEES

You before a QUEEN.

ACT ACCORDINGLY

Quick!

She a billionaire too so slay

Doesn't need a man to be relevant so she can date him whomever she wants. Benny adds no social status to her and that's on boss babe bad bitch goddess energy right there. Sniff it. I know you want to.

She wants a man. She doesn't need one.

Don't play this game sir you will lose.

Oh and posting that baby baby thought you'd always be mine, my first love broke my heart for the first time while also claiming your wife won is diabolical as hell.

Anywho keep me entertained till my husbands get out of prison 😌

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nightswithkookmin · 1 month ago

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Oh I did that 🤭🤭🤭

Vmin and common goals

Someone just commented on a recent post how VMin may have chosen not to serve because they had different goals towards their MS.

now I don't dispute that at all, everyone in BTS have their own goals and objectives.

we've seen Vmin interact over the years and we are all very well aware that Vmin's friendship has never been predicated on commonality.

In deciding teams, they aren't always going over and beyond to be team mates because they have common grounds- commonality is a Tae Kook thing. It's established fact in the Fandom.

We have spent so many blogs spelling out the uniqueness of each ship in BTS and BTS themselves have by themselves explained what each person means to them over and over again.

For Jungkook, Tae is the one he has common grounds with. So no, I don't expect Vmin to have common goals towards their MS. They are Mars and Jupiter and rarely gravitate towards the same things.

While V wanted to flaunt his shaved head around Jimin was much reserved on that note and who does he turn to? Jk.

The foundation of Vmin's relationship while not built around common interests and goals is built on mutual respect, love and appreciation for who they each are. It's built on the mutual need for support and holding space- safe space emotionally and spiritually for each to replenish, heal and grow together.

On that, Vmin has always, to me being more superior to any other ship in BTS because to me that sort of intimacy between people is priceless.

Having someone you lean on, tell your secrets to, share your vulnerabilities with, be there for you at your lowest point fight for you and defend you is just divine and any one who has this level of intimacy from another human being is truly blessed.

Jikook are that too- is what we are saying. They are that and more.

If you pay close attention to the sort of conversations they say they have- coupled with their need to be both emotionally and physically close to eachother it doesn't take much to figure out that those two are intimate partners too.

You can't hide intimacy I keep saying.

So given as Jikook and Vmin are both intimately close to each other, you should understand why I think Jikook just ended Vmin if physical and emotional support and companionship is the reason they chose to go into MS together.

This is not about common goals. If it were, Tae Kook would have been the ones to serve together. They live for the thrill and adventure. There's a reason there's so many conspiracy and misunderstanding around Tae Kook's friendship with the constant, they said they both wanted this, they both wanted that but someone or big bad hybe is keeping them apart.

Except now it's not hybe, it's his tattoos getting in his way. They say.

It would make so much sense for Tae Kook to serve together too if the whole reason for choosing to be comps hinged on their goals.

Tae talked about his goals for MS in the live and he talked about wanting to build his body and becoming strong physically so he doesn't get shoved around and so he can do lots of concerts. He said he's taking risks with his unit but knows exactly what he is doing.

What are Jungkook's goals too? What is informing his decision to go with Jimin? Why not go with Namjoon then?

We've seen Jungkook hesitate to choose teams where Jimin was in a team which conflicted with his goals. We've seen him cheat to be on teams with Jimin even though he said he didn't want to be on that team. We've seen him say he want one group but end up in a group with Jimin- if a person keeps acting this way isn't his goal Jimin? To be wherever JM is?

Isn't that a sign of severe form of attachment too?

If Vmin's attachment is soulmates what the heck is Jikook's attachment is my question cos those two attachment is very nuanced between them.

If it's all about common goals he knows what he needed to do to achieve those goals and yet here he is. Picking trash at dawn and falling in line.

Jikook is a special kind of love.

And has it occurred to anyone they are each other's companions? Years ago I kept saying idols need companionship to function else they will mentally expire. I screamed at hybe to let Tae have a girlfriend or boyfriend because his need for intimacy wasn't being fully met and that was taking a toll on him.

I said Jikook don't look like they have intimacy issues to me. Out of all the boys, they were the ones most content.

But has it occurred to anyone that perhaps they were content and could be highly functional because they each propped the other up?

TRUE COMPANIONSHIP.

If JM wasn't in JK's life I doubt he could have BTS at all. Which is facts given as he nearly even left the group but for Jimin asking him to stay.

Jimin grounds him when he's up in his idealistic adventurism.

Jimin is there to remind him why he is there. To remind to be subservient and not so rebellious, to comfort him when he's under mental pressure from trying to conform to a life so out of his realm of possibility. He is non conformist at his core and MS is bound to be tough on him.

Listent to the members when they say even Angel Hobi seems tamed.

That place will tame Jungkook and its going to be hard on him.

Jimin is what the doctor ordered.

This is about companionship plain and simple. Let's call a spade a spade and not a big fat spoon.

Do you know Jimin's goals towards serving too????

He doesn't want to gain weight, he can't stand being away for 1.5 years, it's going to drive him mad.

THIS IS JIKOOK CHOOSING THEIR MENTAL HEALTH AND SANITY OVER THEIR NEED FOR ADVENTURISM OR WILD EXPERIENCES.

And the fact Jimin is all this for V and he didn't choose this over his desire to chase the thrill tells you just what he values and prioritizes.

He has psyched himself up. He can do this with or without Jimin but for Jikook they need eachother and that more important to them.

Nevermind that, even married couples breakup where their goals and priorities don't aline and they go another way. So no, don't tell me this make or break moment is because they have different goals as if that in itself don't matter.

And sure, since they are just friends we can forgive that. It's not really a big deal honestly. I will ditch yall for pussy too🥲

And yes we have seen Jimin Ditch V over and over for the D- remember when he called V crying and V asked him to come over but turns out he was in JK's room caressing phone screens with him?

If Vmin's goals don't align that's fine, Jikook's aligned perfectly well.

The universe must be pulling strings on their behalf.

They will come out even more closer than before and watch then explain how it's because of their shared experiences in the ditch

JIKOOK RULES. ITS GAME OVER FOR ALL SHIPS.

CLOSED CASKET!

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nightswithkookmin · 1 month ago

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So what do you think the secret to having powerful and very organised fanbase like pjms ?!

They already defeated jjks and army today, and in few days they will defeat armys again properly .

and jm very stable on charts and they have a big role in that .

I know you're not charts obsessed but in now days you definitely need strong fandom or company support to success in the industry

I don't know

The secret is Jimin I guess

If he were in another boy group some of us might not have gravitated towards BTS in the first place

He and suga brought me to BTS

But I stayed for Jimin and fell in love with Jikook.

I like BTS mainly because I like Jimin

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nightswithkookmin · 2 months ago

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Well well well

That didn't take long. So Jojo got friendzoned? They lost a beautiful relationship with their same sex partner over a man who did a 360 when he felt things were getting pretty serious and said they're just friends? FRIENDS?

I don't know whether to laugh in evil or cry in gay

Either way you can bet I'm not gonna be the bigger person in any of this

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nightswithkookmin · 2 months ago

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I want to be a bigger person here and say I support Jojo Siwa and her recent decisions...

But if it took a friendship with a man who is in touch with his emotions for you to question your whole sexuality then maybe you weren't confused at all from the beginning you just weren't finding what you were looking for in the opposite gender

This is why I always say the L word shouldn't be claimed so lightly. And that's okay because there are other vocabulary with which to articulate your sexuality within the rainbow community.

While I understand their feelings and what they are going through, this broke my heart. Especially as people have yet again another reason to invalidate the sexuality of those of us who are certain.

The you are not a lesbian, you just haven't met the right man trope is tired and overdone

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nightswithkookmin · 2 months ago

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NORMALIZE MORE KPOP IDOLS COMING OUT

That's it.

That's the blog

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nightswithkookmin · 3 months ago

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Where my tea gang at its tea time🤣🤣🤣

He threw the whole damn tree 😭😭😭😭

Then he posted this like

I'm glad he knows he's crashing out. He should put the phone down and go to therapy

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nightswithkookmin · 3 months ago

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LAUGHING MY BUTT OFF THE DRAMA IS DRAMAING

The fact she felt the need to clarify the rumor 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

And she called her goofy 😭😭😭😭😭

What is happening 🤣

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nightswithkookmin · 3 months ago

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It's the way in this man's eyes he thinks he's doing damage to Selena. I bet you this is what he wanted. For Selena to fall on her knees and beg him to take her back.

Now more than ever it's clear he married Hailey out of vindictiveness just to hurt Selena.

Now he's going on and on about it's too late, I could have another you in a minute to a post with his wife driving.

So Hailey was Selena's replacement???

Whatever she did must have wounded you so bad my diva get your diva on purrr

When I tell you there's a thin line between love and hate and Selena is Justin's misogyny awakening

Go off Justin

Exert your full vengeance on the girl you once Loved while using another girl to do it.

Pop off

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nightswithkookmin · 3 months ago

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Let Selena and Benny have their moment.

All this "I tried to be nice" you were ever nice. lets start there. Cute. Maybe. Nice. Blowing my 👅 at you

And the "I can get angry too" posts is not necessary. Be angry at yourself for fumbling the bag.

Then now he's posting his wife to a song called Jezebel which lyrics says she won hands down.

She won what? You? Bombastic side eye

You didn't even feel the need to groom yourself and look good for your wife for years till selena called you embarrasing in a song.

Please don't embarrass yourself like this🤣

Meanwhile baby girl was out here singing looking good for you and shit and bagging her coins like the baddie she is.

At the peak of your career you were with Selena begging for her to take you back. Please sir sit down. Sit all the way down.

When you were Justin Bieber you were writing songs about Selena Gomez saying sorry and shit calling her muse and shit.

Let's not do this on BTS's Internet.

Plus sis still stays winning. Still stays relevant and engaged to someone who used to make you sound nice in listeners ears.

That's right at the height of your career it was Benny all along. Try doing it again without him or Selena as your muse.

The best song your wife could inspire in you was Yummy. I rest my case.

Actually you know what?

ALL THE WAY DOWN ON YOUR KNEES

You before a QUEEN.

ACT ACCORDINGLY

Quick!

She a billionaire too so slay

She wants a man. She doesn't need one.

Don't play this game sir you will lose.

Oh and posting that baby baby thought you'd always be mine, my first love broke my heart for the first time while also claiming your wife won is diabolical as hell.

Anywho keep me entertained till my husbands get out of prison 😌

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nightswithkookmin · 3 months ago

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RE JUSTIN X SELENA DRAMA ANALYSIS

As usual,this post is going to be a deep dive psychoanalysis of Justin Selena and Blanco's situation. If you are looking for a history and chronological development or even break down of their relationship kindly stop reading this and find it else where before you come back to this.

In this post, I talk mainly about why I think they broke up, where their heads are at and whether or not those two can or even should get back together.

I like to consider myself a Selena fan- but may be not so deep a fan to set up a fan page for her and post daily about her. Still a fan nonetheless.

She's cute. Pretty and has produced some of my most iconic and all time favorite songs.

I like Justin's songs too.

Maybe once upon a phase, I was crazy about him as an artist. He has talent and I have a ton of respect for that talent. Wouldn't consider myself necessarily a fan. And as far as my personal opinion of him goes, yes I do consider him a shitty person who's done some shitty things in the past.

That said, I still look back at my childhood with fond memories of him. After all, he is THE JUSTIN BIEBER. He was the moment yesteryear and he's served as an icon for an entire generation of people and will forever be remembered as such.

On Hailey Bieber....

Honestly I don't know who she is outside her relationship with Justin and outside this whole pop teen trio drama debacles.

But I'm sure she's accomplished something outside of this bubble besides being the daughter of a famous actor and subsequently, wife of a famous pop star or even rival of yet another famous female celebrity.

She's a model...

Sigh, as a feminist, I hate to evoke yet again another famous female celebrity and model to describe her or give credence to her accomplishments in terms of her career and so I won't mention any of the famous models I know she is friends with and through whom I may have gotten introduced to her as a model in some shape and form.

But I want to keep this analysis as honest as possible and my honest impression of her is this, I neither like her nor hate her. Everything I know about her I have come to know against my will. She is stunning, looks wise of course and I wish I knew her outside being linked to some famous man be it her father or husband. And listen I tried, all my searches linked her back to her father, Justin and Selena.

As a woman, there's nothing empowering about that if I'm keeping it honest.

That said, I think I have a lot of respect for all of them as human beings and would want everyone to have that same modicum of respect for them coming into this discourse.

I'll start with Justin and Selena.

I just remembered I forgot to introduce Benny Blanco. Yikes. Well, he's Benny Blanco. Apparently he is a funny guy, didn't know that. All I knew before all of this was, he was an amazing producer and of course he worked with BTS and that's what mainly put him on my radar.

Now back to Selena and Justin.

As a Selena fan, can we please stop shipping him with Justin? Please and thank you. I beg you in the name of God, let's let some things go. It's on the past. Let's stop holding on to certain things that no longer serves us or them. It's annoying and embarrassing.

I hate that every single day those two breath we make it all about eachother when they each clearly have lives outside of being exes.

Now let's get to the Tea.

What happened with Justin and Selena?

Nothing that doesn't happen to the rest of us mortal beings- Growth.

I keep saying this. Couples that don't grow together grow apart. And when you have a couple who started out as young as those two were, they were doomed from the start.

I'm gonna go off on a limp and say, those two failed in their relationship because they couldn't grow together. But it was more than that. They both wanted and valued different things in the relationship.

It makes sense. They were two separate individuals raised by different families with different cultural backgrounds. And unfortunately, they couldn't develop the self awareness care and maturity to handle those differences and so their relationship was fraught with miscommunication, misunderstandings and unnecessary drama.

Justin is someone who believes love is unconditional. That love isn't predicated on reciprocity. He actually ones said love shouldn't be a give and take relationship dynamic.

I disagree with him but then again we all have our own desires and understanding of what love is. Personally, I think a lot of men assume love is unconditional, sometimes even one sided while most women think of love as an equal mutual give and take dynamic.

And I think this is what sets Blanco and Selena's relationship apart. They both share that same notion of love as hinging on reciprocity. Then again Blanco was raised by his mother and most of his beliefs about love and romance is steming from his relationship with his mother.

I think the feelings they both had for each other was real but they both learned the hard way that feelings aren't enough to make relationships work.

If one person thinks love is supposed to be unconditional, they tend to value certain things as part of their love language. Forgiveness is number one. If you love me unconditionally, then you'll forgive my mistakes. You'll care no matter how careless thoughtless and reckless I am with your love.

I think that's why Justin gravitates towards Hailey. I don't know much about her but I do see her as the type who loves unconditionally, accepts you for who you are and readily forgives your wrongs.

If that's who she is she is admirable and has a good heart.

Unfortunately, that can also create a very toxic situation where the one who loves unconditionally rolls over into a doormat who accepts all manner of nonsense, forgives things they ought not forgive and fail to hold their partners accountable for their actions.

They are also the kind who tend to be fixer uppers. Bob the builder. And can be very enabling in a relationship.

I know this from personal experience my mom and sister are exactly like this and I've had a few friends like this as well.

While having good intentions, they may enable bad behaviors in you because they don't want to change you and want to accept you as you are even to their own detriment.

They let you have your way all the time and you you soon find they don't challenge you to be better versions of yourself and if you don't make a conscious effort to do better you might be stuck in your comfort zone.

On the flip side, dating someone who believes love is reciprocal, mutual and earned can feel like you're constantly on the edge of your seat. They can feel too demanding, and even make you feel the relationship is transactional. That if you don't give them abc you won't get abc back.

They demand effort and investment and they can make you feel as if they are constantly teaching you how to love or be better as if you are not better or doing the right things all the time.

They can appear difficult to please especially if you are someone who don't know what the fuck you are doing.

Goes without saying that such a relationship will be prone to arguments break ups etc.

I feel that was the kind of dynamic Justin and Selena had which explains their tumultuous dynamic.

Personally, I don't know why Selena isn't a lesbian. She's more likely to find the kind of love she wants from another woman or in Blanco's case, in a highly emotionally intelligent man. Which, good for her cos Blanco is that guy. And he's kinda growing on me too.

A relationship like that can be very healing.

The downside to dating based on mutual consideration and reciprocity is that, it can be boring sometimes. I know a lot of people yearn for this kind of relationship but take it from someone who's been in both ends, a relationship like that can quickly escalate into codependency or leave you feeling there's no spark or passion especially when that phase of feeling healed passes.

It takes a lot of work and self awareness to make such a relationship progress beyond a certain point on the curve.

On a deeper psychological level, I think there was a bit of a power struggle between Justin and Selena as well. And I mean, it was bound to be the case giving their differences in views on love and relationships.

I ever spoke about this once with a friend, women like Selena Gomez as beautiful as they are and as successful as they are can make the men they are with feel powerless in a relationship.

Most men like to feel they have all the power in a relationship but nothing strips them off that power faster than the beautiful successful females they fall in love with.

Yes you're hot and beautiful and being with you make them feel like they are king of the jungle, the baddest but...

They can't be seen as the weaker one in their relationship with you because that diminishes the value being with you bestows on them in the first place.

Yes, you are the price but their proximity to you makes them THE PRICE. And that can quickly swell their egos and their egos will in turn ruin the relationship.

Not every man can separate their ego from their insecurities. In normal relationship dynamics, men will chase the women. But if you are a successful beautiful woman like Selena, they expect you to chase them to make them feel validated and not doing that can make them feel powerless.

Your success risks reminding them constantly that they are a failure unsuccessful, unearthing insecurities they didn't even know they had.

You miss their call once and it's suddenly, she thinks better than me or she's too big a star to pick my calls now huh.

Oh she thinks she's a diva.

And such men will quickly descend into your biggest competitors if not enemies. They will berate you, tear you down. Belittle you. Publicly humiliate you. They start competing with you, trying to humble you just to make themselves feel better.

Not many men can date successful female stars who are just as big or even bigger than them. It rarely works out.

So to me, I find such men who though deeply insecure still go after women like Selena as men who objectify these women.

There isn't any true genuine emotional investment there. They just want them for the status being with such a woman can give them.

It's like being branded a party girl, all they want to do with you is party and have fun with zero intentions of committing to you.

Now I'm not saying Justin went after Selena just for the status: by status I mean to make himself seem cool in a queen for a king type situation, no.

But I do think at some point he did decide he couldn't commit long term to her and failed to disclose that. For whatever reason.

Whether it was because he didn't think they shared the same values and understanding of life and love, whether he thought he was never going to be good enough for her, whether it was out of fear and insecurity over his own future, we'll never know.

He and Hailey didn't just happen out of the blues. It didn't. He just failed to disclose that.

Whatever his reason, I think it was valid then and valid now. No I don't think he made a mistake. Yes I think the love was real and genuine. No I don't think it had anything to do with Hailey or Selena. It was all him.

He made that choice for himself and I don't think he's going to regret it.

He is who he is. His fears desires and insecurities are all very valid. If unconditional love is what he wants he has every right to go after it. But I hope he learns love is a two way street. That he has to GIVE just as much as HE TAKES.

If he felt he wanted someone he could trust to stay committed to him regardless of who he was, regardless of if he was no longer Justin Beiber and the world had forgotten him and that person to him (and obviously to us) was Hailey, that's fair.

Let's not impose Selena on him or him on Selena.

And it's clear to me, Selena maybe was thinking they would be forever. Maybe she wasn't as attuned to his mental struggles about their relationship and maybe she thought she was seeing growth in him with each comeback and she took those micro changes and effort as interest and commitment towards something.

I think she was totally blindsided.

But then again, if a relationship can blindside you like this then maybe it wasn't all that you thought it was. He wasn't who you thought he was.

I feel her pain. She might be going into these relationships with good intentions but she ends up being objectified by these men who can't see past their own egos, insecurities and selfish needs.

There was no consideration whatsoever in the way Justin handled this situation almost as if he was trying to break her to get his power back.

I wish them all the best.

Now algorithm please stop recommending those rich white people to me I'm minding my black broke business 😩

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