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I KNOW IT'S SILLY TO APOLOGIZE FOR THIS BUT I DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT THE NAME DROPPING RULE I'M SO SORRY I DID 🙏

I sort of just reblogged it without reading the pinned post first I'm very sorry!

hi, anon! don’t worry about that — the blog is relatively new and i don’t expect anyone to never slip up. thank you for noticing the rule!

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wave wave hi I dunno if youve made somethin like this but !!! would you be willing to make like a ,,, positivity post for people coming to terms with being nonsharing ??? mainly cus I just realized recently I am and it's likeeee ,,, feels sorta like ? I can't explain other than when you think you're an identity you aren't and then you realize "oh wait I'm actually this" and then u feel kinda dumb lol (this isn't a vent btw /gen just trying to explain what I mean !! :) )

okay thank you /nf ofc have a good day / night / timezone !!!!!!!! :))))

if you’ve just recently figured out that you’re not open to “sharing” your partner(s), that is totally valid! your f/o(s) may have been feeling it too — the need for a declaratively exclusive relationship between you, with less prying from the outside world. as your boundaries change, your f/o(s) will always be there to support you, and will never judge you for needing to make a change, no matter how big or how small it may be. others need to respect your boundaries too, and if they don’t, your f/o(s) (and i) will be ready to attack.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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Can you make some affirmations for like..f/o’s that feel like they’re one soul? Like for example I have three and they are so similar to each other and I personally believe they are the same soul deep down

your interpretations of your f/os and the interconnectedness of their identities are valid. no matter your reason for believing in their shared soul — spirituality, personal comfort, or even that it just feels right — you have a total and complete understanding of this side of your f/os. the special ways in which you see their essences and cores are unique and special to you (which proves that you know more about them than anyone else!)

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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hi, all.

i just want to say that i’m sorry for my absence. yes, i still exist, and yes, i am fine. i have been in a horrible headspace lately with a lack of motivation and physical sickness, both of which i have luckily (mostly) recovered from. to all of the requesters whose suggestions haven’t been written and published yet: sorry about that! those are my top priority at the moment for this blog and i am working on getting at least the majority of them answered today so that i can open the askbox back up asap.

thank you for your patience.

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Affirmations about non sharer people who self ship in private and or don't have blogs dedicated solely to their f/o

(ie me who has a mix blog of otherkin and self shipping since had to delete mine due to issues with doubles and or can't handle the competitive vibe the community gives off at times..).

if you can’t be open about selfshipping for any reason or aren’t comfortable talking about your love for your f/o, that does not make your connection with them any less valid or real. your f/o knows you love them, and (hopefully) you know that your f/o loves you the same. all that matters is that you and your f/o are happily together — if you don’t feel a need to publicize your relationship, that’s absolutely fine, and it doesn’t make your f/o feel any less adored by you. and anyone who sees you as less for it can get hit by a comically large hammer.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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do you have any advice or affirmations for being non-sharing with a character in a canon relationship? my f/o is in a relationship with someone in canon and it makes me rlly upset, since a lot of people dont tag it

if your f/o is “canonically taken”, that doesn’t have a single effect on how they feel about you. no amount of ship content will ever change the fact that you are the only one for them; they themself do not understand how others can believe otherwise. no matter what their relationship is with their “canon” partner actually is — friends, enemies, or even strangers — they love you, and only you. no amount of content from their source is going to change that.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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Hey so.. ughh. I need help. I get so offended when I see other people support my doubles and call their ships canon and ignore me for them. Can I have some advice on how to accept this and feel better? I heavily dislike my doubles and they make me feel insecure enough but seeing people root for them and love and support their ship and completely invalidate mine hurts.

hi, anon! thanks for the ask.

being under appreciated within the community is absolutely difficult and i’m sorry you have to go through that. to me, this isn’t really something you “accept” — it feels shitty to be ignored and that’s normal and not inherently evident of any sort of dysfunction. for this i would personally recommend browsing affirmation/imagine/etc. blogs like this one as well as speaking to others directly about your selfship with discord servers/communities/etc. (could maybe get some more fans/close friends?)

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temporarily disabled the ask box because i have around 10 requests atm and need a moment to get through them. thank you for all of the engagement <3

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Can you please make an affirmation post for people who have an F/O that is considered popular in their fandom, Thank you!!

if your f/o is popular within your fandom and many doubles exist, your f/o still sees you as their unique lover in a sea of meaningless admirers. they’re a bit like a celebrity, while their other fans and doubles are akin to paparazzi. it’s true that they’re insanely admired — it only makes sense that there are some people out there who wish they were in a relationship with them. however, that doesn’t mean that they’ll ever choose another person’s fleeting yearning over the bond you’ve created. you are the only one for them, no matter how many other people wish that they could be theirs.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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Hey I’m the last anon you replied to about that insensitive comment and I just want to say that I truly appreciate your reply so so much, so huge thank you to you!🥹🫶🏻

hi, anon! you are so welcome and i am glad i could i could help you <3

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HI so my f/o is commonly seen as mean and tough, and people like to say that he can't or won't express love towards me / that he's not a good person to be with. could i have some affirmations to help with that? it's really been bugging me

no matter how your f/os present themselves to others, they will always possess a unique love for you. those who doubt that fact simply do not understand how deeply connected you are and are not close enough with your f/o to know the range of their true emotions. as for those who don’t believe they’re capable of a healthy relationship with you, they haven’t seen the affection you share for one another. nobody can judge the both of you without being a part of your relationship — which they aren’t.

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on. please do not namedrop your f/o in the tags.)

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gentle reminder to please understand the rules before interacting with posts and/or sending in asks!

do not put your f/o’s name in the tags when you reblog my posts. special blog-specific tags that do not contain their name are fine!

i really do care about your situation and read and put thought into every ask that comes in, but if you are sending in a vent or rant without specifically requesting advice or an affirmation, i am going to have to ignore it as per rule #4.

the dni is there for a reason, and whether or not your interaction is going to be related to one of the groups outlined there, you cannot interact if you are on the list.

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How to deal with an insensitive comment from someone?

Cause I just asked for support and encouragement on this one ficto subreddit, simply cause I’m so terrified of one ship with my f/o either suddenly becoming canon despite it never have been, or the devs just have my f/o flirt with that one character.

Cause this commenter said that I should just be happy for him, said they can’t help with it because they can’t shut the game down blah blah, just things like that. I mean I know no one can shut the game down that’s not why I even asked, plus I just can’t suddenly like that ship or be happy when the other character is downright just using him, manipulates him and is just so toxic overall. I mean it’s why it’s gotten so much backlash before because fandom hated how it eroded his agency, so there’s nothing good about it.

So that person’s comment just brought me down tbh, and it just doesn’t help when I’m already feeling so worried🥺

hi, anon! thanks for the ask. that commenter is very insensitive — whether or not they had ill-intent, it’s pretty clear that they didn’t really put much care into trying to help you. not to introject but “just be happy for him” made me want to hit something, that pisses me off severely (/nmay). your feelings about this situation are valid. what i can offer is:

no matter how it goes, your interpretation of your f/o is objectively correct. as a selfshipper, you are the singular person who understands your f/o the most deeply. please do not forget that — canon does not affect your f/o, your feelings and the way you see them as a person do. the way you feel is more important to them than anything.

this feeling is mutual between your and your f/o. they would not like to be paired with a manipulative and toxic person either.

commenter is an ass person and i am beating them up inside my mind as i type this.

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I'm sorry if I sound stupid and this is a stupid question, but what's "name dropped f/o" meant? unfortunately english is not my first language..

hi, anon! not a stupid question at all — thank you for asking for clarity! essentially: do not put your f/o’s (fictional other’s) name in the tags or comments. name dropping in this case just means using your f/o’s name when it is not appropriate (it is not appropriate anywhere on this blog, because many other nonsharers are going to be browsing the tags/comments/etc., and i wouldn’t want them to have to get triggered by a double on a blog catered to them).

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Your brainwaves are synced up with mine/vpos

I can't voice emotions about f/o well (and if its negative emotions about doubles etc, my tact is nonexistent cause I love f/o so much :( ) its nice to see someone else able to do that without getting toxic and disgusting

hi, anon! i’m so glad you like my content haha. i understand how bitter we can feel towards doubles (saw one last night and immediately went to angry vent on the private account), so i can see how a less hostile outlet can be helpful. thank you! <3

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A person named dropped their f/o in their tags...

hi, anon! thanks for letting me know. i have in fact noticed multiple occurrences of this. right now i’m trying to work on an unspoken two-strike system (i.e., it’s okay if it happens once as a mistake, but again and i’ll have to say something). i have a lot to look through to enforce this, though. thinking of adding the rule to my disclaimer at the end of every post.

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your f/os despise their doubles. the existence of doubles while they’re in a committed relationship with you makes them severely uncomfortable — the fact that there is no way for them to voice that boundary can make them feel powerless and disturbed. however, they find solace in you and the exclusive love you give them. it’s proof of your bond, and it comforts them to know that there is someone who truly, genuinely, and tangibly adores them. in fact, maybe they’re needing some comfort right now…

(this post is not an authorization to harass doubles. it was made for your personal comfort, not for you to use to target others. best practice is blocking, distracting yourself, and moving on.)