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Some designs of mine that are currently available on midi skirts in Maya's shop! Available size and design stock varies a bit between the US, UK, and CA stores, but you can follow Maya for more info on restocks!

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hi everybody please reblog this and tell me your go-to coffee order right now and if you don't like coffee feel free to include your go-to tea order instead

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I can’t stand how auto close captions on YouTube censor swear words.

I’m an adult.

An adult with shitty ears.

Needing text supplementation for the audio didn’t turn me into a child.

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Trans women will never be free until people stop having strong emotions about penises. Like we, as a society, have got to stop caring about dicks! Dicks have to stop symbolizing maleness, obviously, but they also have to stop symbolizing power, dominance, sexual agency and aggression, violence, and even sex itself. Like trans women can’t be free if the very conceptual presence of a penis represents an intrusion(!) of unwanted(!) sexuality(!) in public life. Like that’s why trans women are abhorrent to both male chauvinists and radical feminists, because both groups have extremely strong feelings about what a penis *represents*, and find the conceptual and actual presence of a woman with a penis to be simultaneously vile and nonsensical because they’ve loaded so much symbolic baggage onto both women and penises.

Anyway dicks are totally neutral body parts and seeing a dick, or a bulge in a swimsuit, or simply knowing that there’s a dick somewhere in the same bathroom as you isn’t harmful or violent

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‘We need more loud, unashamed queers’ yes but some of you can’t even seem to handle a bisexual woman liking men.

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"men don't need to be afraid walking around at night"

Unless they're black

"men make more than women in jobs"

Black men make less than white women on average

"men don't get followed around by people who mean them harm"

Black men are heavily policed and regularly jumped and killed for just walking down the street

"no one tells a man what he can and cannot do with his own body"

Black men are repeatedly assaulted and have their hair forcibly shaved or cut for wearing their hair natural and in culturally important styles. Black men who choose body modifications like tattoos or piercings are branded as thugs. Black men who have children and black men who don't have children are both regarded as players, hounddogs, absent fathers, and baby daddies, as if the logical answer is that no one's first choice of partner and father of their children would ever be a black man.

"no one judges a man's worth based on his clothes"/"a man isn't ever in danger no matter what he wears"

Black men are required to look presentable and professional according to eurocentric standards, push themselves into clothes not made for their bodies, and be highly uncomfortable in their daily lives or else risk 'fitting the profile' or 'matching the description' and getting detained by police AT BEST for the crime of existing in public. Black men wearing comfortable clothes are seen as sloppy, thugs, gangsters, street rats, hood and ghetto.

"no man fears rape"

The rape and sexual assault of black men ties directly to black buck stereotypes and black fetishization to the point where liking a black person or having your dating pool be open to black people is treated like a sexuality much like being gay. People are both threatened by and aroused by our bodies and that leads them to perform extreme acts of violence on us, including rape, SA, coercion, trafficking, and more. Much like how "tranny" and "lesbian" is a porn category, so is Big Black Cock. Sometimes with us featured as the rapist. Sometimes with us featured as the victim. Almost never with us featured as intimate, passionate, loving, tender. Black men are either to be feared and reviled, or to be broken and forced to submit. Direct ties to slavery with white people still getting off to our suffering.

Just say you don't care as much about black people's suffering and go, jesus.

I have privilege because I sometimes pass as a man? Try walking in my shoes for a while. Turns out being a black man vs being a black woman isn't always so different.

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i do write for attention, actually, because that's a normal reason to create art

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some tom cardy out of context because I just think he's neat

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IT FUCKIN YURI DAAAAAAAAAAAY

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I have a phobia of insects. Accidentally slammed my head hard into someone's elbow in order to avoid the butterfly flying at me very recently.

"You're not a REAL bug lover if you dont love wasps and ticks and mosquitos-" bug lovers of all people should know the detriment some of these creatures can bring. Or be able to be understanding and considerate of other fears, phobias, and illness.

Like no I don't HATE these creatures, they're essential parts of the environment but I have a wasp phobia bad enough that it extends to bees, mud dobbers, bumblebees, and any other sort of creature that stings/resembles one with a stinger. I just played merry-go-rounds with a mud dobber in my house because I can't just. Ignore it. I logically understand that they are nonhostile but they fly, they sting, they look like a wasp and they do NOT belong in my house!! I can appriciate them behind glass- all of them- and see that they are just cute little creatures trying to live their lives. But that doesn't mean that WASPS aren't little buttheads!!

Ticks? Yes they are important. At the same time? I'm chronically ill. I've seen the damage that a tick bite can do to a person. And just generally, it can turn someone from a perfectly healthy individual to someone who can barely stand to dress themselves. Lyme disease is very real and can rip apart a person's life. And that is without mentioning how Alpha-Gal syndrome can effect a person. Which from what I understand is a lesser known potential result of a tick bite. Tell me- do you want to be allergic to red meat? Not just red meat, but dairy too. Do you want to be allergic to any food with mammalian-based ingredients? Didn't think so! They're literally EVERYWHERE, they're hard to avoid and if it were me- that's even more dietary restrictions on top of those that I already have! (Not everyone with Alpha-gal syndrome eat the same way, the intensity can vary from person to person but they ALL have allergic reactions to alpha-gal as a result, often, of a tick bite)

So yeah I don't like wasps or ticks or mosquitos and a lot of people don't but there are completely perfectly valid and understandable reasons for not liking them. Their existence can cause harm to a lot of people!! They can spread diseases and cause anaphylactic allergic reactions. Like I know we all know this but the whole shtick of "You're not a bug lover if you don't appriciate these guys" is so dumb. Like. No I don't appriciate them. I understand the role they play in the environment and understand their importance and they are fine if they actually stay in their place. Im not going to go out of my way to kill them if they're not in my space. They are cool to look at sometimes and they need proper studying and they are essential but I do not have to like them it's some of the dumbest gatekeeping over a community ever jhaednaj like yes you're allowed to like them that's fine!!! But posts talking about "oh you're fake if you don't" I am not being mean to you about liking creatures that have direct negative impact on the life of myself and people I care about. Why are you being rude about me not enjoying them. They are unpopular for a reason. Those reasons make SENSE.

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grabbing like 80 percent of the lesbians I know by the shoulders and saying listen. listen. you have to stop categorizing everyone and everything into Women (Good) and Men (Bad). you might not think you’re doing it, but you are. it’s very clear from the ways in which you talk about trans men and bi women and your experience with gender and your difficulties in the dating scene that on some subconscious level, you think that moral purity is directly proportional to how much Man Stuff somebody has in their life. that contact with men and male-associated cultural byproducts will give you Boy Cooties. it won’t. but I can tell you think it does, and so do all of your trans friends, and it makes us all uncomfortable. so cut it out

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My brain is unremarkable! Yay!!

I'm getting an MRI today. Wish me luck.

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Just a little PSA for all our mental health (and chronic pain*) spoonies out there! A lot of doctors neglect to mention this little side effect, which means a lot of us are suffering extra from the heat without knowing why.

*Many psych meds are used to treat chronic pain as well, if you didn’t know!

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ur favorite silly little tumblr user!!! (mayhaps??? maybe??? for some of u maybe. at least for my husband)

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No joke this is how I was to my beloved when I was having a bad headache last week.

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lost in waves