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Wait… Isn’t Ed Balls day coming up? ED BALLS DAY, I HAVE TO GET READY TO CELEBRATE 

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[Image ID: A post from user madoka magic ok (@ rifflexielian) which says "Terfs need to shut up about womanhood, my mom was raised to believe all women were less valuable than men and cried when she learned about trans women because the idea that someone would fight that hard to be a woman was radical for her and meant it was something worth being" End.]

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in her DMs being mad cordial

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How To Tell Your Cat That You Could Walk To His Food Faster If He Weren't Weaving Under Your Fucking Feet In A Beautiful And Intricate Idiot's Ballet

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It’s my opinion that like if a white supremacist/Nazi is going to be reformed. They need to do so willingly. The only times I’ve heard of successful rehabilitation of fascists is when they made the conscious decision to no longer be one anymore and seek atonement. People who try to like hug and change fascists that don’t want to change are fucking morons

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When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

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This one is for everyone who gets a sinking feeling in their chest when they see mental illness positivity posts and think that they don’t mean you because of what your mental illness is and the symptoms you present.

I can say that I mean you. I mean all of you. Whatever your mental illness or symptoms are.

You are worthy, valuable and enough as you are. You are valid and deserving of compassion, love and acceptance.

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a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore 

never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.

find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.

talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore

picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else

if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.

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I think I’m going to think about this youtube comment forever

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You will make it to the weekend. You are almost there. Be proud of yourself for managing to go through the week and give yourself a break this weekend! Let yourself rest and care for your body and your mind in any way you can. There is no guilt in treating yourself well whenever it's possible, you don't have to earn your rest, your free time and your leisure. 🌻

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A lot of people are radicalised by suffering, which is a valid and sadly all-too-common experience. But you wanna know what really radicalised me? Softness. Joy. Freedom. I spent so much of my adolescence deeply sad and uncomfortable in spaces that weren’t right for me, navigating a body that didn’t feel like home. Despite many many privileges, and lots of moments of genuine happiness, I often didn’t overall enjoy my life. But then I got gender-affirming surgery. I moved into my own modern, clean, comfortable flat in a friendly, walkable city full of nature and beautiful buildings. I started being able to take care of myself. I keyed into robust local social networks of people who shared my interests in nature, creativity and ameliorating the world. And I am deeply, thoroughly content. It has been incredibly radicalising to realise that, contrary to what I thought for so long, it is very easy for human beings to be happy if their material and emotional needs are fulfilled. So alongside my joy there’s this constant simmering rage. I deserve all the good things I have now, sure. But not any more or less than anyone else. The children being bombed deserve this too. So do the homeless people being moved on by police outside my local supermarket. So do the people starving in famines, imprisoned by immigration systems, brutalised by their employers, their families, the state. All I can do is fight for a world where everyone has these things. It’s a choice not to share them equitably.

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You deserve better than being treated as a stereotype, or as the role someone expects you to perform socially. You don’t have to submit and conform to the unrealistic expectations someone has, to become the version they created in their heads. You shouldn’t have to pretend to get approval. You don’t have to be a perfect person, a trophy partner, the best student of all, or the most hardworking employee who never gets tired. Or sick. Or uncomfortable.

You don’t have to “just take it and move on”. If you’re not comfortable with the way you’re being treated because it feels someone is treating more as an object than as a person, then you should communicate it to them, set boundaries, talk to other people around you about this so you don’t feel isolated. And if it doesn’t work, it’s okay to not want to be around someone who only wants to use you to inflate their own ego. It’s not a bad thing to stand up for yourself and communicate these things. It’s not a bad thing to live your own life, even if other people can’t handle the disappointment of you turning out to be your own person instead of the person who would best benefit them and serve their every whim. You’re not responsible for creating this idea of you, they are.

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One of my favorite Brazilian things™️ is the fact that in some areas of the country, the ones where your truly’s family is from, it’s perfectly normal to call any random object a train (trem), specially when you forgot something’s name. Like in English you’d say “can you pass me that thing”, but here you’d say “can you pass me that train”, not really mattering if the thing is actually big or small and it’s always on the singular. It can also be used as an affectionate nickname (trenzinho, or trenzim as it sounds on regional accent, meaning little train). It can also mean someone is brash or rude when said with emphasis (he is a train). It is also used as trem bom (good train) or trem bão in regional accents to describe a wholesome or fun thing, like cuddling, a holiday, a party, food… to the point of it being commonly used to replace just about any word, to the point of it becoming a meme a few years ago, like most things in Brazil do

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do me a solid and just reblog this saying what time it is where you are and what you’re thinking about in the tags.

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Reason to Live #10549

  Seeing really pretty clouds. – Guest Submission

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