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[ouatsafehaven]

Hi everyone, I have a huge favor to ask of you but I know that the tumblr community can come together to help each other. When my girlfriend was young she took out student loans under the impression that she’d be able to find some job after she graduated. Now she has a bachelors in Graphic Design and a Masters in IT but they might as well be toilet paper with how useful they’ve been. After having been let go from her part time job at a library, she has been searching for a job for months and we are down to our last penny. We have a safe place to live but besides that things are pretty desperate. We’ve sacrificed everything we have in order to try and keep up with her student loans but they are soon going to overtake us. If you can Help even a little or if you can reblog this post and spread the word it would mean the world to me.

https://www.gofundme.com/amandas-student-loan-fund

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A Chance to Ask and to Educate!

Alright So this is very different from my usual post but I need you to stick with me. So I’ve been going to church for a very long time and as a queer lady in a world where the LGBT community is consistently oppressed under the guise of religion that decision has always been tinged with a slight bit of apprehension for me. But this Sunday for the first time in a very long time I felt welcomed in my church. You see I go to “southern” baptist church and over the last few months our attendance has been going down exponentially so today the pastor decided to give a sermon addressing that issue. He talked about how our church has always been different from others and how in the 60′s the people of our church were actively involved in the civil rights movement. The sermon quickly turned a lot more personal when he told us the story of how his close cousin had died of AIDS. He talked about how much he’s struggled over the last few months. He knew people were leaving the church because he refused to condemn those us who are different and yet he was also aware that he couldn’t stop preaching what he knew was right no matter how many people left. Now I can’t possibly get across how powerful his sermon was. Preaching It was in his own words one of the most difficult tasks he’s ever had to fulfill. Now in honor of his cousin he wants to do his best to help the LGBTQ+ community in any way that he can and I promised I would help him do that. So this is where I need your help. He would like to make a video answering your questions but more importantly taking in your stories. At this point he knows very little about the LGBTQ+ community and he wants to be educated. So If there’s something you’ve ever wanted to ask a Pastor about the community or if there is something you’d like him to learn please send it in to my inbox. All of the question/stories I receive will be addressed in a video.

I know this is an unusual request but please take some time to send something in. You definitely do not have to be religious. He truly wants to help the community as a whole despite our differences.  If you can’t send anything in then I would love it if you could reblog this post and help spread the word!

[ouatsafehaven]

Hi Diana. Have you ever been on the 7 cups of tea website? I noticed it on your master post for how to be okay, and I was thinking about trying it out. The only thing that I was worried about was when you “connect to a listener”, do you know if it’s chat boxes and text-based, or if you actually see/hear the person? Because I wouldn’t want the latter at all. I would only want to do it if it’s text chatting. I tried looking into it, but I still am not sure. Do you know?

I honestly don’t know I re blogged the post because I thought that website might be helpful but I haven’t used it personally. I do think that after signing up you would be notified if you actually had to speak with anyone.  

[ouatsafehaven]

Anxiety Gif Master Post

Hi!  I keep these on my computer and I wanted to make this post for someone…  Feel free to add sources - I don’t have them :) 

Breathe in and out with this box

Follow the brush with your eyes

“Press” this button

Follow the brush with your eyes (again) 

[ouatsafehaven]

Sunday nights can be pretty rough. Try not to let yourself get too sad or anxious about the week ahead. You can get through anything that’s going to happen this week. You will do marvelous things and it’ll be WONDERFUL.

[ouatsafehaven]

How to Fake Confidence

1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye

2. Smile

3. Stop apologizing

4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (but not at others!)

5. Dress in a way that indicates you have self worth

6. Use good manners (like saying please and thank you) as this is actually a mark of self respect

7. Expect other people to believe in you, and to see and appreciate your good qualities.

[ouatsafehaven]

Throughout our lives we’ve all gone through struggles whether it’s been bullying, financial struggles health problems; discrimination or life in general. Give Help, Get help is a new initiative run by both The Ouat Safe Haven and Operation:Spread the Rainbow. It’s goal is simple, to get Oncer’s like you to share their stories and hopefully help others in the fandom who may be going through the same troubles. When it comes to helping people I’m always pulling from personal experiences. So I believe the more we share our stories the more people we can be help.  I hope that with this new project the fandom will learn to help each other out rather than tear each other down. If you’re interested and have got a story to tell or some advice to give, you can submit it to either Operation Spread the Rainbow (if it’s LGBT related) or to The OUAT Safe Haven! 

Things to Remember.

Advice can be given anonymously or not! 

Let people know if your blog is open to messages.

If you would like to help more please ask about joining one of the blogs for help with campaign

If you have any questions please be sure to ask 

Don’t forget to spread the word to let others know of this new project!                                                                                                                             

[ouatsafehaven]

tips for what to do after a really long cry because you’re probably feeling all kinds of exhausted and drained and i don’t want that for you in the slightest:

take a shower and change all of your clothes even your socks and underwear. this is the first step to everything. 

pour yourself a big, cold glass of water and drink it. all of it. once you’re done, get yourself a refill. this will boost u physically and emotionally instantly please trust me.

grab a snack, something light that you don’t have to wait to prepare. i recommend a pudding cup, a piece of fruit, yogurt, a popsicle, or some crackers. 

get under the covers. turn on something - tv, a movie, music, anything distracting. or consider calling a friend or talking to anyone nearby, even your sibling the next room over!!

know that you are loved. you are important. you mean more than you know right now, more than you will maybe ever know. you are worth all the stars in the sky. you deserve to feel good. 

[ouatsafehaven]

Got Feels?

The Safe Haven will be open tonight  from 8pm EST onward if anyone wants to talk or just wants some company. All ships are welcome! I’d love to chat with you ;)

[ouatsafehaven]

Emergencies:

What to do when your friend is talking about suicide

What to do if someone you know is overdosing

What to do if your friend is hurting themselves

First Aid for self harm

Finding Therapy, Doctors, & Medication 

NeedyMeds.org

Something Fishy - How will I pay?

Mental Health America - How do I find treatment?

Free/Cheap Medication

The Medicine Program

Find a Therapist

Good Therapy.org

Insurance Issues

Qualities and Skills of a Good Counselor

The Difference Between a Psychiatrist, Psychologist, Therapist & Counselor 

General Recovery:

Extreme Hunger During Recovery

About Water Retention During Recovery

281 Reasons to Recover

Relapse Prevention

Dealing with Bloating in Recovery

Bloating, Indigestion, & Feeling too full

Talking to Others About Your Mental Health Issues

Managing Stress

Why You Must Eat

What is ED Recovery?

You have no obligation to be weighed

Learning to Love Your Body

True Facts Our Abuse-Culture Doesn’t Want You to Know

Tips to Overcoming and Eating Disorder from Women Who Have Recovered

How to Eat a Fear Food

16 Baby Steps to Help You Cope with the Pain of Perfectionism

10 Things to Do When You Feel Like Crap

Why You Should NOT Self-Diagnose

Substance Addictions:

Find an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting

About AA

Find a Narcotics Anonymous meeting

About NA

Just for Today

Helpguide: Overcoming Drug Addiction

FInd a detox center

Restrictive Eating Disorders:

Phases of Recovery From a Restrictive ED

Tips to Stop Restricting

Why You Must Regain Weight to Recover

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Gaining Weight After Anorexia: What To Expect

Dealing With Weight Gain

Binge & Compensate Disorders:

Overeaters Anonymous Meeting Finder

Coping with Exercise Addiction

10 Steps to Bulimia Recovery Workbook

10 Signs of Overexercise

Why Laxatives and Enemas Are Dangerous

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Binge ED/Compulsive Eating Disorders

Food Addicts Anonymous Meeting Finder

Overeaters Anonymous Meeting Finder

The “I need to lose weight” Mindset with BED

Eating Disorder Support Groups

Daily Meditation for Compulsive Overeating/Binge Eating

General Anxiety:

Identifying and Managing Anxiety

Exploring and Coping with Panic Attacks

10 Rules for Coping with Anxiety and Panic

Deep Breathing Exercises

11 Assorted Anxiety Tips for Anxiety Sufferers

Social Phobia/Anxiety

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Social Anxiety Self Help

How to Bring Severe Social Anxiety Under Control

10 Tips for Finding Love and Dating With Social Anxiety

Depression:

Coping with Suicidal Thought

10 Tips on How to Work Through Feelings of Social Isolation

8 Tips to Overcome Loneliness

Tips On Dealing With Depression In College

Antidepressants: Selecting one that’s right for you

What to expect with antidepressants

Family and Friends:

Tips for dealing with an ill loved one

Helping someone with an eating disorder

10 Ways to Cope with an Addict in the Family

AlAnon: Support groups for people who love an addict

[ouatsafehaven]

Don't kill yourself, please.

If you’re suffering from depression and are looking for a sign to not go through with ending your life, this is it. This is the sign. We care.

If you see this on your dash, reblog it. You could save a life.

[ouatsafehaven]

Got Feels?

The Safe Haven will be open again tonight from 8pm EST onward if anyone wants to talk or just wants some company. All ships are welcome! I’d love to chat with you ;)

[ouatsafehaven]

Got Feels?

The Safe Haven will be open tonight  from 8pm EST onward if anyone wants to talk or just wants some company. All ships are welcome! I'd love to chat with you ;) 

[ouatsafehaven]

[ouatsafehaven]

Up and Running For Once Day!

(Despite the lack of activity on this blog due  to my health)The Safe Haven will be open tonight for the premiere of OUAT if anybody wants to let loose.

[ouatsafehaven]

facts about the female body:

everyone has rolls when they bend over

when someone says that your beautiful, they aren’t lying

any girl you ask will have a stretch mark, they’re beyond normal

you should have more confidence, it’s really attractive

you’re allowed to fall in love with yourself, and you should

it’s okay to not love every part of your body(but you should)

everyone’s boobs are uneven.

you are fucking beautiful

[ouatsafehaven]

100 Reasons NOT To Kill Yourself

Wow my post has gone up so many notes in such a small amount of time. I really hope this helps you guys and you really do use this a reference when needed. (boys-and-suicide)

1. We would miss you.

2. It’s not worth the regret. Either by yourself if you failed or just simply left scars, or the regret everyone else feels by not doing enough to help you.

3. It does get better. Believe it or not it will eventually get better. Sometimes you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow.

4. There’s so much you would miss out on doing.

5. There is always a reason to live. It might not be clear right now, but it is always there.

6. So many people care, and it would hurt them if you hurt yourself.

7. You ARE worth it. Don’t let anyone, especially yourself, tell you otherwise.

8. You are amazing.

9. A time will come, once you’ve battled the toughest times of your life and are in ease once again, where you will be so glad that you decided to keep on living. You will emerge stronger from this all, and won’t regret your choice to carry on with life. Because things always get better.

10. What about all the things you’ve always wanted to do? What about the things you’ve planned, but never got around to doing? You can’t do them when you’re dead.

11. I love you. Even if only one person loves you, that’s still a reason to stay alive.

12. You won’t be able to listen to music if you die.

13. Killing yourself is never worth it. You’ll hurt both yourself and all the people you care about.

14. There are so many people that would miss you, including me.

15. You’re preventing a future generation, YOUR KIDS, from even being born.

16. How do you think your family would feel? Would it improve their lives if you died?

17. You’re gorgeous, amazing, and to someone you are perfect.

18. Think about your favourite music artist, you’ll never hear their voice again…

19. You’ll never have the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day

20. Listening to incredibly loud music

21. Being alive is just really good.

22. Not being alive is really bad.

23. Finding your soulmate.

24. Red pandas

25. Going to diners at three in the morning.

26. Really soft pillows.

27. Eating pizza in New York City.

28. Proving people wrong with your success.

29. Watching the jerks that doubted you fail at life.

30. Seeing someone trip over a garbage can.

31. Being able to help other people.

32. Bonfires.

33. Sitting on rooftops.

34. Seeing every single country in the world.

35. Going on roadtrips.

36. You might win the lottery someday.

37. Listening to music on a record player.

38. Going to the top of the Eiffel Tower.

39. Taking really cool pictures.

40. Literally meeting thousands of new people.

41. Hearing crazy stories.

42. Telling crazy stories.

43. Eating ice cream on a hot day.

44. More Harry Potter books could come out, you never know.

45. Travelling to another planet someday.

46. Having an underwater house.

47. Randomly running into your hero on the street.

48. Having your own room at a fancy hotel.

49. Trampolines.

50. Think about your favourite movie, you’ll never watch it again.

51. Think about the feeling of laughing out loud in a public place because your best friend has just sent you an inside joke,

52. Your survival will make the world better, even if it’s for just one person or 20 or 100 or more.

53. People do care.

54. Treehouses

55. Hanging out with your soul mate in a treehouse

55. Snorting when you laugh and not caring who sees

56. I don’t even know you and I love you.

57. I don’t even know you and I care about you.

58. Because nobody is going to be like you ever, so embrace your uniqueness!

59. You won’t be here to experience the first cat world emperor.

60. WHAT ABOUT FOOD?! YOU’LL MISS CHOCOLATE AND ALL THE OTHER NOM THINGS!

61. Starbucks.

62. Hugs.

63. Stargazing.

64. You have a purpose, and it’s up to you to find out what it is.

65. You’ve changed somebody’s life.

66. Now you could change the world.

67. You will meet the person that’s perfect for you.

68. No matter how much or how little, you have your life ahead of you.

69. You have the chance to save somebody’s life.

70. If you end your life, you’re stopping yourself from achieving great things.

71. Making snow angels.

72. Making snowmen.

73. Snowball fights.

74. Life is what you make of it.

75. Everybody has a talent.

76. Laughing until you cry.

77. Having the ability to be sad means you have the ability to be happy.

78. The world would not be the same if you didn’t exist.

79. Its possible to turn frowns, upside down

80. Be yourself, don’t take anyone’s shit, and never let them take you alive.

81. Heroes are ordinary people who make themselves extraordinary. Be your own hero.

82. Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.

83. One day your smile will be real.

84. Having a really hot, relaxing bath after a stressful day.

85. Lying on grass and laughing at the clouds.

86. Getting completely smashed with your best friends.

87. Eating crazy food.

88. Staying up all night watching your favourite films with a loved one.

89. Sleeping in all day.

90. Creating something you’re proud of.

91. You can look back on yourself 70 years later and being proud you didn’t commit

92. Being able to meet your Internet friends.

93. Tea / Coffee / Hot Chocolate

94. Sherlock season three.

95. Cuddling under the stars.

96. Being stupid in public because you just can.

97. If you are reading this then you are alive! Is there any more reason to smile?

98. being able to hug that one person you havent seen in years

99. People care enough about you and your future to come up with 100 reasons for you not to do this.

100. But, the final and most important one is, just, being able to experience life. Because even if your life doesn’t seem so great right now, literally anything could happen

IF that isn’t enough:

Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696

Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433

LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255

Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386

Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743

Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438

Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673

Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272

Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253

Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453

UK Helplines:

Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail jo@samaritans.org

Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111

Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail: info@mind.org.uk

Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463 legal@mind.org.uk

b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: help@b-eat.co.uk

b-eat youthline (for under 25’s with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)

Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail: helpline@cruse.org.uk

Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600

Drinkline: 0800 9178282

Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail info@rapecrisis.org.uk

Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight

India Self Harm Hotline: 00 08001006614

India Suicide Helpline: 022-27546669

Kids Help Phone (Canada): 1-800-668-6868, Free and available 24/7

suicide hotlines;

Argentina: 54-0223-493-0430

Australia: 13-11-14

Austria: 01-713-3374

Barbados: 429-9999

Belgium: 106

Botswana: 391-1270

Brazil: 21-233-9191

China: 852-2382-0000

(Hong Kong: 2389-2222)

Costa Rica: 606-253-5439

Croatia: 01-4833-888

Cyprus: 357-77-77-72-67

Czech Republic: 222-580-697, 476-701-908

Denmark: 70-201-201

Egypt: 762-1602

Estonia: 6-558-088

Finland: 040-5032199

France: 01-45-39-4000

Germany: 0800-181-0721

Greece: 1018

Guatemala: 502-234-1239

Holland: 0900-0767

Honduras: 504-237-3623

Hungary: 06-80-820-111

Iceland: 44-0-8457-90-90-90

Ireland: 1800-247-100

Israel: 09-8892333

Italy: 06-705-4444

Japan: 3-5286-9090

Latvia: 6722-2922, 2772-2292

Malaysia: 03-756-8144

(Singapore: 1-800-221-4444)

Mexico: 525-510-2550

Netherlands: 0900-0767

New Zealand: 4-473-9739

New Guinea: 675-326-0011

Nicaragua: 505-268-6171

Norway: 47-815-33-300

Philippines: 02-896-9191

Poland: 52-70-000

Portugal: 239-72-10-10

Russia: 8-20-222-82-10

Serbia: 21-6623-393

Spain: 91-459-00-50

South Africa: 0861-322-322

South Korea: 2-715-8600

Sweden: 031-711-2400

Switzerland: 143

Taiwan: 0800-788-995

Thailand: 02-249-9977

Trinidad and Tobago: 868-645-2800

Ukraine: 0487-327715

Uruguay: 095 73 8483

You will be missing out on every single wonderful thing yet to happen to you.

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