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people who can decide where to put stickers must really have their life together

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my dear friend just looked up from the hat she's crocheting for a very large spherical rock we found in the river and said, in a slightly haunted tone that revealed this was the first time she was having this thought, "i should make something for my cousin's real human baby"

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*through gritted teeth* the world is GOOD. people are kind. Humans are NOT inheritly selfish. you will make it through this year. recovery is possible. people you don't know yet will love you. You are going to do things you can't even imagine right now. You are going to read a rlly good book. You are going to eat some rlly good food. You are going to experience joy again. Things can get better. Situations can change. You can choose to be kinder. The world can change for the better.

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i have been in a bit of a low mood, low energy sorta way this whole day

ive tried breaking out of it with a shower and made scones

i have a uni test i got to do and its too close to the deadline to ask for an extension i think

its not even that hard of a test

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Good vibrations

(via)

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Reposting from tiktok bc I think it’s pretty awesome!

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the Cain instinct

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“your feelings are valid” = “you don’t need to understand or agree with someone’s inner emotional experience to acknowledge & accept that they are genuinely & legitimately experiencing them; the emotions you experience—even uncomfortable, challenging, negative ones—are a natural & understandable response to your situation & lived experiences, and you shouldn’t feel shame for experiencing them” ✅

“your feelings are valid” ≠ “your inner emotional experience is an accurate factual representation of external reality & you are necessary 100% correct about why you feel the way you do & who you blame for it; any way you choose to behave as a result of those feelings is justified, and anyone who doesn’t act in agreement with your feelings is invalidating them and/or gaslighting you” ⛔️

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I feel a little bit better today, so let's talk about how I take care of myself when my system is in crisis.

When I am badly triggered or in crisis, this often results in a state of hypoarousal.

Hypoarousal is when your nervous system is under-stimulated. This can look like fatigue, dissociation, emotional numbness, cognitive fog, and physical immobilization.

Another scary part of hypoarousal is that it triggers protective parts of my system that want to do anything they can to get out of it. This can include doing dangerous or self-destructive things just to "feel something".

This is what I personally find helpful in taking care of myself when I'm experiencing hypoarousal, mostly discovered through years of trial and error.

Gentle grounding to the present environment: Letting my system know that we are safe. You know the drill - 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, etc. I do whatever grounding exercises work until I start to feel reconnected with time.

Gentle reconnecting with my body: If I can't move at all, I start with just wiggling my toes or taking a deeper breath. If I can get up, I just walk around the house a little. Sometimes doing a specific task like putting objects away can help. Laying on the floor helps a lot. Lately, I'm getting a lot of relief from using a heated shoulder massager. The heat and pressure can do a lot to bring me back into my body.

Reduce demands: Cancel or reschedule everything possible. I give myself permission to rest.

Safe foods: Now more than ever, fed is best. Eating is hard in this state so highly palatable, simple foods are a priority. I keep my favorites in the house for situations like these.

Human connection: A burden shared is a burden halved. When I'm in shutdown, my instinct is to isolate. I have to fight against this and reach out. Telling the people who care about me what is going on and why I'm in pain often makes a huge difference.

Getting out: This one might seem silly, but it's important. Getting outside and breathing fresh air, even if it's just standing on my front porch for 10 minutes, seems to help.

Sticking to routine: I know I said that I give myself permission to rest, but moderation is key here. I don't crawl into bed and stay there. I balance rest with routine. I still do as much of my routine as I can. Even simple things like brushing my teeth and making my bed can ease me back into feeling "human" again.

Singing/Humming: I can't believe I almost forgot this one! One of the fastest ways I can get myself out of a full freeze is to hum. It doesn't even have to be a song. Just a tone or a few notes. If that turns into a song, that's great! Singing and humming is incredible for nervous system regulation.

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The Hanged Man

So that octokill huh

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okay so if you need more veggies/fruit, protein or fibre (bc most people do NOT eat enough) in your diet but you struggle to do so, hear me out:

look up recipes (especially snack recipes) that are child/toddler/baby-friendly

i can guarantee there is a woman with a cooking blog out there who has found away to pack a bunch of vegetables into a surprisingly delicious little snack for her kids. this process has never failed me when i feel like i am not eating enough fruits and veggies. my entire flat is eating spinach muffins at the moment, which doesn’t sounding particularly appealing to most people and yet somehow. they’re delicious.

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Possible unpopular opinion: treating having a special interest as equivalent to being an expert on the topic is another form of the savant stereotype.

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I don’t fucking know how to stop buying stupid black T shirts with shit I like on it

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stupid freaking family that keeps killing each other. im so attached to them </3